Emily Rose: The Reboot

Dating is exhausting. I'm sure if you focus on you and not think about it too much then the perfect situation will come up and things will fall into place. Or at least that's what I tell myself.
 
Ahhhhh!!! Yes!!!! Come to New York/New Jersey!!!!!

Completely feel ya on the dating and relationships. I was 37 when I met Andre (my husband lol). There is a 10 year age gap between us, which feels like nothing because we connect on so many levels. This is the first marriage/baby for both of us and I gotta say that it does make things much simpler.

I feel like I always knew a relationship like this was possible. Even (especially!) though it took me longer to than it does for many people, I do feel like all my years of solitude were worthwhile.

Hoping you have a wonderful restorative Christmas holiday!!!!
 
- Yes, I was really happy to make amends Liza, especially as she's a lovely person and she just caught me on an off day that time!
- Haha, yes, as usual, you are right Cate. More about that below. :D
- I've been focusing on myself for 36 years Lingwo! But I appreciate the sentiment. I remain hopeful. I hope you do too.
- If I do go, I will look you up Alexis! :) Thank you so much for sharing that, it really gladdened my heart. So happy that it worked out for you.

Well, I've decided not to give up on love just yet! The housemate evening turned out to be fantastic. And, for the first time since we've all moved in, they had put out the bin for collection without me asking. So that was a really positive outcome.

Also, one of my housemate's friends rocked up tonight and, Reader, he was really handsome (and young, but not too young!) and I was a bit smitten. He was wearing a check shirt and had kind of floppy dark hair and dark eyes and he was tall and slim and just... really attractive. He also wasn't a talker. Lol. I mean, he wasn't mute, but we were in a group and he wasn't trying to dominate the conversation. And at one point, he turned to me and said, 'Emily Rose, where are you from?' I mean, a direct question, always appreciated. Anyway, I might never see him again, and also his status is unknown, but I was like, Wow, this is great, I don't even have to leave my house and a tall, dark, handsome stranger can just saunter in. So yeah, the whole thing warmed my heart a bit and I just feel that my faith in things working out is restored.

Anyway, I left then and went to play tennis, which was also really enjoyable, and I played well enough I think. I also played this morning so I have done plenty of exercise today. I also cleaned my room and the bathroom, so it was a very positive, productive and fun day. I am happy.

Also, I discovered this beautiful song today, just really love it:

 
Yay indeed Cate. :)

It was Christmas Eve babe... I have had such a lovely, relaxing day so far. The last 3 days I've had a lot of tennis scheduled, which I love of course, but it does involve rushing around a bit. And today, I don't have anything to do whatsoever and it's just glorious. I kind of realised that this constant busyness probably isn't that good for me. No wonder I am carrying so much stomach fat! But yeah, I guess the problem is that when I have too much leisure time, I start overthinking and smoking even more.

Anyway, no smoking today - I'm trying to give it a rest for a couple of days and see how that feels. I am very tempted to buy some but I've held off so far. I don't really need to smoke today.

Anyway, more about my day so far. I woke up naturally at around half 9 and I kind of just lay in bed for a bit, savouring the fact that I didn't have to get up. I was contemplating a run but I decided to just have a break from exercise today but try to eat better instead. I finished One, Two, Buckle My Shoe and then got up and made buckwheat porridge with hazelnuts and goji berries and an instant coffee. I put on some music and just sort of sat on the couch for a while drinking my coffee, then I went to the supermarket to pick up trout and a few other items I needed. The trout will be oven-baked for dinner with sweet potato fries and mangetout. I will head home this evening.

For now, I am probably going to watch the latest Knives Out film and maybe read a bit more. I am so, so cosy. I must pack up my bag in a bit and include my running gear so that I can get out for a run on Christmas Day. I think that is essential when that big meal awaits. The pool is back open on Monday so I will go for a dip then as well. I have a few pressies to wrap later for Mum and Dad but I am more or less sorted. My aunt and uncle visited last night so it was nice to catch up with them. They were in good spirits overall. I'm really glad that I got a good night's sleep last night and I am looking forward to chilling even more for the week to come.

Happy Christmas all! Thanks for your kind words throughout the year on my diary. You've kept me going at times. xx
 
t was Christmas Eve babe...
May none of us end up in the drunk tank! :) (Love that song!)

So nice to hear you enjoying your holidays already and all the relaxing for up ahead.

Have a wonderful Christmas! And thanks for being here--I find your diary a pleasure to read!
 
- Thanks so much Liza. Likewise. :)
- Coming to an end now Cate, but I have enjoyed it.

Wow, it really feels like I've had a proper break. Every day I wake up and realise that I still have more time! It's great.

What have I been up to since Christmas Eve? One very positive thing is that I went to the gym yesterday after an extremely long absence, and I survived! I did spin for half an hour, then this kind of combo class which was really tough and I am still aching a bit from, and then an easy enough yoga class. It was great! I then went and played tennis for half an hour, so it was a very active Wednesday! I really kind of forced myself to get to the gym yesterday - to take away the fear of going back in the New Year. And I was fine and can definitely get back into a good routine easily enough.

I played tennis today for an hour with some new tennis pals - I didn't play that well but it was nice and the sun was shining. I also got my brand new diary for 2023 - it's fabulous. I got a Bando planner - absolutely love the brand. The diaries are expensive but are beautifully designed and come with fun stickers! Always good. It's like a children's diary for grown-ups. I'm a fan.

After the diary purchase, I went to Costa and got a toastie and coffee and chilled out reading the latest Agatha Christie. I've finished Five Little Pigs since my last entry and am on The Hollow now. I will probably finish it tonight.

Today's achievement was finishing the cryptic Christmas crossword with my parents, who told me they couldn't have done it without me! Haha. If we win, we get a cool €200. That would be a nice start to 2023 for sure!

I've also had a few other bits and bobs going on and I'm meeting friends tomorrow for lunch and another friend in the afternoon for a walk - weather permitting! - so all in all, lots of positives. I should be fresh by the time I go back to the office next week. But still 4 luxurious days to bask in!
 
That all sounds great, Em! You’re making the most of your break. A cryptic crossword, hey? I’m impressed!
 
did spin for half an hour, then this kind of combo class which was really tough and I am still aching a bit from, and then an easy enough yoga class. It was great! I then went and played tennis for half an hour, so it was a very active Wednesday! I really kind of forced myself to get to the gym yesterday - to take away the fear of going back in the New Year.
That does sound like a super active day and excellent to get back to the gym before New Years to take away that intimidation factor!
I'm so glad to hear how much you're enjoying your holidays!
 
- Thanks Cate. It was a team effort.
- Thanks Liza. It's been really good.

Today I met some friends for an early lunch. It was nice but I feel a bit disconnected from them. I guess that happens when you grow up and get busy. I was kind of hoping to meet them for drinks tonight but there didn't seem to be any enthusiasm for that so I left it. Anyway, at least we had a chat and they all thought the young waiter was into me, so that was a kind of nice ego boost. Haha! The Spirit of Paolo, I'm tellin' ya! I also had a good hair day. Lol.

I left them in the afternoon and then drove to a park outside the city to meet a friend and former work colleague. She brought her two dogs - the most beautiful dogs in the world and what grooming! She's getting married next year so we were chatting about that and her hen party and work and all that stuff. It was great. She makes a huge effort to keep in contact with me (I'm a disaster) and I really appreciate that. The lunch group are very bad to keep in touch and I kind of gave up on them, but I guess with it being Christmas and all, I made the effort. Anyway, we always enjoy each other's company when we do get together and I guess that's the main thing.

I chatted to my housemate this evening about her lovely friend - he's single! - but only 29/30. That's not too bad but I would really love if he was older than that. Anyway, I told her to bring him back. Hopefully she does, haha. But I don't think they are that close so I wouldn't be putting too many eggs in that particular basket.

Tomorrow will be a bit of a nothing day - prepping psychologically for 2023 and giving up the smokes! The pack I bought today are not my usual brand and are absolutely horrible, so I must remember that when the cravings monster comes to call. I am sure I am going to be in a horrible mood for a few days but I have a very busy week next week, so maybe that will distract me. Trying not to panic but I really do want to be free. I've been saying it for a while...
 
Thanks Cate.

I'm having a bit of a lonely New Year's Eve and I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself, but I do want to wake up fresh tomorrow, so what can you do? I could go home to my parents' house but I think they are going out for a drink anyway so I probably won't bother.

To cheer myself up, I put on new bedding that I bought a while ago but never put on - a pink satin duvet cover with satin pillowcases and a clean fitted sheet. I also bought myself new pyjamas today in M&S so that I wake up all fresh and cosy for 2023. They're really nice stripey blue and white ones.

I started watching Emily in Paris last night and I really, really want to go to Paris now just to have an 'Emily Rose in Paris' feature. Lol. It's such a silly show but everyone is gorgeous on it and it's such feel-good nonsense.

Alex the painter also texted me yesterday to say he was thinking of me, which is particularly bizarre because the park I met my friend at for the walk yesterday was the same one we went to on our first date, so I was thinking of him as well. I also rewatched a video he had sent me of him painting yesterday. Can he see that I watched that on Whatsapp? I didn't think so. Anyway, he didn't say any more so that might be the last I hear of him for 6 months. We'll see.

I went to the library today and got 3 new Agatha Christies to keep me going for the last few days of holidays. I went to the M&S coffee shop then and had a toastie, carrot cake and a coffee. I was there for a while, it was really relaxing. I also had to do some work for the drama group so I got that done as well. I was reading that Agatha Christie is the best-selling novelist of all time, which I had no idea of. I went looking at her family tree then to see who is looking after the estate now. It's her great-grandson and I would imagine he is worth so much more money today than she was when she died.

Anyway, that's it for 2022. Happy New Year to you all and see you on the flip side.
 
Happy New Year emilyrose!
I put on new bedding that I bought a while ago but never put on - a pink satin duvet cover with satin pillowcases and a clean fitted sheet. I also bought myself new pyjamas today in M&S so that I wake up all fresh and cosy for 2023. They're really nice stripey blue and white ones.
what a lovely idea!

Wishing you a smokeless, love-filled year!
 
Happy New Year, Em. You could easily have gone out & got smashed as so many do on NYE, but kudos to you for not doing that. I really hope that you find love, true love, in 2023. You have started out well, taking good care of yourself. I am really impressed, Em.
Here's to some of your dreams coming true! I'm having a dry January to kick off my year, so am toasting you with a black, espresso coffee xoxo (It is morning anyway, but you get my drift...)
 
- Happy New Year Liza!
- Maybe so Rob, haha.
- Thank you for the lovely toast Cate. I hope I find true love also.

Day 1 - Sunday 1st January 2023 - The Mountain Before Me
Weight: 200 lbs
Body fat: 45.7%
BMI: 30.4

It was kind of nice to have a round number as my starting weight to kick the year off but that's about the only positive thing I can say about that! My goal is to lose a pound a week and to be under 150 pounds when I weigh in this time next year. Let's see how that goes.

Food:
- porridge, hazelnuts, goji berries, milk
- half a sausage; glass of orange juice
- roast lamb, roast potatoes, roast sweet potatoes, potatoes, carrot and parsnip mash, broccoli and gravy
- fruit cocktail, ice cream and cream; coffee and milk
- 4 afternoon tea biscuits; 4 lindor chocolates
- tea & milk; slice of toast with butter and marmalade
- coffee & milk; peppermint tea

Overall, it wasn't too bad a food day. I didn't try to be 'perfect' but I stopped eating at 7pm and that definitely makes a difference.

Exercise:
- 3k run
- home yoga

Very happy with my exercise today.

Summary:
It wasn't a bad start to the year but wasn't too exciting either. Also, I don't think I will be able to stay off the cigarettes. I didn't smoke today but I just... the whole thing seems impossible. I have too many goals. The one thing I am going to try to stick to 100% is no alcohol when I have work the next day and to follow my exercise regime, which will be quite intensive. Those are my main goals, and when they start to work, I might think of adding more. Let's see how I feel tomorrow.
 
I will still hold some hope for you to give up the smokes. I have faith that you are strong enough, Em.
No alcohol when you have work the next day is a really good goal. It's smart!
 
That sounds like a great start to the New Year with some nice healthy choices!
The one thing I am going to try to stick to 100% is no alcohol when I have work the next day and to follow my exercise regime, which will be quite intensive. Those are my main goals, and when they start to work, I might think of adding more. Let's see how I feel tomorrow.
That is good to be realistic with your goals--knowing what you feel you can stick to consistently and trying for that before moving too far ahead sounds good.
 
- Yes, that, above all, is the most important goal for me for the moment Cate. I will work towards the others but I am just getting too overwhelmed.
- Thanks Liza. Rome wasn't built in a day and all that.

Day 2 - Monday 2nd January 2023 - Parklife
No weigh-in today as I was at home. I'm fine with that.

Food:
- porridge, blueberries, sunflower seeds, milk
- slice of brown bread with butter and marmalade; glass of orange juice
- coffee and milk; 4 lindor chocolates; 4 afternoon tea biscuits
- roast lamb, potatoes, carrot and parsnip mash, broccoli, fine beans, onion and mushroom gravy
- coffee with cream and milk
- medium cappuccino
- night time tea and dandelion tea

Once again, I have stopped eating at 7pm. That's going to be my focus with food for this week. Let's see if it makes a difference.

Exercise:
- 40 min walk in the park

Got a bit lazy with the exercise today but at least I got some fresh air.

Cigarettes: 6

I'll input the final figure tomorrow. Life just didn't seem worth living. I have too many other things to worry about right now.

Summary:
Overall, it wasn't a bad day. My friend texted about a comedy gig that we wanted to go to that was sold out so I will try to organise something else to do together in the next couple of weeks. I feel really tired now, despite an amazing sleep last night. I'm not looking forward to going back to work tomorrow but it will probably be fine. Christmas had to end sometime I guess. Still, it should be a good enough week ahead and getting back into a routine will be good for me.
 
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