Oh boohoo... I can't say I believe him and even if I did I might think of it as just desserts for a dude who swindled his wife out of her inheritance and savings. But cooperating on the little things that don't cost you much will probably look good for you later.
Yes, he definitely is squirreling away money, so I don't feel sorry for him either. It's good to be cooperative though. I am learning to not fight him directly because giving a narcissist either positive or negative energy feeds them. They are energy vampires, and some articles I've read say that the vampire and cannibalistic zombie themes in popular entertainment are thought to represent narcissists. (It does seem like the age of narcissism sometimes.) It's been hard remembering not to feed the vampire, but I am starting to get peaceful about this, which is a small miracle.
Glad you have that weight off you now Marsia!
Good teachers are such a treasure--I still remember back to a couple of mine that I loved. But yeah seems like it would be very challenging but could be amazingly rewarding as well I'm sure.
I mostly don't start anything inside, but I will start some sweet peas indoors as they really did well last year...
Yes, I've lost 130 pounds overnight!! I can really see myself teaching, but I am aware how hard it would be, too. This is an interesting decision, for sure. Sweet peas sound so delightful. We used to plant them in a little staked up row in the garden when I was a kid.
Kudos to you, M for taking him food. I do hope he remembers how kind you are & I hope it does mean that you will now see a lot less of him.
Thanks Cate. He was so worn out looking and really needed a haircut, and was just out of it when he talked with me. That was actually kind of a good last visit because I can see that he isn't feeling confident about the upcoming mediation. I dreaded that visit for 2 weeks though, so it's really nice I'll see way less of him.
Seeing J must be very hard. You did well. I'm glad you have such a good supply of food to keep you and K going until the house sale.
Thanks Em - it was icky having to be around him. So glad this is coming to resolution in the summer. It's wonderful having all the extra food. Now that we have more energy I am thinking of baking bread and stuff like that more to save money.
I did more stuff for the lawyers last night and lost track of time and it was 2 am before we got to bed. I also blame it on the yerba matte tea - it's so good, but so strong! I am nearly done preparing for mediation, and that feels wonderful. I am going to concentrate on creative problem solving from now on, and stop worrying so much over things because I've done what I can. My friend comes over this weekend to see what she wants from my garden. She also knows someone to help get the furniture to sell into the garage so I can put it online and have people come see it in the garage and not have to come in the house. So we'll clean house and get pictures taken of the furniture in the house before it's moved to the garage.
My arm has felt pretty good the last few days and my weight is down a little from the horrible top weight. I am eating a couple of dates when I get sugar cravings. I am still using a little honey in my tea and need to stop doing that. I am feeling relieved now that I've largely prepared for the mediation. Phew!