You probably won't stop caring what your Mum says, but learning not to let it bother you might be possible. I think it is really hard for some mothers not to feel that their adult offspring are no longer children & need your constant guidance. My mother was of the "let them be independent & make their own mistakes: type, while my husband's mother was always the Matriarch. I think it's lovely that you moved your mother over to be closer to you Marsia. Does she listen to you when you assure her you know what you are doing? In what way are you & her artistic? I envy artistic talent!