I think you hit the nail on the head. Comparing myself to others always makes me feel horrid, and I never see people being happy who do the whole rat race thing. They never slow down and savor life, and this is exactly how J was more and more each year.The thing about measuring your life against money and power, as far as I can see it, is that there's no end goal. You think you'll be happy once you get a raise or a promotion but then you just have a new set of people to compete against. Even if you become a billionaire? Well, your new neighbor has 3 billion against your 1.5 and keeps a pet senator! If your focus is on money or power you're always going to look at how much more you could have, not at how much you already have and how lucky you are to have it.
I go between so many different emotions. I also think it's hard to let go of who you thought someone is vs how evil they turned out to be sometimes. Thanks for the nice compliment!What a good person you are, M that you can feel sorry for J still. It is understandable to feel rage at what he tried to do & keeping your cool whilst standing your ground would be really tough. That takes real courage xoxo
Today I had an intake with a counselor for K. She wants to refer to another psychologist with more expertise in this area of trauma. She did a separate intake with J and was really concerned. I was so happy that she cut through his bs and was able to see how shifty he is and got him to say things that showed how clueless and out there he is as a parent. I am so tired now. Phew that was intense.
We also went out to a grocery store and got nice sushi and then went to a cafe where we studied. And we went thrifting on the way home and I got 2 really nice pairs of flow-y cotton pants and a cotton embroidered olive green top I am going to really love. It was good to do nice things and balance out the day. I didn't snack late tonight. That feels good!