4lbs in a little over a month?!?!?!!?!?!?
thats absolutely crazy! and still lean as ever!??!?!?! keep doing what you'r doing!
thats absolutely crazy! and still lean as ever!??!?!?! keep doing what you'r doing!
The ChillOut Log
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About 5 1/2 weeks approx. With a pretty complicated zig-zag diet (4s,3d,-then 5s, 2d (three weeks of this arrangement), and then 3s, 4d, and so on each week was different). Anyway, the fat did not accumulate, PB. I may have had some on the (inside organ area-possibly in being so lean), but not on the outside. I have learned that a surplus of +300 to +400 per day on surplus days serves well under current system of training, adjoined with a careful deficit set back.
Surplus per week averaged around 2600 or thereabouts (without looking at the data. In any event without getting overly into it, it worked just great.
Hows jackie this afternoon? heya im good its now sunday morning for me, are you like 5 hours behind me?? sorry if i should know this
I will talke a look.
I had a pretty busy day today.
Have to get cought up on the forum activity...... yeah keep it up man
ROCK ON! Jackie......... yeah keep rockin on, so we can all rock together
Good afternoon to you, Girl.....
Good sunday morning to you chillen
Jackie xxx
AMEN!!! This is EXACTLY my way of living. It's what I believe.
Chillen - i love all your poems and ryhmes, they are very inspiring to me, Thankyou
As you seem to enjoy writing long threads about different subjects in life, i was wondering, if you could write something about the best way to live life, and as im 18 and i dont know what i want out of life could you give me some words on how to use the time and energy wisely
Jackie xx
As you seem to enjoy writing long threads about different subjects in life, i was wondering, if you could write something about the best way to live life, and as im 18 and i dont know what i want out of life could you give me some words on how to use the time and energy wisely
Jackie xx
September 10th, 2007: Thoughts for the day
For my Friend Jackie:
An aerial view of most cities would reveal swarms of people frantically racing about. Everyone is in a hurry. If you stop someone and ask how they are, they will reply, "Busy. Very busy." They certainly are active, but often their actions are undirected or misdirected. They seem to be busy for the sake of being busy. They are involved in the business of busyness. Disheveled and unorganized, they are too busy to get organized. They are so busy mopping the floor, they have no time to turn off the faucet.
The price they pay for their endless flurry of activity is high. At the end of the day, or before, they are stressed out, burned out, and wiped out. Instead of a life of serenity, they lead lives of frustration, resentment, and anger. Because they are too busy to have time for anything important, they feel empty. They feel as though they are plodding through a meaningless existence.
Also, because they have forgotten that people are more important than paperwork, their relationships suffer. They are worried about losing time, but not about losing their potential. They work hard for the growth of the company, but ignore their self-growth. The toll of their busyness is also the loss of excellence, for they abandon the practice of doing few things well for that of doing many things poorly. The speed at which they work causes errors and drains them of the energy that is needed to cope with problems.
Self-educated longshoreman and author of eleven books, Eric Hoffer (1902 ~ 1983), had this to say, "We are warned not to waste time, but we are brought up to waste our lives." The cult of busyness is destroying our spirit. The problem, by the way, is not new. You see, the Chinese Character for BUSY is at least 2,000 years old. And the character is composed of two parts: the left side, which means SPIRIT (heart), and the right side, which means DEATH or DESTRUCTION. So, it was clear in the minds of the ancient Chinese that excessive busyness destroys our spirit.
How do we fight against the assassination of our spirit? By taking time and making time to collect our thoughts. If we are to move from impulsive action to directed action, we need to take the time to plan, marshal our resources, and build our enthusiasm. If we are to go from "I'm busy" to "I'm productive," we must make the time to focus on what is important and then take purposeful action.
Our spirit is a creative force that has the power to bring about our dreams. But it needs quiet time to study our options, analyze obstacles, and build a road map to success. If we allow ourselves to get ensnared in a cyclone of busyness, the ember of our spirit's dream will be blown out. Many people are too busy worrying about what they've done to think about what they're doing. We have to reverse that trend by being aware of our actions, always thinking before we act, always reflecting on the results of our actions.
The question facing us is: How do we find the time to live? How do we disentangle ourselves from the web of busyness? Traditional approaches have been to turn to time management with the hope of learning how to squeeze extra hours out of the day. Assuming that I uncover another three hours a day to work with, how does that help me if I'm too exhausted to do anything else? So, the solution seems to lie in ENERGY management, not TIME management. To read about this fascinating idea and learn how to untap your energy with the Full Engagement Training System, get a copy of the New York Times best-seller, "The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz (Free Press Paperbacks, 2003).
One of the best ways to save time is to do things right the first time. "Desire to have things done quickly prevents their being done properly." If you agree with that, you agree with the words of Confucius, who taught that in the 6th century BCE. There's something else you can do to regain control of your life, and it's something Confucius never thought of; mainly, turning off the TV.
Staying up late at night to 'relax' or get extra work done is self-defeating because you are denying your body the rest it needs to perform at top efficiency. Another mistake some make is refusing to say NO to the excessive expectations of family, friends, and coworkers. Sure, doing favors is fine, but when others do far less for you than you do for them, it places an unfair burden on you. You keep their friendship, but become your own enemy.
An excellent way to create more time is to perform several goals simultaneously. For example, when you take the family to the park for a game of volleyball, you are enjoying family time, calming the mind with recreation (re-creation), caring for your body with exercise, and recharging your spirit with the beauty of nature.
Another factor to consider is your interpretation of 'success.' Are you striving to HAVE more or BE more? I know a lawyer who sold his practice, moved to the country with his family, and opened an inn. He and his family have discovered they are getting far more from life, despite their lower income. Do you really need a Hummer or will a Honda Civic do? The savings in the price of the car, insurance, maintenance, and gas means you don't have to work as hard. Is it a Hummer you want or happiness? Remember, even if you win the rat race, you remain a rat, trapped in the maze of busyness.
Both busyness and laziness lead to the same end, the neglect of important goals. Our task, then, is to treat time with the respect it deserves. After all, it is both a limited and a nonrenewable resource. Time is our lifeblood; it is destined to reap great benefits if we use it wisely. Of course, we cannot change overnight, making a 180-degree turn from a life of busyness to one of purposeful and carefully thought out action. But we can begin to take baby steps today and bit by bit regain control of our lives.
If you are ever tempted to think that you don't have enough time, consider the poem of Purzil Crofe:
A busy man complained one day:
"I get no time!" "What's that you say?"
Cried out his friend, a lazy quiz;
"You have, sir, all the time there is.
There's plenty, too, and don't you doubt it --
We're never for an hour without it."
How can we complain that we don't have enough time when every hour of our lives contains sixty minutes? It's not time that we lack, but the willingness to make tough choices. Andrew du Frame tells it like it is, "There comes a time in a man's life when he has to make a choice. And there are only two things to choose. Get busy living or get busy dying." Which one will it be for you?
(Chuck Gallozzi)
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By May Chew
Procrastination is a situation most people face at one time or another. It can either mean not starting something or not finishing. If prolonged, it can become a bad habit. The main cause of procrastination is the lack of motivation. The reason why people fail to get started or fail to finish a project is because there is not a strong enough reason. Once there is a reason strong enough, the chances are that you will accomplish the task. When there is a strong enough negative consequence of not completing the task.
Secondly, the task may task may seem too overwhelming. People fear failing the task because they think they cannot make it through.
Jim Rohn has suggested 2 powerful tips to deal with procrastination
1) Break it down.
The key to achievement is your ability to break down the task into manageable pieces and knock them off one at one time. Focus on accomplishing what's right in front of you at this moment. Substitute real-time positive thinking for negative future visualization. That's the first all- important technique for bringing an end to procrastination. Planning ahead for the next half year to one year may seem overwhelming for some people- why not just look at today? Don't look any further ahead than that. Just one day at a time. And do it consistently. You may want to set a time frame for accomplishing the task. You will be surprised - just by thinking through and planning you're setting yourself to accomplish the goal unconsciously and you may even beat your own deadline!!
2) Write it down.
We know how important writing is to goal setting. The writing you'll do for beating procrastination is very similar. Instead of focusing on the future, however, you're now going to be writing about the present just as you experience it every day. You will need to keep a record and diary of your activities. It forces you to see what you're actually doing... and what you're not doing.Make a quick note of the time you began the activity and the time it ends wherever you are. Try to make this notation as soon as possible.It is recommended you do this every thirty minutes, and keep this up for at least a week.
The distractions, detours and downright time wasters that you will see during the course of the day will amaze you. Once you realize how much these distractions pull you away from what you have set yourself out to do, you will start to be drawn towards your goals again.
In summary, have a strong enough reason to do the task.Break down the task. Be cognizant of the distraction and get rid of them.You will be set for action sooner than you think. Keep at this consistently for 21 days, stick to this task and you will find that you have created a habit that will stick. That will end your tendency to procrastinate.
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By Leanne Hoagland-Smith
Is time management or the lack thereof getting the best of you? Before embarking on another time management strategy, take the time to assess where you are. The ability to self assess yourself is a necessary self leadership skill.
When asking for directions to get somewhere, what is the first response that you hear from the other person on the end of the phone line or in front of you? Where are you?” Of course! Until someone knows where you are they cannot provide the necessary directions that you need to get to where you want to go.
Time management is no different. Where are you in your life? Let me help you right now to answer that question. So, grab a sheet of paper and a pencil.
Draw a rather large circle to allow you space to write in the circle
You need 8 equal parts within the circle
Draw a line dividing the circle into 2 equal halves
Draw another line dividing the circle into 4 equal quarters
Draw a third line that divides two of the opposing quarters into 2 equal parts
Draw a fourth line that divides the other two opposing quarters into 2 equal parts
Your circle should now should be 8 equal parts
Next:
Beginning in the 1/8 section from the top center position and going clockwise write the word Purpose
Then in each of the sections going clockwise write one word with the first one being Mental
Career
Family
Ethics & Beliefs or Spiritual (Select the term you feel more comfortable and that represents your life style
Physical
Financial
Social
Congratulations. You have just constructed your Life While. You should now have eight sections each having one word or phrase within each piece of your Life Wheel.
Now place a zero at the center of the Life Wheel and label the far outer rim or circumference of the circle 100. Then assess yourself in each area of this Life Wheel from the center moving outward much like eating a piece of pie by asking yourself one of these questions:
What percentage from 0 to 100 have I achieved for that section?
How happy am I from 0 to 100 right now for that section?
How much of my potential from 0 to 100 have I used for that section?
Upon completion make sure you date this sheet of paper and save it for now you have the answer to where you are. After doing this activity with hundreds of individuals probably closer to thousands because I have lost count, what I have learned is the following:
Most people do not know their purpose in life
Most people have a wheel that is unbalanced
Very few people are at the 90 to 100 in all 8 aspects of their lives
If you will also notice that the areas within this wheel counter balance each other. For if our mental state is not where we want it to be, usually our physical state is suffering as well. Also, you may intentionally be out of balance. For example, if you are changing jobs, this may result in a temporary lack of balance financially as well as to your family and social areas.
Now that you know where you are, you can begin to set goals to even up your wheel. Remember, effective time management is about goal setting and goal achievement as well as utilizing your self leadership skills such as assessing and reflection. When you understand that your goals determine your effective use of time, you will begin to improve time management skills.
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To keep this in one spot, Have the articles here, appropriately credited. I visit these sites often to get good reads like these.
More coming.............for my friend Jackie......
For my Friend Jackie:
Using Time Wisely
Finding time to live
Finding time to live
An aerial view of most cities would reveal swarms of people frantically racing about. Everyone is in a hurry. If you stop someone and ask how they are, they will reply, "Busy. Very busy." They certainly are active, but often their actions are undirected or misdirected. They seem to be busy for the sake of being busy. They are involved in the business of busyness. Disheveled and unorganized, they are too busy to get organized. They are so busy mopping the floor, they have no time to turn off the faucet.
The price they pay for their endless flurry of activity is high. At the end of the day, or before, they are stressed out, burned out, and wiped out. Instead of a life of serenity, they lead lives of frustration, resentment, and anger. Because they are too busy to have time for anything important, they feel empty. They feel as though they are plodding through a meaningless existence.
Also, because they have forgotten that people are more important than paperwork, their relationships suffer. They are worried about losing time, but not about losing their potential. They work hard for the growth of the company, but ignore their self-growth. The toll of their busyness is also the loss of excellence, for they abandon the practice of doing few things well for that of doing many things poorly. The speed at which they work causes errors and drains them of the energy that is needed to cope with problems.
Self-educated longshoreman and author of eleven books, Eric Hoffer (1902 ~ 1983), had this to say, "We are warned not to waste time, but we are brought up to waste our lives." The cult of busyness is destroying our spirit. The problem, by the way, is not new. You see, the Chinese Character for BUSY is at least 2,000 years old. And the character is composed of two parts: the left side, which means SPIRIT (heart), and the right side, which means DEATH or DESTRUCTION. So, it was clear in the minds of the ancient Chinese that excessive busyness destroys our spirit.
How do we fight against the assassination of our spirit? By taking time and making time to collect our thoughts. If we are to move from impulsive action to directed action, we need to take the time to plan, marshal our resources, and build our enthusiasm. If we are to go from "I'm busy" to "I'm productive," we must make the time to focus on what is important and then take purposeful action.
Our spirit is a creative force that has the power to bring about our dreams. But it needs quiet time to study our options, analyze obstacles, and build a road map to success. If we allow ourselves to get ensnared in a cyclone of busyness, the ember of our spirit's dream will be blown out. Many people are too busy worrying about what they've done to think about what they're doing. We have to reverse that trend by being aware of our actions, always thinking before we act, always reflecting on the results of our actions.
The question facing us is: How do we find the time to live? How do we disentangle ourselves from the web of busyness? Traditional approaches have been to turn to time management with the hope of learning how to squeeze extra hours out of the day. Assuming that I uncover another three hours a day to work with, how does that help me if I'm too exhausted to do anything else? So, the solution seems to lie in ENERGY management, not TIME management. To read about this fascinating idea and learn how to untap your energy with the Full Engagement Training System, get a copy of the New York Times best-seller, "The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz (Free Press Paperbacks, 2003).
One of the best ways to save time is to do things right the first time. "Desire to have things done quickly prevents their being done properly." If you agree with that, you agree with the words of Confucius, who taught that in the 6th century BCE. There's something else you can do to regain control of your life, and it's something Confucius never thought of; mainly, turning off the TV.
Staying up late at night to 'relax' or get extra work done is self-defeating because you are denying your body the rest it needs to perform at top efficiency. Another mistake some make is refusing to say NO to the excessive expectations of family, friends, and coworkers. Sure, doing favors is fine, but when others do far less for you than you do for them, it places an unfair burden on you. You keep their friendship, but become your own enemy.
An excellent way to create more time is to perform several goals simultaneously. For example, when you take the family to the park for a game of volleyball, you are enjoying family time, calming the mind with recreation (re-creation), caring for your body with exercise, and recharging your spirit with the beauty of nature.
Another factor to consider is your interpretation of 'success.' Are you striving to HAVE more or BE more? I know a lawyer who sold his practice, moved to the country with his family, and opened an inn. He and his family have discovered they are getting far more from life, despite their lower income. Do you really need a Hummer or will a Honda Civic do? The savings in the price of the car, insurance, maintenance, and gas means you don't have to work as hard. Is it a Hummer you want or happiness? Remember, even if you win the rat race, you remain a rat, trapped in the maze of busyness.
Both busyness and laziness lead to the same end, the neglect of important goals. Our task, then, is to treat time with the respect it deserves. After all, it is both a limited and a nonrenewable resource. Time is our lifeblood; it is destined to reap great benefits if we use it wisely. Of course, we cannot change overnight, making a 180-degree turn from a life of busyness to one of purposeful and carefully thought out action. But we can begin to take baby steps today and bit by bit regain control of our lives.
If you are ever tempted to think that you don't have enough time, consider the poem of Purzil Crofe:
A busy man complained one day:
"I get no time!" "What's that you say?"
Cried out his friend, a lazy quiz;
"You have, sir, all the time there is.
There's plenty, too, and don't you doubt it --
We're never for an hour without it."
How can we complain that we don't have enough time when every hour of our lives contains sixty minutes? It's not time that we lack, but the willingness to make tough choices. Andrew du Frame tells it like it is, "There comes a time in a man's life when he has to make a choice. And there are only two things to choose. Get busy living or get busy dying." Which one will it be for you?
(Chuck Gallozzi)
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Overcome Procrastination and Achieve What you Want
By May Chew
Procrastination is a situation most people face at one time or another. It can either mean not starting something or not finishing. If prolonged, it can become a bad habit. The main cause of procrastination is the lack of motivation. The reason why people fail to get started or fail to finish a project is because there is not a strong enough reason. Once there is a reason strong enough, the chances are that you will accomplish the task. When there is a strong enough negative consequence of not completing the task.
Secondly, the task may task may seem too overwhelming. People fear failing the task because they think they cannot make it through.
Jim Rohn has suggested 2 powerful tips to deal with procrastination
1) Break it down.
The key to achievement is your ability to break down the task into manageable pieces and knock them off one at one time. Focus on accomplishing what's right in front of you at this moment. Substitute real-time positive thinking for negative future visualization. That's the first all- important technique for bringing an end to procrastination. Planning ahead for the next half year to one year may seem overwhelming for some people- why not just look at today? Don't look any further ahead than that. Just one day at a time. And do it consistently. You may want to set a time frame for accomplishing the task. You will be surprised - just by thinking through and planning you're setting yourself to accomplish the goal unconsciously and you may even beat your own deadline!!
2) Write it down.
We know how important writing is to goal setting. The writing you'll do for beating procrastination is very similar. Instead of focusing on the future, however, you're now going to be writing about the present just as you experience it every day. You will need to keep a record and diary of your activities. It forces you to see what you're actually doing... and what you're not doing.Make a quick note of the time you began the activity and the time it ends wherever you are. Try to make this notation as soon as possible.It is recommended you do this every thirty minutes, and keep this up for at least a week.
The distractions, detours and downright time wasters that you will see during the course of the day will amaze you. Once you realize how much these distractions pull you away from what you have set yourself out to do, you will start to be drawn towards your goals again.
In summary, have a strong enough reason to do the task.Break down the task. Be cognizant of the distraction and get rid of them.You will be set for action sooner than you think. Keep at this consistently for 21 days, stick to this task and you will find that you have created a habit that will stick. That will end your tendency to procrastinate.
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Improve Time Management Skill - Assess Where You Are
By Leanne Hoagland-Smith
Is time management or the lack thereof getting the best of you? Before embarking on another time management strategy, take the time to assess where you are. The ability to self assess yourself is a necessary self leadership skill.
When asking for directions to get somewhere, what is the first response that you hear from the other person on the end of the phone line or in front of you? Where are you?” Of course! Until someone knows where you are they cannot provide the necessary directions that you need to get to where you want to go.
Time management is no different. Where are you in your life? Let me help you right now to answer that question. So, grab a sheet of paper and a pencil.
Draw a rather large circle to allow you space to write in the circle
You need 8 equal parts within the circle
Draw a line dividing the circle into 2 equal halves
Draw another line dividing the circle into 4 equal quarters
Draw a third line that divides two of the opposing quarters into 2 equal parts
Draw a fourth line that divides the other two opposing quarters into 2 equal parts
Your circle should now should be 8 equal parts
Next:
Beginning in the 1/8 section from the top center position and going clockwise write the word Purpose
Then in each of the sections going clockwise write one word with the first one being Mental
Career
Family
Ethics & Beliefs or Spiritual (Select the term you feel more comfortable and that represents your life style
Physical
Financial
Social
Congratulations. You have just constructed your Life While. You should now have eight sections each having one word or phrase within each piece of your Life Wheel.
Now place a zero at the center of the Life Wheel and label the far outer rim or circumference of the circle 100. Then assess yourself in each area of this Life Wheel from the center moving outward much like eating a piece of pie by asking yourself one of these questions:
What percentage from 0 to 100 have I achieved for that section?
How happy am I from 0 to 100 right now for that section?
How much of my potential from 0 to 100 have I used for that section?
Upon completion make sure you date this sheet of paper and save it for now you have the answer to where you are. After doing this activity with hundreds of individuals probably closer to thousands because I have lost count, what I have learned is the following:
Most people do not know their purpose in life
Most people have a wheel that is unbalanced
Very few people are at the 90 to 100 in all 8 aspects of their lives
If you will also notice that the areas within this wheel counter balance each other. For if our mental state is not where we want it to be, usually our physical state is suffering as well. Also, you may intentionally be out of balance. For example, if you are changing jobs, this may result in a temporary lack of balance financially as well as to your family and social areas.
Now that you know where you are, you can begin to set goals to even up your wheel. Remember, effective time management is about goal setting and goal achievement as well as utilizing your self leadership skills such as assessing and reflection. When you understand that your goals determine your effective use of time, you will begin to improve time management skills.
=========================================================
To keep this in one spot, Have the articles here, appropriately credited. I visit these sites often to get good reads like these.
More coming.............for my friend Jackie......
September 10th, 2007: Thoughts of the Day (2)
An interesting perspective, for my friend Jackie (if your wanting a different angle let me know, my friend)
(Credit: )
I did a little thing today that brought me so much joy. Such a little thing it was, you wouldn't think it would be a big deal. But a Blast o' Joy it surely was. As the saying goes...sometimes it's the little things that make a big, big difference. Remember the story of the Princess who couldn't sleep because of a pea under her mattress??
One of the biggest things we as dream-pursuers can do for ourselves is all about energy. Cleaning it, clearing it, building it, reserving it...some days I think that's literally all I do, and if I do it well, everything else works fine. So when I did this little thing today I realized it might be time to do some Spring Energy Cleaning. And I wanted to share the idea with you.
It all started with wearing a different pair of shorts last week, because, hurray, it's Spring up here in Canada, finally. And guess what, my spring shorts have a tiny pocket. So tiny my regular set of keys and cell phone don't even begin to fit. Annoying! And annoying again the next day, the day after that, and again today.
So what was the little thing you did Andrea? Well you should ask! I came right home and de-cluttered my keychain. Wow, it was like getting a stain off a favorite shirt after five years. Or declogging an antique sink. It released a whole bunch of energy and now everything about leaving the house is lighter. My purse. My hand-filled-with-keys. My shorts pocket.
There's only two smart questions at a moment like this.
(1) Why oh why didn't I do this before?
I can't even remember what these other 10 keys are for. And who needs three cute keychain thingies anyway? I kept the smallest one - a cute wee thing from Maui earlier this year.
(2) What else am I tolerating? What else - like the keychain - can I de-clutter?
Tolerations are actually a word a lot of coaches use. In fact, even though coaching can seem like a really mystical thing that happens, a lot of times you can get a lot of great coaching done just by focussing on getting rid of tolerations.
Once they are gone, so many of the other challenges and opportunites in life become effortless because you now have the energy to pay them their due. Simple. Sometimes really deep tolerations can take some time to zap, but the principle is simple, really.
So, my Joyful Friend, shall we cut to the nitty gritty? Can you think of 10 things you are putting up with, gritting your teeth and ignoring? Make a list now and one by one, scratch them off your list.
Here are a few more of my tolerations which I've just dispatched...
(1) A shoerack in the mudroom that was too small for my hubby's hiking boots. Hiking boots all over the floor creating a stubbed-toe zone for months. Solution: An old bookshelf and no more stray shoes!
(2) Beautiful new makeup brushes rolling around on my sink, not drying properly and hard to pick up. Slowly but surely ruining a not-so-small makeup investment. Solution: A lovely stray red wine glass plucked from the kitchen, now doing duty in its second life as a makeup brush holder. And so pretty and arty looking too. Phew.
(3) A piano with one broken key...doesn't it always seem like the note that's critical to your current favorite song? Solution: Get the nice old piano guy in to fix. Bring on those arpeggios!
Tolerations can fall into many categories. Here are just a few more to get you thinking:
- clothes that don't fit, you hate ironing or are stained and unwearable
- burnt out light bulbs, a dishwasher that doesn't clean properly
- an overflowing email inbox, junk mail, unbalanced checkbook
- a sore tooth, dry skin, haircut overdue or even a hangnail
As you can see, when the word Tolerations was born, a really great tool was created to help us increase life energy for those important things. And all it takes is the first step.
Simply put, to release more joy, and more energy for your dream, your goal is to put up with less and less.
Won't you make your list of tolerations now? Post it below with your plan to zap them - choose some easy peasy ones first and feel your shoulders drop in relief, your breath deepen with pleasure and your joy-tank fill up with primo fuel that doesn't cost you by the gallon. Yay!
And hey, don't put up with any confusion or questions on this topic either okay? We want FEWER tolerations not more, hehe. So just submit your mullings below and we'll be happy to post back. No question too small or silly!
More coming for my Friend, Jackie....
An interesting perspective, for my friend Jackie (if your wanting a different angle let me know, my friend)
Energy Suckers Stealing Your Joy? Tolerate No More!
(Credit: )
I did a little thing today that brought me so much joy. Such a little thing it was, you wouldn't think it would be a big deal. But a Blast o' Joy it surely was. As the saying goes...sometimes it's the little things that make a big, big difference. Remember the story of the Princess who couldn't sleep because of a pea under her mattress??
One of the biggest things we as dream-pursuers can do for ourselves is all about energy. Cleaning it, clearing it, building it, reserving it...some days I think that's literally all I do, and if I do it well, everything else works fine. So when I did this little thing today I realized it might be time to do some Spring Energy Cleaning. And I wanted to share the idea with you.
It all started with wearing a different pair of shorts last week, because, hurray, it's Spring up here in Canada, finally. And guess what, my spring shorts have a tiny pocket. So tiny my regular set of keys and cell phone don't even begin to fit. Annoying! And annoying again the next day, the day after that, and again today.
So what was the little thing you did Andrea? Well you should ask! I came right home and de-cluttered my keychain. Wow, it was like getting a stain off a favorite shirt after five years. Or declogging an antique sink. It released a whole bunch of energy and now everything about leaving the house is lighter. My purse. My hand-filled-with-keys. My shorts pocket.
There's only two smart questions at a moment like this.
(1) Why oh why didn't I do this before?
I can't even remember what these other 10 keys are for. And who needs three cute keychain thingies anyway? I kept the smallest one - a cute wee thing from Maui earlier this year.
(2) What else am I tolerating? What else - like the keychain - can I de-clutter?
Tolerations are actually a word a lot of coaches use. In fact, even though coaching can seem like a really mystical thing that happens, a lot of times you can get a lot of great coaching done just by focussing on getting rid of tolerations.
Once they are gone, so many of the other challenges and opportunites in life become effortless because you now have the energy to pay them their due. Simple. Sometimes really deep tolerations can take some time to zap, but the principle is simple, really.
So, my Joyful Friend, shall we cut to the nitty gritty? Can you think of 10 things you are putting up with, gritting your teeth and ignoring? Make a list now and one by one, scratch them off your list.
Here are a few more of my tolerations which I've just dispatched...
(1) A shoerack in the mudroom that was too small for my hubby's hiking boots. Hiking boots all over the floor creating a stubbed-toe zone for months. Solution: An old bookshelf and no more stray shoes!
(2) Beautiful new makeup brushes rolling around on my sink, not drying properly and hard to pick up. Slowly but surely ruining a not-so-small makeup investment. Solution: A lovely stray red wine glass plucked from the kitchen, now doing duty in its second life as a makeup brush holder. And so pretty and arty looking too. Phew.
(3) A piano with one broken key...doesn't it always seem like the note that's critical to your current favorite song? Solution: Get the nice old piano guy in to fix. Bring on those arpeggios!
Tolerations can fall into many categories. Here are just a few more to get you thinking:
- clothes that don't fit, you hate ironing or are stained and unwearable
- burnt out light bulbs, a dishwasher that doesn't clean properly
- an overflowing email inbox, junk mail, unbalanced checkbook
- a sore tooth, dry skin, haircut overdue or even a hangnail
As you can see, when the word Tolerations was born, a really great tool was created to help us increase life energy for those important things. And all it takes is the first step.
Simply put, to release more joy, and more energy for your dream, your goal is to put up with less and less.
Won't you make your list of tolerations now? Post it below with your plan to zap them - choose some easy peasy ones first and feel your shoulders drop in relief, your breath deepen with pleasure and your joy-tank fill up with primo fuel that doesn't cost you by the gallon. Yay!
And hey, don't put up with any confusion or questions on this topic either okay? We want FEWER tolerations not more, hehe. So just submit your mullings below and we'll be happy to post back. No question too small or silly!
More coming for my Friend, Jackie....
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Optimism: Steps to live a better life
By:Hara Estroff Marano
More than 50 years ago, a little book called The Power of Positive Thinking took the world by storm. Written by a minister, Dr. Normal Vincent Peale, the book was a remarkable mix of natural psychological insight and faith-based principles applied to everyday problems of living.
The publishers are re-releasing the book, and it crossed my desk the other day. I was astonished when I looked it over. There is a tremendous amount of wisdom in it.
I thought I'd pass along some of the best advice in the book, because it's worth using. It has a very timeless quality to it, and it does have the power to be highly motivating.
The most important principle is to believe in yourself. The secret, said Dr. Peale 50 years ago, and he might just as well have said it yesterday, is to "fill your mind with thoughts of faith, confidence and security. This will force out or expel all thoughts of doubt, all lack of confidence."
"Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy," Dr. Peale wisely observed. Here is how he suggested you build up your confidence.
1. Formulate and stamp indelibly on you mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. And hold this picture tenaciously. You can't ever permit it to fade. Over time your mind will develop this picture, brighten the detail. Never doubt the reality of the mental image, because doing so is dangerous. The mind also tries to complete what it pictures. So always picture "success" no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.
2. Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powers come into mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.
3. Do not build up obstacles in your imagination. Minimize every so-called obstacle. Difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen only for what they are. They must not be inflated by fear thoughts.
4. This might be the most astute piece of advice. Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. Nobody can be you as efficiently as YOU can. Remember also that most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves.
5. Dr. Peale advised readers to repeat ten times a day -- starting this minute -- the following word from the bible. And while they refer to god, you could substitute your own belief system: "if God be for us, who can be against us?"
6. Gain self-knowledge. Learn the origin of your inferiority and self-doubts, which often begin in childhood. If necessary, get a competent counselor to help you understand why you do what you do.
7.Another affirmation, also from the bible, also to be repeated ten times daily, was advised as a powerful antidote to inferiority thoughts: "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Again, you can alter the wording to suit; it's the thought that counts.
8. Another gem of wisdom: Make a true estimate of your own ability -- then raise it 10 percent. Do not become egotistical, but develop a wholesome self-respect. Believe in your own powers.
More for my Friend, Jackie..........Coming.................
September 10th, 2007: Thoughts for the day (uh, 5 I think)
John Muir (1838 - 1914)
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Douglas Jerrold (1803 - 1857)
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I Remark: Spark the Heart and have energy to come out of the Dark!
(Chillen)
We can build this thing together, and stand this storm forever, and if this world has run out of Inspirational Leather, WE will still have it all together, NOTHING WILL STOP US NOW!!!!!!!!!
What ever it takes, We will stay here with you, take it through the good times, See it through the bad times, whatever it takes, is what WERE GONNA DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE can make it---if we are heart to heart!!!!!
Out of need springs desire, and out of desire springs the energy and the will to win.”
Denis Waitley
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”
Oprah Winfrey
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“The energy of the mind is the essence of life.”
Aristotle
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“Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”
(Unknown)
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“When I find myself fading, I close my eyes and realize my friends are my energy”
(Unknown)
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“Goals provide the energy source that powers our lives. One of the best ways we can get the most from the energy we have is to focus it. That is what goals can do for us; concentrate our energy.”
Denis Waitley
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“Success is almost totally dependent upon drive and persistence. The extra energy required to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning.”
Denis Waitley
==========================================================“To be thrown upon one's own resources, is to be cast into the very lap of fortune; for our faculties then undergo a development and display an energy of which they were previously unsusceptible”
Benjamin Franklin
Energy and persistence conquer all things.”
Benjamin Franklin
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“When you are in the valley, keep your goal firmly in view and you will get the renewed energy to continue the climb.”
Denis Waitley
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“I have learned through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmitted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmitted into a power that can move the world.”
Mahatma Gandhi
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“Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it it's only good for wallowing in.”
Katherine Mansfield
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In posting this what am I trying to tell you?
“E = mc2 Energy equals mass times the speed of light squared.”
Albert Einstein
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“Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing.”
(Unknown)......BUT PICK YOURSELF UP!
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“It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things”
Theodore Roosevelt
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“All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination, Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.”
Napoleon Hill
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“I cannot find language of sufficient energy to convey my sense of the sacredness of private integrity”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan”
Eleanor Roosevelt
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“We all need to look into the dark side of our nature - that's where the energy is, the passion. People are afraid of that because it holds pieces of us we're busy denying.”
Sue Grafton
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A champion views resistance as a gift of energy.
Michael J. Gelb
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I studied the lives of great men and famous women, and I found that the men and women who got to the top were those who did the jobs they had in hand, with everything they had of energy and enthusiasm.
Harry Truman (1884 - 1972)
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Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence. This explains why we have so many stupid leaders.
Sloan Wilson
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The average person puts only 25% of his energy into his work. The world takes off its hat to those who put in more than 50% of their capacity, and stands on its head for those few and far between souls who devote 100%.
Andrew Carnegie (1835 - 1919)
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Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.
Brian Tracy
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Every positive change--every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness--involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.
Dan Millman
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Just as there is no loss of basic energy in the universe, so no thought or action is without its effects, present or ultimate, seen or unseen, felt or unfelt.
Norman Cousins (1912 - 1990)
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And I leave you all with this last one to think about:
Vivian Elisabeth Glyck
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Best Wishes,
Chillen
At the Request of Jackie, and for Jackie:
Climb the mountains and get their good tidings. Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you, and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves.
John Muir (1838 - 1914)
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There is nothing settled in manners, but the laws of behaviour yield to the energy of the individual.
Douglas Jerrold (1803 - 1857)
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I Remark: Spark the Heart and have energy to come out of the Dark!
(Chillen)
NOTHING IS GONNA STOP US NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We can build this thing together, and stand this storm forever, and if this world has run out of Inspirational Leather, WE will still have it all together, NOTHING WILL STOP US NOW!!!!!!!!!
What ever it takes, We will stay here with you, take it through the good times, See it through the bad times, whatever it takes, is what WERE GONNA DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE can make it---if we are heart to heart!!!!!
STAND UP: KICK IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
==========================================================Out of need springs desire, and out of desire springs the energy and the will to win.”
Denis Waitley
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”
Oprah Winfrey
==========================================================
“The energy of the mind is the essence of life.”
Aristotle
==========================================================
“Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”
(Unknown)
==========================================================
“When I find myself fading, I close my eyes and realize my friends are my energy”
(Unknown)
==========================================================
“Goals provide the energy source that powers our lives. One of the best ways we can get the most from the energy we have is to focus it. That is what goals can do for us; concentrate our energy.”
Denis Waitley
==========================================================
“Success is almost totally dependent upon drive and persistence. The extra energy required to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning.”
Denis Waitley
==========================================================“To be thrown upon one's own resources, is to be cast into the very lap of fortune; for our faculties then undergo a development and display an energy of which they were previously unsusceptible”
Benjamin Franklin
Energy and persistence conquer all things.”
Benjamin Franklin
==========================================================
“When you are in the valley, keep your goal firmly in view and you will get the renewed energy to continue the climb.”
Denis Waitley
=========================================================
“I have learned through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmitted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmitted into a power that can move the world.”
Mahatma Gandhi
==========================================================
“Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it it's only good for wallowing in.”
Katherine Mansfield
==========================================================
In posting this what am I trying to tell you?
“E = mc2 Energy equals mass times the speed of light squared.”
Albert Einstein
==========================================================
“Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing.”
(Unknown)......BUT PICK YOURSELF UP!
==========================================================
“It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things”
Theodore Roosevelt
==========================================================
“All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination, Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.”
Napoleon Hill
==========================================================
“I cannot find language of sufficient energy to convey my sense of the sacredness of private integrity”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
==========================================================
“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan”
Eleanor Roosevelt
==========================================================
“We all need to look into the dark side of our nature - that's where the energy is, the passion. People are afraid of that because it holds pieces of us we're busy denying.”
Sue Grafton
==========================================================
A champion views resistance as a gift of energy.
Michael J. Gelb
==========================================================
I studied the lives of great men and famous women, and I found that the men and women who got to the top were those who did the jobs they had in hand, with everything they had of energy and enthusiasm.
Harry Truman (1884 - 1972)
==========================================================
Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence. This explains why we have so many stupid leaders.
Sloan Wilson
==========================================================
The average person puts only 25% of his energy into his work. The world takes off its hat to those who put in more than 50% of their capacity, and stands on its head for those few and far between souls who devote 100%.
Andrew Carnegie (1835 - 1919)
==========================================================
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.
Brian Tracy
==========================================================
Every positive change--every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness--involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.
Dan Millman
==========================================================
Just as there is no loss of basic energy in the universe, so no thought or action is without its effects, present or ultimate, seen or unseen, felt or unfelt.
Norman Cousins (1912 - 1990)
==========================================================
And I leave you all with this last one to think about:
Many things love to come and live off your plants, including bacteria, bugs, birds, and bunnies. If you don't control them, entire crops can be ruined. The result of your careful cultivation, in your garden and in your life, can be lost to predators in a short time. . . . Take a look at your life, what toxic relationships, substances and emotions are feeding on your energy and taking away from what you have to give to others. Eliminate them.
Vivian Elisabeth Glyck
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Come ON!........Spark the FIRE in your HEART!
Best Wishes,
Chillen
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chillen owns!
great posting!
"if you arent failing, you arent growing"
well that gives me a really good excuse when my mom sees that F on my report card under math...LOL!!!
...seriosly though
well at least im learning from that failure haha...
whats been up chillen
oh yea...just had to say this: i saw a kid wearing a shirt that said "im just chillen" and i was like "nah...that cant be him" haha
great posting!
"if you arent failing, you arent growing"
well that gives me a really good excuse when my mom sees that F on my report card under math...LOL!!!
...seriosly though
well at least im learning from that failure haha...
whats been up chillen
oh yea...just had to say this: i saw a kid wearing a shirt that said "im just chillen" and i was like "nah...that cant be him" haha
chillen owns!
great posting!
"if you arent failing, you arent growing" well that gives me a really good excuse when my mom sees that F on my report card under math...LOL!!!
...seriosly though
well at least im learning from that failure haha...
whats been up chillen
oh yea...just had to say this: i saw a kid wearing a shirt that said "im just chillen" and i was like "nah...that cant be him" haha
It has an "implied meaning" that we should learn from mistakes and grow....Just to clarify for the others. (I knew you were kidding, PB).
Jackie had a request, and I will define it more or narrow it down more, if she wants a more "specific" Thing, or something just written from me, which I will do if she asks.
Thank you PB..............
Hey..........thats a copyright infringment........:yelrotflmao:
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