Divorcing someone like that does have its risks. But staying married does, too.It doesn't feel very safe divorcing such a person, but it feels good to acknowledge the truth.
Divorcing someone like that does have its risks. But staying married does, too.It doesn't feel very safe divorcing such a person, but it feels good to acknowledge the truth.
sounds so lovely! Good you found out how to not get lost this time!We went to our favorite county park - a place with lots of raised wood boardwalks that lead out to a pretty island with confusing trails where we got terribly lost last time. This time we figured out how to keep the marsh in our sights the whole time, and we hiked the whole island. We are getting back in shape again!
In this case divorce is far less risky, for sure!Divorcing someone like that does have its risks. But staying married does, too.
Thanks Liza! We were very pleased when we found our way back without having to retrace our steps this time.sounds so lovely! Good you found out how to not get lost this time!
Thanks Em, I think I am grieving the relationship I thought I had. The one I actually have is so awful that I have to counter that thought with the one good thing that came out of this - my daughter. I think I overlooked some bad red flags because my biological clock was ticking, and I just barely was in the window for having a healthy kid. I was getting more used to the stress of the divorce when the stupid therapist C really threw me for a loop. I was furious with her all week, and am feeling better now. The deadline is really helping. I just have to stop stressing out about having the house ready for sale by then. It's not going to happen by then. I need more time, so I think I'll work on distressing and just working smarter instead of harder so my shoulder stays happy.It must be horrible to realise that the person you married isn't who you thought they were. That's tough in itself, never mind all the stress of going through a divorce. But as time moves on, you will too. I'm glad you have a date set for mediation - I think it will make things easier when there's a set deadline for this thing.
Thanks Cate! I agree about it helping me move on, and I am happy you understand about what I needed to process. K and I are going to try to do a lot more aerobic exercise. The psychiatrist upped her medication, and it makes her so groggy, so we want to see if aerobic exercise will help her to get back down to the lesser dose. Having the new start become more of a reality is so nice!!I am so glad that you told J off. That has had good results for your well-being & for taking away the thought that he may have been redeemable. I think that will help you move on.
Yay for dance & music & your lovely relationship with K & having a new start on the horizon xoxo
Thanks Cate! I didn't realize until you said, but I am doing better! K is a little under the weather the last few days, so we are doing restorative yoga, which we are loving!! We are planning on doing little dance spurts when she feels better and working our way back to being good at aerobics.weirAerobic exercise does us so much good. I hope it helps K. I know I feel heaps better after a dance or 2 & after a game of golf. I need to get my heart rate up a bit more I think.
It's lovely to hear you sound so much better xoxo
Thanks Llama. K is going to try to do a medium dose half way between the low dose she was on and the higher dose the psychiatrist recommended. She is supposed to up the amount slowly anyway. We're both really happy with getting back into aerobics.I'm sorry to hear K needed more meds but I live that you're trying activity to help combat the side effects.
Thanks Liza, the grogginess is also hard for me. I get exhausted trying to get K up and doing things, but it isn't as bad as when she initially went on the medicine luckily. I'm really liking the gratitude journal. It's supposed to be way more effective if you sit and feel each thing you are grateful for and how it makes you feel. I love that part!The gratitude journal sounds lovely. I agree about the aerobic exercise. For me it helps so much getting in a good run. That is really too bad about the meds making K more groggy though as that might be even harder, then, to get out for some good walks...hopefully it will be one of those short-term side-effects that passes...
That's such good advice Em! I tried something similar today with doing myself little favors so the cleaning of the house to get it on the market is not so daunting, and it really perked me up and I tackled a few more little tasks. I think I get overwhelmed, too!I think if you even get one little job done a day, that would be good, Marsia. If I try to pack it all in, I end up doing nothing at all. Step by step.
That's great that you are watching stuff that makes you happier!I've been watching too many videos on YouTube, but they are about topics I love, and it got me happier again.
I like the sound of that. You deserve kindness and compassion.I think I have turned a corner with taking care of myself better. I have had all these flashes of self compassion and it actually feels good to do nice things for myself now.
Haha, that made me laugh. I'm like that on holidays! Just wandering from meal to meal. Lol.I am becoming like the hobbits with their second breakfast, elevensies, dinner, and supper!
That is excellent!I think I have turned a corner with taking care of myself better. I have had all these flashes of self compassion and it actually feels good to do nice things for myself now. My appetite is smaller again.
also made me laugh! I can relate to the hobbit life!I am becoming like the hobbits with their second breakfast, elevensies, dinner, and supper!
Exercise is the most obvious one in the category of venting but in the end I'm afraid you'll have to practice letting all that anger and stress go. Venting just pushes it off into the distance for a while and then it encroaches again.Does anyone have things they do that are healthy to vent anger and pent up stress?