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Let's get healthy in the mind, body and soul. I started the gym again about one month ago! I feel good but I don't see results in the way I look quite yet. I've been eating healthy and working out about 5 days a week. I do not want to say how much I weigh or want to weigh out of respect for those who weigh more. It really doesn't matter how much you weigh now or how much you want to weigh. We are all in this together, we have a goal, we are working towards it and we are going to achieve it. Anyone want to come on board with me? Let's do this. Let's post when it gets hard and let's post when we want to give up and let's keep going.
 
Hey Reality and welcome to the forum! I saying feeling better is a great start, especially if you're not very overweight to begin with. If you plan to stick around you might want to start a diary where you can rant and get support when things are tough.
Best of luck!
 
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Hey Reality and welcome to the forum! I saying feeling better is a great start, especially if you're not very overweight to begin with. If you plan to stick around you might want to start a diary where you can rant and get support when things are tough.
Best of luck!
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Thank you! I'm off to the gym now and I definitely don't feel like it but I am still going.
 
Welcome to the forum, Realitysux. Good for you going to the gym even though you don't feel like it. Sometimes we just have to push ourselves out the door!
 
Realitysux said:
Let's get healthy in the mind, body and soul. I started the gym again about one month ago! I feel good but I don't see results in the way I look quite yet. I've been eating healthy and working out about 5 days a week. I do not want to say how much I weigh or want to weigh out of respect for those who weigh more. It really doesn't matter how much you weigh now or how much you want to weigh. We are all in this together, we have a goal, we are working towards it and we are going to achieve it. Anyone want to come on board with me? Let's do this. Let's post when it gets hard and let's post when we want to give up and let's keep going.
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I had to drop 75 pounds before it was safe for me to do much exercise. I was 480lbs and initially lost about 4 pounds per week. No I can exercise and I do every other day.
 
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That's amazing! How did you do it?
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I applied science and logic. I knew that all I had to do was eat less and move more. I was like a car with an expanding gas tank. I was simply taking in more fuel than my body required. Of course I've known that all along. I knew what to do but I had never done it. I had some learning to do, mostly about myself, human nature and the obesity epidemic. I had to admit some uncomfortable truths and I needed to snap out of denial.

My problem was between my ears. I got seduced by this food centric society and basic human nature. I was a food addict/glutton. I was allowing my tongue to control me. I decided to take back my autonomy. As a prank somebody sent me this video. It's called tough love for fat people.

I'm not at my ideal weight yet but I'm close. I won't go into a lot of detail but I have done is eat for health and not for my hedonistic food lust. I reduced calories to the correct level which is my body weight in pounds X 10. Every month as my weight dropped I would reduce my calories accordingly. Now like normal people I'm eating to live rather than living to eat. I stopped all obesogenic food.
 
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I have lost 11 pounds so far. I am still seeing the weight I have to lose as oppose to the weight I have lost. I want to look in the mirror and like what I see again. It's hard to always keep motivated so I'm giving myself pep talks to keep going. The emotional issues that caused me to put the weight on in the first place are still present.
 
Hey RS, welcome to the forum!

It sounds like you are already off to a good start, hopefully you will find this a good place to get support and keep on track. There are lots of friendly helpful people here who understand where you are and are trying to go. You should start a diary, its a good place to tell us more about yourself and your goals, and will let people follow your progress.
Realitysux said:
I do not want to say how much I weigh or want to weigh out of respect for those who weigh more.
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Not to worry, here we are all pretty open and I do not believe anyone feels bad that another weighs more or less. I am pretty sure I weighted more than you when I first started, and may still do, and many of my friends here weigh less than I do. Never made me feel bad, I am glad for them.

Best of luck to you.
 
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It's hard to always keep motivated so I'm giving myself pep talks to keep going.
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That´s a great skill to have.
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The emotional issues that caused me to put the weight on in the first place are still present.
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I guess that´s a cold truth many of us run into after/while losing weight: all it changes is our weight. I hope you can work through those issues and come out the other end even stronger. General advice - don´t know if you need it or can actually apply: no problem is too small to go to therapy with. If you´re struggling you are allowed to ask for help.
 
Thank you for the advice everyone and for the support. Therapy would be a good idea but I started going to church and the gym so I don't want to put too much balls in the air and then drop them! I am on my way to the gym for my Monday kettle belt class. Once again, too many emotional issues that make me want to crawl into bed and stay there but I'm not going to do that, I'm going to my work out class!
 
I do agree with LaMa that therapy would be a really good idea. I can only speak from my own experience, but I once was very overweight, lost 36 kg in 6 months & fell apart at the seams emotionally. I still had all the issues that I had when I was overweight & still felt the same about myself. It didn't take many sessions (4 or 5?) for me to start to feel good about myself. I had a lifetime of suppressing things & it was great to get them out. Just keep it in mind if you feel things just get too much. Most of us here are empathetic & care. We nearly all have been in a similar place to you. If you start a diary you can use it to put down your doubts and feelings & share your achievements. We won't get sick of hearing that you lost another pound :) We don't know who you are & your diary is your space.
 
I will eventually have to attend therapy. I was at the gym and it was surrounded by mirrors and the weight is so hard for me to look at. Does anyone else suffer with this too?
 
I need to this this out. Ever since I was younger, I was told I have to stay at a certain weight or I go round and I don't look good round. I did really well at staying under the round. Then this guy rejected me in such a way that everyone around me rejected me. I moved to a brand new city and I had no social connections at all. I end up being so depressed that I stayed inside and my mental health was so bad. I carried around these thoughts about myself. I put on so much weight and now my face is round. It has to be done healthy so it's going to take a bit but I really just want to see my normal self in the mirror and then the rest of me will come too!
 
Doing it slowly & in a healthy way will make it much more sustainable long-term. We are there with you in spirit.
 
Don't be too hard on yourself, about the self you see in the mirror! If you have a naturally round-shaped face, and not a naturally long-shaped one - well you probably look very nice indeed that way!
(I have a naturally square-shaped face - and I always thought that I would have preferred a heart-shaped one, but ah, well... :) )
Good for you for going to your class, even though you felt like just staying put - and I think you're very wise not to try to keep too many balls in the air at once.
 
:) And I have a long face and would prefer it to be rounder. I'm sorry you grew up with these messages of how you should be instead of people helping you figure out who you want to be. That's hard to deal with and hard to shake off later. Starting out in a new city, alone, is tough but it also gives you a chance to reinvent yourself and find people who'll support you and care for the person you ARE instead of the person they want you to be.
 
Hey RS, I like round faces, and I am sure yours is just fine. Being healthy and happy is what really matters, and if you are that shows through and makes you more attractive, no matter the shape of your face.

Realitysux said:
I was at the gym and it was surrounded by mirrors and the weight is so hard for me to look at. Does anyone else suffer with this too?
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Absolutely!! I think it comes with our condition. I have lost a lot of weight and still see the weight that's left in the mirror first, and now I have the loose skin to look at. What we see in the mirror is not what others see, we see our faults first and most. Try to not look or let it go, it doesn't help.

All you have to do is get started on a good plan and you'll start feeling better and better about yourself pretty quickly. And believe me that will show and make you more attractive to others. Think about the people you most like, if you can look at them objectively they are not likely the most attractive by any measure other than their personalities. They are happy people who treat you well. I think you have already begun the process of being one of them.
 
Thank you everyone. I haven't posted yet but when I logged on, I really appreciated those messages. I didn't go to the gym today but it's my off day. I also at potatoe salad, had some nachos and a tiny bit of chocolate but I still didn't go over my calorie count. I did go over my 20 gram of fat count though so back on track tomorrow!
 
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