Thanks Cate - it feels less daunting losing the weight together!Trusting your intuition & being more accepting of yourself & others sound like great goals for 2024.
It's time I did something (again) about losing weight. Starting now. We can do this xoxo
I've been feeling more forgiving towards myself after reading a lot of comments from other people who are also learning about narcissism on YouTube, and it makes me not feel so inadequate as a person - lots of normal people fall for this stuff, and I am not alone. I am starting to view how I treat myself as anti-narcissism activism - treating myself with kindness and acceptance is the most radical thing I can do to combat narcissism, and it is actually feeling good to be compassionate to myself. It used to just be a chore, but I am actually enjoying it now, like how nice it feels to water the garden and nurture it.
Thank you Em!!! That's such a lovely thing to say! I am going to think of all of us on the forum when I am tempted by snacking. I feel so lucky to have all of you supporting me! Big, huge hugs!!!Happy New Year Marsia. The only way is up and you have shown amazing resilience and fortitude this year. You should be very proud of that.
I hope you enjoy your New Year's Eve hot chocolates and the weight starts to come off for you again in January. xxx
That's such a great analogy, Liza! I'm building emotional intelligence and resilience like you build muscle! I do wish I hadn't snacked away my nice weight loss, but I think the key is learning to relax more. It was hard yesterday because my lawyer let me know that the negotiations did not lead to J being reasonable, as was expected. It's just hard to hear it and does make me stressed. I am nearly calmed down again though, which is really good, as it's been a huge uphill battle to find any sense of calm lately. The meditation is working small miracles, I think!That is a good way to look at it and something I struggle with as well...like if we are working out physically you want to add more and more challenges as you understand it makes you stronger, but mentally I always look for the easiest way out instead of getting happy about another challenge to build mental strength and resilience! i need to see mental challenges the same way as running up hills...
I guess in some ways that could be seen as positive since that weightloss was due to so much stress and now you are so much less stressed. I hope you can get back to losing again but this time for happy reasons!
So yesterday K finished her portfolio and handed it in. It's wonderful - she did that program that has clickable images that lead you into a 50s diner with all sorts of 50s style kitch like a robot whose gears rotate when you mouse over him, and you go into a painting and into a mirror in the painting, and there are all sorts of dream images throughout - all taken from K's sketchbooks and photos. She did the background music for this game (it's the beginning of an escape room game) on bass and guitar, and it came out so good! Then there were some graphics pieces, an original song which she did vocals, vocal accompaniment, guitar, and bass for, and a one minute interview video of her answering why she wanted to go to their digital media program. Everything came out amazing, and she is really proud.
We took a walk down to the river and got some nice shots of the shoreline lit up from the dock and some beautiful pictures of the night sky with wisps of clouds and lots of stars out. We talked about new year's resolutions on our walk. Then we got home just in time for midnight and toasted and sang "Ode to Joy" at the top or our lungs. Then we watched online fireworks and started one of our favorite movies, Everything Everywhere All At Once. Today I am letting her sleep in. She stayed up all week getting this portfolio done. Oh, she's up - more later!