PolarPink's Journey

PolarPink

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Hi guys!

I'm new to the site and new to the whole weight-loss-diary-sharing experience. I signed up about 2 weeks ago and have slowly been reading through some diaries and have found the exchanges between all the members to be so positive, powerful, and meaningful. I am truly inspired and I hope to add to the culture here and come away feeling stronger and more supported.

I suppose I should start with the basics. My name is Shannon, I'm 33 years old and I live in Canada. I'm roughly 5'7 and I currently weigh 168 lbs. I have been carrying a degree of extra weight since my teenage years, but started to pack on the weight in my 20s. I'm a stress eater and grew up in a household where portion control was not taught, let alone enforced. All of these things (and more!) contributed to my unhealthy relationship with food and ultimately with myself.

My weight loss journey officially began in April 2018 at my highest weight of 235 lbs. Within the first 8 months I lost 50 lbs and I couldn't have been prouder of myself. Later that same year, in early December, I decided to finally quit smoking cigarettes. Terminating my vile addiction to nicotine is one of the best things I could have ever done for myself. However, it seems as though I have been struggling with my weight loss among other things ever since.

Throughout 2019 I stalled out at 180 lbs which was to be expected given the tobacco or nicotine (I'm not sure which) had really messed with my metabolism. I also regained a good 20 lbs in the summer of that year because I was mentally struggling a great deal with a family member's health. Prior to quitting, smoking and eating had been my "coping" mechanisms of choice and I must say that facing my issues has been a hard thing for me to do with just a good diet and exercise, but I am trying.

By the end of 2019 I was able to get back to the mid to low 180s and recommitted myself to my journey. I had made it my goal to reach 166 lbs by the end of February. Well, unfortunately, I was too ambitious and things didn't go as planned. I stumbled quite a bit and also started baking as a new hobby (which I love to do, but don't do much of because of my propensity for overeating/binge eating & for the fact that I live with other over eaters). Despite all of the struggles and hardship, I finally reached my goal of 166 lbs on June 10th. It was a phenomenal feeling.

166 lbs is the lowest I have been able to reach at this time. My initial weight loss goal was 150 lbs (which I cannot wait to hit!), but I'm hoping to ultimately be able to weigh somewhere between 130 and 140. I use the myfitnesspal website religiously (I'm not really much of a smartphone aficionado, aficionada? sp? pedantic?), I weigh nearly every morning, I strive to do 30 mins to an hour of cardio every day (but I don't always make it out of the house) and when I'm in the swing of things; full body workouts 3x a week.

As it stands, I feel like I'm stuck losing and regaining the same 10 lbs (yes, 10) every month from monthly shark week binges. I'm struggling emotionally & mentally between COVID-19 and all of my other personal problems. I should mention that I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend of 3.5 years who lives in New York and it's been difficult to be apart (we haven't been together since December) and I am unable, unwilling to rely upon my previous coping mechanisms. There's much more to my story, but I wouldn't want to a) bog you nor b) bore you with the details all at once.

Thank you so much for your patience wading through my rant. I genuinely appreciate the time and effort that goes into it. I hope you're doing well and I look forward to sharing more with you all again soon.
 
Breakfast 8AM
1/2 cup Quaker Oats oatmeal
1 heaping tbsp of Activia blueberry yogurt
1/2 handful of raisins

Lunch 11AM
1 English muffin
1 large egg
2 tsp Becel Olive Oil margarine
1 slice Kraft cheese

Dinner 5PM
1 St-Hubert skinless chicken leg (drumstick & thigh)
1/2 portion of St-Hubert french fries
1/2 cup of St-Hubert bbq sauce

Snack 2PM
3/4 bag Orville Reddenbacher butter popcorn
 
Hi, Shannon & welcome to the diary. Congratulations on making so many lifestyle changes. 235 lbs to your current weight of 168 lbs. That is some achievement & something to be very proud of, especially seeing as you have also given up smoking during that time. Well done!
The last pounds are the hardest of course. Do you eat many vegetables, either raw or cooked (other than fries)? Vegetables are your friend. You can eat so many of them without adding many calories.
I'm glad you have joined us. It is a very supportive community & I hope you like it :)
 
Hey Shannon and welcome! Looks like you've done an amazing job so far. Finding new coping mechanisms is hard but it's so worth it in the long run.
 
Congrats on the weight loss and quitting smoking.
Thank you, Xena. These were challenging changes to make for sure, but necessary ones to say the least. I appreciate your encouragement and it's a pleasure to meet you :)

Hi, Shannon & welcome to the diary. Congratulations on making so many lifestyle changes. 235 lbs to your current weight of 168 lbs. That is some achievement & something to be very proud of, especially seeing as you have also given up smoking during that time. Well done!
The last pounds are the hardest of course. Do you eat many vegetables, either raw or cooked (other than fries)? Vegetables are your friend. You can eat so many of them without adding many calories.
I'm glad you have joined us. It is a very supportive community & I hope you like it :)
Thank you for the warm welcome, Cate :) It is really nice to be here! I have been looking forward to engaging more with people who are on or who have gone through this journey.
I love vegetables, but I admittedly don't eat enough of them. It's like I go through little phases of having salads for lunch (esp when I have avocado on hand (I just love how it makes things creamy)) and I was eating raw carrots for snacks a short while ago... but of course that stopped when I started eating more popcorn lol
I'm so glad that you made the point about eating more veggies and how they really are practically free calories (at least imho) and I'm lucky to like them as much as I do. Thanks for the nudge I need to eat cleaner, simpler, and just better really :) It's so nice to meet you!

Hi Shannon,
Nice to meet you and have you as part of the forum.
Your story is inspiring--good for you for both managing to quit smoking and losing weight.
Thank you, Liza. I have to admit that I seldom think of myself or my journey as inspiring. I'm pretty hard on myself most of the time and kind of see the changes I've made in a more negative light. These are things I am trying really hard to change about myself beyond the physical transformation. It means a lot to me that you pointed out my strengths when I was focused on the weakness of having to go on said journey in the first place.
If there's one thing I don't want to do is bring a cloud of negativity here with me. There is so much good in this community that I can see and I am just overwhelmed with gratitude at the moment that you and others have responded to my post. It is so nice to meet you and thank you again for the accolades hehe I look forward to being able to cheer you on as well! :)

Hey Shannon and welcome! Looks like you've done an amazing job so far. Finding new coping mechanisms is hard but it's so worth it in the long run.
Hi LaMaria and thank you :) Losing weight is a hard thing to do there's no doubt about that, but I seem to struggle much more with the internal changes that must be made. For one thing, as I mentioned to Liza, it's hard for me to even acknowledge the things I have done without somehow diminishing it in some way. I remember when I embarked on this journey that I made a point of only telling a few people because I didn't want to make an arse out of myself should things go awry. I mean, I'm still really awkward about discussing the process with people IRL.
On a related note, I came across jenniquest's diary which she called "forcing growth" and I believe and that's what I feel I'm trying to accomplish on my journey as well. Without getting into the nitty gritty, I face anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem on the regular and these aspects not only impact my journey, but are at times the driving force behind it all (or what brings things to a grinding halt). I'm hoping that this diary and being open with you all about these challenges will foster more growth and expansion going forward. Thank you again for having a listen :)

Welcome Shannon and congrats on a great start!

No need to thank anyone, its why we are here. Never hesitiate to rant!
Thank you, Rob, and nice to meet you! I'm giving it all I have on the daily hehe Not to say that theren't are days that kind of go nowhere, but I try as hard as I can to reboot each day. I have a few driving reasons for that beyond the weight loss as I indicated in my response to LaMaria. I'm slowly taking my power back and facing this reality day in and day out proves itself to be one heck of a challenge! I'm working hard on putting myself out there because I think this is a safe place where I can be myself, so I appreciate you letting me know that my ranting is more or less encouraged here :)

Postscript

I'm so glad that I took the plunge and decided to post on this forum. I'm so grateful for all of your kind words of encouragement & forgive me for saying this, but I feel as though it is what has been missing. It is more or less my fault for limiting how many people are on my journey with me, but I made that decision knowing it was for the best. I'm not in this for the praise, nor the looks, and least of all the attention. I look forward to getting to know all of you and the journeys you've been on. I feel blessed to become a part of a community of people who just get it. So, it may be cheesy to say (I'm pretty cheesy as you'll come to find out), but I'm glad you guys are who you are and are willing to share your experiences and wisdom with people trying to hustle and get through the grind to come through the other side a better version of oneself like me :)
 
I'm pretty cheesy as you'll come to find out
As long as it's the proper, full-fat stuff I'm all for a good bit of cheese :p
You're not the only one around here struggling with anxiety and/or depression, by the way, and I'm pretty sure most of us deal with low self-esteem.
 
:iagree: with LaMa. I think you'll find most of us have similar issues & that is why we are so supportive of one another. I hope we can help you gain back some of that self-esteem. I think anyone can diet and/or lose weight, but it's the head we have to work on mostly. Cate, says speaking for herself......:blush5:
 
Morning weigh in
167.6 lbs

Breakfast 8AM
1/2 cup Quaker Oats oatmeal
1/2 handful Thompson raisins
1 heaping tbsp Activia blueberry yogurt

Lunch 12:30PM
1 medium-ish No Name Brand soft tortilla shell
2/3 cup Saputo shredded four cheese mix
3/4 cup sautéed yellow onion and red pepper
2 button mushrooms

Dinner 5PM
1 skinless St-Hubert chicken leg (drumstick and thigh)
2 tsp Gallo olive oil
2-3 cups spring mix salad
red pepper, yellow onion, English cucumber, ground pepper, white vinegar & pickled jalapenos

Snacks 3:40PM
1/2 bag Orville Reddenbacher butter popcorn

Water
8 cups
 
As long as it's the proper, full-fat stuff I'm all for a good bit of cheese :p
You're not the only one around here struggling with anxiety and/or depression, by the way, and I'm pretty sure most of us deal with low self-esteem.
hehe I wish! I'm not one to gravitate towards cheese in general (my bf thinks that's très weird btw hehe), but I have had some serious brie cravings of late. I need to be eating more foods that will keep me satiated for longer since I'm sure that's my biggest pitfall with regards to my diet vis a vis staying on track.
It is reassuring to know that I'm not alone on this journey both physically and mentally. It has been taxing and though it has been downright frustrating at times, I am proud of myself for being willing to see myself fully - clearly for perhaps the first time ever - beyond the smoke and mirrors... but mainly the smoke because I'm still pretty sht at staring into mirrors :p Thanks for helping me feel both welcome and normal lol :D

:iagree: with LaMa. I think you'll find most of us have similar issues & that is why we are so supportive of one another. I hope we can help you gain back some of that self-esteem. I think anyone can diet and/or lose weight, but it's the head we have to work on mostly. Cate, says speaking for herself......:blush5:
It's a good feeling to know that I'm in good company here with regards to all of the obstacles and challenges that I face with food and otherwise. It does make a heck of a lot of sense that a poor relationship with food would be indicative of a poor relationship with the self. I struggled again today, but I struggled a little bit less knowing that there are people I can share my issues with appetite, cravings, and all things food related. In fact, I would like to thank you personally for reminding me to eat my veggies lol I made sure to pack in as many as I could at meal time. I can stand to improve at snack time and I will get there... little by little. I have not always been the most patient with myself with respect to *insert thing here*. Patience is the virtue I will spend my life waiting to acquire I say. Life's sense of humour is a force for me to contend with that's for sure! Thanks for being a source of kindness as I rebuild my self-esteem :)
 
Don´t let the perfect get in the way of the good. You seem to be doing great for now! Although I have to ask: 1 TABLESPOON of yogurt with your breakfast?! I´d be hungry again in... oh, 5 minutes, with so little protein.
 
I have not always been the most patient with myself with respect to *insert thing here*. Patience is the virtue I will spend my life waiting to acquire I say.
I think a lot of us can say something like that. Looks like you are off to a good start with the self-esteem thing, you should be. Taking the positive actions you are taking must make you feel better.
 
Don´t let the perfect get in the way of the good. You seem to be doing great for now! Although I have to ask: 1 TABLESPOON of yogurt with your breakfast?! I´d be hungry again in... oh, 5 minutes, with so little protein.
It's funny that you mention not letting "the perfect get in the way of the good" aspect because I think that I tend to get lost somewhere between the details and the big picture. Sometimes I fear that I may be too calorie focused or too preoccupied with limiting how much or how often I go over with my sugars and I lose sight of the macros that should call more of my attention.
I have to admit that I AM hungry by 10AM... if it takes that long for my hunger to kick in. I am completely clueless when it comes to these things and at times I wonder if this "health journey" that I'm on is all that healthy (besides the whole dwelling on the small stuff which definitely can't be good for my mental health). Forgive me for asking... and for my ignorance, but how much yogurt do you think I should be eating with my breakfast in order to stave off the hunger pangs? Asking for a friend... :p

I think a lot of us can say something like that. Looks like you are off to a good start with the self-esteem thing, you should be. Taking the positive actions you are taking must make you feel better.
It's always reassuring to know that I'm living a normal/typical human experience... I do worry at times, but I do tend to worry about so many things lol
I'm trying hard to focus on the good that I'm accomplishing on my journey to better health. It hasn't been easy to do so given that I had (and sadly still sort of do) been living my life in a negative head space for such a long time and it's hard to unlearn certain thought patterns, but I have decided that I'm worth having faith in myself. I've proved to myself that I'm able to change my behaviour, thus I must be able to change my thoughts. It's a bumpy ride to say the least, but I'm positively determined to a) reach my goal of 150 lbs however long it takes and b) become the better version of myself that I know I am capable of. Hmm... it legit just boosted my self-esteem some to hear my inner monologue say those things lol I just might be able to get a hang of this positive self-talk thing after all hehe so, I am going to credit us both for that win :)
 
Morning weight
166.9 lbs

Breakfast 7AM
2 large soft boiled eggs
1 English muffin
2 tsp Becel olive oil margarine

Snack 10AM
12 oz specialty hot chocolate with whipped cream & chocolate shavings

Lunch 12:30PM
2-3 cups spring mix lettuce
+ cucumber, yellow onion, orange pepper, pickled jalapenos

Dinner 5:30PM
3-4 stuffed cabbage rolls
2 tbsp 14% sour cream

Water
8 cups
 
Captain's Log:
Day 3

As much as I wouldn't say I'm feeling all too proud of my food choices or the lack of more protein dense foods, I have to put it out there that I am feeling pretty confident in my ability to stay the course.

Coming here has helped me be more accountable for the food I'm consuming and I'm greatly appreciating the feedback from those who have been on this journey longer than me. I have noticed that I'm choosing to eat more salad because I know I can get away with eating as much as I want of the stuff as well as where I'm seriously tripping up.

I need to make a more conscious effort to eat more protein. I think I'm feeling at a loss about how to do that while still remaining in a caloric deficit, but I know it can be done... many have people have done it and I'm pretty sure that I'm kinda like most people in a general human sort of way at the very least. *shrug*

Thoughts, comments, and reminders:
I can't do 100% of things 100% right 100% of the time. The only way I'll be able to make this lifestyle change a true sustainable transition into everyday living is by accepting that yes I am human and I will make many a mistake, but that I am accountable for said mistakes and can learn from them.

All in all, despite still lacking in certain macros, I'm sticking to it and proving to myself (and my entourage) that I can do this. Every day I make the decision to moderate my dietary choices which shows me that I not only have willpower, but the ability to exert it.

Lastly, Shannon, you're on the right track. Stop listening to the inner critic and pay attention to those who can see things more objectively. Don't let a bad meal wreck your day or spoil your mood. I work too damn hard at this day in and day out to let myself get upset over something as trivial as a few calories one day, even if it is an entire week. I am more than my mistakes. I am the culmination of every decision I have made over a lifetime and even that doesn't begin to account for who I really am. Keep digging deeper within yourself because there is more of me to uncover... there is more of me just waiting to see the light of day and share what truly makes me shine.
 
I can't do 100% of things 100% right 100% of the time.
Maybe not, but you should think about your definition of "right", for example today your diet looks pretty right to me. And if you are confident of your ability to stay the course, that sounds right to me as well. I don't think doing right is necessarily the same thing as perfection, seems to me you are doing fine!

Shannon, you're on the right track
There we can agree.

Keep up the good work!
 
I have decided that I'm worth having faith in myself.
That is an excellent decision, Shannon. think you are doing really well.
 
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