Thanks Liza! I like having cheerer-upper things to do! K and I just realized that our current house will be the nicest house we can ever afford, and that we should fix it up as much as possible so we get more for it. So we just made a nice plan and are picking out some paint colors to spruce up a couple of rooms. The interior hasn't been painted since the owners before last, and it's a bit dated, so this is fun and gives us good things to accomplish while here. I made a good list of little house projects - all things we can accomplish ourselves and that we should be able to get done before the house goes on the market. That feels more proactive and much better. It's stressful moving, but we're excited to have our own house and settle down finally!!That is great that the house envisioning is both practical and a cheerer-upper! I think it would be exciting if you have options to choose from and if you are skilled at doing home-improvement stuff. I know if I ever had to leave my place it would be just stressful so it's very good you can feel excited about the possibilities!
Thanks Em! We had nice deli ingredients like Kalamata olives and artichoke paste, so we made nice things with all the yummy ingredients. We've been really into sun dried tomatoes lately, too, and putting big slabs of roasted veggies on sandwiches and such. It's really making our stomachs happy.The walks and salad all sound great.
Thanks Cate, it's been a mostly productive week for catching up on the new semester school work. It's so wonderful that K is really enjoying it. I taught her a bunch of design principles and she loves things like that and is excited to design her own website. She's decided to make an online portfolio website. We're doing a film analysis next for English, and in positive psychology we are studying what is known about emotions, thoughts, and our bodily reactions to these, and I have a general psychology book which has short articles on things like philosophical ideas that are the foundations of psychology and all sorts of interesting rabbit holes, and I read a short article that goes with our topic for the day. It's fun.Research on houses can be fun. Small walks & healthy salads sound good, Marsia xo
I am really worried about how to move our stuff out of the house to put the house on the market. J keeps telling me he is out of money, so who knows how to pull this all off, but I have amazing lawyers who are used to dealing with people like him, so I am in good hands. I have moved so much now that I really have it down. But it is never fun. I am especially sad that I made this gorgeous soil that is full of worms and organic matter and now have to start over. Also I had an orchard fence almost up and lots of fruit trees and berry bushes ready to plant. I want to replicate something similar where I live next.I find everything relating to moving terrifying so I'm glad to hear you're finding some enjoyment in the process!
K is so wonderful. She told me that I am like two parents, so I make up for her not having a father. That made me cry. I like that you described me as intuitive. We have been reading that book by Temple Grandlin again on the visual thinker, and K thinks that I think more in pictures than verbally, but I think I may be more feeling-based and think intuitively with neither pictures nor words at times - it's like I compare words to what I am feeling intuitively and then once I get the right word, a picture often appears, too. It's confusing reading the book because I probably I have a weird combination of different ways of thinking.I love how you can turn K's schoolwork into fun. You are so intuitive to what will capture her imagination. She's a very lucky daughter.
I think it's amazing that you can look at sprucing up the house to get more money for it. You are working towards a much better future for you both. I can't wait until it's sold & we get to hear about your new place. The one that will be yours to do with what you like xo
Thanks Liza, it's so wonderful getting my arm's abilities back again. I don't know how I let it get that bad - it seemed to happen gradually and then all at once somehow. That would be amazing if I inherit a gardener's yard! I think whoever inherits ours will really love it, thanks for that perspective!Sorry to hear your arm is continuing to be in pain, but good to hear your range of motion is increasing--I guess some of these things just take time...
Hopefully your next house will have been owned by people who also love gardening and you will inherit their good works just as someone will inherit yours!
I'd like to take that class myself!We're doing a film analysis next for English, and in positive psychology we are studying what is known about emotions, thoughts, and our bodily reactions to these, and I have a general psychology book which has short articles on things like philosophical ideas that are the foundations of psychology and all sorts of interesting rabbit holes, and I read a short article that goes with our topic for the day. It's fun.
Oh, K. You are a darling. I'm glad she knows how good her mother isK is so wonderful. She told me that I am like two parents, so I make up for her not having a father. That made me cry.
Thanks Em!! We are so enjoying the positive psychology class. We went over Kierkegaard's amazing contributions to the founding of a positive existentialism yesterday, and it was so inspiring. That would be so awesome if you could be in the class with us. We have the best discussions.I think sprucing up the house is a great project for you and K to focus on. Sorry things are tricky with J but you'll soon be free of him.
I'd like to take that class myself!
K is amazing! She was having these intense dizzy spells where it feels like she is getting zapped with intense energy, so I did a psychology exercise with her, and it turns out the feelings are happiness that she wasn't feeling because J got jealous if we were happy, so we had to be even keel around him, but K is naturally so happy, and so the happiness had to burst out finally, and that was the dizzy spells. So she is sitting down and feeling the happiness slowly so it doesn't just overwhelm her. Life is so strange how you can even repress joy, but you can also get it back. I am beginning to stop blaming myself for not seeing all the harm J was doing to K and just be grateful that we can reverse it.Oh, K. You are a darling. I'm glad she knows how good her mother is
Your day sounds very hectic!
I tried finding a weasel emoji & there isn't one. That's funny. You are smarter than him, M. One day you will not have to worry about his devious ways.
I think I used to sleep on my stomach, but my lower back didn't like it after a certain age, so maybe I'll hold off on trying this. The pillows on either side of me for my arms to rest on are really nice. Thanks for the good advice!Nothing wrong with trying to sleep on your stomach IF your back and neck are ok. If they hurt in the morning you just don't do it again.
Thanks Liza! I love hearing about your relationship with your landlords. So wonderful you appreciate them and vice versa!Nice to hear things sounding so positive Marsia--between your relaxation, fixing up the house, and the improvement with your shoulder, it all sounds really good!
Even though I am only a renter I still feel so lucky to have inherited the good work my landlords put into the yard here--and they are so grateful that I really appreciate it and care for it!
That first part is extremely common in overcompensating men. #notallmen and all that but afab people are generally socialized to doubt themselves and make themselves smaller while amab folks are generally socialized to make themselves bigger and toot their own horn. Add a bit of discomfort with the very idea that women might have *gasp!* intelligence comparable to men and the outcome gets quite unpleasant.Every single serious relationship I've been in, the guy thinks he's so much smarter than I am, and I am starting to see that I have some skills that are a bit unusual and to really treasure that and not compare my kinds of intelligence negatively to other people's.
Hi Liza! Yes, the therapist and psychiatrist ruled things out and K is getting a blood draw to make sure her nutrition is where it should be, too. I am guessing they are making sure she's not anemic. I love owls, too! We always seem to have at least one living near us who we can sometimes hear in the night. They are lovely. It's great how much K has bounced back already!!You're sounding really good Marsia! Very nice to hear. Sounds like you struck a nice balance with the food with lots of nice healthy options. I hope you can get that hike in...too bad about the park being closed the other day, but sounds like you made the best of it and found yourself that cool lamp-i love owls! And very cool about finding lots of good info to help with your lawyer!
Just a note about K's dizzy spells--did you rule out the possibility that it might be a side effect from her meds? I think you mentioned that she was on some that affected her blood pressure before? Anyways I'm glad she is feeling so much happiness!
I really agree. It stinks having gone out with people who aren't feeling confident and who then make me feel less confident in my abilities, too. I will watch out for that from now on - no more wasting time on people who put other people down in order to feel better about themselves!That first part is extremely common in overcompensating men. #notallmen and all that but afab people are generally socialized to doubt themselves and make themselves smaller while amab folks are generally socialized to make themselves bigger and toot their own horn. Add a bit of discomfort with the very idea that women might have *gasp!* intelligence comparable to men and the outcome gets quite unpleasant.
K's bp is affected by the meds, but the thing with the happy feelings feels like lightening and is different. Yoga is helping. We found a new YouTube yoga teacher we love, and just a short routine helps us be so much more relaxed and energized at the same time. It was a wonderful find! I can't wait until J is history. I have to get a simple blood draw at a lab, and the new insurance J switched to without telling me has all these pain in the neck new rules, so I had to be in contact with J a bunch again. But it is bothering me less and less as we get happier in general.What a happy post to read, M. I love hearing that K is feeling so happy. I did wonder the same thing that her BP may be affected by her meds.
It's great that you can provide so much info to your lawyer. One day, M....one day, J will be history.
Thanks Cate!!! It's just past midnight here, so it's officially my birthday. We'll go to my favorite lunch place downtown to celebrate and maybe get a nice downtown walk in. Actually my weighted blanket was a very early birthday present from K, so I already am enjoying one of my presents!View attachment 56208
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