I've been on both sides of this conversation so I do realize how frustrating it can be to feel heavy and restricted and not be "allowed" to talk about it with people who know the problem while people who have never had weight issues just don't get it BUT aaargh having thin friends/relatives complain about a body that looks like my life goal is aaaaargh!
Cate's Diary
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oh so lovely to have those sounds of Spring!
The 4-5 km of walking is excellent! And yes hopefully the nutritionist will have some good insights...I wonder if a personal trainer could help with some other suggestions that would be ok for your knees...I would like myself to get some sessions in with a personal trainer to see if they could suggest specifics to reach my goals...but so far I just feel too intimidated or something to go...
It does sound like a great new beginning!
Cate
Long term member
Hi, Llama, Liza (& Vic). I think one of the main reasons I do stick with the forum is it's my therapy/sounding board. I still get very cranky with comments in here, but it's different. I can choose not to comment if I don't feel like it. My sister would be so hurt if I told her how I feel about some of the things she says. I think it's better for me as well that I do not call myself names. I will try not to dwell on the things that make me cranky.
Spring sounds joyous, Liza. You should hear the birds this morning
I think 4-5 km of walking every day is a good base for me, with my knee the way it is. I have 2 nutritionist visits & 3 physiotherapist visits as part of my free health plan. Next doctor's visit I will ask if the physio referral was sent through. For now, I will just try to move more, with gardening mainly. I do struggle to maintain any planned exercise regimes.
I really did feel like I got off to a good start yesterday. I feel very positive about it. I am going to weigh myself every morning & try not to get upset when it goes up.
Cals 1220, deficit 497, according to MFP, which is linked to my Fitbit & with 1450 cals as my goal.
Weight- down .5 kg
The goal for today-
Cals 1350. No wine.
Spring sounds joyous, Liza. You should hear the birds this morning
I think 4-5 km of walking every day is a good base for me, with my knee the way it is. I have 2 nutritionist visits & 3 physiotherapist visits as part of my free health plan. Next doctor's visit I will ask if the physio referral was sent through. For now, I will just try to move more, with gardening mainly. I do struggle to maintain any planned exercise regimes.
I really did feel like I got off to a good start yesterday. I feel very positive about it. I am going to weigh myself every morning & try not to get upset when it goes up.
Cals 1220, deficit 497, according to MFP, which is linked to my Fitbit & with 1450 cals as my goal.
Weight- down .5 kg
The goal for today-
Cals 1350. No wine.
That does sound like a great start Cate! And very nice to get that immediate reward of a scale drop!
Yes hopefully seeing the scale go up sometimes won't be off-putting--it happens. I find for me weighing almost every day really works to see the overall patterns.
Cate
Long term member
Thank you, Liza & Llama xoxo
It always feels good at the start, especially seeing a drop of any size, but I have to make sure I stick with it.
My second day was 1,216 cals with a deficit of 469(1450 aim)
Wine.
It's so much easier to stay under 1450 if you don't have any wine at all. It is not easy for me to do it though.
I have to ring the dentist this morning to make appointments for both of us. Would you believe that in the last week we have both had fillings come out? G's a few days ago (a tooth he has had filled again & again) & mine last night (eating an orange of all things!) Gah! Just when you think you're catching up with all of your bills......
It always feels good at the start, especially seeing a drop of any size, but I have to make sure I stick with it.
My second day was 1,216 cals with a deficit of 469(1450 aim)
It's so much easier to stay under 1450 if you don't have any wine at all. It is not easy for me to do it though.
I have to ring the dentist this morning to make appointments for both of us. Would you believe that in the last week we have both had fillings come out? G's a few days ago (a tooth he has had filled again & again) & mine last night (eating an orange of all things!) Gah! Just when you think you're catching up with all of your bills......
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Em. I was able to get an 11.15 am appointment today & one for G on Thursday at 10 am. It’s an 80 KM return trip, but hey.
Having a doggy door is so much better. I went to a great grocery afterwards & stocked up. It was nice to shop on my own for a change.
Seeing our dentist has reinforced my resolve to cut right down on drinking wine. He’s on day 8 & wants to lose weight as he’s sick of it limiting what he can do. It feels the universe is speaking. G will have to learn to cope.
The dentist cost me $500. G will be having something similar done on Thursday. I think I’ll make myself get used to driving the Camry. You need backup money in the bank. I think that has a higher priority.
Having a doggy door is so much better. I went to a great grocery afterwards & stocked up. It was nice to shop on my own for a change.
Seeing our dentist has reinforced my resolve to cut right down on drinking wine. He’s on day 8 & wants to lose weight as he’s sick of it limiting what he can do. It feels the universe is speaking. G will have to learn to cope.
The dentist cost me $500. G will be having something similar done on Thursday. I think I’ll make myself get used to driving the Camry. You need backup money in the bank. I think that has a higher priority.
500$ for a filling? That sounds outrageous. But then it's been a couple of years since I've had to pay for them myself. I think it 125€ for the check-up, quick clean, and a filling. With a numbing injection because I'm a wuss. But then our dentists do like to complain about how little they get paid in international comparison.
Cate
Long term member
Llama, I agree. I got a real shock! He’s also doing a quick filling for me on Thursday so I hope that’s included. He gave them a clean & a check, but I didn’t have an injection.
I just rang & cancelled a membership of a sports club. They direct debited me as they had it on file apparently. I told them to cancel both & I’ll pay for G’s when I can afford it but probably won’t renew mine. They recently sacked the coach, who seems passionate & a really good & loyal person, after just renewing his contract & look likely to reemploy an aggressive one I don’t like. Their motto is Strength Through Loyalty.
I just rang & cancelled a membership of a sports club. They direct debited me as they had it on file apparently. I told them to cancel both & I’ll pay for G’s when I can afford it but probably won’t renew mine. They recently sacked the coach, who seems passionate & a really good & loyal person, after just renewing his contract & look likely to reemploy an aggressive one I don’t like. Their motto is Strength Through Loyalty.
Cate
Long term member
That’s right, Llama. Such hypocrisy.
I rang my sister & vented, which got it off my chest. We nearly always end up having a laugh.
I just took Archie for a walk & G is now home. He had lots to sort out today at the golf club & he has managed to do it. He has brought lots of new members to the club & lots of people have volunteered to take on roles. I’m so glad I have been bossy & stuck to my ground. I said I would come out & wash dishes for 3 hours on the day of their tournament. I’ll probably stay a bit longer but that’s what I have said I’ll do.
I rang my sister & vented, which got it off my chest. We nearly always end up having a laugh.
I just took Archie for a walk & G is now home. He had lots to sort out today at the golf club & he has managed to do it. He has brought lots of new members to the club & lots of people have volunteered to take on roles. I’m so glad I have been bossy & stuck to my ground. I said I would come out & wash dishes for 3 hours on the day of their tournament. I’ll probably stay a bit longer but that’s what I have said I’ll do.
Too bad about the dental work and the cost of that!
That is great Cate!
Does G quit drinking when you do? That would be nice to have that moral support.
Good for you!
Cate
Long term member
@Llama The volunteer wars will never be over, that's for sure, but people are now realising that G cannot be expected to do everything & he knows he can't volunteer for everything & expect me to do all the things that he simply can't do. It's a big achievement for him.
@liza3 Thank you. G doesn't give up drinking when I do, unfortunately, but he does drink less. It means I have to be stronger, but it's about time. Yesterday was day 3 of no wine & it was easier than day 2. I did have a sweet biscuit last night & one solitary square of chocolate.
@Emilyrose It was a crazy amount & G was shocked as well. He isn't going to the appointment tomorrow so I have to ring & cancel. I'll just tell them we'll get back in touch when we can come & leave it for a couple of months. Edit- done. I couldn't bring myself to say that we were both so shocked at the price. When she asked if it was a tooth that had been fixed before I did say that this would be the 3rd time. I really like his receptionist. She's lovely.
I'll keep an eye out for one of those "only driven by a little old lady" cars & keep driving the big fat red tomato, which is what I call this car. Maybe Big Red...
Today is day 4 of my seemingly neverending quest to get back to my happy weight. Already I am feeling much better. I have had 3 days without wine, have stuck to <1450 cals each day & have lost 1kg in those 3 days. Keep it up, Cate!
Edit: After deciding not to go look at cars after my expensive dentist visit I was shopping in the fancy grocers & at the checkout, still feeling a bit cranky, but not as bad. A firey came up to the checkout next to me with one item, which looked to be his lunch. I said "I'll pay for that" & did. He said "Thank you" looking very surprised & I said "No. Thank you!" The checkout girl said that made her day, to which I replied that she often has made mine as she is so cheerful & positive always.
Later I had to ring the medical centre to cancel an appointment & the receptionist was so busy & apologised twice. I told her how much I appreciate how hard they work. She was chuffed.
If I can turn a cranky day into kindness I will certainly try. It balanced things out a bit for me.
@liza3 Thank you. G doesn't give up drinking when I do, unfortunately, but he does drink less. It means I have to be stronger, but it's about time. Yesterday was day 3 of no wine & it was easier than day 2. I did have a sweet biscuit last night & one solitary square of chocolate.
@Emilyrose It was a crazy amount & G was shocked as well. He isn't going to the appointment tomorrow so I have to ring & cancel. I'll just tell them we'll get back in touch when we can come & leave it for a couple of months. Edit- done. I couldn't bring myself to say that we were both so shocked at the price. When she asked if it was a tooth that had been fixed before I did say that this would be the 3rd time. I really like his receptionist. She's lovely.
I'll keep an eye out for one of those "only driven by a little old lady" cars & keep driving the big fat red tomato, which is what I call this car. Maybe Big Red...
Today is day 4 of my seemingly neverending quest to get back to my happy weight. Already I am feeling much better. I have had 3 days without wine, have stuck to <1450 cals each day & have lost 1kg in those 3 days. Keep it up, Cate!
Edit: After deciding not to go look at cars after my expensive dentist visit I was shopping in the fancy grocers & at the checkout, still feeling a bit cranky, but not as bad. A firey came up to the checkout next to me with one item, which looked to be his lunch. I said "I'll pay for that" & did. He said "Thank you" looking very surprised & I said "No. Thank you!" The checkout girl said that made her day, to which I replied that she often has made mine as she is so cheerful & positive always.
Later I had to ring the medical centre to cancel an appointment & the receptionist was so busy & apologised twice. I told her how much I appreciate how hard they work. She was chuffed.
If I can turn a cranky day into kindness I will certainly try. It balanced things out a bit for me.
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Words to live by.
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Em. I had felt so cranky that I could have lashed out at anything & everything, but I decided to switch it around.
Well. For 4 days I have kept under 1450 cals & had no wine at all & I weighed myself every morning & had lost 1 kg up until yesterday. I woke during the night feeling like my mouth was a desert & drank lots of water. When I woke again this morning I did not want to get on the scales as I just knew what I would see. Yep. That 1 kg was right back again. I know it's water retention & my weight has always fluctuated a lot. Today I will steer clear of salty food & drink lots of water. I won't have any wine again. I'm not good with weighing every day, but get slack if I don't weigh regularly. It's tough.
Keep going, Cate!
Edit: I weighed myself at 10 am before my shower but after breakfast & coffee & a visit to the loo & that kilo was gone!
Well. For 4 days I have kept under 1450 cals & had no wine at all & I weighed myself every morning & had lost 1 kg up until yesterday. I woke during the night feeling like my mouth was a desert & drank lots of water. When I woke again this morning I did not want to get on the scales as I just knew what I would see. Yep. That 1 kg was right back again. I know it's water retention & my weight has always fluctuated a lot. Today I will steer clear of salty food & drink lots of water. I won't have any wine again. I'm not good with weighing every day, but get slack if I don't weigh regularly. It's tough.
Keep going, Cate!
Edit: I weighed myself at 10 am before my shower but after breakfast & coffee & a visit to the loo & that kilo was gone!
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