Some days just suck, no doubt about it. So... what steps are you actively taking to meet/get to know more single men? I know, that´s a mean thing to ask, but if we´re not meeting a lot of new people through work most of us are seeing the same few dozen people over and over again (working out, going out, whatever). Which doesn´t improve our chances much! You don´t have to be perfect before you "deserve" a loving partner.
Emily Rose: The Reboot
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You're right, I'm not putting all my energy and time into finding someone just yet. So I can't really complain too much.
I have my Christmas party tonight, I think it will be fun, they're a lovely bunch. Have no idea what to wear, sigh. I'm sure it will be fine. I have to remember that I've gone to Christmas parties in the past where I was 2 stone heavier, so things are not that bad. I feel extremely low on energy this week, so this is going to be my last event before the Christmas holidays. I hate feeling tired like this. I'm sure I'll have boundless energy tonight and will spend the weekend chilling and doing some exercise to get back on track.
I have my Christmas party tonight, I think it will be fun, they're a lovely bunch. Have no idea what to wear, sigh. I'm sure it will be fine. I have to remember that I've gone to Christmas parties in the past where I was 2 stone heavier, so things are not that bad. I feel extremely low on energy this week, so this is going to be my last event before the Christmas holidays. I hate feeling tired like this. I'm sure I'll have boundless energy tonight and will spend the weekend chilling and doing some exercise to get back on track.
Yeah, it didn't feel very Christmassy but we had a nice night.
Thanks Cate, my hair was a disaster but the rest was fine!
Wrecked tired and hungover today but I dragged myself to the gym and I got a lot of the bad feeling in my head out.
I'm setting up a life experiment for the next 4 weeks - no booze, cigarettes, sugar, processed foods or caffeine and some form of exercise every day. I know I've made similar proclamations on here before but I feel completely confident in my ability to do it this time. I want to make room for good stuff to start happening in my life and this is the way to do it. Get rid of the toxicity I pollute my body with.
I was thinking while I was at the gym that I'm actually really happy with who I am as a person now. I feel confident and strong and capable. I have lots of interests and lots of friends. So I really don't need to hold on to my crutches anymore.
I'm sure the first couple of days will be a bit strange but I've a completely free weekend to get into the right headspace for Monday. I'm going to report back here and let you know about all the great things that are going to start happening to me once I finally let go of old demons.
As a great man once said - There is no try. There is only do.
I also like the one - If you do the things you've always done, you'll get the things you've always got.
So let's change that, shall we?
Thanks Cate, my hair was a disaster but the rest was fine!
Wrecked tired and hungover today but I dragged myself to the gym and I got a lot of the bad feeling in my head out.
I'm setting up a life experiment for the next 4 weeks - no booze, cigarettes, sugar, processed foods or caffeine and some form of exercise every day. I know I've made similar proclamations on here before but I feel completely confident in my ability to do it this time. I want to make room for good stuff to start happening in my life and this is the way to do it. Get rid of the toxicity I pollute my body with.
I was thinking while I was at the gym that I'm actually really happy with who I am as a person now. I feel confident and strong and capable. I have lots of interests and lots of friends. So I really don't need to hold on to my crutches anymore.
I'm sure the first couple of days will be a bit strange but I've a completely free weekend to get into the right headspace for Monday. I'm going to report back here and let you know about all the great things that are going to start happening to me once I finally let go of old demons.
As a great man once said - There is no try. There is only do.
I also like the one - If you do the things you've always done, you'll get the things you've always got.
So let's change that, shall we?
I like that! I also like the sound of your experiment. Prepare for headaches and jitteriness as is´t hard to go through withdrawal and harder to do several at once, but right now is a great time to do it. Most of us gain weight in the run-up to Christmas and observing the pre-Christmas fast (traditionally starting on Nov. 11th) can be a great way to get into the mood. Best of luck and keep us informed!
Yeah, experiment has failed completely.
Well, not completely. My food was fantastic - porridge, broccoli soup, salmon and Brussels sprouts and spuds for dinner. I am currently waiting in the freezing cold for my stupid friend to arrive to the pub. It's full of students and I am freezing my ass off in the smoking area because there's nowhere else to sit. The students seem cool but they're not going to want to talk to me. Which is fine.
Hope he gets here soon.
Well, not completely. My food was fantastic - porridge, broccoli soup, salmon and Brussels sprouts and spuds for dinner. I am currently waiting in the freezing cold for my stupid friend to arrive to the pub. It's full of students and I am freezing my ass off in the smoking area because there's nowhere else to sit. The students seem cool but they're not going to want to talk to me. Which is fine.
Hope he gets here soon.
O, come on! Don´t give up that easily. You can absolutely do this, even if you have to give it another go. I hope your friend turns up soon, but either way you can limit the damage for today and start again tomorrow. Assess what went wrong, adjust your planning accordingly and bloody well do what you can!
JohnMarshall
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You get on a bicycle, you fall off the bicycle, you get back on the bicycle and so on. We all fall off every now and then and pick ourselves up and off we go. Keep trying, you can do this, absolutely you can!
Thanks for the support guys.
I've made a decision to just go where life seems to be telling me to go. It wasn't so long ago that I was avoiding all social engagements because I was terrified of anyone seeing what I looked like. Thank God that fear is gone, but at the same time, I do hole myself away from time to time when I'm feeling blue, and I think that ultimately, it's not doing me any favours.
So, I've decided to open myself up to life in all its glories and see what's out there. Sort of like this song:
So far today, I was invited to the cinema on Monday and at the yoga place, one of the teachers was recommending a yoga workshop on Saturday night that I had absolutely no intention of going to, but I just decided to take heed and I signed up for it. I'll let you know if these decisions work out, haha.
That's not to say that I am only going to do stuff if I get invited to it - there are some free theatre shows on at the weekend that I will go to myself if I get time.
I am feeling miles better this week because I'm exercising daily. This is an absolute must for me during the winter months I've realised. My energy levels have gone shooting up, way better than last week, when I was anxious, sleeping badly and feeling drained. Exercise is a priority over the invites to things, but I seem to be able to fit it all in nicely.
I've made a decision to just go where life seems to be telling me to go. It wasn't so long ago that I was avoiding all social engagements because I was terrified of anyone seeing what I looked like. Thank God that fear is gone, but at the same time, I do hole myself away from time to time when I'm feeling blue, and I think that ultimately, it's not doing me any favours.
So, I've decided to open myself up to life in all its glories and see what's out there. Sort of like this song:
So far today, I was invited to the cinema on Monday and at the yoga place, one of the teachers was recommending a yoga workshop on Saturday night that I had absolutely no intention of going to, but I just decided to take heed and I signed up for it. I'll let you know if these decisions work out, haha.
That's not to say that I am only going to do stuff if I get invited to it - there are some free theatre shows on at the weekend that I will go to myself if I get time.
I am feeling miles better this week because I'm exercising daily. This is an absolute must for me during the winter months I've realised. My energy levels have gone shooting up, way better than last week, when I was anxious, sleeping badly and feeling drained. Exercise is a priority over the invites to things, but I seem to be able to fit it all in nicely.
Thanks LaMa.
I have a bit of downtime now before the gym. It's one of those evenings where I really don't feel like going, but I will of course.
I had a very stressful, busy day at work today but I coped as best I could. I feel kind of bad because I got a little bit ratty with a girl on my team who is just so sweet and nice, but she just really annoys me for reasons I can't explain. And I hate disliking people when they don't deserve it. I just can't figure out why she gets my back up, I think it's just cos she kind of parrots things back and repeats the same phrases over and over, and it all gets under my skin. I got snappy because she said she couldn't find one of my POs and it was the first sheet on the bunch of pages she was holding. But anyway, trying to justify being a bitch I guess.
Do you have people who just irrationally piss you off? And do you feel bad about this?
I have a bit of downtime now before the gym. It's one of those evenings where I really don't feel like going, but I will of course.
I had a very stressful, busy day at work today but I coped as best I could. I feel kind of bad because I got a little bit ratty with a girl on my team who is just so sweet and nice, but she just really annoys me for reasons I can't explain. And I hate disliking people when they don't deserve it. I just can't figure out why she gets my back up, I think it's just cos she kind of parrots things back and repeats the same phrases over and over, and it all gets under my skin. I got snappy because she said she couldn't find one of my POs and it was the first sheet on the bunch of pages she was holding. But anyway, trying to justify being a bitch I guess.
Do you have people who just irrationally piss you off? And do you feel bad about this?
brawny77
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Ok....motivational words from Uncle Brawny:
Do you know how they make a sword?...They stick it in the fire, then they pull it out, then they beat it with a hammer then they stick it back in the fire , then they pull it out, then they throw dirt (carbon) on it, then they beat it some more, then they stick it back in the fire.....
It winds up way stronger and more beautiful and useful than it started.
The moral- Don't be afraid to be put in the fires of the real world. It makes you stronger!
We are rooting for you~!
Do you know how they make a sword?...They stick it in the fire, then they pull it out, then they beat it with a hammer then they stick it back in the fire , then they pull it out, then they throw dirt (carbon) on it, then they beat it some more, then they stick it back in the fire.....
It winds up way stronger and more beautiful and useful than it started.
The moral- Don't be afraid to be put in the fires of the real world. It makes you stronger!
We are rooting for you~!
Overly sweet gets on my nerves when it feels like a strategy. Like... "Don´t raise your voice at me even though I fucked up/am clueless about stuff it´s my job to know/didn´t do what I said I´d do; I´m tiny and fluffy and delicate and if you don´t help me you´re a mean old meanypants".
That's such an interesting choice of words Cate - overwhelming. It actually can be. I guess you know they might take too much notice of what you say. To be fair, I definitely have people that find me overwhelming as well, so maybe I am just complaining about my own personality, haha.
I can't wait to be a strong and beautiful sword Brawny!
Yeah, I guess we all have our strategies LaMa.
Also not a massive fan of pet names Tru, unless the person is 30 years older than me.
I am having a bit of afternoon downtime before I am heading off to a free play at 3pm. I actually think I might take a short nap, I'm feeling a bit drowsy. I didn't do any drinking last night and was up early to go to yoga this morning, so I'm doing very well. I ended up meeting a few people for half an hour on Thursday evening in the pub, but again didn't drink so didn't stay long, but it was one of those 'follow what the Universe is telling you to do' things, and it was lovely.
A part of me wants to just stay at home for the day and hibernate, but NO! No more of that.
I'm going to cook a butternut squash and lentil curry for dinner, my mouth is watering already. I am loving homemade curries lately. So, so tasty.
I can't wait to be a strong and beautiful sword Brawny!
Yeah, I guess we all have our strategies LaMa.
Also not a massive fan of pet names Tru, unless the person is 30 years older than me.
I am having a bit of afternoon downtime before I am heading off to a free play at 3pm. I actually think I might take a short nap, I'm feeling a bit drowsy. I didn't do any drinking last night and was up early to go to yoga this morning, so I'm doing very well. I ended up meeting a few people for half an hour on Thursday evening in the pub, but again didn't drink so didn't stay long, but it was one of those 'follow what the Universe is telling you to do' things, and it was lovely.
A part of me wants to just stay at home for the day and hibernate, but NO! No more of that.
I'm going to cook a butternut squash and lentil curry for dinner, my mouth is watering already. I am loving homemade curries lately. So, so tasty.
Cate
Long term member
I started to type something Em but stopped as it may be misconstrued as fishing for compliments. It certainly isn't. I'll type it anyway just so you can see that, I too, suffer from lack of confidence. "I can't imagine anyone taking much notice of anything I say, let alone taking too much notice."
Obviously I'm still a work in progress! I don't find you overwhelming Em. Enjoy your weekend xoxo