New Year New Life for April

My husband and my daughter are the 2 most stubborn people on earth. They don't agree on anything and they both have serious anger management issues. I am the rope in the middle of this tug of war! Daughter is on medication for depression with suicidal tendencies and she uses that to try and make people feel bad for her. Husband isn't buying it and sometimes pushes back too hard. I'm just hoping that we find some common ground soon before they drive me over the edge!!! I know it's a bad sign when I'm the calmest and most sane person around:eek: :eek: :eek:
 
oh my! i hope things sort themselves out!
 
Sounds a bit stressful in your house at the moment.I am thinking of you April and hope things are getting better for you!
Mike went on monday to start the new job and was told that the secretary was on holidays.They then told him to come back next monday etc......!
I told him to find another job to start this week,so we can have some money coming in for the next week.
He had a friend who has a insulation making company who has given him a few days work(at $2 more an hour than his truck driving job)until he starts at his new job.Phew!
Life is full of suprises isnt it!:rolleyes: :eek:
 
Hey April! Just stopping in to say hi!! Ok.. I'm a little stressed right now because my dh's company is about 85% sure that they will put a terminal up here.. and guess what... Dh will be the terminal manager.. which means.. he will be home every night! .... What's a girl to do to get some peace and quiet around here?? lol..
 
oh noooooooooo

whatthebloooooomineckamigonnadooooowithoutmemateatnightonmsn!:eek:

cant u protest or something with big boards it just isnt right!
 
Poor Christina. I know you will lose your mind!! Don't worry though, you'll find it a few months later tucked in the back of your panty drawer! Hi Magenta. Glad he found something to get through till the new job starts. See Santa is always around!
 
Well, today hasn't gotten any better than any other day over the past month. I just found out that the neighborhood teenage slut is my daughter! I know that sounds cruel, but I have to face the truth. Apparently she has slept with just about every guy in our town. Keep in mind the population here is only 300 so the number of teenage boys isn't exactly high but she's 15 years old. She is in my sight at all times except at school and when sleeping. I had to board up her windows to keep her from sneaking out but apparently she still is. Sometimes I wish I was one of those people who can't eat when they're stressed. All I want to do these days is eat!
 
Hi April "135",

Hang in there girl. You do have some challanges ahead of you but its nothing that you cant get through. You have been a good support for me and know that I am here for you.

It is tough to be a parent these days. Dont blame yourself or your hubby for your daughters actions. We try so hard as parents but the minute they step out the door they are enticed by the world and its permiscuive ways. There is so much bad influence out there. (MTV, movies, advertising, etc)

Look at the good side. At least you know and now you can do something about it. Reminds me of those commercials about parents being tough, where they practice having the door slammed in there face as they confront their children.

Some things to do for yourself: Get some good healthy food in the house to have for the snack times and find the time to work out to release any frustrations. Keep posting to the web site and try to stick to your plan. Your daughter will see that you are helping yourself and in turn perhaps you will be an inspiration for her.
 
((((HUGS)))) I'm sorry you're having a rough time. As a young woman who left rebelious teenage years not so long ago, we do get better. I'm sorry everything seems to be in chaous around you. i hope you don't mind me posting, I'm kinda new here and I'd like to support a few people.
 
it was great chatting to you on the phone, i found this calculator which converts between clothing sizes for different countries.



Cheers
Bronwyn
 
Birth control would be the first thing I would be thinking. It’s so hard with kid’s hun you really don’t know what they are doing. My son was a little shit, we would get him to school but then he would leave, he would nick off to were ever he wanted to go and we had no idea.
 
I am so sorry you are going through a rough patch at the moment!Your daughter is rebelling!Can someone give her a scare lecture about Aids/HIV and/or other diseases?Some nasty pictures of what they look like and what they do to your body!
A rape survivor to give her a talking to? You must be so worried about her!
Board up her window!Wow she is running a muk!
You must be really stressed!
Just a few ideas on how to deal with it!My daughter is only 2,so that stuff is a long way away for me yet!My step daughter is 13 and has a boyfriend who is 14.He is 6'2" and much taller than me or her dad!She told me a couple weeks ago he gave her first kiss!My husband/me are now starting to worry!!!!
She is a sensible girl and been going to a Catholic primary school from the start.She is going to a Catholic High school this year!
She is fairly innocent,and are very well behaved,but things can change in a flash!When those hormones kick in,you never know what might happen!
She knows about safe sex,and I have told her to wait until she is at least 16 before she has sex!
16 is still pretty young,but the majority of girls these days start earlier as you know April!I let her know that it is her decision what and how things progress between them,and not to let him force her into anything!
In a few years she will grow out of it and move on with her life.
You have my support April,Good Luck!!:)
 
Hey April... just wanted you to know I was thinking of you! I have some ery, rebellious and difficult teenage siblings (I come from a family of 15 kids) and I can understand what you're talking about..ever need to talk feel free to PM, even if yo just need to vet. I know my own mom will call to release some frustrations at times! ;)
 
Hey sweetie! Just wanted to stop in and check on ya! I'm sorry I haven't been posting that much but I've just been in one of my moods!! Also dh has been coming home more often too.. he got in at 1am this morning and is leaving tomorrow at 6am.. Anywho.. just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you!
 
Mornin Darlin just wanted to pop in as I havent been here in a while just so you know I am thinking of you as usual.
 
April"135" said:
OK, it's a new year and the last one really sucked. Except that I found this place and made so many amazing new friends. Now, I'm looking forward to creating a new healthy life to carry me into the future. Knowing there are so many people who care makes me feel that this time I will succeed! Now, I've had to change my goals a little. My original goal date was July 4th. Since I lost my willpower the past couple of months, that goal is no longer realistic. I still need to lose 94 pounds so at my "good girl" rate, I believe that I should reach my goal of 135 pounds by my anniversary which is October 1. I'm really thinking positive because it's going to take hard work to reach this goal AND to still be married by then. I have created new excercise schedules and menus that I believe I will be able to intergrate into everday life instead of becoming obsessed with calories and such. I don't want to spend my life dieting. I want to live!
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You have a great attitude which will push you through. Be strong. In the end the reward is what counts not the food.
 
April"135" said:
Hey MJ! I just noticed your birthday goal! My birthday is March 3 too! Actually I was born 3/3 at 3:33 pm! I had 3 kids and have had 3 husbands!!
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I just read this quote over in the colon cleansing thread. That's really amazing that you have so many 3's going on. 3 hubbys too? You go girl! I don't know what time I was born. I should look into that.

My younger sis was born on 10/10. I bet those people who work with numbers would have fun doing a reading for you.

Sorry to hear you are having kid drama. I remember being my own boss as a teenager. haha. Hormones going all crazy. Hang in there, in a few years it will all be over with!
 
Hey, thanks to everybody for your words of encouragement. Well, I finally took myself out of the equation. I put daughter and hubby together and said I'm through trying. From now on it's between the two of you. He stepped up and talked to her. He basically told her that he was tired of talking tired of dealing with all this crap tired of seeing me so stressed all the time. He told her that from now on she would answer to him and then he said You will get your shit together and you WILL do it right now! I'm tired of hearing every body talk about how you can't help it. I know better.
It's amazing. Things have been calm, friendly, almost stress free! I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me. They talk. I mean actually talk. She shows him her homework and asks his advice. She even asked him if he would teach her how to play the drums so she can join band at school! One of the things he told her was that she has to find some type of activity to get involved in and find better people to hang around with. She's actually doing it. I guess he was right. My trying to protect her was just enabling her to continue in the wrong direction. Now, if only this will last. We are setting up family counseling too. Thanks everybody for your support. I don't know if I could have lasted this long without y'all!
 
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