Default Julie's food & exercise journal

JuliePulie said:
My friend said it's better to go and prevent actual problems then to go once it's too late.
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Very true! You deserve support even if you´re not the saddest, most helpless person in the world. And I´m glad your big friend took your "no" well, that´s generally a good sign.
 
Well done on going to go see a therapist. I agree with your friend that it's better to go earlier than later. Sometimes it can be hard to find a good fit for a therapist so if it's not a great fit don't assume it's not for you. I've been through a lot of different types of counselling and counsellors--some have really helped...others not so much, but the good ones made a world of difference.

As for my running--i don't think i've ever achieved 'runners high' but i do find i feel more peaceful afterward. And I like the challenge--so far i think the farthest I've run is around 8 km. The program I've been doing is walk to run and it slowly builds up to 10 k...
 
Hey Julie, you are smart to do what you need to do for your mental health. Did you see the therapist today?

Eating well and exercising, as you do, is (I believe anyway) good for your mental as well as physical health, but it won't cure all ills. Hope you are better able to sleep, not sleeping well is no fun.
 
Hi, Julie. I think you are being really smart seeing a therapist. I think it's time I did too. There is no need to feel guilty about saying how you feel in here or anywhere else. Suppressing our feelings doesn't help fix them, that's for sure. I'm going to see someone new who is close by, but if there is no rapport I won't go back. They have to be the right fit. Be prepared for unexpected buckets of tears.
 
Hi all,
Thanks for all of your messages! You're such kind people. I feel guilty when I talk about my mom to people who know her because she's ashamed of her mental problems and she wants to keep it a secret. Butttt of course it really helps me to talk about it. So yeah, difficult stuff.
I saw the therapist and I think it was a good fit. It did seem sometime like he didn't really know what to ask me, and I hadn't expected that from a therapist. But he was easy to talk to. And yup I cried too. Which is good, cause I don't easily cry in front of strangers. It was a relief. I felt pretty good the rest of that day.
I just made the decision to stay at my parents' house for a while (2, max 4 weeks) because in my home town there are loads of corona cases and they took some really strict policies. Tbh, it feels weird atm. The plus side is there's so much nature near here. Excellent for running! And my best friend lives close by. So it'll be good for me, I hope. If I can get rid of that feeling I'm going backward.

Food today: two bananas for breakfast, sandwich with vegan cheese and a pepper spread for lunch, dinner: weird mix of leftovers. Potatoes, cabbage, salmon, tabouleh..

Exercise: does packing count?
 
Hi, Julie. I'm glad you feel that therapy was good for you. I don't think going home for a break is a backward step. Sometimes we just need to know what is best for us at the time. Make it be good for you. Treat it as a healthy restorative holiday.
 
Good for you! Nothing to be ashamed of in it, either talking or moving home. I think a lot of young people have moved home in this crisis, so you are not alone. You can talk about your mother to the therapist and it will be confidential, or here where no one knows her. Sorry to hear that she suffers mental problems, that has to be hard.
JuliePulie said:
Exercise: does packing count?
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Absolutely, MFP says you burn 511 calories in an hour of "moving household items, carrying boxes", its in their exercise database.

Your food sounds good today, good to see you are staying on track!
 
I was surprised about my therapist not asking a lot of questions at first either and sometimes it really annoyed me. But in the end I think it´s supposed to make you take control of your own therapy process, which is a good thing. Just exhausting.
 
LaMaria said:
I was surprised about my therapist not asking a lot of questions at first either and sometimes it really annoyed me. But in the end I think it´s supposed to make you take control of your own therapy process, which is a good thing. Just exhausting.
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That makes sense... I still feel like I'm gonna go see him again. I thought by now I would have changed my mind maybe. I can be really fickle. But no, so he must be really good.
About moving back home during corona: yes, apparently it's actually a thing, especially from infected cities. I'm gonna be in the newspaper tomorrow talking about it (short piece with hilarious photo of me in front of my computer and my father ironing in the background). I'm a little bit afraid of negative reactions like: 'Go back to corona-land, you shmuck.' But I'll just avoid social media...
Food today:
- slept late, skipped breakfast
- lunch: toast with vegan cheese. And Beetroot.
- dinner: pizza
- snacks: some grapes, banana, a glass of Cava and two glasses of rosé

Exercise:
- a run that went terribly because it was hot and maybe also because I slept poorly again. I ended up running 1k, walking 1k, running 1k, walking.. about 8k in total.
- cycling 20 minutes
 
JuliePulie said:
But he was easy to talk to. And yup I cried too. Which is good, cause I don't easily cry in front of strangers. It was a relief. I felt pretty good the rest of that day.
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Great to hear the therapist visit went well. I think it's a good sign if you cried...and yes so nice to have someone to talk to confidentially. Way to go on taking that step!
Sounds like a great decision to go to your parents--i don't blame you wanting to get away from a city in lockdown because of covid. I hope you have a nice time at home--it sounds cozy :)
 
I'm less restless now than the days before. So yes, it might be doing me some good already. My parents also seem pleased I'm here. But the need to account for your actions is annoying. Like, a friend asked me to go camp for one night and I was like 'yeah, maybe, sounds like fun'. But then I thought of my mom asking annoying questions like 'who is this friend?' 'Is he in your bubble?' and I bailed. Maybe it's for the best anyway.

I ate too much and exercised too little! I'll make up for it tomorrow.


Food:
- breakfast: muesli with chia and sesame seed
- lunch: toast with vegan cheese and Beetroot. Half a banana and some cherries
- dinner: this is where it went wrong. Big portion of mussels and fries.

Exercise: 5k walk
 
Yeah, I am sure your parents still see you as a child, sometimes anyway. It's natural. Sorry you missed the camping trip, but it sounds like you are not.

A 5k walk is pretty good exercise.
 
LaMaria said:
My parents do ask the "who is this friend" questions but out of genuine interest, not out of a desire to control me.
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Yeah, my mom is also interested for sure. Maybe some of it I interpret the wrong way because of my own expectations and maybe also feelings of guilt and doubt.
 
I've started watching a Belgian fiction show about a weight loss camp. I've watched three episodes so far. It's a serious show but sometimes really funny as well. The struggles they have, the stereotypes they face... It often feels familiar. Little things, like the fear of scales. The shyness to undress. I doubt there's a version with subtitles online (maybe) but if you guys are interested, it's called: Albatros.

Maybe it'll inspire me to do better. Cause today wasn't great either. I did have an awesome run. I felt strong.
Food:
- brunch: two bread buns. One with north sea salad, the other with spicy humus. A pastry.
- dinner: Vegetarian durum. Another pastry.
- snacks: some nuts, some grapes, some blueberries
Those damn pastries. The temptation of not doing your own shopping anymore. I rarely buy super sugary or high fat high calorie food myself because I know I'm weak :)

Sports: 5k run
 
Mmm, fresh pastries... The dangers of living with your parents! I'm sure they want to spoil you a little while they're there - I know mine do but thankfully they also know how hard it is to not gain weight sometimes.
 
Yes, they're spoiling me :) but they're generally healthy people. There's always just a lot of food, healthy and unhealthy. So I have to be careful.

Food today:
- breakfast: 2 bread buns with humus and surimi
- lunch: pasta with tuna tomato sauce
- dinner: a mix of stuff. Potatoes, chiccory, beetroot, quorn with tomato and mushrooms..
- snacks: some nuts. Banana

Exercise: walked 9,5 k (2h)
 
Looks like you are doing an excellent job, Julie Pulie. Mussels and fries sounds so good. I am currently in waiting to see a therapist. I'm happy that you found one that works for you.
 
I used to overeat to an extreme degree whenever I visited my parents, just because the food and snacks were all there for the taking (unlike at home where I try to reduce temptation) but it's got easier over the years. Now I try to stick to their snack amounts (one piece of chocolate, OR one biscuit, OR a small handful of chips) and it feels strangely good. Now to take that feeling of control home with me...
 
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