The ChillOut Log
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Just remember...." life's too short " Jackie...and friends are worth their weight in gold IMO....... you have to invest in relationships as much as you have to invest in yourself IMO.
Like an old coach I had used to say........" if you work hard, study hard, train hard & compete hard ... you've earned the right to ....' party hard "
Train hard.
Cheers !
btw - pub life is the U.K IS a big deal isn't it ?
I'm a HUGE ' Coronation Street ' fan btw ...that's why I ask......they drink on that show non-stop !:yelrotflmao:
Thanks hahaha yeah i suppose, i never thought of it really lol
I used to watch that all the time haha
Jackie xx
I want a "Thought for the Day" from WRANGELL......
As you may know Jackie, we Canadians consider beer as one of our major food groups.
So, next time you're in the pub with your friends Jackie, raise ' a pint ' and make a toast with this poignant ' thought for the day ' ....
" Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." -- Benjamin Franklin
Cheers !
.....Just finished watching 4 back to back episodes of ' Coronation Street ' actually.
Will be heading out of town to ' Mennonite country ' later this morning to meet relatives for Easter brunch.
( That is ......if my son ever wakes up........he went to see some ska/punk bands playing in downtown Toronto last night.......never got in till 2:30 a.m.
)Actually, it's on the ' telly ' every night on our local Toronto station at 7:30 p.m. for a half hour episode. All 5 episodes for the entire previous week are shown again back to back Sunday mornings at 7:30 a.m.
I was shocked to find out however, that we here in Canada are 6 months behind
what's being shown in the U.K. My hairdresser hails from London and all her in-laws in the U.K. give her updates of what's to come in the plot lines......and 9 times out of 10 , as she cuts my hair, she'll tell me in advance about what's going to happen to a certain character(s)...which I hate !
yeah that must be annoying, u should politely say u wanna know when u see it
Jackie xx
Jackie:
I sincerely hope this day finds you well, happy, and personally content.
I have been working some 11P to 7A shifts because the Network Supervisor for the night shift had a baby, and I volunteered to work it in his absence. My personal schedule had been "bonked", and I had to make some personal adjustments.
Actually, I like the change, because it throws my entire bodily clock for a loop (you know instead of sleeping the traditional hours), I have to sleep during the day. And, for the past several months, this hasn’t been the pattern. Like wise, I had to adjust my diet (eating pattern; I always adjust calories according need/activity so this wasn’t an issue) and workout schedule. I have done this for quite some time, with fantastic success. When life changes, use knowledge of diet and fitness to adjust to the changes to keep you on track.
And, this leads to my post for you.
There are many persons in this world that live a rich, happy, and fulfilled lives without drinking alcohol, and there are those that live a rich, happy, and fulfilled lives with drinking alcohol in moderation.
The essential key IMO, is taking the knowledge one obtains from diet and fitness and blending it within their lifestyle to such a "personal degree" that permits persistence and consistency within the specific diet and fitness goals one seeks to "grant the allowance" within one's lifestyle to "earn" this diet and fitness goal.
What a person enjoys doing when away from work (recreation, etc) can be "different" then the next person. Likewise what a person does for employment can be different. A persons overall lifestyle can be different, as can money variances, responsibilities, and other personal factors. We cannot provide a blanket effect for all, but there are some educated steps one can try to implement within their lifestyle that can permit one to maintain their goal path and allow "personal" recreation that one likes.
One doesn't have to drink alcohol, and likewise one doesn't have to watch diet or include exercise. "All three are choices" in everyday average living. If one makes the "choice" to drink and includes this in their lifestyle, and has diet and fitness goals (another choice), then one can use diet and fitness knowledge and blend this in their personal life and "make it work through an educated reaction."
Education of diet is essential, and adapting/modifying this diet within one's lifestyle is key, along with understanding the benefits and limitations of exercise equipment available to use and blending this in--and around lifestyle variances.
Outside hiring a personal trainer/nutritionist (which I know presently isn't a option), you are going to have to be your own personal trainer and nutritionist and design a training program and diet structure within your lifestyle that works in conjunction with your activities on the weekends.
And, this is possible.
However, it will take some pre-work and personal development time to get it started. And, this begins with the "degree of seriousness" you personally have for your personal diet and fitness choice, and the willingness to garner the knowledge "necessary" to understand yourself within this diet and fitness knowledge, and then appropriately and personally applying it within your life to allow you to earn your goal you seek.
1. Take some time and seek knowledge of the almighty calorie and energy balance. Really and truly understand this. A lot of persons can discouraged through lack of knowledge in what there trying to do and--how to properly adapt this knowledge within their likes and dislikes and their personal environment (and when it changes).
This means making threads and asking questions. This means getting on GOOGLE and doing specific searches. This means reading books, etc.
2. Take the time to learn about different exercises you can do with your limited exercise equipment. Learn about the different types of body weight exercises. Body weight exercising is an excellent approach to your fitness.
This means to get to making threads and asking questions about them. This means getting on GOOGLE and doing specific searches. This means reading applicable books that are applicable to your situation and goal choice.
3. Earn some understanding on the calories burned during certain exercises that are applicable to you and personal situation.
This means to get to making threads and asking questions about them. This means getting on GOOGLE and doing specific searches. This means reading applicable books that are applicable to your situation and goal choice.
If you choose to drink in moderation, then in-between work and this recreational activity, "fit in your diet and fitness goals to such a personal extent" that this percentage cannot possibly be erased with what makes you happy and desire to do.
Application of knowledge of diet and fitness along with application and knowledge of your limited equipment is the key. You can live your life with diet and fitness and be content with it at the same time.
You don’t have to get obsessed, but you do need to apply "enough of you".
"You need to just blend it in your life just enough" if you want it bad enough, to allow compliance progression toward your goal. We are not striving to be fitness athletes; however, the speed and agility of one's goal can be determined by application within one's lifestyle.
Go at your "educated" speed despite the naysayers. There are always going to be opinions on what you do, "let your education on diet and fitness guide you" according to the bodily feedback you are getting.
Here are some ideas for you to think about:
1. Take your knowledge of the basics and advanced basics of diet (i.e. calorie requirements particular to you, laws of energy balance, etc), and put them to work for you in accordance to what you do. Put them to work for you not against you.
For example: You could develop a 90-10% approach on your diet (or something simular). The 90% could be the time you are working, etc, or in-between your days off (or weekends you want to go out).
I know there are many variable elements from one person to the next, and what works for one may not work for another.
However, I have found with me (anyway), that the body works in "trends" or a pattern as developed through the person. For example, if I were to eat in deficits for say one complete week, and then eat over my MT Line the 8th day, say about 1000 calories, I tend to be leaner the following day. The following day I may go back to a small deficit, but the extra calories while providing some bodily benefits (because I eat healthy), didn’t impede my goal path (I have written many posts on this so I will not bore you with this information). And, I do this quite often. I do this for many reasons, but my point here is, that my diet during the 7 week period is spot on with my goal path I want, and eating over doesn’t hurt it (and IMO benefits the situation), and this is my point I am trying to make.
If you can design an acceptable eating pattern (calorie range) that fits within your personal goals during the times you work (or away from your problem weekend), then eating over (or possibly drinking over) your limit with reason, isn't going to hurt your goal you seek. A diet doesn’t "necessarily" need to be 100% clean, and in your case, this is even more the case.
The 90% period will involve a degree of self-discipline and a degree of control you are personally content with. Dependent on your knowledge of food calories (which should improve if you are reading this the way I want you to) and your ability to accurately mentally track will depend on whether you write them down or not. You could begin doing this and as time progresses and you get more comfortable, you can eliminate it; however, do what it takes to get this job completed.
One possible method is to view your calories "specifically within a 24 hour period" during the 90% period. All calorie requirements that is tailored toward your personal goal are to be eaten in a 24 hour period, and if work hours (etc) change, you can adjust this accordingly. Then with "appropriately" tracking your calories within an acceptable personal method during the 90% period you will KNOW entering the weekend where you are currently. You should know the amount of calories you ate, the deficits created each day, and the total deficit for the 90% period (say a 5 day period).
Here you have a "trend" of a specific amount of days in a calorie range shaped toward your goals, and when you are entering into your 10% (weekend), the body (IMO) will be more "tolerant" to a "reasonable" amount of surplus (be it calories from alcohol or other foods).
Have a solid understanding of what your calorie v activity ratio is like leading to the weekend (or days off your concerned with) in accordance to your personal goal, and with proper development, the weekend 10% cannot possibly wipe out the previous 90% IF you are consistent and have a degree of self control.
Here you have personal and accurate knowledge that during the week you maintained (deficits) and trained according to your personal goal, and know when entering your 10% period--that you are staying on your goal path and enjoying what you like, and know you will pick right up where you left off by entering back into your 90%. This 90-10 is maintaining a consistent deficit and the 10% cant possibly erase it (if there is a degree of self-control).
In order to lose fat tissue one has to have a history of consistent calorie deficits, and you can erase this 90% by over indulging far too much or to such an extent that you ate and drank all your deficits for the entire week in one to two days. The body can be very tolerant to excess calories after a deficit, but this can go only so far.
Therefore allow yourself the drink on the weekend, but have a degree of self control as to not allow you to erase the 90%. And you do this with active mental participation in what you are doing on-the-fly. You can shape the two days in two 24 hour cycles. Obtain some knowledge on the calories contained in the type and mounts of lager you drink, and have a general idea on how much you are eating. I am not saying to write these down (LOL), what I am saying is try to limit yourself to obtain a calorie circumference---so you can KNOW whether you have or have not overindulged on these two days, and have in fact erased the 90%. Lets face a fact here. If you deficit for 5 days (say you created a total calorie deficit of 700c per day, 5X700=3,500. This is an approximate 1 pound of tissue. Now you enter your two day weekend, through alcohol and eating, you could possibly eat in excess 1,500 per day, and match your deficit you created during the week. I personally believe that some of this will be tolerated by the body because of the previous deficit trend (to an extent); however, you just ate up some of your progress that you made the previous 5 days, in a two day period.
My point here, is to eat and drink in moderation--and set up a personally tolerable plan of attack for these two days--using the knowledge of DIET as your guide and the tools of this knowledge to lead you through it.
If you want I can give you some ideas. I first need to find out--just how much personal input and effort you are willing to put in to allow you to have fun---and CONTROL your diet and fitness goals at the same time.
Jackie, I say this again, it is appropriate knowledge and application of this knowledge that will assist you, stave off heart ache, and allow you to live life to the fullest extent, and deal effectively with problem areas of life that effect your personal goals.
Have a degree of self control during these two days. Then after these two days, you go back into your 90% period. There may be times (especially) when you see personal progress, you may "opt" to remove one of the two days (from the 10%), which in this case would raise the percentage ratio of the 90%, of course.
The 90% period is the most critical. This is where you train and diet for your personal goal around work activities and is the time that will bring the most benefits. If you falter here (say diet, and not train) it adds to the 10% percentage, and can increase your odds of failure.
If for example you have an idea circumference of the calorie ingested on the weekend, and you may have went just a tad too far, you can use your knowledge of your personal calorie intake, knowledge of calories burned during exercise, and use one (or more) of the 5 days and draw the--"additional" deficit, to make up for it, and maintain your other goal deficit for the week (if you understand what I am saying). See how this simple application of knowledge can work? There are many, many, things one can do when they get ARMED with diet and fitness knowledge--to mess around and manipulate the almighty calorie v activity ratio.
1. What is your current work schedule?
2. What is your current training routine?
3. What is your current calorie approximations, and projected target deficits?
I have followed your journal form the beginning, but I want to get this narrowed down, and assist you to USE DIET AND FITNESS knowledge to work with--not against your two day problem. Never doubt my sincerety in helping you. I have been there from the beginning, and as long as you are breathing, I will always try to help you. However, my assistance (or another) can only go as far as you willing to apply it, and in some cases willing to modify what you apply. Believe me when I tell you, if you learn all you can about diet and fitness, you CAN modify the contents of this knowledge and make it work for you and your lifestyle. Lets work on this part. Okay?!
You have it within you to do all that you want, Jackie. It just takes the tools of knowledge and working these tools into your lifestyle of likes and dislikes, and applying "enough of you" to get it done.
ROCK IT!
Chillen
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A 2,436 word reply to what is - essentially - a basic 30 word question. Wow !
I'm impressed.
( so much for the ' a reply 10X as long in words - max - as the question is in words ' maxim ) my ' Effective Writing ' prof suggested
+ rep
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March 25th, 2008: Thoughts for the day (1)
I hope this day finds you all well. I hope this day has brought you go fortune. I hope this day was a happy one, and you met all adversity face to face and handled it properly. You have it within you to do anything---WAKE IT UP!
Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as you can change your beliefs.
“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.”
(Henry David Thoreau)
(My Favorite Philosopher)
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Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.
(Charles F. Kettering)
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For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.
(Stuart Chase)
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You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can't have it.
(Dr. Robert Anthony)
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The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs
(James Allen)
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Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstances
(Bruce Barton--Repeated)
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One must marry one's feelings to one's beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one's life.
(Napoleon Hill)
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Seek not to understand that you may believe, but believe that you may understand.
(Saint Augustine)
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How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong, because someday in your life, you will have been all of these.
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The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.
(A swedish proverb)
Chillen in interpretation:
We all need support from other people. Love, encouragement, words of advice and friendship help us do things we never thought possible. When people are in your corner, you can feel like taking on any challenge.
As important as help from others may be----->it all has to start with you.
If you’re waiting for someone to solve your problems, or wondering when someone is “going to do something about that”, you may be waiting a long time unless you look to yourself first.
Take responsibility for your own situation and think of what concrete steps you’ll take today to help it.
If you’re going to need help, it’s only fair that the person with the most at stake (you) is willing to make the same effort. When someone is pulling you out of a hole and has grasped your hand, you still must take the first step to climb out, or you’re just going to be hanging there.
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Lastly, accept the fact that you will have good days and bad days.
Sometimes you will feel like the Incredible Hulk, where the weight you lift is light as a feather, and other days you will feel like Pee Wee Herman, when what was easy two days ago feels like a ton today!
Take it as it comes and adjust accordingly. Commit yourself to work hard when it is time to workout and you won’t regret that time spent, I promise brotha and sistas! Be consitent and persistent! This WINS! This also, ROCKS!
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I do believe that the greatest good you can do for another person is not just to share your internal wealth but to reveal to another there own.
(Chillen)
I believe everyone has buried treasures within them. Persons on this forum need someone to believe in them. They need to know that if they take that first step out of their comfort zone, someone will be supporting them all the way--with small words of encouragement, with just a little extra time, patience, and solid and fruitful advice. Band together and bring out the best in others.
(Chillen)
From my heart to all of yours,
Chillen
I hope this day finds you all well. I hope this day has brought you go fortune. I hope this day was a happy one, and you met all adversity face to face and handled it properly. You have it within you to do anything---WAKE IT UP!
Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as you can change your beliefs.
Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.
“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.”
(Henry David Thoreau)
(My Favorite Philosopher)
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Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.
(Charles F. Kettering)
=========================================================
For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.
(Stuart Chase)
=========================================================
You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can't have it.
(Dr. Robert Anthony)
=========================================================
The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs
(James Allen)
=========================================================
Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstances
(Bruce Barton--Repeated)
=========================================================
One must marry one's feelings to one's beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one's life.
(Napoleon Hill)
=========================================================
Seek not to understand that you may believe, but believe that you may understand.
(Saint Augustine)
=========================================================
How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong, because someday in your life, you will have been all of these.
=========================================================
The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.
(A swedish proverb)
Chillen in interpretation:
We all need support from other people. Love, encouragement, words of advice and friendship help us do things we never thought possible. When people are in your corner, you can feel like taking on any challenge.
As important as help from others may be----->it all has to start with you.
If you’re waiting for someone to solve your problems, or wondering when someone is “going to do something about that”, you may be waiting a long time unless you look to yourself first.
Take responsibility for your own situation and think of what concrete steps you’ll take today to help it.
If you’re going to need help, it’s only fair that the person with the most at stake (you) is willing to make the same effort. When someone is pulling you out of a hole and has grasped your hand, you still must take the first step to climb out, or you’re just going to be hanging there.
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Lastly, accept the fact that you will have good days and bad days.
Sometimes you will feel like the Incredible Hulk, where the weight you lift is light as a feather, and other days you will feel like Pee Wee Herman, when what was easy two days ago feels like a ton today!
Take it as it comes and adjust accordingly. Commit yourself to work hard when it is time to workout and you won’t regret that time spent, I promise brotha and sistas! Be consitent and persistent!
This WINS! This also, ROCKS! =======================================================
I do believe that the greatest good you can do for another person is not just to share your internal wealth but to reveal to another there own.
(Chillen)
I believe everyone has buried treasures within them. Persons on this forum need someone to believe in them. They need to know that if they take that first step out of their comfort zone, someone will be supporting them all the way--with small words of encouragement, with just a little extra time, patience, and solid and fruitful advice. Band together and bring out the best in others.
(Chillen)
From my heart to all of yours,
Chillen
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Good morning everybody!
Hope your day goes well today.
Thinking about you all.
BSL, glad your knee feels better. (He, he, yes I read around the forum)
Keep us informed on your progress.
Have you thought about making a journal? This just may be an interesting read, lol.
I got off work at about 1A last night. Its now about 7a (in Kansas), goanna have some breakfast, train, and then son and I are going out to get some fish for his fish tank.
He says his fish are getting fat and need to go on diet. LOL. Since he got them about 3 weeks ago there bellies have grown a tad. (well there friggen huge!).
I just told him to down size the portions, and go in and tap on glass a few times a day (they tend to run swim sporadically in the tank) and this will give them there cardiovascular exercise for the day, and burn calories. LOL.
There is a little one in there with his belly so big it can barely move around. LOL
Time with the youngest this morning, after I train the upper. Shoulder feels good, and I am ready to rock some more.
Each day this old body amazes me. Each day I amaze it with contunued application of chillen-idis and this prevents tendonitis and arthritis!
He, he
Oh
ROCK ON!
Best wishes to you all today.
Chillen
Hope your day goes well today.
Thinking about you all.
BSL, glad your knee feels better. (He, he, yes I read around the forum)
Keep us informed on your progress.
Have you thought about making a journal? This just may be an interesting read, lol.
I got off work at about 1A last night. Its now about 7a (in Kansas), goanna have some breakfast, train, and then son and I are going out to get some fish for his fish tank.
He says his fish are getting fat and need to go on diet. LOL. Since he got them about 3 weeks ago there bellies have grown a tad. (well there friggen huge!).
I just told him to down size the portions, and go in and tap on glass a few times a day (they tend to run swim sporadically in the tank) and this will give them there cardiovascular exercise for the day, and burn calories.
LOL.There is a little one in there with his belly so big it can barely move around. LOL
Time with the youngest this morning, after I train the upper. Shoulder feels good, and I am ready to rock some more.
Each day this old body amazes me. Each day I amaze it with contunued application of chillen-idis and this prevents tendonitis and arthritis!
He, he
Oh
ROCK ON!
Best wishes to you all today.
Chillen
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Heya Chillen , whoa i just read your reply post and thank you so much, I understand what u are saying. I need to work on my diet/calorie/enjoying myself plan. I like to go and have a couple of drinks about 3 nights a week,Its just when i do stay in, sometimes i get bored or something n i decide to eat a sandwich or something (which is defiently going over my calorie deficet-sorry cnt spell)
I think planing ahead and setting it in mind is the key to my success
Jackie xx
I think planing ahead and setting it in mind is the key to my success
Jackie xx
March 26th, 2008: Thoughts for the Day (1)
Everday I wish you the very best. I wish you much happiness, peace, joy, and personal prosperity.
"No man is free who is not master of himself." -- Epicetus.
What does it mean to be the master of yourself? Certainly, each one of us has demands that pull him or her one way or the other, until it seems that we are stretched in all directions. Does being the master of oneself mean that we ignore those demands? Does being master of yourself mean that you never listen to your spouse, your family, or your mother-in-law?
Nope. Being master of yourself goes deeper than that. It all has its root in attitude.
Being the master of yourself goes deeper than getting up when the alarm goes off, although that's an important first step. It means more than controlling your spending or eating habits, although that too is essential. It means more than exercising, even when you don't feel like it, or mowing the lawn when you would prefer to sit in front of the TV and eat cheese puffs.
It means, deep down, and to the core, a control -- a mastery -- of your basic emotions that drive your behavior.
First off, we must control self-doubt.
Many of us doubt ourselves, even though we are loath to admit it. "In his private heart, no man much respects himself," Mark Twain, an adept judge of human nature, wrote. Alexandre Dumas, author of such celebrated classics as The Count of Monte Cristo and The Three Musketeers, put it even plainer: "A person who doubts himself is like man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convicted of it."
Self-doubt is a cancer that limits our future. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy, that forever limits us.
Second, we must control our view of ourselves.
The decisions we make in life are largely determined by the filters we use to judge reality. Few of us will ever be able to take a totally unbiased view of our abilities, because few ever can detach ourselves from our past. If we were able to judge ourselves by the same standards that we apply to our friends and family, we might be able to gain a better viewpoint. The Scottish poet Robert Burns wrote the following (loosely translated): "Oh, that some power give us the gift to see ourselves as others see us." (The original is "Oh, wad some power the giftie gie us to see oursel's as ithers see us." I think I did pretty well.).
Only when we can make a reasonable, positive view of our abilities, will we ever gain the upper hand. Herb Cohen, who is billed as "The World's Greatest Negotiator," had an interesting take on this. Herb said in his tape series on negotiation that he tends to downplay his failures, or possibly blame them on other people. While it is important for us to keep a reasonably accurate view of our life and our abilities, it's also important for us to not shortchange ourselves, and we are wont to do. Keeping a positive spin on our abilities can make a major difference.
Third, we must be fair with ourselves. Being fair with an employee, doesn't mean constant praise. Sometimes, being fair means that correction where a change is needed. So we need to be fair with ourselves, even though that fairness may mean a rational set of changes that need to be made. Few of us are ever fair with ourselves.
Fourth, to master ourselves, we must master our emotions. Famed success expert Tony Robbins speaks at length about mastering our emotions. So many of us allow moods to control ourselves. If the day is bleak, we get bleaker. If the night is dark, we get darker. We take our emotions to an extreme, and never really become the master of our fate.
Fifth, to become a master, we must practice. By its very nature, Mastery requires practice. It requires work. It requires dedication, change, sacrifice.
Sixth, remember to protect yourself from self-pity. "Self-pity is our worst enemy," said Helen Keller, who had every reason to engage in self pity. "If we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world."
Seventh, practice occasional self-renewal. Like a blighted neighborhood, sometimes, you've just got to tear old things down in yourself, and build up something new. Too often, we let the dust of the world clog up the life of our soul. Sometimes, we've just got to do some dusting.
Eighth, give yourself a push. Set goals to work on the parts you want to master first. Choose the one area that is most standing in your way, and goal for a change. Set a specific, detailed goal, a date for achievement, then plan out your path to success.
Ninth, learn to like yourself. "I don't like myself," said Mae West. "I'm crazy about myself."
(Darryl R Gibson)
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Come on brotha and sistas........
Be your own master of your personal development!
THIS ROCKS!
You have it within you!
YOU REALLY DO!
SMILE!
ALL OF YOU ROCK!
I wish ALL OF YOU the best in all that you do each and every day.
Look up.......you see that bright star in the sky?
THIS IS YOU!
Chillen
Everday I wish you the very best. I wish you much happiness, peace, joy, and personal prosperity.
Being Master of Yourself
"No man is free who is not master of himself." -- Epicetus.
What does it mean to be the master of yourself? Certainly, each one of us has demands that pull him or her one way or the other, until it seems that we are stretched in all directions. Does being the master of oneself mean that we ignore those demands? Does being master of yourself mean that you never listen to your spouse, your family, or your mother-in-law?
Nope. Being master of yourself goes deeper than that. It all has its root in attitude.
Being the master of yourself goes deeper than getting up when the alarm goes off, although that's an important first step. It means more than controlling your spending or eating habits, although that too is essential. It means more than exercising, even when you don't feel like it, or mowing the lawn when you would prefer to sit in front of the TV and eat cheese puffs.
It means, deep down, and to the core, a control -- a mastery -- of your basic emotions that drive your behavior.
First off, we must control self-doubt.
Many of us doubt ourselves, even though we are loath to admit it. "In his private heart, no man much respects himself," Mark Twain, an adept judge of human nature, wrote. Alexandre Dumas, author of such celebrated classics as The Count of Monte Cristo and The Three Musketeers, put it even plainer: "A person who doubts himself is like man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convicted of it."
Self-doubt is a cancer that limits our future. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy, that forever limits us.
Second, we must control our view of ourselves.
The decisions we make in life are largely determined by the filters we use to judge reality. Few of us will ever be able to take a totally unbiased view of our abilities, because few ever can detach ourselves from our past. If we were able to judge ourselves by the same standards that we apply to our friends and family, we might be able to gain a better viewpoint. The Scottish poet Robert Burns wrote the following (loosely translated): "Oh, that some power give us the gift to see ourselves as others see us." (The original is "Oh, wad some power the giftie gie us to see oursel's as ithers see us." I think I did pretty well.).
Only when we can make a reasonable, positive view of our abilities, will we ever gain the upper hand. Herb Cohen, who is billed as "The World's Greatest Negotiator," had an interesting take on this. Herb said in his tape series on negotiation that he tends to downplay his failures, or possibly blame them on other people. While it is important for us to keep a reasonably accurate view of our life and our abilities, it's also important for us to not shortchange ourselves, and we are wont to do. Keeping a positive spin on our abilities can make a major difference.
Third, we must be fair with ourselves. Being fair with an employee, doesn't mean constant praise. Sometimes, being fair means that correction where a change is needed. So we need to be fair with ourselves, even though that fairness may mean a rational set of changes that need to be made. Few of us are ever fair with ourselves.
Fourth, to master ourselves, we must master our emotions. Famed success expert Tony Robbins speaks at length about mastering our emotions. So many of us allow moods to control ourselves. If the day is bleak, we get bleaker. If the night is dark, we get darker. We take our emotions to an extreme, and never really become the master of our fate.
Fifth, to become a master, we must practice. By its very nature, Mastery requires practice. It requires work. It requires dedication, change, sacrifice.
Sixth, remember to protect yourself from self-pity. "Self-pity is our worst enemy," said Helen Keller, who had every reason to engage in self pity. "If we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world."
Seventh, practice occasional self-renewal. Like a blighted neighborhood, sometimes, you've just got to tear old things down in yourself, and build up something new. Too often, we let the dust of the world clog up the life of our soul. Sometimes, we've just got to do some dusting.
Eighth, give yourself a push. Set goals to work on the parts you want to master first. Choose the one area that is most standing in your way, and goal for a change. Set a specific, detailed goal, a date for achievement, then plan out your path to success.
Ninth, learn to like yourself. "I don't like myself," said Mae West. "I'm crazy about myself."
(Darryl R Gibson)
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Come on brotha and sistas........
Be your own master of your personal development!
THIS ROCKS!
You have it within you!
YOU REALLY DO!
SMILE!
ALL OF YOU ROCK!
I wish ALL OF YOU the best in all that you do each and every day.
Look up.......you see that bright star in the sky?
THIS IS YOU!
Chillen
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