Cory's Quest for a Healthier Life
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Jenniquest
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You can rent a small truck from enterprise for like $40 day, I think? Sucks to spend money, but might be worth it so you don't have so many trips.
Now, the Cheesecake Factory ... I am soooo happy we do not have one within a 300 mile radius because that place is evil!
Now, the Cheesecake Factory ... I am soooo happy we do not have one within a 300 mile radius because that place is evil!
Brent Loewen
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Moving is extremely difficult. You have my sympathy but, more importantly, my admiration at your perseverance and kindness.
You clearly put those that you love above yourself. That is an awesome quality!
Keep on soldiering through!
You clearly put those that you love above yourself. That is an awesome quality!
Keep on soldiering through!
Jenniquest
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It is an evil, sinful place where they give huge portions and the cals for each dish are what most people need in one day. Their slices of cheesecake alone are 1200+ cals per slice!!!
feelinggooder
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Sleep takes priority 'cause rest is a weapon.
Hope all goes well with the move. It's temporary pain and always seems like the last few loads takes the longest but nothing beats the feeling of getting that last load finished.
Hope all goes well with the move. It's temporary pain and always seems like the last few loads takes the longest but nothing beats the feeling of getting that last load finished.
-Cory-
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Thank you for all the support guys!
Today has been kind of mixed so far. I skipped zumba last night so I could start the drive to my parents' house a little earlier and not be as at risk for falling asleep. But! I found a place in my hometown that I can do drop in classes, so I went and danced this morning and I plan to go again on Sunday. I'm really happy and proud about that.
That being said, the food has not been good today for a mix of reasons. My parents show their love with food and made sure to buy a lot of snacks that they know I like because they were so happy that I am home for the weekend. My dad is also bringing Chinese food home for dinner. This isn't really any different than any other trip home and I had gotten pretty good at eating some of the things, but not an unreasonable amount. I'll fully admit that I'm struggling a little bit emotionally. My mom left around noon today to go see her family and my dad has been at work all day. That means I'm on grandma babysitting duty. Pretty sure my dad is also avoiding coming home so he's at the bar getting a couple drinks. I don't begrudge either of them these things. My mom only gets to see her family a few times a year and my dad almost never gets to go have a beer with a couple people because of my grandma. They're both burnt out with taking care of her (and so are me and my brother). She's been living with them for 10 years now and her Alzheimer's is getting pretty bad at this point. My dad seems incapable of making a decision about her care even though we're pretty much at the point where it's unmanageable for her to stay at home. It's just depressing and frustrating and it really sucks. Living in the situation is part of the reason I binge ate my way up to 280 pounds and it really got to me today. I did make myself track. If I'm engaging in unhealthy habits that I know aren't good ways to cope, I at least want to be honest about the impact. If I eat all of my food for dinner, I'll be at 2700 calories for the day.
Today has been kind of mixed so far. I skipped zumba last night so I could start the drive to my parents' house a little earlier and not be as at risk for falling asleep. But! I found a place in my hometown that I can do drop in classes, so I went and danced this morning and I plan to go again on Sunday. I'm really happy and proud about that.
That being said, the food has not been good today for a mix of reasons. My parents show their love with food and made sure to buy a lot of snacks that they know I like because they were so happy that I am home for the weekend. My dad is also bringing Chinese food home for dinner. This isn't really any different than any other trip home and I had gotten pretty good at eating some of the things, but not an unreasonable amount. I'll fully admit that I'm struggling a little bit emotionally. My mom left around noon today to go see her family and my dad has been at work all day. That means I'm on grandma babysitting duty. Pretty sure my dad is also avoiding coming home so he's at the bar getting a couple drinks. I don't begrudge either of them these things. My mom only gets to see her family a few times a year and my dad almost never gets to go have a beer with a couple people because of my grandma. They're both burnt out with taking care of her (and so are me and my brother). She's been living with them for 10 years now and her Alzheimer's is getting pretty bad at this point. My dad seems incapable of making a decision about her care even though we're pretty much at the point where it's unmanageable for her to stay at home. It's just depressing and frustrating and it really sucks. Living in the situation is part of the reason I binge ate my way up to 280 pounds and it really got to me today. I did make myself track. If I'm engaging in unhealthy habits that I know aren't good ways to cope, I at least want to be honest about the impact. If I eat all of my food for dinner, I'll be at 2700 calories for the day.
Jenniquest
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That's awesome you found a place for classes in your hometown. I'm proud of you too! 
Wow, very difficult situation with your grandma. I imagine it causes a lot of stress and anxiety. That is a tough illness. Keeping yall in my prayers.
Wow, very difficult situation with your grandma. I imagine it causes a lot of stress and anxiety. That is a tough illness. Keeping yall in my prayers.
Brent Loewen
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You never stop searching for a way to make the best of a tough situation; a great quality.
Cate
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Cory, my Mum had Altzeimers & I moved her interstate to be near me, with the approval of my brother & sister. I could not have looked after her myself & saved my own sanity. Your parents have done an amazing thing looking after your grandmother for 10 years. I hope your Dad will find the strength to realise that the time has come to find a care home for your grandma. It is not a failure. Your parents' relationship is as important as anyone else's. Kudos to you Cory for being so supportive to them xoxo
-Cory-
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Hale: The geographic distance absolutely helps, but I also feel guilty that I am unable to help my parents in the way that I could when I lived close to them. With both my brother and I being four hours away now, it pretty much all rests on them.
Jenni: I appreciate the prayers and positive thoughts.
Brent: All you can do is keep stepping forward.
Cate: It's incredibly hard. We're somewhat limited in what we can do. Long story short, my dad's sister stole most of my grandma's money before she died and my grandma didn't realize because she was already in the middle stages of her Alzheimer's (and my aunt was doping her up with Xanax all the time that we have no idea how she got). My grandma only really has enough money left for maybe 2 or 3 years in a decent care facility and my parents can't really help unless they want to compromise their retirement. Both of them are in their mid 60s right now. Add to the fact that my dad feels guilty for not realizing what was going on sooner and it has basically meant that he feels like there is no choice here.
Lama: She's been in the middle stage for most of the last ten years. It's been mostly in the last year that she has really started to deteriorate. She still knows who we are, but she's starting to have trouble getting dressed on her own. Her incontinence is getting worse. She can't find her own bedroom. She'll sleep for 20 hours a day if we let her. It's harder for her to eat so we have to feed her weight gain shakes. I'm not sure how much longer this can last. But we also kind of feel like if we were going to transfer to a home, we should have done it sooner. I'm pretty convinced that if we tried it now, it would probably kill her.
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Today was.....weird. A very extreme mix of good and bad. I went and got my hair cut (yes, I travel 4 hours to my home town to get my hair cut), hung out with my best friend for four hours, went weight lifting and had a pretty decent session, my car got rear ended, and my dad and I got into a little bit of a fight. I'm so happy I saw my friend. I can honestly say that outside of my immediate family, he's the person I miss the most now that I've moved and we haven't been able to hang out one on one in a while. In terms of my car, luckily I wasn't hurt and I don't think the car has a scratch on it. However, it's still pretty unsettling to be in an accident and I lost an hour of my life sitting on the side of the road waiting for the cop to do her thing. I got hit on the way to go lift and I really thought about skipping, but there wasn't really a reason not to go other than being a little shook up. Miss this gym. It was nice to catch up with some people from the strength community in my hometown.
Food was a little better today. I kept it as 2200, which is at least basically maintenance. Not great, but at least it's not enough to gain either.
Exercise:
Deadlifts:
125 lbs for 1x3
145 lbs for 1x3
160 lbs for 1x5
Military Press:
55 lbs for 1x3
65 lbs for 1x3
75 lbs for 1x7
Banded Leg Curls:
3x25
Dumbbell Rows:
15 lbs 3x12
Fire Hydrants:
3x15
Planks:
3x30 seconds long
I didn't do much walking today. That had a lot to do with sitting in the hair dressers for 2 hours and then sitting in a coffee shop with my friend for 4 hours.
Jenni: I appreciate the prayers and positive thoughts.
Brent: All you can do is keep stepping forward.
Cate: It's incredibly hard. We're somewhat limited in what we can do. Long story short, my dad's sister stole most of my grandma's money before she died and my grandma didn't realize because she was already in the middle stages of her Alzheimer's (and my aunt was doping her up with Xanax all the time that we have no idea how she got). My grandma only really has enough money left for maybe 2 or 3 years in a decent care facility and my parents can't really help unless they want to compromise their retirement. Both of them are in their mid 60s right now. Add to the fact that my dad feels guilty for not realizing what was going on sooner and it has basically meant that he feels like there is no choice here.
Lama: She's been in the middle stage for most of the last ten years. It's been mostly in the last year that she has really started to deteriorate. She still knows who we are, but she's starting to have trouble getting dressed on her own. Her incontinence is getting worse. She can't find her own bedroom. She'll sleep for 20 hours a day if we let her. It's harder for her to eat so we have to feed her weight gain shakes. I'm not sure how much longer this can last. But we also kind of feel like if we were going to transfer to a home, we should have done it sooner. I'm pretty convinced that if we tried it now, it would probably kill her.
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Today was.....weird. A very extreme mix of good and bad. I went and got my hair cut (yes, I travel 4 hours to my home town to get my hair cut), hung out with my best friend for four hours, went weight lifting and had a pretty decent session, my car got rear ended, and my dad and I got into a little bit of a fight. I'm so happy I saw my friend. I can honestly say that outside of my immediate family, he's the person I miss the most now that I've moved and we haven't been able to hang out one on one in a while. In terms of my car, luckily I wasn't hurt and I don't think the car has a scratch on it. However, it's still pretty unsettling to be in an accident and I lost an hour of my life sitting on the side of the road waiting for the cop to do her thing. I got hit on the way to go lift and I really thought about skipping, but there wasn't really a reason not to go other than being a little shook up. Miss this gym. It was nice to catch up with some people from the strength community in my hometown.
Food was a little better today. I kept it as 2200, which is at least basically maintenance. Not great, but at least it's not enough to gain either.
Exercise:
Deadlifts:
125 lbs for 1x3
145 lbs for 1x3
160 lbs for 1x5
Military Press:
55 lbs for 1x3
65 lbs for 1x3
75 lbs for 1x7
Banded Leg Curls:
3x25
Dumbbell Rows:
15 lbs 3x12
Fire Hydrants:
3x15
Planks:
3x30 seconds long
I didn't do much walking today. That had a lot to do with sitting in the hair dressers for 2 hours and then sitting in a coffee shop with my friend for 4 hours.
Brent Loewen
New member
Sorry to hear about the accident and tiff with your dad! Happy to hear u rocked a workout and hooked up with your friend! Love it!
-Cory-
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Not a whole lot to say about today. Ate around maintenance, again. Went to zumba this morning. Made the drive back to my place from my parents'. It seemed to take forever, probably because it rained the whole time.
I read back over my posts for the last couple weeks, looking for the good and the bad.
The good: I have been very consistent with the gym and my overall mental state has definitely improved from it. Very little anxiety over the last week in particular.
The bad: I need to be more consistent with my diet. Almost every day last week was at maintenance or above. A lot of that was due to social situations where I had limited control over what I eat and I don't think there will be as much of that this week. Still, I clearly need to learn some coping mechanisms and strategies for moderating what I eat when I'm not cooking for myself.
I read back over my posts for the last couple weeks, looking for the good and the bad.
The good: I have been very consistent with the gym and my overall mental state has definitely improved from it. Very little anxiety over the last week in particular.
The bad: I need to be more consistent with my diet. Almost every day last week was at maintenance or above. A lot of that was due to social situations where I had limited control over what I eat and I don't think there will be as much of that this week. Still, I clearly need to learn some coping mechanisms and strategies for moderating what I eat when I'm not cooking for myself.
Sounds sensible. And I like that you´re not beating yourself up over it but just seeing where you can improve things further.
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