Tyke
Well-known member
Yep, we all operate in our own ways, no problems in that. 1lb a week loss will get you to your goal and it won't be easy but it's there for the taking.
Whisper's Diary
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whispers65
(Tom)
It's been a while. My dad died last night. It's been a tremdously hard week. We somehow got a stomach virus and it hit him the hardest. He had a hard time keeping down food and water and in the end not even water would stay down. We begged him all week to go to the ER. Finally, after suffering really bad the past two days my nephew was able to get him to go. He died before he left the house. It was hard watching him in that condition. I know it was his choice but it was hard nevertheless. We were watching him around the clock.
So far they listed his death as natural causes with an potential underlying heart condition. He was 88. Weird thing is that he was born the same day as elvis Presley and then died yesterday as did lisa Marie Presley. Strange coicinedence.
I am tired. I weighed this morning and I was 239.9. My lowest has been 237 but for only 1 day. So it is nice to see that I have pretty much maintained my weight all this time. That's a plus.
So far they listed his death as natural causes with an potential underlying heart condition. He was 88. Weird thing is that he was born the same day as elvis Presley and then died yesterday as did lisa Marie Presley. Strange coicinedence.
I am tired. I weighed this morning and I was 239.9. My lowest has been 237 but for only 1 day. So it is nice to see that I have pretty much maintained my weight all this time. That's a plus.
Tyke
Well-known member
I echo Llama and Cate Tom, very sorry to hear of your Dads passing. 88 is a great age to live to but it's still very sad all the same.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
whispers65
(Tom)
I am so tired of everything. It has been hard and now my two brothers are fishing for stuff. My older brother wants money. And my younger brother wants the house. My dad isn't even buried yet. Neither one of them helped. My sister and my wife at the time along with me and my dad paid for my mom's funeral and then paid off my dads years ago so it is looking like nothing is owed on that. We go to the cemetery tomorrow to check on that end. The funeral looks like next Tuesday. They said that they have been really busy lastly. So that's nearly two weeks between the time he died and buried. At least it's not on my birthday which is tomorrow. The anniversary of my moms death was today.
It is sick because the house has been in my sisters name for 20 years. She has paid taxes on it. The two dipshits haven't done anything. My younger bro wants property to give to his kids. He abused them to the point of having them taken away from him and he spent some time for it. He is trying to buy their love again. Two of them refuse to call him dad and wont have anything to do with him. Yet my bro gives me a lecture of the importance of family. He told me that I didn't care and I could go to hell. Then preceded to tell me i need to get right with god and get back into the word. I told him not to tell me to go to hell and bring up god in the same sentence. He is so mental.
My other wants the money which there isn't any to get him out of a situation he put himself into. They both badger my sister to death. They both did a lot of stuff to me and my sister growing up.
All me and my sister want is peace. Is that too much to ask? I am sick of the constant lies.
There truly isn't much to live for these days.
It is sick because the house has been in my sisters name for 20 years. She has paid taxes on it. The two dipshits haven't done anything. My younger bro wants property to give to his kids. He abused them to the point of having them taken away from him and he spent some time for it. He is trying to buy their love again. Two of them refuse to call him dad and wont have anything to do with him. Yet my bro gives me a lecture of the importance of family. He told me that I didn't care and I could go to hell. Then preceded to tell me i need to get right with god and get back into the word. I told him not to tell me to go to hell and bring up god in the same sentence. He is so mental.
My other wants the money which there isn't any to get him out of a situation he put himself into. They both badger my sister to death. They both did a lot of stuff to me and my sister growing up.
All me and my sister want is peace. Is that too much to ask? I am sick of the constant lies.
There truly isn't much to live for these days.
Cate
Long term member
Your brothers sound awful, Tom. I hope your Dad had a will & I hope they miss out. Peace is not too much to ask & there is much to live for. I hope this all gets sorted & you & your sister can escape their grasp. I really hope you can manage to have a good day on your birthday. Can you escape them & go somewhere nice?
I'm glad the house has been in your sister's name for so long: that would be very hard to contest even without a will. I hope you and her can support each other at least emotionally.
I hope you don't care. He clearly doesn't deserve any of your energy.
whispers65
(Tom)
Well yesterday was probably the most horrible birthday ever. Nothing like being griped out first thing in the morning. I am trying not to let them get to me. It is just not fair.
It's funny my brother brought up the fact that children are a blessing from god and he is blessed and since I dont have children I will never know that.
In my life the way that went down is my wife said yes to kids until the day we were married. False advertisement but I honored her request and helped her until the day she died and then helped her morher.
It is funny how things are so twisted these days.
My weight is back up a little. I dont know. I know I am not quite exercising as much with everything going on. I dont feel like eating. I am just so tired.
The good thing about yesterday is that way back when me, my wife, my sister, and dad paid for all of the funeral stuff in advance so we only had to pay 32.00 for copies of the death certificate. It would have been 14,000 for a very basic funeral.
Wish I could win the lottery and get out of this nightmare.
It's funny my brother brought up the fact that children are a blessing from god and he is blessed and since I dont have children I will never know that.
In my life the way that went down is my wife said yes to kids until the day we were married. False advertisement but I honored her request and helped her until the day she died and then helped her morher.
It is funny how things are so twisted these days.
My weight is back up a little. I dont know. I know I am not quite exercising as much with everything going on. I dont feel like eating. I am just so tired.
The good thing about yesterday is that way back when me, my wife, my sister, and dad paid for all of the funeral stuff in advance so we only had to pay 32.00 for copies of the death certificate. It would have been 14,000 for a very basic funeral.
Wish I could win the lottery and get out of this nightmare.
alligatorob
Respected Member
Hey Tom, I am sorry for your loss, and sorry you are going through this.
One thing I have observed when a loved one passes is that people are often not very rational, and material things take on more importance than they should. It feels a little like the last piece of the person and some struggle to hold onto as much of it as they can.
When my mother died she did not have a lot of money, but what she did she gave to us before passing. All that was left were the things in her house. I met with my brothers to talk about dividing things up, and it quickly became emotional and adversarial. So I just grabbed a cooking pot, told them to sort it out, and left. Now looking back those things were trivial, don't know why it felt so important at the time.
Sounds like the house is legally your sister's, should not be a question there. She should resist anyone trying to convince her to give it away. Best to try and let everything else go as best you can. Just remember your father. Sounds like he was considerate with respect to the funeral planning.
Try to eat well, I know it may not seem important now, but it is something you can control, and you'll feel better if you do.
One thing I have observed when a loved one passes is that people are often not very rational, and material things take on more importance than they should. It feels a little like the last piece of the person and some struggle to hold onto as much of it as they can.
When my mother died she did not have a lot of money, but what she did she gave to us before passing. All that was left were the things in her house. I met with my brothers to talk about dividing things up, and it quickly became emotional and adversarial. So I just grabbed a cooking pot, told them to sort it out, and left. Now looking back those things were trivial, don't know why it felt so important at the time.
Sounds like the house is legally your sister's, should not be a question there. She should resist anyone trying to convince her to give it away. Best to try and let everything else go as best you can. Just remember your father. Sounds like he was considerate with respect to the funeral planning.
Try to eat well, I know it may not seem important now, but it is something you can control, and you'll feel better if you do.
whispers65
(Tom)
How come everything always happens at 2am. Why not 10am????
Tuesday was the funeral. Now the real crap with my two biological Male counterparts. Why cant there just be peace?
That person said my dad wasn't his responsible and he wouldn't do anything around here without payment and it wouldn't be cheap. Why am I responsible for doing anything for him?
It's funny how people don't give two cents about you and then all of a sudden want to hug you and tell you that they love when they are in trouble and want something.
Tuesday was the funeral. Now the real crap with my two biological Male counterparts. Why cant there just be peace?
That person said my dad wasn't his responsible and he wouldn't do anything around here without payment and it wouldn't be cheap. Why am I responsible for doing anything for him?
It's funny how people don't give two cents about you and then all of a sudden want to hug you and tell you that they love when they are in trouble and want something.
Cate
Long term member
You are not responsible for him at all, Tom. Not one bit.
whispers65
(Tom)
My older b. Kept trying to say that to my sister last night. He is not allowed at the house any more. That is on him. He got out last night. Came home at 2am. My sister told him to pack a bag and leave. He never told her that he loved her or tried to hug her the entire time he was here some 15 years. Now he gets into trouble and tries to manipulate.
whispers65
(Tom)
Horrible day. Got cussed out by my younger biological today. Both older and younger want the house now but neither can live here due to their record. Calgon take me away. I want to win the lottery and disappear.
The good side. I was sick at my stomach all day so didn't eat much lol
The good side. I was sick at my stomach all day so didn't eat much lol
whispers65
(Tom)
All my life I've wanted to be adopted. I am 58. I still feel that way.
They can offer your sister big money to buy it then. It's hers, has been for years, and that should be the end of that discussion.
