Nae82 - Trying to stay on track

I hear ya Tom.

I have a few friends that complain about wanting to lose weight but I just can't convince them to do anything. Well, except for one. I've gotten her in the gym a couple of times, but she thinks she can't go unless I go. I understand that it's a confidence issue and I try as much as possible to tweak my schedule so to meet hers, but it's hard sometimes.

Another friend of mine is getting married soon and told me that as the maid of honor, she wants me to help her lose weight... but she refuses to go to the gym. I even tried to get her to come to my apt complex gym which is actually pretty decent and no one is ever in there, but she is just too lazy.

It's hard now that I have different interests than my friends. We'll be hanging out and i'll say it's time for me to go because i need to go to the gym.. then I get a hard time and they try to make me feel like I'm no fun and just don't want to hang out, drink, smoke, and eat bbq. I guess I need to find more friends that have similar interests. blah. I'm done venting lol
 
forgot to mention that my friend that will be getting married soon has decided that she was going to try for a shot on the show "the biggest loser"

help.
 
Yes, you do need to find friends with more similar interests...

I'd tell your friend flat out - that if she's not willing to work for her goal, there's nothing you or anyone else can do about that. Like a lot of things, people say they want something but it amounts to nothing more than an idle wish because they don't actually do the work to attain it. (I also think it's unfair of her to put the burden on you.) Still, why not suggest your going through NROL together?
 
thats a thought - doing NROL together. I'll mention that. I'm just not going to go out of my way anymore. I'm not a miracle worker. With our different schedules, and not wanting to go to the gym with out me, I just don't see it working. Maybe I should start being more friendly in the gym to get some friends with similar interests lol..

my bf just really instilled in me the importance of focusing in the gym.. i pay attention to nothing else.
 
Same here - I'm generally antisocial (not purposely) as I'm focused on getting done what I'm there to do. Like the friend I mentioned - we work out at the same time, but she's doing Break-In and I'm doing Fat Loss II, but it's nice in that we chat a little and encourage each other. But we both know we're there to work.
 
stingo said:
Same here - I'm generally antisocial (not purposely) as I'm focused on getting done what I'm there to do. Like the friend I mentioned - we work out at the same time, but she's doing Break-In and I'm doing Fat Loss II, but it's nice in that we chat a little and encourage each other. But we both know we're there to work.
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I have a similar friend that i workout in the summa with he is a football playa and I am looking more for fitness modeling bod so we do some of the same exercises and spot each other but most of the time we are doing are own thing and chat "a little" between sets. I get the best workouts when he is around
 
Nae82 said:
thats a thought - doing NROL together. I'll mention that. I'm just not going to go out of my way anymore. I'm not a miracle worker. With our different schedules, and not wanting to go to the gym with out me, I just don't see it working. Maybe I should start being more friendly in the gym to get some friends with similar interests lol..

my bf just really instilled in me the importance of focusing in the gym.. i pay attention to nothing else.
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I might seem harsh but ditch that person in the gym. Almost all of my friends want to lift with me and I tell them straight up NO. You will not be able to commit to my schedule and I am serious about my results. i dont want to spend half my energy teaching you every lift. You get no benefit from working out with them. Tell them that you will train them after you workout if you have the time or you can charge them a few bucks(thats what I do). If you value your results you will kindly say no and find some more at your level to lift with.
 
Nae82 said:
It's hard now that I have different interests than my friends. We'll be hanging out and i'll say it's time for me to go because i need to go to the gym.. then I get a hard time and they try to make me feel like I'm no fun and just don't want to hang out, drink, smoke, and eat bbq. I guess I need to find more friends that have similar interests. blah. I'm done venting lol
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awww, I'll go to the gym with you if by some unlikely chance we ever meet.

haha. anyway...

I find that it is very difficult to convince my friends as well that they are lifting incorrectly. For some reason no one seems to believe me when I tell them that they workout incorrectly. Convincing some of them to workout AT ALL is impossible. One of my friends is very big, and if he lifted properly I know he could be very strong, but he doesn't want to. I tihnk WANTING is a big factor in it.

I do have 1 friend that listens to me about FBWs and NROL and proper weight lifting. I lift with him often. The others are still convicned bench and curls are the secret to getting HUGE.

thats a thought - doing NROL together.
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I think you may have to tweak the programs or start on different days because if you share equipment, you might not be able to make it to your next set by the end of your rest time on some workouts. For instance if you are doing Hypertrophy I maybe you could do upper while your friend does lower.
 
Nae82 said:
thats a thought - doing NROL together. I'll mention that. I'm just not going to go out of my way anymore. I'm not a miracle worker. With our different schedules, and not wanting to go to the gym with out me, I just don't see it working. Maybe I should start being more friendly in the gym to get some friends with similar interests lol..

my bf just really instilled in me the importance of focusing in the gym.. i pay attention to nothing else.
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with the results you show, it is in their best interest. i think it comes down to one thing--- SLOTH!!! Most are not willing to "really" sweat on a regular basis. they want to discuss!!! Just tell them--- HELLO,,, talk while the bar is in motion eh!!

my two cents..
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I see what all of you guys are saying. I guess I'm just too nice lol. I could care less if they choose to live their lives being lazy and drinking beer and eating pizza, but then they come to me for help. The only one who had the courage to actually go to the gym.. I set her up with a fbw but she will only do it if I am there with her... which is annoying because I have my own workout to do. We could both be there at the same time, doing our different workouts, but then I look over and see how awful her form is and I feel I have to stop and go over and correct it. oh well.

I just prefer to work out alone, or with someone "on my level" as bigstew said.
 
The form thing gets me every time when I am working out and see a friend performing something in bad form I always loose my focus and end up helping them out. I guess nice trainers finish last.
 
Nae82 said:
I see what all of you guys are saying. I guess I'm just too nice lol. I could care less if they choose to live their lives being lazy and drinking beer and eating pizza, but then they come to me for help. The only one who had the courage to actually go to the gym.. I set her up with a fbw but she will only do it if I am there with her... which is annoying because I have my own workout to do. We could both be there at the same time, doing our different workouts, but then I look over and see how awful her form is and I feel I have to stop and go over and correct it. oh well.

I just prefer to work out alone, or with someone "on my level" as bigstew said.
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If she needs that much help, suggest having her purchasing some personal training sessions so she can learn.
 
BigStew said:
The form thing gets me every time when I am working out and see a friend performing something in bad form I always loose my focus and end up helping them out. I guess nice trainers finish last.
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No, that's how you get business... When that person (friend, stranger etc) has a question about what they're doing, who do you think they'll go to? They may ask you to set up some training sessions if they're serious about learning...
 
stingo said:
If she needs that much help, suggest having her purchasing some personal training sessions so she can learn.
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I suggested that and she tried to make me feel like I was not willing to help her. I just explained the fact that I am not an expert, I am not a ceritfied trainer, I just know what has worked for me.

I think her main issue is confidence. She doesn't feel confident enough to do it on her own. I really want to help, so I will give it a little more time.
 
Well if her friend's not willing to learn proper form for using free weights, then the restricted range of motion machines provide might be a better alternative. (vs being injured by poor form.) Plus Nae doesn't waste her time teaching her form and her friend eventually not working out.
 
Nae82 said:
I suggested that and she tried to make me feel like I was not willing to help her. I just explained the fact that I am not an expert, I am not a ceritfied trainer, I just know what has worked for me.

I think her main issue is confidence. She doesn't feel confident enough to do it on her own. I really want to help, so I will give it a little more time.
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Keep worken' it. Patience, time, and applying different methods of approach may make the difference.
 
Happy Birthday :beerchug:
 
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