Hi Tom - Your diary is compelling. I have many of the same goals and challenges. One thing I've done is decide on a few positive behaviors I will do daily, and measure my success by how often I do them.
It's funny you mentioned positive behaviors daily. In my spreadsheet, I have a 30 day challenge of behaviors I check. If I do most of them, I'm doing pretty well. I slip from time to time like yesterday, but generally do well with them. Attached is a screenshot hopefully.
I'm doing Intermittent Fasting (just started today) and walking as 2 of my proactive behaviors. I may measure the # of minutes I walk, but I don't plan to micro-manage each activity. Basically, if I did a good brisk walk, that'll be a win. For the IF, I'll work toward 12 hrs of fasting and 12 hrs of eating window (12/12) as a daily win. At this time, I'm not even going to worry about what I eat and the portions - because I expect these things will come into alignment with time.
I haven't intentionally done fasting, but I find I don't usually eat after 8 or 9 at night and not again until 8 or 9 in the morning so I'm not sure if that counts for me or not.
My 2 current goals are fairly easy to achieve, but at the same time, I wasn't doing either of them until recently. So, they are an improvement over current state. If I keep meeting these small daily goals, I trust that the weight will come off.
Good for you! Usually, if I get overwhelmed, I break everything down into smaller manageable goals. Right now, I focus mainly on my calorie count. If I get some exercise and hit my calorie goal, then I know I am losing weight regardless of what the scale says. It will catch up eventually.
I'd love to be at my goal weight, but that # is very far away. I think you said that you weigh twice weekly, which is about what I plan to do. I know how the # on the scale doesn't always keep up with the good work we do on eating and exercise. So, the scale won't be my yardstick
Yeah, the scale doesn't tell the truth or at least the whole truth in my opinion. I do count on it, but not nearly as much before. I was weighing on Thursday (usually an indicator of how I'm doing. If I am up on Thursday then I probably will be on Sunday and vice versa.) Then I weigh either on Saturday or Sunday for the official weight of the week. But lately, I joined the weigh yourself everyday thread. It was scary at first, but now it's a tool to see how my weight fluctuates and it can wildly depending on how I eat (mainly sodium) and exercise. Now I know if I eat badly and gain 4 lbs it wasn't because I ate that many extra calories, it was because I had too much sodium and retained water. It comes back off once I eat better again. So there's a lot to it, but sadly I still count the scale more than I should.
One thing that overwhelms me is food prep. So, I've simplified by sticking with a few basics: bananas, which i cut up & freeze and add to my protein shakes for an ice creamy feel. Apples for munching. I like apples because they last a long time in the fridge.
Veggies is mainly 1 bunch of celery and 2 lbs of baby carrots each shopping trip - which is about every 5-6 days. Very easy prep. I mix the 2 crudites in a large bowl so I have that little variety available all the time. No salads at home for me. Too much prep with washing and spinning. And if I don't eat it quickly, it goes bad. Not having salad at home makes me enjoy a salad when I go out.
I also buy frozen broccoli and green beans. Fresh would be better, but I rarely make the time to do the prep work, and then the veggies go bad. These are nice to add to rice dishes (I'm currently avoiding wheat as an experiment).
Food prep is difficult for me too. I usually try and limit it to 2 times a week. I cook for 3 to 4 days at a time - Making mainly my carb I'm going to have as well as meat. Meat takes the longest. Usually, if I prepare ahead of time with the carb and meat, putting vegetables together isn't a big deal. Still, it's a chore.