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Ah I understand that Rob . Eating is fun . And let’s face it the more fat and sugar at times the better the food .

i am having a really hungry day , not I want to binge feeling just an empty feeling . I have eaten a lot but I qualify it that’s it all good food and mainly on plan . I feel like I have a hole in my stomach that is empty . I am going to make a skinny cappucino now just to have something half satisfying. I have had lots of fruit , veg , proteins and carbs so I’m at a loss .
 
alligatorob said:
Wow LaMa, you did that as a kid? Can't be a good thing for someone.
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Not a conscious thing, I promise. I'd just get so upset I'd cry hysterically, which at some point always made me cough (maybe to do with my asthma? I was a very slimy little kid) and then throw up all the food my mom had so diligently forced me to eat. They meant well, and so did I, but it wasn't healthy or fun for anyone. My younger sister was much the same 11 years later but thankfully by then parenting advice had changed so she'd just get an alternative for things she couldn't stomach and she didn't have to eat anywhere near as much, volume-wise, as we had. Looking around this forum I'm a pretty big eater but I still decline the soup and at least half the dessert when I eat with my parents just in order to fit the main course into my stomach.
Petal001 said:
I have had lots of fruit , veg , proteins and carbs so I’m at a loss .
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Did you have enough fat? I sometimes find I need to eat something with a good bit of fat to feel satisfied - plus of course every meal needs some fat for vitamin absorption.
 
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That’s terrible you would cry so much you would get sick. I wonder would I have fared better if that had happened me . I as a result have never made my kids eat anything they don’t want .. luckily they are both now extremely well adjusted that love healthy options . I’m glad parenting moved on for your sister LaMa .

i think my fat today consisted of 40g of cheddar cheese , 20g was low fat . Main meal yesterday and today was chicken breast . I’m having a decaf cappuccino now made from a little sachet with boiling water and I sprinkled a little coco on top to make it look fancy !!! Seems to be hitting the spot for me
 
I'm glad you never forced your children to eat things, Petal. I still tear up when I hear people talk about "bad eaters" as if they're naughty or obstinate. I just remember being terrified and feeling so worthless. Aaand now I'm crying. I wonder why that memory is still so tough for me?
 
No binge today, but it was tough tonight, we have left over pizza and when I saw it in the refrigerator a few minutes ago I sure wanted to dig in. But I didn't.

Still feeling down, and not really sure why. I don't feel this way often, blaming it on my diet and not getting the fat and sugar is easy, and its the only thing I can think of that's changed. Except that today is the 3rd day in a row without getting on my bike, maybe that's part of the problem. Today it just wasn't practical, too much snow. I called the Doc's office today and started the process of getting an appointment. My doctor uses a part time assistant who does his scheduling, getting her to call back can be a challenge sometimes.

LaMa, your story is really important to understanding why you are here, or so it seems to me. Have you purged as an adult?

Petal, it sounds like you are a great parent, with great results. How did you know to do that with your kids? It doesn't sound like it came from your childhood experience. It sounds like LaMa's parents, and your mother did what they thought best at the time, what made you wiser?

Lets not binge tomorrow. I know not bingeing is just as important when feeling low as ever.
 
I never purged intentionally. I tried once or twice, as a teen, but thankfully my gag reflex is pretty much nonexistent and I never had access to laxatives.
Rob I'm so glad you're going to see a doctor. It's quite possible that your low mood is just a result of dark weather, lack of biking, or just a general "ugh how long will this last?!" but I think it's important to check. Please take excellent care of yourself; you're a most valued member of this community. Also: you may not be looking at maintenance yet but I do think it could be helpful to start fantasizing about what it could look like. Where will you get your joy? What do you think you'll be eating? What kind of exercise might be fun? Can you think of any activities that would be both fun and healthy to share with your wife, family, or friends? Anything you used to tell yourself you can't do because of your weight?
Finally: great work ignoring the pizza call!
 
Rob I'm sorry you are still feeling low. However the fact you are not turning to food because of it is good news. I suspect you are missing your biking which is probably a good mood enhancer for you. I agree with all LaMa said too.

Weight loss is a daunting journey but you are doing a great job and I know when I struggle I frequently think of you so let us know if there is anything we can help with.

My mum was a great mum mostly and other than the food thing and one other issue I had a good childhood.
But I decided that I would let my kids chose what they liked to eat and I wouldn't force them to finish dinners. I didn't want them to have to feel like I did. The other thing I encouraged was open communication. I now have children ( well grown up now nearly ) who love a wide range of food and also can tell me anything and never be afraid to ask for help .

I remember my dad criticising my son one day because my son did not want to eat the Sunday dinner and I said no problem come eat something when you are hungry. I really felt all the old feelings rise back up then. Can't keep the same son fed now but luckily he sorts himself lol.
 
I think it was Nanny Ogg who said it's a screwed up world and you need some kinks if you want to get through it. My dad said: "No matter what you do you make mistakes so we'll just do our best." And they definitely did. I did have a great childhood, even if it left a scar or two.
 
Very true. I didn´t have a great day, don´t really know why. Didn´t want my prepped dinner so had crackers and cold meat instead. Will have my dinner for breakfast tomorrow. Now I want to stuff myself with high-fat, high-salt, and/or high-sugar food. Not going to and thankfully the stores are closing but... Want.
 
No binge today, and I am starting to feel better, thanks for all the support.

I tried some new foods, prepacked supposedly low cal healthy stuff. Problem is its as many or more calories as what I have been eating, but not so filling. Result is I was hungrier today than most, but I resisted. I think resisting hunger is easier for me than resisting cravings, as I get better at sorting them out from each other I am surprised at how easy resisting the hunger can be. Resisting cravings can still be hard sometimes. The hunger thing is new for me, hunger used to trigger binges, or what I thought was hunger anyway.

Lets not binge tomorrow.
 
It's interesting isn't it, learning all this new stuff about a body you've had for years. Convenience food is rarely as tasty as the real thing and tends to be low in fiber as well, making you hungry again sooner. I'm a bit more stuffed than I'd like right now. Clearly wasn't listening to my body while having breakfast. It WAS good though.
 
I had a good day yesterday ate well and was not hungry like the previous day .
Well done to you both on not binging .
I am not a fan of processed foods . I used to use a lot but now I prefer fresh . I am trying to incorporate some fresh veg or fruit into every meal now .so even if it’s just crackers and a piece of cheese I add say an apple or tomato.
Lama your breakfast sounds good . Was it your last nights dinner after ?
 
I usually add at least some leafy green veg and a piece of fruit to cracker meals these days but not yesterday. Yes, this morning's breakfast would have been yesterday's dinner.
I'm in definite danger of binging right now. Work was an emotional rollercoaster, I don't feel like going to therapy later and I'm walking past grocery store after grocery store on my way home...
 
Thanks Rob, I think I made it. I had to go into a store for fresh greens (for tomorrow´s lunch) but I decided it would be much nicer to have some frozen mango than chocolate. Sitting on the couch right now feeling motivated instead of defeated.
 
Do or do not, there is no try.

Or, really: I know I can, the question is usually if if really, really want to :p
 
Well done LaMa . We can all do it !
 
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