I see where you're coming from fit4life1976. But I do not want to enable Dutes to continue to do things that may ultimately affect his chances of being a winning athlete and rowing in the fours. I want Dutes to succeed.
You are correct by saying Dutes is dedicated. He's extraordinarily dedicated. I don't know the real reason why Dutes went to a party on Tuesday and took Wednesday off from training, and it's really none of my business. However, the fact remains it was bad timing. I realize that everybody needs to let go every now and then. It's human nature. But you don't do it when you've just started a new training regimen. That's why I came down hard on Dutes.
Another reason I came down hard is that I'm seeing some minor will power issues that may make the difference between Dutes making the cut and not making the cut. And I want Dutes to make the cut in more ways than you can imagine. I actually think Dutes has a good chance at making the Australian Olympic rowing team. Therefore, I want Dutes to strengthen the mental aspect of his game. And enabling him to do something that is wrong will NOT make him mentally tougher. Why would I want to enable Dutes to get away with moments of weak will at the wrong time? I can't do that to Dutes because if I did, I would only be letting him down. I really care about this kid. I don't want him to fail.
I do the same thing to any athlete I coach who misses training session(s). If they have a valid reason, I'm OK with it. If they don't have a valid reason, I want to know what's going on in their life that is making them miss training. I'm OK with that, too. We're human. We make mistakes. But I'll still call them on it.
Unfortunately, the hardest part for me is that the mental strength has to come from within Dutes himself. I cannot give that strength to him. I can only support his efforts.
I will say that it really pissed me off that Dutes coach didn't show up on Monday. I was choked. That's 200% irresponsible. That gives me the impression he isn't as committed to Dutes as he should be. I would not have been impressed if my coach didn't show up for me. In fact, my first reaction would have been "f**k you, a**hole -- I'm here, where the hell are you?" For the record, I never had a coach that didn't show up, and if he wasn't able to show up, he called in for back-up so at least somebody was there for us.
Perhaps times have changed ...
Have to love a tough, forward and direct, woman.
Especially when she is correct.
One has to iron these things out......:ironing:
Or they iron you........
got that?
Best wishes
Chillen