Not Stopping This Time

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kstadelh

kstadelh

Kyle, new member.
Sorry for the flabby selfie on my avatar. I am going to update it with better versions as I lose weight.

I have tried and failed to reach my weightloss goals in the past. I had some good runs, but never got close to my goal and I never kept it off.

But this time is different. I have changed my overall attitude in life through some counseling over the past few months, and now I am ready to fight this fight to the end. I am not going to relent until I reach my goal. I don't care anymore. I am done putting up with being overweight.

I am close to my record high weight now. The record was 289 lbs. I have been working on this about 12 days and I am now about 273 lbs. I didn't weight myself at the start. My goal is at least to get down to 200 lbs. (I AM 6'3") and see how I feel about my weight then.

This may take a while since I am not gung-ho. I will be lifting a few times per week at the gym and I am restricting my carbs (including sweets) and dairy. So I don't know what to expect for a time frame. But I do believe this will make me lose weight for sure without negative side effects. And I am not going to relent anymore like I did in the past. It seems cliche, but I really mean it.

So please enjoy the show. It's premature to be giving advice about weight loss while I am still so overweight, but I really wish I could explain to people the way I feel this time. I believe this level of determination is required for anyone to lose weight and keep it off.

I know I may be a little vague about my reasons for being so sure this time. So feel free to ask questions if you want some clarification.
 
Hello kstadelh and welcome to the forum! I´m certain therapy was what helped me get to my goal weight so I don´t find your reasons vague at all. I like your plan and agree that it´s something you´ll be able to stick to long-term without harming your body in any way.
Best of luck, LaMa.

PS: Is there anything we can call you on here? Kstadelh trips up my brain a bit.
 
Hey KS, welcome to the forum! And congrats on the 16 lb loss, that is great! Losing 16 lbs in 12 days sounds like a pretty gung-ho start to me.
kstadelh said:
It's premature to be giving advice about weight loss while I am still so overweight, but I really wish I could explain to people the way I feel this time. I believe this level of determination is required for anyone to lose weight and keep it off.
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Not premature at all, that is what this place is for, we'd like to know more about your determination. We are all either trying to lose weight, or keep weight off, that's why we are here.

Best of luck to you!
 
you sound like i did 5 years ago. nothing changed until i got smarter about nutrition. if you do not know how your liver and pancreas basically function... if you do not know how hormones like insulin and glucagon affect your digestion... if you think all calories are the same... if you don't catch on to how practically all processed foods are unhealthy and how sugar is hard to avoid, ... you are starting off with a handicap.
 
LaMaria said:
Hello kstadelh and welcome to the forum! I´m certain therapy was what helped me get to my goal weight so I don´t find your reasons vague at all. I like your plan and agree that it´s something you´ll be able to stick to long-term without harming your body in any way.
Best of luck, LaMa.

PS: Is there anything we can call you on here? Kstadelh trips up my brain a bit.
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Hi LaMaria. Thanks for the welcome. My name os Kyle. I will get a signature set up so my name will show up on my posts. It's nice to know that someone else's weight loss benefited from therapy.
 
alligatorob said:
Hey KS, welcome to the forum! And congrats on the 16 lb loss, that is great! Losing 16 lbs in 12 days sounds like a pretty gung-ho start to me.
Not premature at all, that is what this place is for, we'd like to know more about your determination. We are all either trying to lose weight, or keep weight off, that's why we are here.

Best of luck to you!
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Thanks, Alligator. I really need the support now, especially as I tend to feel a lack of it from the people in my life.
 
overlandflyer said:
you sound like i did 5 years ago. nothing changed until i got smarter about nutrition. if you do not know how your liver and pancreas basically function... if you do not know how hormones like insulin and glucagon affect your digestion... if you think all calories are the same... if you don't catch on to how practically all processed foods are unhealthy and how sugar is hard to avoid, ... you are starting off with a handicap.
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Thanks for the concern. I agree that a basic understanding of nutrition and human digestive function is necessary for results. However I don't think this is rocket science, and for me the problem has been attitude, not knowledge. Also overthinking weightloss has been a trip-up for me, causing me to hold back from taking action. That being said, please shoot me some good sources of info if you have any.
 
Hello, Kyle - great to have you here! :)

There's quite a few men here who have been, or still are, round about where you are in the weight loss game, including Rob and Flyer up above - I think for sure they will have good advice for you about nutrition and exercise. And lots of us with plenty of other experience and knowledge to share, like La Maria, above, or Trusylver, and others, whether or not we "match" you in gender and size! So heaps of support here, for sure.
Have you seen that alligatorob is working his way down through the 250-300 pound Club (in the "Club" section)? Maybe you could join him there! :)
 
kstadelh said:
Thanks for the concern. I agree that a basic understanding of nutrition and human digestive function is necessary for results. However I don't think this is rocket science, and for me the problem has been attitude, not knowledge. Also overthinking weightloss has been a trip-up for me, causing me to hold back from taking action.
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For me personally my knowledge hasn´t helped me until I learned to be kinder to myself and listen to my body. As long as you´re doing that and getting your basic needs met (mostly enough protein and healthy fat to keep you going) I think you´ll be fine. Nothing wrong with reading labels though, to learn more about what you´re putting into your body. Or, even better, eating mostly things that don´t need a label because they haven´t been processed much.
 
kstadelh said:
.... However I don't think this is rocket science, ...
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i wish... physics makes a lot more sense to me than organic chemistry. search YouTube or even better, TED talks, with any of the buzzword terms i listed. you will probably find more than enough information.
 
Welcome to the forum, looking forward to seeing your progress. If you have questions, just ask.
 
Hey Kyle,

I looked up your old threads and I can see the reason for your "Not Stopping This Time" title, it was a good choice. A lot of us here have tried and failed to lose or keep off weight in the past, so you are not alone.
kstadelh said:
I don't think this is rocket science, and for me the problem has been attitude, not knowledge.
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I understand what you are saying about not rocket science, if you eat fewer calories than you burn you lose weight, its as simple as that. I have known that since my father first explained it to me probably 60 years ago, but knowing that is not sufficient for most of the folks here. What you call the attitude problem is the problem, and its very complex and can be very difficult to overcome, that as Flyer says is more complex than rocket science. We managed to put people on the moon 50 years ago, and in the meantime the population in the US anyway has gotten fatter. For me the answer this time has been structure and refusing to binge, but I am still pretty new to this latest diet so we will see if I can find a way to make it stick. I am optimistic this time.

Amy is right you should post on the 250-300 pound Club, its kind of lonely over there!

Keep up the good work!
 
aiminglow said:
Hello, Kyle - great to have you here! :)

There's quite a few men here who have been, or still are, round about where you are in the weight loss game, including Rob and Flyer up above - I think for sure they will have good advice for you about nutrition and exercise. And lots of us with plenty of other experience and knowledge to share, like La Maria, above, or Trusylver, and others, whether or not we "match" you in gender and size! So heaps of support here, for sure.
Have you seen that alligatorob is working his way down through the 250-300 pound Club (in the "Club" section)? Maybe you could join him there! :)
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Thank you so much for the warm welcome. It's so beautiful that people want to help support others via this forum. I will be sure to check out the 250-300 club.
 
overlandflyer said:
i wish... physics makes a lot more sense to me than organic chemistry. search YouTube or even better, TED talks, with any of the buzzword terms i listed. you will probably find more than enough information.
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Alright. Thank you. I will look into it. ;)
 
alligatorob said:
Hey Kyle,

I looked up your old threads and I can see the reason for your "Not Stopping This Time" title, it was a good choice. A lot of us here have tried and failed to lose or keep off weight in the past, so you are not alone.
I understand what you are saying about not rocket science, if you eat fewer calories than you burn you lose weight, its as simple as that. I have known that since my father first explained it to me probably 60 years ago, but knowing that is not sufficient for most of the folks here. What you call the attitude problem is the problem, and its very complex and can be very difficult to overcome, that as Flyer says is more complex than rocket science. We managed to put people on the moon 50 years ago, and in the meantime the population in the US anyway has gotten fatter. For me the answer this time has been structure and refusing to binge, but I am still pretty new to this latest diet so we will see if I can find a way to make it stick. I am optimistic this time.

Amy is right you should post on the 250-300 pound Club, its kind of lonely over there!

Keep up the good work!
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Thanks, Rob. I totally agree it's refusing to binge. It's refusing to allow my emotions to dictate what I am going to eat. I cannot control my emotions. So they should NOT be the guide to my eating activites (or any other destructive activities for that matter).

Honestly my wife is giving me trouble about my desire to control what I eat. I think she feels less power over me which is triggering this passive-aggressive behavior. She really disgusts me to be frank. But I am done letting other people (especially loved ones) sabotage my health goals. They always have in the past, and it's irresponsible of me to allow myself to give in. Ultimately it means I allowed my emotions to control my eating because I let other people manipulate me emotionally. I cannot and will not attempt to control my wife's maturity level. Unfortunately she is making poor choices with her treatment of me. But I am not going to let her (or my emotions) dictate my behavior anymore.
 
Hey Kyle, that sounds like a plan!

Have you tried working with your wife on this, making her a part of it? Not knowing you or her I don't know if that would work, but if you could do it I think it would be a big help. My wife is mostly supportive of my diet, and that really helps me.
 
Having support does make things a LOT easier but if you don´t get it... all you can do is ignore your surroundings and concentrate on what you need to do until the results prove you right. Most people give up their resistance to change once they get used to it.
 
@alligatorob @LaMaria
Yes I agree that support is very important and that it must NOT be the deciding factor. My wife IS supportive most of the time, but she takes it away when she gets into her selfish state if mind, which she seldom gets into. But I have tended to allow those low points in her behavior to be an excuse for me to run away from losing weight, which is a difficult project even with the best support. I just tell myself that I am not worth it and the way she treats me proves that she agrees I am not worth it. To be honest, all of that is just an excuse to eat what I want and exercise less, but it always seems very compelling especially when my feelings are hurt (I am sensitive) and I feel trapped in this relationship.

For now my wife is getting over her moodiness and I am able to focus my mind better on my weight loss. I didn't let the espisode make an impact on my progress. However my weight has not been going down much the last few days, which has been a little annoying. It's been very muggy and breezeless at night here in SoCal and I am not getting quality sleep the last few days.

One good point is that I am getting used to my current diet. It made me feel a little ill at first because my body was in shock I think. But now it seems normal and bearable.

Have a good day!
 
kstadelh said:
I didn't let the espisode make an impact on my progress. However my weight has not been going down much the last few days, which has been a little annoying.
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Well done sticking with your diet regardless! Not regaining in such situations is already pretty heroic in my book. Glad you're no longer feeling sick and I hope the weather gets more sleep friendly.
 
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