All aboard the Fat Loss train!! Choo Choo!!!!

I have these thoughts for my friend, Beth:

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point--that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you.

There is only one alternative: self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.

Best wishes, Beth


Chillen
 
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Chillen said:
I have these thoughts for my friend, Beth:

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point--that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you.

There is only one alternative: self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.

Best wishes, Beth


Chillen
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You are so right. I'm in a funk now, so please ignore me. LOL

Before everyone gets all freaked that I'm seriously considering such a drastic thing, relax. I was only dreaming. There is no way in h*ll I would consider surgery like that for several reasons, the least of which is my family's hx with cancer.

I realize that the only way I am going to get the body I "want" is by eating clean and working out hard. Quite honestly, who do I need to impress at this stage in my life? I'm married with 3 beautiful kids. I'm not ready to give up all the yummy if not good for you foods that I like. I am, however, willing to eat clean about 90% of the time. I like crackers. Sue me. If I want some crackers, then so be it. I will have them.

I never have, nor ever WILL have, a completely flat stomach. My legs look good - damn good, if you ask my hubby. My hips are another issue, but as we all know, we cannot spot reduce.

I have been at this "weight loss thing" for about 5 years. My first 6 mos, I lost about 40 pounds. For the most part, I have kept it off. I'm 5'3 and about 130. That's not over weight. It's within the "healthy" range for my height, even if it's on the higher side. My goal is no longer to be 115. 125 would be nice, but my weight doesn't define me.

I am a nice person. I help those that I can, I sympathize with those around me and I always try to do the right thing. I am SO much healthier than I was 5 years ago. Hell, I am a size 4/6 - WTH is wrong with that???
 
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I fall down probably more than most. Sue me. I just don't have the will power to avoid the things I shouldn't eat. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN I DON'T WANT IS AS BADLY. That's why I appreciate Chillen's support so much. He doesn't tell me I don't want it badly if I can't eat clean 100%.

Don't get me wrong. I applaud all of you who are able to avoid those unhealthy things 95-100% of the time. That is such a wonderful thing to be able to do!! :) I'm sure you will go far with your healthy goals!

I guess my main point in all of this is that my fitness/health goals are not my main focus in life. My work, my family, my God are far more important. It won't matter to God if I'm fat or thin when I get to Heaven, just that I'm there.

Wishing you all success in your goals! :) :hug2:
 
Beth, that's great. Statistically, it is harder to permanently lose weight than to quit smoking or get rid off a heroin addiction. I can't remember if it's 2 or 4% that succeed. So it's a great accomplishment!

I can totally relate to what you're saying, and I was even one of those fitness as my first priority guys back when I was younger. Then adult life hit, with a career and a girlfriend, and while health is a high priority still, fitness just slid down and now it gets determined by what spare capacity I have after my other priorities. It certainly didn't make my quality of life worse even though I've lost muscle and gained fat, and I'm not going back to fitness as no 1 priority (ok, I'm pretty serious about it recently, but work isn't that taxing currently). And I don't even have kids yet!

PS: Cheating isn't that bad if you just watch the macros. Eating clean is nice and good, but 300 kcal of crackers ain't that much worse than 300 kcal of brown rice ;)
 
For my friend, Beth......cause I wanted to:


“If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down.”

Mary Pickford

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“When I'm not afraid to fail, I wont. When I'm not afraid to fall down, falling down won't feel like failure. I have fallen down enough to get more comfortable with it, to know how productive it can be, how necessary it is to growth. Still, when I sense the ground beneath me giving way, I have to remind myself that it's OK if I falter. I have to remind myself that it's more than OK!”

Jan Denise

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:)

“Alice falls down the rabbit hole and her dress poofs up like a parachute :)

Alice: "Well, after this I should think nothing of falling down stairs.” :)

Alice in Wonderland

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Tell me and I'll forget; show me and I may remember; involve me and I'll understand.

Chinese Proverbs

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My dearest friend. Do not be afraid to fall; but do learn from each of them to build the smaller stones into boulders of inner faith.


Best wishes,


Chillen
 
Nicolasd said:
Beth, that's great. Statistically, it is harder to permanently lose weight than to quit smoking or get rid off a heroin addiction. I can't remember if it's 2 or 4% that succeed. So it's a great accomplishment!

I can totally relate to what you're saying, and I was even one of those fitness as my first priority guys back when I was younger. Then adult life hit, with a career and a girlfriend, and while health is a high priority still, fitness just slid down and now it gets determined by what spare capacity I have after my other priorities. It certainly didn't make my quality of life worse even though I've lost muscle and gained fat, and I'm not going back to fitness as no 1 priority (ok, I'm pretty serious about it recently, but work isn't that taxing currently). And I don't even have kids yet!

PS: Cheating isn't that bad if you just watch the macros. Eating clean is nice and good, but 300 kcal of crackers ain't that much worse than 300 kcal of brown rice ;)
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Thank you for the support. :D It is much appreciate. And I agree that "cheating" (I prefer treating) isn't bad. The problem arises when you treat yourself too often. It soon becomes the norm. :)
 
Chillen said:
For my friend, Beth......cause I wanted to:


“If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down.”

Mary Pickford

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“When I'm not afraid to fail, I wont. When I'm not afraid to fall down, falling down won't feel like failure. I have fallen down enough to get more comfortable with it, to know how productive it can be, how necessary it is to growth. Still, when I sense the ground beneath me giving way, I have to remind myself that it's OK if I falter. I have to remind myself that it's more than OK!”

Jan Denise

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:)

“Alice falls down the rabbit hole and her dress poofs up like a parachute :)

Alice: "Well, after this I should think nothing of falling down stairs.” :)

Alice in Wonderland

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Tell me and I'll forget; show me and I may remember; involve me and I'll understand.

Chinese Proverbs

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My dearest friend. Do not be afraid to fall; but do learn from each of them to build the smaller stones into boulders of inner faith.


Best wishes,


Chillen
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I LOVE THE FIRST ONE!!! :D Thank you!!!

And for the record, the diet has been spot on today. :D
 
I like your opinion on occasionally having food that doesn't necessarily fall under the "healthy" category. It's good to have a balance. There is such thing as being too health conscious. If you get to the point where you're stressing out about being perfect 100% of the time, then the stress is more likely to kill you than that one treat that doesn't fall into your diet plan.

You seem like you're on your way to a great lifestyle. Just like you said, there's nothing wrong with being a size 4/6. If you feel healthy and fit, then you're fine.
 
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I like your opinion on occasionally having food that doesn't necesarily fall under the "healthy" category. It's good to have a balance. There is such thing as being too health conscious. If you get to the point where you're stressing out about being perfect 100% of the time, then the stress is more likely to kill you than that one treat that doesn't fall into your diet plan.

You seem like you're on your way to a great lifestlye. Just like you said, threr's nothing wrong with being a size 4/6. If you feel healthy and fit, then you're fine.
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Thanks, Spicy!! I agree with you 100%!! I think I look good for a mom of 3 kids! And if you think I'm fat, well, I guess that's your problem. No, I do not think I'm completely thin, but I'm not grotesque, either.
 
I just read my last post and thought it kinda sounded like I was attacking Spicy, and I wasn't. So, I apologize for that if anyone (esp Spicy!) thought I was. The "you" in that was general and was meant for the general population....

Feeling sleepy tonight. Have not started NROL. I think part of it is my funk and another part is fear of failure. I will make it thru this week with diet and get back to the weights next week. Of course, by then I will probably be back to square one! LOL

Not to mention I have a big weekend coming up, so my focus is elsewhere...

Hope you all have a great evening! :)
 
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So far today, I have been spot on with my diet. :) I have not worked out yet. I had planned on getting up early to workout, but was too tired to get up. LOL So, I will have to do it later.

Yesterday's workout was really good. Hoping to have another one today. :)

Made a big decision this morning and it was a good one. I feel really good about it and I think my life will get back to "normal". I will be able to breathe and feel good again, as opposed to feeling harried every day. The other person might not like it, but hey....gotta watch out for me, right?
 
GREAT!


Beth's Inhale:

Beth is able to INHALE and increase the mental SCALE; AS Beth EXHALES she sends a mental E-MAIL in much DETAIL which allows her to continue her mountain TRAIL and let out a huge WALE on her TRAIL and prevents her from getting STALE and going to the mental JAIL! :)
 
Just finished inputting food into sparkpeople. Went over by about 250 cals. Had I not had the animal crackers, I would have been all set. Oh well. I still feel good about things. :)
 
Oh, and that's another thing. I changed some goals and stats yesterday and my target cal goal per day went down. :( So, now I will have to be even more diligent.
 
Beth just some food for thoughts:

A lb of fat has an "approximated" caloric value of 3500c.

If you are training hard and go over a small amount----not all of this (250 you just went over) will turn to fat young lady--it will be used for repair and other things.

In addition, when you track calories, you can bring in another day......and compensate for this +250...on a different day the same week......thus the POWER of knowing your calories and using calories to keep one on track........

Simplicity.......rules.......:)
 
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