The Tattooed Lady

She47441 said:
*WARNING LONG POST*

Sunday was just one of those days that Greene wouldn't let me down about my exercising. It started Saturday night when he preceeded to tell my mom that he doesn't believe that I walk or skate during the day, meaning if he doesn't see me do it, he doesn't believe I do it. He actually went so far Sunday and look at my skates to see if I skated on them, WTF!!! He didn't see anything so he doesn't believe me. I haven't been skating because I've been walk uptown and back. Hell if he wants to ask people if I've done it, all he has to do is go to one particular store and they will tell him that I've been walking. When/if I walk on Tuesday's, I try to skate about 45 min-hr then spend the last hr or so just playing few games or watching everybody else skate, so when we went skating last Tuesday, he actually had the nerve to tell me after I told him that I walked for an hr earlier in the day that this is skate night. OMG, I was so fuming. Why in the hell does it matter that I walked for an hr during the day and then skate at night? Skate night is getting old for me. It's getting to the point it's not fun for me anymore. I feel leftout at times because I'm not into skates like he is. He lives, eats and breaths skates. From the time he gets home from work to the time he goes to bed he's constantly on Ebay looking for this and that. He's constantly on skating forums and email people back and forth about this and that. Anyway the point I'm trying to make is that everytime he gets on me about this and that I sabatoge my eating by eating junk, which is what I was doing Sunday. He makes me feel so small I think what's the point of me doing this (i.e. watching what I eat)...:confused:

To be honest, I never wanted to lose weight in the first place because he has issues with his first wife losing weight and leaving him. I knew if I started watching my weight I would cause a snowball effect and it has. Couple times he's said you're gonna leave me because you're losing weight....:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: OMG WTF, if I could see the steam coming out of my ears, let me tell you it would be. I swear my head will explode if he says that one more time, but of course the same night or the next one he'll be all loving and tell me what a good job I'm doing, yada yada yada blah blah blah.
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I think you need to make the point that its time to back off. Skating is obviously his thing and just because your a couple does not mean you have to be into whatever he is. He does obviously have some insecurity problems that he needs to work on. Whether he works on that through a shrink or just talking with you it needs to be fixed. As it will only chip at y'alls relationship.

So he believes you should have a skate night. Well, why don't you have a "(insert whatever you like to do) night?

If you do not want to skate then just tell him that you do not want to. And, the whole "checking" to see if you have been skating thing is ridiculous. A relationship is built on trust. If you say you did it then he needs to learn to accept it at face value and not hound you over it. I think you need to have a serious talk with him and explain how you feel and how his actions are at the root of the problem.

You do not force or pressure someone into doing what YOU (you as in him) want. The only thing to come from that is resentment for whatever it is he wants you to do. And its easy to see it does not help you or your goals.


I hope i did not overstep my boundaries. If you want I will delete my post from your thread.
 
Nah it's all good. I know we need a talk about this. Should've done it last night when he asked what's wrong, but wasn't in the mood to have it blow up into something else.

We both know he has issues to work out (i.e. never getting over his first wife which was his true love). I knew that from the time we got together but what's really funny is he's like my dad and I'm like his mom. My dad pulls this with my mom and his mom takes this from his dad. The groovy part is our parents are still together. His parents has been married for 50 (give and take) and my parents have been married for 43 yrs. Trust me I did set out to find my dad, but you can't help who you fall in love with.

In all honesty, I love Greene. I can't picture my life w/out him, but I just get into the moods when he brings me to my "smoke coming out of my ears" pissed off feeling and the weekend was one of them. Ash loves him and when she can't be with him, OMG, you'd think her world has ended.
 
It's a beautiful 86 degree day out there today and I took my daily walk to clear my mind. Left at 12:22 and just got home at 1:47. Walked to the park and did 2 laps. Stopped at talked to Kegan and my cousin's fiancee for a few minute break. I really don't know how long I sat there but it was long enough for me to stop sweating. Broke another sweat walking back but it's not dripping. If anything else...I'm working on my farmer's tan....:D
 
Ended up going to the rink last night but didn't skate. Didn't eat at the rink and gave Ash my protein bar but she didn't want it so we just ate when we got home. I sat there and read a book and watched everybody else skate. Had a talk with Greene. Got our feelings aired out. Now it's the wait and see game.

Fat - 28%, Carbs - 50%, Protein - 22%

Meal 1 - oatmeal, coffee, milk
Meal 2 - spaghetti, milk
Meal 3 - bread, pb, milk
Meal 4 - bread, pb, milk
 
Today at school they are having a Egg Drop. The kids are to create a container that will protect a raw wgg when dropped from a high place. The Electric Dept will bring their cherry picker to school for the project. ANYTHING GOES!! Greene wanted me to take pictures of the container before we take it to school and get video of it falling to see if the egg broke. He would've loved to been there to see this but he couldn't get out of work. Now the kicker is...it's spose to rain today so I have no clue what they're going to do if it does rain.
 
Egg drop went as planned but her egg broke...:( Oh well..it was just for fun anyway. The kids had a good time and got to see what the other ideas the kids had. All together...9 eggs didn't break, 1 cracked and 4 broke.
 
As much as I bitch about my food I was working on the landlord's computer and ending up having 1 chocolate chip cookie, 5 pringles, 3 glasses of tea (with sweet n low for sweetner) and 1 glass of orange crystal light.
 
Supper could have been better but am happy with the results even though cals was little high...:D I was planning out supper and decided to get a Chunky Chicken Salad Frescata sandwich and a side salad w/low fat or fat free dressing from Wendy's but of course when I get there I tell them the wrong sandwich so I ended up ordering a Frescata Club. When I get home they gave me a chicken club. Didn't throw me out of wack completely but really wanted the chicken salad sandwich more but honestly was too lazy to go back and tell them I got the wrong sandwich. Just goes to prove you can't trust fast food restaurants.
 
Fat - 27%, Carbs - 50%, Protein - 22%

Meal 1 - oatmeal, coffee, milk
Meal 2 - spaghetti, milk
Meal 3 - side salad w/ff french dressing, chicken club sandwich, diet coke
 
After a long talk that made me think I've realized that if I start eating the junk I can't stop. Yes you can still have your cheat meal but not like I have been doing. Not once everyday (well twice yesterday) this week. No wonder my weight jumps up. Last week I didn't gain anything but didn't lose either so we'll see what happens Saturday. Honestly I'm not expecting to lose, either stay the same or gain. I just need to tell myself no, not going to eat it. Usually I can stop myself or throw the food away but this week wasn't the week for that.

Next Wednesday is lunch at school. Already sent home the menu. Parents are welcome to eat with the kids, so far there are only 2 parents that I know of that are eating. So here's what I've came up with...the menu is hot dog on bun/or pb on bread, cheetos, corn, pudding, milk. Now if I want to eat clean thru the week and have Saturday has my day (I usually try to do that), I can only have the pb sandwich, corn, milk. Now if I want to make my cheat day Wednesday, I have to eat clean Saturday, I can eat all of the lunch.

Also Memorial Day weekend (only 3 weeks away) we are having a weinie roast at M&D. That gives me an incentive to eat as clean as I can until then. I know we are having hot dogs, but I'm guessing also chips and drinks. I've got sometime to think about it, but on the other hand not really. It'll be here before you know it.
 
Hey, Sheri - I just read the last pg and half or so. Sorry to hear about the troubles with u and Greene. :( How are things?? I so hear you on the junk food thing. Taht's what happens to me. Last night was a prime ex. I was so bummed about my cals, that I just said "to hell with it" and had 3 pieces of chocolate and a Smart Ones Choc Chip Cookie Dough Sundae. (OMG....love those! LOL) I feel crappy about that today and I can almost guarantee another weight gain this week. :mad:

But anyway.....((HUGS)) Hope things get better for you!!!
 
It's all good now between us. Just needed to get a few things aired out. Choc chip cookie dough was one of my fav from Smart Ones. The choc brownie is another good one.
 
wow.. I just checked out that salsa chicken recipe.. so simple! and i have all of that already! That may be my dinner tonight also!! YUM!
 
Stingo and I tell everybody about the zaar. He was the one that turned me onto it and now I tell everybody about it that I can. All my recipes come from there. I even find recipes from different sources and post them. I'm telling you...it's the bomb site. 99% of the recipes I make, my m&d are the guinea pigs. I cook for them when they come down for a visit. My mom is tired of fast food. She loves home cooking and I love cooking for them, plus the recipes I make are healthy and my dad who is sooo picky about his food and ingredients has loved every recipe I had made.
 
(and people talk about me and the 'zaar lol) :)
 
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