Cate's Diary
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I think that's where weighing every day can also be helpful (and yes, sometimes multiple times in a day!)--just seeing those fluctuations...If you only weigh once in a while and catch it on a high water-weight day, you would just think that's your on-going weight...but yeah it is hard to see it jump up just when you've thought you've lost too!
Anyways so great to hear how well you're doing with all the changes Cate--the no wine, the extra movement and yes, wonderful to see that paying off on the scales for sure!
I had to google what a "firey" was in australia
Very nice to buy him lunch!And very inspiring to see how you made a cranky day into a loving day
So true--I would love to see if I am gaining muscle!
Cate
Long term member
It messes with mine, that's for sure. I know that it can't be fat so I'm just going to push through. I really felt like a wine last night & was hovering with a wine glass in my hand, but changed glasses & had mineral water with a lime ice cube instead, followed by a water. This morning my weight was up half a kilo, but once again I know it's water weight. I can do this! I might start weighing every 2nd day instead.
I need to stop having a sweet biscuit at night too I think & go back to having a few sweet treats on Sunday night only. When I try to stop drinking wine I "allow" myself the odd sweet treat(within my calorie limit) but that can easily become an everyday habit too.
Thanks, Liza. Sometimes you have to try hard to turn things around. I went to a masseuse once who said I seemed to have a lot of tension that was very hard to let go of. I told her about a customer who was really mean & nasty & I didn't know what I could do about her. She said that it would be hard but to try to send her mental thoughts of loving kindness. I really struggled with it but after a while I felt that the power this woman had over my feelings faded & I was better able to deal with her.I had to google what a "firey" was in australia
And very inspiring to see how you made a cranky day into a loving day
Thanks, Em. I'm definitely taking this one day at a time, but every day I stay under 1450 & don't drink any wine is one more step towards getting back to my healthy & happy weight.
I am aiming to lose 10 kgs by my next birthday in May. That's <1.5kg a month. I can do this!
Alexistrophic
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Well done "changing glasses" and having mineral water instead! Such a powerful mental cue. And I second Em's comment about the masseuse story and sending that lady loving kindness instead of allowing her to have control over your thoughts. The mind really is that strong.
Totally a doable goal to "release" 10 kgs by next May. How would you feel at that weight?!?!
Totally a doable goal to "release" 10 kgs by next May. How would you feel at that weight?!?!
Nice work!
Yes loving kindness can be a great practice! And yes a challenging one too when we encounter especially difficult situations!
Cate
Long term member
Thank you, Em, Alexis, Llama & Liza 
The masseuse I saw all of those years ago was lovely. I have used her idea of sending loving kindness quite a few times since then. It turns it around. It doesn't change how people feel about you but takes away the power to hurt you. It can be really hard to do, but I think I have always tried the "killing people with kindness" theory. Sending them loving kindness takes more effort.
10 kg by May would make such a difference to how I felt on my birthday. I have been thinking that next year I might even have a party to celebrate & invite friends from interstate. I want to feel good about myself & wear something nice. I will keep this in mind.
We had a really good day at G's sister's place & had a super healthy lunch. There is often bedlam & snapping & a little yelling & undercurrents. We often have no idea what they're talking about. They all see one another all of the time & we're 60 km away & have to try to work out what on earth they're talking about. Eventually, it all settles down. His sisters are volatile & both now living alone. They talk every day & are getting along fairly well & are planning an overseas trip together next year.
G & his brother put together her BBQ & a set of chairs to go with an outside table & we rearranged her decking for her while we were there. She is filling her small place with way too much stuff, unfortunately. The setting is way too big for the space she has it in. I think G & I have made a good decision to stay right where we are. It was lovely getting back home. Our neighbour has gone away for a couple of nights & our temporary gate was locked at 5 pm. I was able to get in my PJs the minute I got home, knowing that no one could drop in. How good is that?
I took a bottle of non-alcoholic sparkling rose to lunch & had another day without wine. G's brother is not drinking either & has lost about 10 kg. He's looking good. His doctor advised him to lose as much weight as possible before a hip operation to help prevent infection. He's also doing IF (16:8).
Edit at 10.41 am- & down the rain comes again!
The masseuse I saw all of those years ago was lovely. I have used her idea of sending loving kindness quite a few times since then. It turns it around. It doesn't change how people feel about you but takes away the power to hurt you. It can be really hard to do, but I think I have always tried the "killing people with kindness" theory. Sending them loving kindness takes more effort.
That is such a good question & one we would all do well to think about. I would feel more comfortable in all of my clothes- less self-conscious & more confident. I would be able to move better & put less strain on my joints.
10 kg by May would make such a difference to how I felt on my birthday. I have been thinking that next year I might even have a party to celebrate & invite friends from interstate. I want to feel good about myself & wear something nice. I will keep this in mind.
We had a really good day at G's sister's place & had a super healthy lunch. There is often bedlam & snapping & a little yelling & undercurrents. We often have no idea what they're talking about. They all see one another all of the time & we're 60 km away & have to try to work out what on earth they're talking about. Eventually, it all settles down. His sisters are volatile & both now living alone. They talk every day & are getting along fairly well & are planning an overseas trip together next year.
G & his brother put together her BBQ & a set of chairs to go with an outside table & we rearranged her decking for her while we were there. She is filling her small place with way too much stuff, unfortunately. The setting is way too big for the space she has it in. I think G & I have made a good decision to stay right where we are. It was lovely getting back home. Our neighbour has gone away for a couple of nights & our temporary gate was locked at 5 pm. I was able to get in my PJs the minute I got home, knowing that no one could drop in. How good is that?
I took a bottle of non-alcoholic sparkling rose to lunch & had another day without wine. G's brother is not drinking either & has lost about 10 kg. He's looking good. His doctor advised him to lose as much weight as possible before a hip operation to help prevent infection. He's also doing IF (16:8).
Edit at 10.41 am- & down the rain comes again!
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That sounds so cozy! Glad to hear the gate is having some unexpected positive consequences as well.I was able to get in my PJs the minute I got home, knowing that no one could drop in. How good is that?
It's always easier when you're not the only one. Especially when they're such a great example.
Cate
Long term member
Hi, Llama. The gate is a pain in the butt, but I'm trying to put a positive slant on it. I'm hoping he changes his mind really. He's away at the moment & I said we'd keep it locked for him, which means we will have to get out in the wind & rain to open it twice this morning.
A special friend of ours(T) messaged me last night to let us know that her husband's oncologist has said that his chemo is not working so they have stopped it & he hasn't long to live. I rang her & G & I are going in to see them at home this morning. T worked with us for 14 years & we were very close. G is good friends with her husband(K). He is a lovely man. They're 10 years younger than us. Cancer sucks.
It was our older son's birthday yesterday & I decided I felt like having wine so we had a bottle of bubbles & toasted having our first baby. I was never going to have children but changed my mind when I had a pregnancy "scare." When I told G that the test was negative I then said "I know it's weird but I feel disappointed. Would you mind if I changed my mind about not having children?" to which he replied that he had always wanted them but was just hoping that I might change my mind one day. He's a very special man.
OK. I think I'll go faff around & distract myself for an hour. I'm feeling emotional. Poor T. I love her to bits. She & her husband are SO close!
A special friend of ours(T) messaged me last night to let us know that her husband's oncologist has said that his chemo is not working so they have stopped it & he hasn't long to live. I rang her & G & I are going in to see them at home this morning. T worked with us for 14 years & we were very close. G is good friends with her husband(K). He is a lovely man. They're 10 years younger than us. Cancer sucks.
It was our older son's birthday yesterday & I decided I felt like having wine so we had a bottle of bubbles & toasted having our first baby. I was never going to have children but changed my mind when I had a pregnancy "scare." When I told G that the test was negative I then said "I know it's weird but I feel disappointed. Would you mind if I changed my mind about not having children?" to which he replied that he had always wanted them but was just hoping that I might change my mind one day. He's a very special man.
OK. I think I'll go faff around & distract myself for an hour. I'm feeling emotional. Poor T. I love her to bits. She & her husband are SO close!
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Em. I'm good. I am so glad that we visited. We really love them both. He perked up while we were there & had quite a few laughs & some lovely conversations. T ducked out to the supermarket while we were there so that was good for her too. He has been told that he only has about a week to go. He looked just awful when we arrived. He said, "I wonder how they can tell?"
I'm having a kombucha with a lime ice cube right now & really enjoying it. I'm going to experiment with fruit/tea ice cubes I think. The bubbles yesterday felt like an occasion. I enjoyed it, but it won't be a regular thing. It will be an occasional treat, knowing that it will slow my weight loss down. I can do this!
I'm having a kombucha with a lime ice cube right now & really enjoying it. I'm going to experiment with fruit/tea ice cubes I think. The bubbles yesterday felt like an occasion. I enjoyed it, but it won't be a regular thing. It will be an occasional treat, knowing that it will slow my weight loss down. I can do this!
I'm glad you were able to get such a nice visit in
Oh wow that's such a lovely story. Very nice that G never put pressure on you to have kids despite wanting them...
I suppose most people I know didn't plan their pregnancies and some came at what might not have been what would have been considered the most ideal time/situations, but they all seemed to absolutely love becoming parents and all did really great jobs at it as well.
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Llama. We really love them both. My sister & her lovely husband taught me a lot about cancer. Neither worried so much about themselves(eg woe is me) & were so positive & loving. I have tried to remember them both with a smile. I was lucky to have had their love. They both gave me more confidence in myself & I made them laugh & was able to really give them practical care when they really needed it.
Thanks, Liza. It was lovely. They are such good people.I'm glad you were able to get such a nice visit in
I know it sounds really mushy, but he is a very special person. I am very grateful that I am so well-loved.
Back to the "diet".
One week down & only half a kilo lost. It goes up/down/up/down.
This week I'll cut out the sweet biscuit at night. I don't have any left
I think I'll drop my calories down to 1400, from 1450.
I must drink more water!
The weather is wild. It is so windy. If we didn't live in a stone house I would be worried it would blow away. I need to exercise more so might get stuck into some housework. Arch will be disappointed. I don't want to walk under any trees & it's nasty out there.
Half a kilo a week adds up to two kilos a month, which would be excellent!
I like stormy weather but you're right not to want to walk under trees.
Yes I agree with LLama--that's a really nice loss Cate. I only aim for half a pound a week and even that seems really hard.
Yes--I always have to remind myself of that too!
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Llama & Liza
I think because the scales dropped 1kg the first day I just wanted to see that again before a week was up. It's ok. If I lose 1/2 a kilo a week I will be happy. I'm just not confident that I can yet.
I love storms too, but this was not thunder & lightning, this was gale-force winds swirling around in circles sometimes & about 10 trees have come down that we can see without going close. Some are huge. After all of the rain, then to have gale-force winds is never good. Our power didn't go out thank goodness & I still got a couple of quick but not pleasant walks in. At the end of the day, we saw about 100 sulphur-crested cockatoos & 2 majestic white-bellied sea eagles, listed as vulnerable in Tassie. The day before we had a huge flock of yellow-tailed black cockatoos fly over. I really do love living here!
I think because the scales dropped 1kg the first day I just wanted to see that again before a week was up. It's ok. If I lose 1/2 a kilo a week I will be happy. I'm just not confident that I can yet.
I love storms too, but this was not thunder & lightning, this was gale-force winds swirling around in circles sometimes & about 10 trees have come down that we can see without going close. Some are huge. After all of the rain, then to have gale-force winds is never good. Our power didn't go out thank goodness & I still got a couple of quick but not pleasant walks in. At the end of the day, we saw about 100 sulphur-crested cockatoos & 2 majestic white-bellied sea eagles, listed as vulnerable in Tassie. The day before we had a huge flock of yellow-tailed black cockatoos fly over. I really do love living here!