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Lizzy, we end on exactly the same date!!!

Hi all.

Time for my monthly post again. Have lost 4.4kg in the last 4 weeks. I am ok with that, hoped for a bit more, but I knew it might slow down as one gets closer to goal weight.

Lizzy, I am also starting my refeed on the 2nd of October. I think I should be around 2kg from goal weight, but have decided to start refeeding then. My reason is that we want another baby, and we are planning to try to fall pregnant in December. My consultant said that I should give my body at least 3 months to stabilize. So, October is already pushing it.

I can so relate with the person who said that if you go a gram or two over the food weight, you just lose the whole day's motivation. I have not deviated on the program once, but last Monday had a major major blow out! I was so upset with myself and felt so emotional since. I am absolutely petrified of life after Cohens. I have not done the eat-untill-I-cannot-eat-anymore-because-my-stomach-aches-too-much thing for the last 10 years. I truly thought I had complete healing regarding my obsessive eating, and here it was back! I am still a bit shaken with the whole thing. I am going to see someone I have seen for therapy a few years ago about issues regarding my past. Hopefully, we will figure this out in a few sessions.

Anyway, my biggest problems physically have actually been my thyroid (half of it has been removed) and my pregnancies. I normally pick up 25 - 35kg during my pregnancies, and I just don't lose it afterwards. I have to work so hard to get rid of it. So, as you all can imagine, the whole idea of falling pregnant again is also scarry in terms of my weight. But, the consultant said when stabilized and keeping to the recommendations, I should pick up 12 - 14kgs like 'normal' women. One positive is that this time around I will start off near goal and not 15kg overweight.

Anyway, Lizzy, it is wonderful to know that somewhere far far away someone else is going to be doing the last 3 weeks with me, and then the interesting refeed! I had my birthday on the 25th of August and did not deviate. But, my husband is taking me out on the 20th of October for a special late birthday date.

I find these last few days have been very very difficult, and I know there is no way I can allow myself the smallest little extra. So, you guys on the last lap, hang in there, it is very difficult, but the end is in sight!

All the best
Ingrid
 
thought for the day

I have had a bit of a revelation over the last couple of days, it all started Friday night whilst I was watching “My big fat Greek wedding”. There is a scene where the mother says to her daughter “I gave you life so that you can live it”. That was as Oprah says “a light bulb moment” for me, God was saying to me “Karol I gave you LIFE so You can LIVE IT”.

I have not been living life and fulfilling my full potential as I have had over the past 20 years an obsession with food and body. I don’t know what it is like to live life without the preoccupation of food and diet. I have never let my self get to goal. I have always sabotaged my self back up the scales and looked for the new cure the new diet the new pill. This time I am going to get there enough is enough. I found the following info on the net.

“we often sabotage ourselves just as we're reaching goal weight because, deep inside, we don't really feel worthy of success. The inner perception of ourselves as being basically flawed, unlovable or outcast can influence our worldview as well as our lifestyle decisions. People who don't value themselves don't make healthy choices. And people who don't value themselves also find the idea of being "successful" so at odds with their self-image that they sabotage themselves to keep from succeeding.
So, why would a person put forth all the effort it takes to lose weight, and then, just when her goal is in sight, do things to put herself right back where she started? The answer is that sabotage is a clear signal that unresolved emotional issues are lurking close by, and bringing them to light is essential to achieving lasting success.”
So there it is girls, hope this helps some of you.
 
Thanks to all those who have responded to my post. This is the interesting bit isn’t it? I have watched so many others approaching refeed and have been fascinated with how it all goes. I have seen the refeed that others have and talked to people who have been through it – I can’t believe it is nearly my turn! Finally!!

Sunshine: you are so close now to refeed! Great stuff, we can all go through it sort of together. Certainly you must be so different on the outside not. You asked about my refeed because it is over 12 months – our program covers us for their recommended time. I had 60kgs to lose and they work it out at 4kgs per month and then add 2 months grace. That means I am covered for 17months which isn’t up until December 9th. My consultant said not to worry about the time frame even if I had run out because there has been no major blow out in that time. I am just slower.

More2go: thank you for your encouragements. I am still the same person on the inside, but certainly more confident because people are not focusing on the weight issue when they look at me, and it seems a much more normal thing. Sometimes I look in the mirror and feel I have to get to know this new person on the outside, much harder than you think when the look keeps changing!! And even though the diet will stop, there is still plenty to do with toning, and I think the weight will keep redistributing for a while. But that is the next chapter …

Netski: sorry about the bread, and yea, it seems to happen to a lot of people. I’ll be interested to see how I react to bread and also to milk which has been one of my favourite foods. I have been off them both for several months in the past without any reaction, but I’ll wait and see. Enjoy your new freedoms.

Gayegel: hi there! It won’t be long now and your consultant will mention it, unless you are going beyond that 4kgs loss. I think I need to go right down to 48kgs and I am not going to make it this time, but am pleased with what I have lost.
You only have the blood tests every 2 months at this stage, so even if I chose to stick it out until I reach 48kgs, I would have had the last blood test and the refeed can be prepared. I made sure I waited until that time frame happened.
However, in my case, Dr Cohen offered me my refeed about 4 months ago because my loss was so slow. I had the option of stopping, waiting 3 months, then having a new program and hopefully a better weight loss rate. I opted to stick it out until October – a time frame that was already in my head as the final cut off point. Disappointed that I don’t get to the end now, but I think this is a better option for me, and then for me to get into some toning and fitness. If I need to go back in 3-6mths time to lose more, then I will sort it out then and it shouldn't be for too long.
Good luck for your last few kgs and working out when you want to stop.

Eenjie: Yep, we are about the same. You are having a belated birthday dinner. I am looking forward to all the next occasions I missed out on - Christmas dinner, Easter buns and eggs, birthday, special events. I have a lot of catching up to do! Reality is that when the time comes for each, I may choose to be quite moderate in what I eat (or I may not!!) – the point is simply that I get to choose.
And all the best for this new pregnancy, I hope it happens just as you want, and that you and baby are healthy - and you recover better physically this time round.
Will be looking forward to your refeed adventures so keep posting.

Karol: thanks for sharing that. Hopefully your therapist can help you put it all into perspective. Remember it was a one time event, and your thinking may rebalance quickly once you are allowed to eat – I hope so for you – so be optimistic and believe in yourself.

the old me: Glad your golf adventures went well. I am sure that when you are ready, you will lose that last bit quickly and well. Just remember that if you leave it too long it makes refeed preparation harder, unless you stop do refeed and go back on when you are ready. If you are not going to finish now, it would perhaps be better to get to the point where they will give you refeed and make a determined break rather than messing with your body chemistry. Have you talked to the consultants about it?

Well, have a positive day. So glad the sky is blue and the sun is shining here. I love it like this!

Began 9th July 2005 … To end 20th October, 2006​
lizzi . . . 41 days to go! … 5weeks 6days ​
 
Don't try this!

Hello to all!

I had a wonderful idea this morning and thought I'd try it out. Well it seemed like a good idea at the time!!

While I was eating my regular breakfast of yoghurt and black coffee, I thought of how nice it would be to have a "milky" coffee. So I stirred a large teaspoon of yoghurt into my coffee. Well the result was very disgusting. To make matters worse I forced myself to drink the rest of my "milky" coffee. as the yoghurt I used was part of my breakfast allowance. I felt a bit off colour for a while, but now feel much better. So I do not recommend it.

Still going well otherwise. Have a good day!

Love,

Julie
 
more2go: I so relate to what you said - it made me smile!! I remember doing the same thing, only I didn't feel sick after, just cheated out of a pleasant breakfast! I am sure we are not the only ones either.
What I did do for a while that worked well, was to prepare my yoghurt, make a cup of black coffee, either sweetening the yoghurt or the coffee with the fake stuff, and then pour about 100mls over the yoghurt along with a sprinkle of cinnamon. That tasted good and I had it for a couple of weeks.

lizzi
 
Hi Everyone!

Well I finally made it to my 40kg loss!!
I've found my second wind. I realised that my 'to go' numbers are almost in the teens! My sister is losing weight too, but can't go on Cohen's coz she's feeding bubby. And I'm almost the same weight of her. She wants to be at her GW the same time as me so we can shop! Every weekend she says she will be good on Monday! She isn't being silly though since she has to feed bub. I'm hoping to be on my refeed by Nov. So I WILL NOT break it again. I've only broke my plan twice - But now I'm in 100% focusing on the goal ahead. The last time I was close to my sisters weight was when I was 14-15. Next year I turn 30! But I will be a skinny 30!:)

Keep it up - the reward is priceless!
 
The herbal tea!

:) The Herbal tea I use for being *blocked* is called Dieters' Delite by Cradle.
It's in a green box from the herbal shop. I use the extra strength and take it at night, feeling heaps better in the morning.:)
 
Apricot Chicken Curry

Gayegel, Sorry I didn’t get this to you earlier. Here it is;

Chicken allowance,I usually use the tenderloin part of the chicken and cut in half.
Vege allowance – mushroom, zucchini, onion
Sprite mixed with curry powder. Enough sprite to cover the chicken and vege’s

Place all in an oven proof dish and cover with foil. Cook for about half an hour or until chicken is cooked.
I drain most of the liquid and enjoy with a cracker.

Hope you like it!!!:D

Welcome to all the new Cohenette’s. I hope your journey is made a little easier by knowing that everyone in this forum is going through the same thing. You will be guaranteed lots of helpful advice, support, and a good laugh.

Karol - Thanks for your post – so true!!!!!;)

Eendjie – Congratulations on almost being there and all the best with your baby plans.;)

Lizzi – So close-well done:D

More2go – Thanks for the laugh. I bet you won’t be doing that again in a hurry?:p

Mitmary7 – Congratulations on 40kg down, and THANKYOU so much for the name of the tea you get. I tried to get one the other day but my health food shop couldn’t help me.
I have been to the toilet twice in five weeks and am starting to get very worried!!! Hopefully I’ll be able to get hold of the tea!:)

Sorry I haven’t posted for a while. I am getting a bit down. Not because of not losing weight, just bored I suppose and angry with myself for getting this big to start with and needing to lose so much weight. I know I want to lose and look good for Christmas but just need to get my head around feeling sorry for myself. Hubby is going away for three weeks and I’m petrified I’ll blow it while he’s away. Sorry for complaining just having a bad weekend.
Does anyone else ever feel a bit overwhelmed and down??? I don’t want to give up, just on a downer this weekend – must be the awful weather we had!
:(

Goodnight all and thanks for listening (reading):eek:
 
Ticker Update

Hi Everyone!

Couldn't stay off the scales this morning! Down 600gms since yesterday.. how cool is that!:D So... ticker update accordingly.

Anyway.... Lizzi.. you're right, we'll probably be getting on refeed at around about the same time. I don't know about you but I can't wait. Not only for the bigger portions but for such things as grapes... pineapple... strawberries.... pumpkin.... brocolli.... carrot!!! Screw bread, rice, pasta and potato.. I could live without that forever now... it's the veges that I miss.... (did you ever think you'd see the day when you'd hear me say that ::dubschic::??). Anyway, good to hear that you won't have to pay to get your refeed. And yeah, I do look heaps different... but you... you've lost twice as much as I have... please please pretty please, upload some before and after shots of yourself... I'm sure we could all do with the inspiration.

I just have a question for Netski.. my consultant said to order my refeed 2kgs before my goal weight and start it when I start to feel really hungry. Did you wait until you felt hungry? Or did you just start it smack bang on your goal weight? Let me know.

Stay well and stay motivated everyone!
 
Amazing Result!!

After a ravenous start on Friday, a headachy and lightheaded Saturday and a not-so-hungry anymore Sunday, I feel amazingly great today!

We couldn't resist jumping on the scales this morning (even though they are old and a bit dodgy) and AMAZINGLY hubby has lost 5kgs and I have lost 4kgs! In three days!! I know its probably just water but it means I can do my first official ticker update!

*Sunshine* - who are you? And what have you done to my vege hating sister?

Mitmary7 - is your sisters bub on solids yet? My consultant told me its OK to keep feeding my bubba as she is getting three meals a day as well as the feeds. As long as its not their only source of nutrition I think it is OK. I thought I would have to wean to start the program but fortunately haven't had to.

EVERYONE ELSE - Congratulations on your losses! Its amazing to hear about such success stories. I cant wait until I'm where *Sunshine* is. Thanks for the inspiration love! :D
 
a reformed emotional eater

Hi All

I've had a bit of a depressing weekend, been crying at the drop of a hat, and there was so much sad stuff on tv last night that didn't help me. Not to mention the massive screaming match i had at my hubby2b (my insecurities got the best of me, when i found out that he describes me as "not a small girl" to total strangers and friends). Under 'normal' circumstances I would have said "F the diet, I'm eating what I want", but instead I struggled through eating my lunch, and dinner. had no crispbread or fruit, and not enough water either.

unfortunately my new habit instead of compulsive eating when depressed has turned into compulsive shopping, I bought a new computer and all the whiz-bang stuff that goes with it. so hopefully I can get onto msn and talk to my Cohen's friends :)

Luckily I got over the argument quickly and things are all good with h2b and me :D after all, it's only 99 days to the wedding.

I'm having a 2 week weigh in on Wed, so am hoping to see some good losses on the scales.

everyone have a good day, and NO DEVIATIONS!!
 
Just some thoughts....

I was weighing myself yesterday and i am now down to 79.6kg!!! Cannot remember when was the last time my weight was in the 70s... although its still way from my target, i think its really something for me to stay happy and motivated.....
There seem to be no posts from singaporean gals... where have all of you been to??? :)
 
princessoz - Hang in there! It is a rainy, cold day in Brissie today and all I want to do is curl up in bed (with lots of yummy food) and feel sorry for myself! It happens to all of us I'm sure. Good days and bad days. I just try to keep myself motivated by thinking of a hot summer and being able to wear whatever I want. Cohen's can make you feel a little deprived which I'm sure sparks off some anger and resentment we hold in ourselves. I too am so angry with myself for letting my weight get out of control in the first place. However, the positives far out weigh the negatives - we are doing something about it. That is a HUGE step in the right direction. And I believe we have picked a program that will help us reach our goals sooner. We will NOT be eating like this for the rest of our lives, in fact we only need sacrifice for a short time to get back our old "new" bodies! How good is that?

I had another very challenging weekend. A sit down lunch with family to remember my mother-in-law's passing. As well as being emotional the food and wine flowed freely. As someone who eats for comfort I found this extremely difficult but I managed to get through it and now that day is gone...forever. No point focusing on it. I think the key is to take each day as it comes and be grateful for so many of the wonderful things - friends, family, our children - we have around us. Be proud of what you are doing for yourself - so many people will benefit from you gaining your confidence and grabbing life with both hands!

LET'S KEEP GOING! I/we all need each other's support. There is a light at the end of the tunnel - every cloud has a silver lining etc etc!!!

Happy days ahead!
lots of love and tonnes of support...
 
slinkee said:
Not to mention the massive screaming match i had at my hubby2b (my insecurities got the best of me, when i found out that he describes me as "not a small girl" to total strangers and friends).
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As a man; if your hubby2b describes you as "not a small girl" I think be thankful! What's a guy supposed to say especially to another guy "she's the most perfect flower in the garden of eve", it is very odd for guys to tell other (men) about our feelings for our ladies. If we are getting married to a lady it is pretty much an unsaid comment and undertanding that we love our wife/wife-to-be. And as a man I can tell you we never sit around discussing the flaws or comparing notes about wifes bodies! (I not sure about those billionaires who marry those trophy brides...oh yeah my wife has DD implants, 5 nose jobs, 3 facelifts and 1kg of botox injections). However as a man I can tell you our wives emotional control is a topic of discussion especially with some beer (normally refering to the weather...as we feel it is something outside of our control and we just have to ride it out!)

If he was saying to your friends "unfortuntely she really needs to lose weight to look pretty" or just plain "she's fat" then start worrying!
 
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Not to mention the massive screaming match i had at my hubby2b (my insecurities got the best of me, when i found out that he describes me as "not a small girl" to total strangers and friends).
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Lessfatty- Im sorry to say but i disagree...

I dont think that any woman should be refered to as "Not a small girl" Why the hell does the guy even have to mention what size/shape the woman is??

I dont get it.. I dont see woman going around saying things to their friends such as "He's not a small guy".. Why the hell cant they say something positive like "She's great, with a great personality"..

Sorry for disagreeing.. i could be wrong.. but thats my thoughts on the matter.. im not a feminist either.. i have a partner of five years and "He's not a small bloke" :)
 
can anyone in Singapore tell me where I can get digital weighing scales? Have been using the ones at work, but when I start re-feed this week, will need a scale of my own at home. I've only seen them sold at Guardian Pharmacy.....and the rest of the places have those usual non-digital scales.
 
wow everyone is doing well

Hi girls and guys,

Been busy with camp stuff and working a bit too. There have been lots of amazing things happening on the forum. So a big congratulations to all on refeed, near the end, just starting out and all those in the middle of it (like me) keep it up and stay positive.

There has been some great advise. I have a question what do people do when s sales women tells you they don't sell clothing to fit you in their store? (it was Katies and i was just browsing). I have lost a good deal of cms and kgs (will reveal at my due date but i can tell up i'm under that majical mark that eluded me last month). I feel great but i did want to slap her in the face some people are just so rude no matter what. They just see FAT and nothing else.

Lucee - how are you going? You are in my prayers. Did you survive????? C U Wed.
Jude - Hey where are you and your inspiring words, please come back. I hope your program is going ok.
Bye Bye Blubber - Are you doing ok. How's the new job going?

I'm actually on cloud nine, my clothes are smaller, my sleep pattern is great, i love drinking water, my skin is clearing up, my hair is shining and people tell me all the time that my face is so bright. I'm starting to feel more and more like the real me. The one that has been locked away for more that I can remember. Roll on summer. My kids love our new cooking regime, they are less hungry and can now see that we must all choose to look after our bodies.

Have a great cohens day
Jewls
 
Hi lessfatty and ~BAM~

i think this goes to show that Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus.

I can see where you are coming from lessfatty, he didn't say anything that is untrue, cos I am not small (but give me a few more months) :).
But my female brain interepreted that as him looking for sympathy. "Poor him, he's got a fat fiance".
He must think he's put on 20kg of bone, cos there is no mention of him not being small.

And BAM you were right, I didn't want to be described by my physical appearance, i wanted him to say that I was funny and smart and a great cook, or kind or words to that effect.

i shall leave this topic now so we can get onto the weight-loss conversations, but thank you both for replying anyway :)
 
Slinkee- No worries :)

I would have went crazy at my partner if he said anything about my appearance.. so i dont blame you at all..

Beside's my reply would be "Well your no Brad Pitt yourself" hehe :)
 
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