Cohen's Lifestyle 2nd Time lucky!!!

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Well done Beck - so nice to feel you're totally in control and can go on for exactly as long as you feel like, and then re-feed exactly when you feel like.

I've decided I may as well start a new thread so I don't have to block up yours or anyone else's with my story.

May the pants keep falling down...
 
Niyah 01 said:
Well done Beck...........
May the pants keep falling down...
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That's funny, because my jeans were falling down this morning in "town" & I had to buy a belt! lol. I can't remember when I wore a belt last- in the 70's??!! Tra la la, I love Cohen's..........Cate.
Hi Beck!!!!xo Cate
 
Well, I don't know what my problem is, but I obviously don't have as much control as I thought I did as last night I did a big FAT (soon to be if I do it again) deviation!!! I can't believe how STUPID :banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead: I can be. I ate an early dinner and as I was rushing I had the cheese and veges on cracker option. I then ran the kids here, there and everywhere and then when I came home I was hungry. So what did I do? Did I do something sensible like having a cup of tea or coffee or some gum? NO I had some extra crackers with butter and vegemite and then because I had already broken it, that stupid little voice in my head said "just go back on it tomorrow and eat what you like tonight", so I listened and had a little packet of chips and then another cracker with jam this time (just to top it all off). I am so annoyed with myself as the sugar in the jam triggered the cravings again and I spent the morning craving anything and everything. Luckily I was extremely busy at work and my brain has been programmed enough to have made my lunch and snacks to take so although I desperately wanted to get something non Cohens to eat, my programmed brain took over and only let me eat what I had brought with me. I can be pleased to say that the cravings seems to have gone for the time being and I have made it through the day deviation free, but I am disappointed to say that I no longer have the flexibility to be able to do refeed whenever I feel like it. This also means that I have to stick to the program 100% for at least the next 2 weeks, which could be a good thing as it will ensure I loose a bit more weight and get closer to that 70kg. I am also pleased to say that after my pig out last night I weighed myself and hadn't put on any weight. I could still put it on tomorrow as some times it takes a couple of days before it hits.
Anyway, I am quite put out with myself, but also pleased that I am back in control of myself. Sorry for the ramble.
Take care
Beck
 
hi all, i started on Cohen's plan 15 days ago and so var i lost 7,5kg!! Still have a long way to go but.... just one question: is there no substitute for milk?
 
Hi Beck,

Oh, it sounds like you are really mad at yourself, sweetie. It could have been much worse and 99.9% of the time you are really good and you deserve the fabulous results you have achieved. It's a learning experience and one that has probably taught you a lot about your old eating habits hon.

Lots of hugs -good on you for having the strength to get straight back up.

enjoy the weekend

Del xx
 
Thanks Cuddlebones,
Yes I am pretty mad, but also pleased with myself for ignoring that silly voice and getting back on track yesterday, and I have not done too much damage as I dropped another .5kg this morning. I am also not that disappointed that I have to stick to the program for another 2 weeks as I really think I need to and if I had not deviated I probably would have started refeed this week although I know it is too early to do so, so a bit of bad and a bit of good. I am also learning that afternoon and night time are my danger periods and I am going to have to come up with some sort of plan to overcome this problem as this is when I eat uncontrolably and this is when my weight goes back on. Any ideas to help with this time of day (for the future) would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Tersia and welcome to the forum and the program. You won't regret starting. It was the best thing I ever did!!! You will find heaps of support here on the forum. Good luck and I look forward to "chatting".
I'd better be going as I'm supposed to be working.
Take care
Beck
 
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Beck, It looks like you & I will be doing the same thing. Stick to Cohen's 2 more weeks & then re-feed if we want to. They are all wake up calls. We'll always have them. We just have to get used to it. Lucky you didn't gain. That's really good news but one that I know won't make you complacent. Look on it as a lucky escape & a reminder that we have this predisposition to eating the wrong things for the wrong reasons.
About the afternoon/evening thing I have been eating my yoghurt plain (with a little sweetener) & saving my fruit & crackers until later. I only have crackers with lunch if I am having cheese & then have 1 cracker & 1 fruit mid arvo(3'ish), 1 cracker & 1 fruit just after dinner(6.30'ish) & then 2.5 hrs later(9'ish), have my 3rd cracker & 3rd fruit when my LH is having his sweet biscuit and/or dark chocolate. I like to have the 2 together & sometimes alternate bites. It makes it seem like extra little meals. I think it helps with my energy levels, xoxo Cate
 
Hi Cate,
Do you get 3 pieces of fruit, you lucky thing. I only get 2 pieces of fruit. I do try to save my fruit and some of my crackers. I always have 2 of my crackers for breakfast with egg, tomato and cucumber on top as it is a bit like having toast for brekkie. I then have 1 piece of fruit for morning tea and then a tuna salad for lunch. About 4ish I have my 2nd piece of fruit and 1 cracker and then as I usually have dinner quite late (about 8) I have my last crackers with dinner. I know that I have a major issue with my weight and with the emotional/mental reasons behind my eating and I know I am going to have to understand these issues to enable myself to gain control of my eating. I am learning that a lot of my emotional eating does relate back to my marriage and the late night eating comes from the fact that I would be criticised and humiliated if I ever ate in front of my ex, so I would stay up late and hide to obsessively eat huge amounts of food late at night. I am slowly learning these things and starting to overcome them, but it will always be a challenge. I hope that with less stress in my life I will be able to keep my weight under control as I know how bad it is for me to be gaining and losing such huge amounts of weight. I'm sure it will be a learning curve for the rest of my life, but I'm sure with all the support I get from my family and on here, I will be able to keep control of my weight.
On a lighter note, I enrolled in a new University course. I was doing and accounting degree as I work in accounts, but I would have loved to have done teaching. I have just found out that the University that I study through(by correspondance) has introduced a primary school teaching course. You can gain admittance by successfully completing 2 of their first year courses, so I have enrolled in one of these courses for the first Study Period this year. I am really excited and sooo looking forward to it.
Talk to you all soon.
Have a great night.
Beck
 
Fantastic Beck! Best thing I ever did after having my lovely kids was go off to uni and become a teacher. I'm a secondary English teacher but I just love it and I feel like a valued person again. I just love the kids and the school community -staff are wonderful.

Yes, marriage breakup is tough but in some ways liberating if you have been feeling unhappy as it sounds you were. You have to learn to love the beautiful person you are.

I never have my crackers for breakfast because I find I need them to get me through the rest of the day. I love starting with Decisionmakers grated zucchini fritters as they're a bit more solid and taste divine. I've found that by spending time on preparing my own meals I feel like I'm indulging myself and that's all good.

Take care of yourself, Beck.

hugs,
Del xx
 
Hi Beck, Yep 3 fruit! Thank goodness & 6 crackers. I didn't realise that most only had 2 fruit & 5 crackers. It's no surprise that your marriage has left it's scars. They will heal of course but some will remain. Do you see a counsellor? I found it has helped me immensely, even though it was mainly my enunciating my issues that helped me to deal with them. I think they just help you to bring them to the surface.You are so worth loving & nurturing. You seem like such a lovely person. You deserve to love yourself and that means looking after your body and your mind.
Fantastic news enrolling! It's all about looking forward to a lovely future. I can see it for you, xoxo Cate
 
Hi Cuddlebones,
I am really looking forward to completing the teaching course and feel that I would (hopefully) be a really good teacher. I love kids and relate well to them.
Those zucchini fritters sound delicious. How do you make them?
Yes, my girls and I feel very liberated. We were living a pretty miserable existence, but now we are very happy.
Thanks for the kind wishes.
Take care
Beck
 
Hi Cate,
Sorry I didn't see your post.
I probably wouldn't see a counsellor, more for financial reasons than anything else, but I do find it helps to voice what has happened, and, thanks everyone here for putting up with my unloading.
I am also finding that recognising where the problems have come from is helping me to control them. I don't think I will ever overcome the eating issues, but hopefully I will learn to control the eating and find some balance that enables me to stay healthy.
I see a very happy future for my girls and myself and I am looking it forward to it immensely!!
Thanks for your kind words.
Take care
Beck
 
Keep at it Beck - you're so, SO close now.

One thing I remember from years and years and years ago when I was on a completely different diet was the saying "Taste everything, eat nothing".

If you find yourself hankering after vegemite, just lick a bit and then enjoy the taste without needing to "eat" a whole lot. I've saved myself this way at times when I accidentally put something in my mouth without thinking - I just think "Oh well, enjoy that taste, but you DON'T have to swallow it".

I'm still not feeling particularly tempted by anything, but it's early days. We even had a special morning tea at school today with delicious pastries and chocolate etc. Normally I just can't help picking or eating them, but not anymore. Today I just reminded myself that they are actually just loads of fat. Picturing one of those mounds of human fat that they have a Cohen's clinics really helps (those ghastly yellow 1kg rubbery blobs they have).

I'm going out for tea tonight, but trying to get into a place that will make the food how I want it - and kind of cross Asian/Australian cultural place with yummy food, and will alter recipes to your order. So I take out the carbs and replace with bok choy etc. Last time I did this the food was absolutely spectacular - he sure is creative!

Well, have a good week! Watch the 70's slip away before your eyes. Boy am I jealous, still plodding away in the 80's!!! But my skirts are tops are starting that slipping off feeling, which is really nice! (I think I will start wearing a sign that says 'Yes I am dieting... What else do you want to talk about?').

PS - Just remembered that under the Beyond Blue program, GP's were referring people for 10 counselling sessions free of charge - after that you pay if you continue. You're probably feeling like you're coming through the worst of it, but if you do get really down, it might be worth asking if they are still doing that.
 
Hi Beck, That's how come I could afford to go. It was 6 sessions per year I think last year when I did it & free, with a referral from yr doc. The forum helps me immensely. We are a good support system for one another! Cheers, Cate.
 
Thanks Niyah 01 and Cate,
I'll keep that in mind although I do feel like I am getting over the worst of it. The less we have to see of him, the easier it gets.
I'm finally down another kilo this morning. Its taken a little (because of my deviation), but my weight has finally moved again. I am now at my lowest ever Cohens weight (last time I completed the program I got down to 75kgs after finishing and completing refeed), so another PB should soon be on the cards (when I go below this weight). I still have 1 week and 1 day to go before I can complete refeed again and I hope that I might lose 1 or 2 more kilos before refeed and then (hopefully) I will lose another couple of kilos doing refeed (I lost 2.5kgs last time I completed refeed) which would put my at about 72 or 73 kgs. I think I could live with that..lol..
Anway, I have a child who wants to go and get some juice as we have run out, so I better get going.
Take care everyone.
Beck
 
Hi Beck- We have the same goals, weight-wise & the same LW, so both going for PB's but you cheeky thing, you keep jumping ahead on me! Wouldn't it be lovely to get another 3kgs below our LW? You'll hear me singing & shouting. I have started to get the "What are you doing?" & "You're fading away to a shadow etc" comments & worried looks, from my husband's male friends but I can still see my fat legs! It's good to do this together, xo Cate.
 
Hi everyone,
Cate, anything from here is great for me. I am really happy with myself at this weight, so anything more I lose I will be happy with. My clothes are all fitting nicely (a little loose) and people are always commenting on how good I look, so I think this is probably a good weight for me. Another couple of kilos won't hurt though and will give me a bit of a buffer for the future. I think if I hadn't broken the program last week I would probably have already started refeed as I am finding it very hard to continue at the moment and constantly have to remind myself that if I do break it again I will have to do another 2 weeks!! I am getting really hungry and have to be very careful about spacing my food out during the day so I have something little to eat whenever I get really hungry and I just try to stay focused that I only have 1 more week to go and I would like to lose a little bit more. The weight loss always slows down at this stage and this also makes it hard to keep going, but keep going I will. For another week anyway!!
Take care everyone.
Beck
 
Hi Beck, I feel the same way & am so hungry but will hang on the 1 more week so that I can do re-feed! The last 2 days have been very difficult. I feel really good at this weight too but have kept thinking I should drop "just another couple" but am getting so many comments hoping I don't lose any more, that perhaps I should look at myself differently & be happy with it. It's only a number after all. It is the following of the maintenance guidelines that I have to be 100% good with & not slacken off again. One more week......
xo Cate
 
Well I won't be joining Cate on refeed this week as I've broken the program AGAIN!!! :banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:
I'm feeling so disappointed with myself and can not believe my lack of strength and willpower. I don't even know why I broke it. One minute I am telling myself how great I am looking and how wonderful it is that my clothes are so baggy and the next minute I'm eating rubbish.
I've broken it today and also the day before yesterday and I'm really worrying that I'll never be able to control that stupid voice in my head that tells me its ok to start again tomorrow, but make sure you eat everything in sight today as its going to be a long time before you can eat rubbish again. I don't know why rubbish has so much appeal to me when it makes me feel so bad and I don't know why I eat it when I feel so good eating healthy food.
I need to come on here and own up to eating crap ( it has taken me a couple of days though) as I am so used to pretending I haven't eaten bad food and hiding to eat it so then I think that I think that the food doesn't count if no-one sees me eat it. Who knows. Certainly not me. This will be a major project for me (getting control of my head) and will probably go on for the rest of my life but I am determined that I will not gain any weight back on.
That stupid voice was trying to tell me to just do refeed on Friday and pretend that i hadn't broken the program as no-one would know because I hide my eating so well that no-one sees me eating it...but I have realised that I would know and I would ruin the program and it really wouldn't do me any good as I would just be back here in 2 or 3 months time trying to lose the weight again so no matter how many attempts it takes me to get there, I fully intend to be 2 weeks (at least) deviation free and then properly complete refeed and then follow maintenance guidelines for ever and Ever and EVER!!!! Even if it takes me 3 years (or more) to do it.
Sorry to be such a sad sack but I really needed to confess to someone.
My girls are going to be so disappointed with me when I tell them I'm not doing refeed on Friday.
Take care everyone and, Cate, good luck with refeed on Saturday.
Beck
 
Hi Sweets,
Forgive yourself and move on. You are sucessful and you can do this -so close now! I think those mistakes we make make us learn something and you are certainly thinking about why you do this which, if you are anything like me, is something you tend to avoid doing when your eating habits are out of control. It's only a couple of days more - big hugs Beck, Del xxx
 
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