Cate's Diary

Cate said:
I love how this forum is as much about friendship & sharing as it is about weight loss or fitness.
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Absolutely! Me too!
Llama said:
f you forget the tag to use for blurring you just tap the three dots next to the I for italic and (for me) the last option that folds out is a mask/pig snout. Select the text you want to blur and tap the mask: done.
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oh yeah way easier!
 
Hope you really enjoyed the meal out Cate. Happy for you that you mastered the spoiler tag! Haha.
 
Marsia said:
I love all the blurry entries! It looks like a cat sat on the newspaper right where you wanted to read the headlines!! We've been to the movies a few times this year, and yikes did it get expensive, even matinees. Glad you had a nice warm day at home. It's nice G plays pool, too. You are both so social, and communal sports like that seem so fun.
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Movies are expensive now, plus we have the added expense of petrol as the nearest theatre is 40 km away.
Llama said:
Congratulations on the win, G! Cate, if you forget the tag to use for blurring you just tap the three dots next to the I for italic and (for me) the last option that folds out is a mask/pig snout. Select the text you want to blur and tap the mask: done.
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Thanks, Llama. That is good to know & much simpler!
liza3 said:
Absolutely! Me too!

oh yeah way easier!
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Much easier!
Emilyrose said:
Hope you really enjoyed the meal out Cate. Happy for you that you mastered the spoiler tag! Haha.
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I didn't Em, but that's ok. We shared a table with another couple. We both like her & it was nice to catch up. We were home at 8 :)
R is having lots of stress at the moment regarding his house & it kept me awake during the night. I hope it's resolved soon.
 
Thanks, M. It is so hard worrying about your kids, even when they're in their 40s! Thanks for the hugs!
I polished off another book & took Arch for a long walk after a delicious lunch of marinated chicken legs & lots of veggies. I rugged up with a woollen beanie & gloves on top of the rest of my layers, including a thermal top & a woollen jumper.
 
I have weather envy. I miss bundling up for the cold. Glad you had a nice read and yummy food and good walk. I hope it works out for R, too!!
 
Thanks, everyone xoxo
I didn't think I would get much sleep last night but I did. R is in a heck of a state & he rang again last night. Earlier in the day I had suggested he do something nice, like taking his dog for a walk & he tried. He got out the front door & sat & cried for about half an hour. This has really rocked him. Unfortunately, C has said she needs some alone time with her eldest son who is also struggling. It may all be too much for her. I hope he goes to see her today.
Em- I meant the meal was very ordinary. It was a duty thing. The couple we sat with we like the woman, but the guy is a grumpy old miser. It was just something we felt we should go to. Once a year won't hurt us.
With any luck, R will get some good advice today on how to get out of the situation he is in. I feel so tense & I hate him feeling so stressed.
 
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Poor R. And poor C! It must be so hard for her to not be able to support R when he's struggling. I hope both he and her son find solutions soon.
 
Thanks, Llama, Liza & Em. I spoke to R in the morning yesterday & I think he will be ok. For his mental health, he will need to let things go, not pursue the rent owed & get moved back into his cottage when he can. It's hard, but moving on is the best thing. He still doesn't have his van back & C is recuperating from an op. He said he might go see her yesterday & I must admit I didn't message either of them as I needed to relax & try not to worry. I had trouble convincing him that it was all over. He has copped a lot of abuse from the female tenant. She got nasty. He doesn't deserve that. He should be back at work this morning. His boss has offered to help him move back home. His boss is a gem.
I weighed myself yesterday & was happy to see that I'm down half a kilo. I'm not logging & not obsessing about being overweight. I feel much better about myself when I'm not. I'm also less inclined to stuff something in my face when I feel stressed.
It is cold this morning. It's currently zero degrees. I'll wait until the frost lifts & take my car down the hill to our mechanic for a service & walk Arch back up the hill. He'll need his coat.
 
That's awful that R's tenant was so nasty. So sorry he is going through a lot and that C is also stressed. I think you did great not stress eating, and I hope you can get lots of nice rest now. I agree about not obsessing about being overweight. I am yoyo-ing at the moment, but am down a little overall, and I do think it's from being kind to myself about my weight instead of adding more stress by forcing things. I hope we can de-stress our way to our happy weights!
 
Thanks, M. I am feeling utterly exhausted today. Being kind to myself about my weight or anything else for that matter is a much better alternative. I have been thinking I should message C to see if she's ok but I'm not sure if I can cope with much. I think I may just have a nap.
 
Renting out apartments as a private person without legal backup seems to be hell in general. I don't understand how people behave in and around their place of living.
 
oh yes, being a landlord always sounds terribly stressful to me too...even when things go well. Really sorry to hear that R had to put up with an abusive tenant. I am glad he has some good supports and good friends (and good boss!) around him. He sounds like a really good guy.
Nice one on the weight drop while not obsessing about it! I hope you got that nap in and that you are feeling less stressed Cate.
 
Cate said:
I weighed myself yesterday & was happy to see that I'm down half a kilo.
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Good for you!
Cate said:
I'm not logging & not obsessing about being overweight. I feel much better about myself when I'm not.
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Are you really overweight enough to worry about? I found this yesterday, it suggests people our ages should not worry too much about it:

"In a 2022 study, researchers found that the best BMI for health in those over 65 is 31 to 32 for women and 27 to 28 for men — higher than what’s recommended for people under 65." https://www.aarp.org/health/healthy-living/info-2023/health-and-weight-loss-70s.html

I know its controversial, but it comes from a relatively respected source. The American Association of Retired People, the largest organization of retired folks in the US.

Surprised me that the healthy weight for a woman is actually higher, for a given height, than for a man. Not what I had believed.

All this does not mean that you shouldn't lose a little weight, if it will make you feel good and feel more healthy. I think it just means that being a few pounds heavier than what we have always believed to be ideal really is not always so bad.
 
Cate said:
I spoke to R in the morning yesterday & I think he will be ok. For his mental health, he will need to let things go, not pursue the rent owed & get moved back into his cottage when he can. It's hard, but moving on is the best thing.
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You are right, and I agree with Llama, being a private landlord is hard. I did it a few years back and gave up after two bad renters, we had to go through legal evictions to get them out. Both places were left in awful condition, and we never saw a dime of the unpaid rent... Best to let it go, and chalk it up to experience gained.

We are likely getting back into the landlord business, but this time I will go through an agency who handles the renters, they will not even know my name. For the 10% they charge it seems worthwhile. Agencies are much harder nosed than I am, taking immediate action when things go wrong, I was a soft touch and waited too long.
 
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