For me normal belly breathing exercises do help but Wim Hof breathing just made me more anxious.
Emotional labor really is work and it takes a lot of energy.
Thanks Llama, we tried both after I read what you wrote, and fortunately we are both ok with doing either. I'm glad you wrote that because it helped me, too. I am doing more belly breathing now and feeling way better. And thanks for the reminder about processing emotions being really draining.
It's no surprise that you are exhausted with so much going on. I'm glad K made a new friend, At her age in particular friends are so important. She'll be OK & so will you. You will both be much more resilient, that's for sure xoxo
Thanks Cate! We are starting to do better and feel more resilient. K really likes the pillow cave I made her, and it has made a big difference that she can go in it and not feel overwhelmed. I need to buy her a weighted blanket soon, too.
I'm glad to hear K made a friend. I hope she makes loads of new friends when she starts college next year.
Glad you are getting rid of stresses Marsia and you have good support with your therapist. x
Thanks Em! I hope so, too. I did a bunch of deep belly breathing plus scrunching up the muscles that were holding in stress and being in pain because of that, and it really helped. I breathe in and scrunch up and then breathe out and completely relax and that really helped me this morning. I hadn't realized how tense I'd gotten.
One thing I found helpful to include is singing--I find it releases a lot of stress and really brings up the joy element. It also naturally incorporates deep breathing...Isn't K musical? But even if she isn't, singing is a fun and easy thing to include as part of one's day to day activity. It works for me better than deep breathing exercises--feels much closer to how I might feel with a run (well ok nothing substitutes the feeling of a good run for me...but singing is good for my anxiety levels and is an excellent low movement, easy, accessible thing to include in ones day!)
I think this is a good idea, but K doesn't like making music into a routine she has to do because she feels it takes the fun out of music, so I think we'll just spontaneously sing loudly in the car to music when we think of it. Yes, K writes her own songs, and used to be lead singer and guitarist in a teen band. When K is feeling up to it, I think she'll get back into running, too. She also loves how good her body feels after a run.
My toothache got much worse, but it's the weekend, so if it isn't better today, I'll call the dentist tomorrow. Pain killers make it all better though, so I'll be ok. We took time off of school and did a bunch of stuff for applying to colleges because we both weren't feeling very well. I am doing some stuff for the divorce lawyers concerning finances. It looks like we will be ok in the end as far as finances, which is a huge, huge relief. We are going out to celebrate a little today. I also did a Zoom group meeting with admissions for the art therapy program and asked a bunch of tough questions and the program looks amazing. That was so wonderful talking to the head of the art therapy program there, too! She loved answering all my tough questions, and I really instantly liked her a lot. K is doing better now, and I am too now that I see that we'll be ok financially and that I may have a perfect program to apply to. I wish I didn't have all this financial paperwork to wade through, but the more I do, the less my lawyers have to, and besides, it's very satisfying seeing what happened financially. I feel like a forensic accountant in a weird mystery novel!!