Emily Rose: The Reboot
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Cate
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All the positive vibes! Also plenty of sleep, regular exercise, and healthy food to keep your stress resistance up
with LaMa.Good idea, Em. Focus on the now & enjoy what comes along. A hot, Spanish guy who also cooks? Nice.
I really agree! And also acknowledging you did great this week with all the stress and overtime and strange messages from unavailable office guy. Can you tell him he isn't making sense to you?
I really hope you get to destress and relax and hope your date goes amazing!!!
I really hope you get to destress and relax and hope your date goes amazing!!!
Oh, that sounds tough, all the strange vibes at work., and hints and roundaboutness. You shouldn't have to guess if there's "something going on" - and there obviously is, since your boss noticed it. The question is: what? and what needs to be done about it? My guess is, that Mr Not-Available would rather like to flatter himself by have a co-worker with a crush on him, and so he plays this on-again, off-again dance to try to keep you hooked, without ever actually wanting an affair, just the buzz of having someone really sexy (you!) focussed on him. Maybe just tell your boss that there's nothing going on as far as you're concerned, but that you think Mr N-a does great work, and you hope he can drop whatever other bee he's got in his bonnet. And maybe just look blank and professional when he starts faffing around with his on-and-offery. I'm really sorry about how much of a pain he's being.
Sending all the positive vibes to you for Spanish Saturday!
You shouldn't have to guess if there's "something going on" - and there obviously is, since your boss noticed it. The question is: what? and what needs to be done about it? My guess is, that Mr Not-Available would rather like to flatter himself by have a co-worker with a crush on him, and so he plays this on-again, off-again dance to try to keep you hooked, without ever actually wanting an affair, just the buzz of having someone really sexy (you!) focussed on him. Maybe just tell your boss that there's nothing going on as far as you're concerned, but that you think Mr N-a does great work, and you hope he can drop whatever other bee he's got in his bonnet. And maybe just look blank and professional when he starts faffing around with his on-and-offery. I'm really sorry about how much of a pain he's being.Sending all the positive vibes to you for Spanish Saturday!
Petal001
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Em I'm guessing too office guy knows you fancy him . My advice really is work is work. Switch him off in your head. As you say he is unavailable and he sounds like a bit of a player. Be professional and treat just like what he is a colleague. Monday morning doll yourself up , stride into work head held high and you just focus on your work for the day and keep away from all the petty office crap . Head down and work and I guarantee you will feel like you ticked a box.
Enjoy the date tonight , lucky girl x
Enjoy the date tonight , lucky girl x
I think the office guy doesn’t realise how friendly he was towards me and if he does enjoy the attention, I think it’s on a subconscious level and he’s not actively looking for it. I liked what Petal said - work is work. I am going to get back focused on that. I think when I get insecure, I just want attention from him, and then I’m annoyed when he won’t play along. So it’s mostly my fault.
Date went well! I am meeting him again next weekend. I don’t think he’s my dream man but he is very nice and we had a good time. I am exhausted now, must have a shower and grab a power nap before rehearsal.
Date went well! I am meeting him again next weekend. I don’t think he’s my dream man but he is very nice and we had a good time. I am exhausted now, must have a shower and grab a power nap before rehearsal.
Hi Em! So glad your date went well!! And it's good that you figured out what to do at work to make things less confusing. Hope your rehearsal goes really well and that you get to relax at some point in your weekend, too! I am going to weigh in just to keep myself going. I know you said that you didn't want to this week, and I completely understand. Hope this next week is calm and goes great!!
Hooray!
I was on tenterhooks all weekend to hear how things went, and am really glad to hear it went so happily.Thanks guys.
I had a really good evening last night, it felt like I was on holidays. Unfortunately, I am not on holidays and I am so worn out today.
I’ve decided to do a 30 Day Challenge for October, starting tomorrow.
Challenge guidelines:
1) No smoking. If I want to take up smoking again after the 30 days have passed, I can. Hopefully I won’t.
2) No alcohol. This will be challenging with the dates but I will have to get over it. I shouldn’t need alcohol to relax or have a good time. To be honest, I know this already, it’s just a default habit at this point. But I am drinking too much at the moment and this needs to stop.
3) Exercise every day - minimum a 30 minute walk.
4) Cook all my meals, except for dates/occasions.
5) 3 meals, 2 snacks a day. I must stick with this, as when I don’t, I get ravenous and end up grabbing the quickest thing I can find.
6) Max one cup of coffee or black tea a day.
7) Sweets/desserts/soft drinks only allowed when in the pub or eating out with friends.
This will be quite a challenging challenge, but let’s see how I get on.
The cute guy who does yoga called in today and he signed in, said hello, etc. Then he went to change. When he came back out, he asked me if there was anything strange, and I made some silly joke. He laughed. It’s a good sign if he’s making an extra effort to talk to me. And to be honest, the bit I know about him makes me think we’d be a better match than Spanish guy. He loves music and gigs all the time and has released a couple of albums, which is really cool. He’s also in his 30s, a few years older than me. I think he might be single, based on the fact that he has housemates. Anyway, watch this space! I’m getting greedy now.
This is me right now -
I have to do a bit of work on the body though to look like Geri in this video, lol.
I had a really good evening last night, it felt like I was on holidays. Unfortunately, I am not on holidays and I am so worn out today.
I’ve decided to do a 30 Day Challenge for October, starting tomorrow.
Challenge guidelines:
1) No smoking. If I want to take up smoking again after the 30 days have passed, I can. Hopefully I won’t.
2) No alcohol. This will be challenging with the dates but I will have to get over it. I shouldn’t need alcohol to relax or have a good time. To be honest, I know this already, it’s just a default habit at this point. But I am drinking too much at the moment and this needs to stop.
3) Exercise every day - minimum a 30 minute walk.
4) Cook all my meals, except for dates/occasions.
5) 3 meals, 2 snacks a day. I must stick with this, as when I don’t, I get ravenous and end up grabbing the quickest thing I can find.
6) Max one cup of coffee or black tea a day.
7) Sweets/desserts/soft drinks only allowed when in the pub or eating out with friends.
This will be quite a challenging challenge, but let’s see how I get on.
The cute guy who does yoga called in today and he signed in, said hello, etc. Then he went to change. When he came back out, he asked me if there was anything strange, and I made some silly joke. He laughed. It’s a good sign if he’s making an extra effort to talk to me. And to be honest, the bit I know about him makes me think we’d be a better match than Spanish guy. He loves music and gigs all the time and has released a couple of albums, which is really cool. He’s also in his 30s, a few years older than me. I think he might be single, based on the fact that he has housemates. Anyway, watch this space! I’m getting greedy now.
This is me right now
-I have to do a bit of work on the body though to look like Geri in this video, lol.
Woo-hoo!!! Go, you!
And yes, Guy2 sounds very interesting - though then again - does he cook?
And your October challenges! Wow, that really does sound challenging! Good for you, for your boldness of vision and gumption - I much admire that! Can I offer solidarity by following along with you in just one of them? I could undertake
Lol @Petal001. PM me any time if you want a visit.
I don't think Spanish guy cooks that well sadly. Nothing like my dad, lol.
I haven't stuck to one challenge yet LaMa, but there was a storm today, seemed like a good excuse.
Today kids, we are going to talk about sexual health! I went to a walk-in clinic near my house, very handy! I felt like the doctor hated me on sight. I want to go on the pill, even though a lot of me doesn't want to, because I hate messing with my hormones, but then again, I drink and smoke and eat so much shite already, what's another thing? The doctor recommended the coil because it doesn't mess with ovulation, which is cool, but then I read some horror stories online (Daily Mail, my main source of info, haha) of women bleeding for months after it, and people warning against it. Do I really want to have something permanently in my body? At least with the pill, you can stop taking it any time. Hmm. Anyone with more knowledge than me want to share?
I also decided to get an STI test, may as well, because I keep getting calls to donate blood, and I made some foolish decisions last year. So I want the clean bill of health before I go back.
I talked to Spanish guy on the phone tonight, it was nice. He's quite sweet really. He seems a lot more into me than he did at the start. I must be doing something right!
My diet has gone out the window, just so bad at the moment. I think I am just so tired and feel a bit rundown, so I'm eating loads of chicken and curries and things like that, which is all well and good, but not when you are overweight already. So I am taking a break from the dating life this weekend and meeting him Thursday instead, just because I got so little sleep last weekend and I want to get back into the fitness bigtime.
I had also messaged another guy before I met Spanish guy, and he got back to me today after a long delay. He is super tall and into reiki and all that kind of thing, and I find him really attractive, so I arranged to meet him for coffee, but he didn't reply yet. But then I talked to SG today and he was really nice and seems really keen, so I don't know. We're getting some food (casual - burger or pizza or something) with some beers on Thursday and then on Friday, we might go for a drive somewhere, cos we're both off from work. I think I like the idea of going for a drive somewhere together more than anything, lol. And I'm doing the driving.
I had a massive setback during the week. I won't go into it now, but I am moving home again. Sigh. This is a big lemon to have to deal with, but at least the rest is lemonade.
I don't think Spanish guy cooks that well sadly. Nothing like my dad, lol.
I haven't stuck to one challenge yet LaMa, but there was a storm today, seemed like a good excuse.
Today kids, we are going to talk about sexual health! I went to a walk-in clinic near my house, very handy! I felt like the doctor hated me on sight. I want to go on the pill, even though a lot of me doesn't want to, because I hate messing with my hormones, but then again, I drink and smoke and eat so much shite already, what's another thing? The doctor recommended the coil because it doesn't mess with ovulation, which is cool, but then I read some horror stories online (Daily Mail, my main source of info, haha) of women bleeding for months after it, and people warning against it. Do I really want to have something permanently in my body? At least with the pill, you can stop taking it any time. Hmm. Anyone with more knowledge than me want to share?
I also decided to get an STI test, may as well, because I keep getting calls to donate blood, and I made some foolish decisions last year. So I want the clean bill of health before I go back.
I talked to Spanish guy on the phone tonight, it was nice. He's quite sweet really. He seems a lot more into me than he did at the start. I must be doing something right!
My diet has gone out the window, just so bad at the moment. I think I am just so tired and feel a bit rundown, so I'm eating loads of chicken and curries and things like that, which is all well and good, but not when you are overweight already. So I am taking a break from the dating life this weekend and meeting him Thursday instead, just because I got so little sleep last weekend and I want to get back into the fitness bigtime.
I had also messaged another guy before I met Spanish guy, and he got back to me today after a long delay. He is super tall and into reiki and all that kind of thing, and I find him really attractive, so I arranged to meet him for coffee, but he didn't reply yet. But then I talked to SG today and he was really nice and seems really keen, so I don't know. We're getting some food (casual - burger or pizza or something) with some beers on Thursday and then on Friday, we might go for a drive somewhere, cos we're both off from work. I think I like the idea of going for a drive somewhere together more than anything, lol. And I'm doing the driving.
I had a massive setback during the week. I won't go into it now, but I am moving home again. Sigh. This is a big lemon to have to deal with, but at least the rest is lemonade.
Huge support for you on the sexual health business! Not having any more info than what's out there generally, I can't give you any advice about birth control - I found the pill really messed up my moods/emotions, but I've heard bad-news stories about the coil, too. Anyway, it'll be good to have that proved clean bill of health again - the Blood Bank will be happy to see you!
And SG isn't a great cook! Oh no - all my imaginings fly out the window! Could be just as well, in terms of weight, though! And you taking the weekend "off" to reset and get sleep and be healthy sounds like it could be really good right now. (And is message-guy, the same one as Guy-2? It certainly is raining men round your way!)
I'm really sorry about your needing to move again, because that's a huge headache - do you have furniture to shift? Will you have a decent length of time to find a new place? Best wishes for it.
And SG isn't a great cook! Oh no - all my imaginings fly out the window! Could be just as well, in terms of weight, though!
And you taking the weekend "off" to reset and get sleep and be healthy sounds like it could be really good right now. (And is message-guy, the same one as Guy-2? It certainly is raining men round your way!)I'm really sorry about your needing to move again, because that's a huge headache - do you have furniture to shift? Will you have a decent length of time to find a new place? Best wishes for it.
overlandflyer
Well-known member
hello Emily... could i ask you what sort of person you are talking about as ..."... people I know who heavily restrict ..." ...?
I had an IUD for ten years and most of my friends have them, too. No horror stories here. Copper tends to make your periods heavier while hormone ones tend to make them much lighter. They can be removed at any time (technically you can remove them yourself but it´s not recommended). Having an IUD placed when you haven´t had kids yet can be painful but the pain only lasts for a couple of seconds. Then it´s a couple of days of period-like cramping and some bleeding (for which you should use pads, not tampons) and you´re done for 5 years or so. Months of bleeding are most certainly not typical!
Petal001
New member
Hi Em sorry to hear you are moving back home but look at the positives . You are saving money , your mum and dad are chuffed I bet , company for the winter months . If we lived in other countries like India or some European countries families live together for lots of reasons . Embrace it .
I never went on the coil either because of the horror stories but likewise know many that are on it . What about an implant ? A rod in arm or something .
Well done on getting it all sorted anyway .
I think In hindsight you set yourself too many challenges for October so why not go easy on yourself and enjoy your dates and try not to over stress about things . Big hugs
I never went on the coil either because of the horror stories but likewise know many that are on it . What about an implant ? A rod in arm or something .
Well done on getting it all sorted anyway .
I think In hindsight you set yourself too many challenges for October so why not go easy on yourself and enjoy your dates and try not to over stress about things . Big hugs