I don't know why I'm talking to a forum about this but....
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Not so sure about that. Theres no point in forcing something that wasn't meant to be. If its meant to be she'll come back to him. But if one or the other in a failed relationship tries forcing it typically leads to stalking charges. Theres really no point in losing your mind over some nookie. Theres always better out there.
No way.
I don't mean turn into some weird stalker or turn it into an obsession.
It's about trying. There is always that one special someone we look for and it just so happens, perhaps this is that special someone. Can it be? Perhaps so, but you won't know until you have tried.
I think she gave plenty of clues to her feeling. It's a 50-50 and the only way to find out is by first trying. She's playing hard to get only because he broke her heart, and these are the perfect types for anyone because she's just testing how strong he really is.
In the end, if she files a police report, you know it's over. But until then, try, dang it, try. Of course she's going to reject him. I can't believe he thought otherwise. I mean it's not like he's going to come back and he said, "Oh I'm sorry about all that stuff I did to you." She's not going to respond by saying, "Oh my sweet, sweet lover, I've been waiting for you. Gald you came back. Let's marry and have tons and tons of kids." I mean come on. It's not quite that simple. She's going to play hard to get.
I don't mean turn into some weird stalker or turn it into an obsession.
It's about trying. There is always that one special someone we look for and it just so happens, perhaps this is that special someone. Can it be? Perhaps so, but you won't know until you have tried.
I think she gave plenty of clues to her feeling. It's a 50-50 and the only way to find out is by first trying. She's playing hard to get only because he broke her heart, and these are the perfect types for anyone because she's just testing how strong he really is.
In the end, if she files a police report, you know it's over. But until then, try, dang it, try. Of course she's going to reject him. I can't believe he thought otherwise. I mean it's not like he's going to come back and he said, "Oh I'm sorry about all that stuff I did to you." She's not going to respond by saying, "Oh my sweet, sweet lover, I've been waiting for you. Gald you came back. Let's marry and have tons and tons of kids." I mean come on. It's not quite that simple. She's going to play hard to get.
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I agree with everyone else really. You know what you gotta do, so do it!
How old are you by the way? If your under 22 dont think about being serious with a girlEnjoy yourself man!
Why only 22.
Why only 22.
LOL, thats just a random age of mine
Its variable though
How old are you focus? Are you 10 yet?
If she was you wouldn't have screwed her around for so long.
If you got her back now it probably wouldn't last because of all the damage done by that last split. It's best you go your seperate ways
I agree with everyone else really. You know what you gotta do, so do it!
How old are you by the way? If your under 22 dont think about being serious with a girl
Age shouldn't mater. I know lots of people who are under 22 who are certainly ready for a serious relationship. I also know lots of people 40 and above who will never be ready. It's a state of mind. Some people get there earlier than others and some never get there at all. If you've found someone you love, don't wait because you think you're too young. If you're ready, you're ready.
There's a difference between "trying" and "dwelling". It sounds to me like he made an effort to let her know that he still cares, she didn't reciprocate; so he needs to let it go.
Spicy when i said that it wasnt all that serious. Your right about that ^^
But still in my opinion settling down young where you get tooooo serious is stupid. But again thats IMO. It cant be helped, if you fall in love, you fall in love.
I got many mates who settled down with kids etc. Nahhhhhh not for me cheers.
But still in my opinion settling down young where you get tooooo serious is stupid. But again thats IMO. It cant be helped, if you fall in love, you fall in love.
I got many mates who settled down with kids etc. Nahhhhhh not for me cheers.
that's an epic sad story. Women seem to have the ability to move on very quickly.
Yep, it is best to just try to move on from her... best friends will never work... perhaps keep in touch through e-mail or something..
oh well, least you got an epic love story out of it.
Yep, it is best to just try to move on from her... best friends will never work... perhaps keep in touch through e-mail or something..
oh well, least you got an epic love story out of it.
He tried to keep her waiting while he screwed around for two years and you think that's an epic love story? :yelrotflmao:
She tried to get him back for 18 months, she cared for him but he was a jerk. There's too much damage there for the relationship to develop again
LOL, ok so it's not so epic. But still, it is kinda ya know?
It's a very good example of human nature. When someone loves you more than you love them.... you take them for granted. Then all of a sudden if they stop loving you, or quit caring as much, you want them more. It's a viscious cycle.
To a "point", I agree with CCR. Shinra made a "choice", and is now wollowing in this decision.
Likewise, when this "choice" was made, this gave the female "no choice" to participate within the relationship, and "no choice" but to move on eventually.
He made a choice, and the choices we make, can sometimes come back and burn ya.
In this case, it did just that.
Now, he is feeling the effects of the "first choice" when he had parted from the female, but this time, it's on him, in reverse.
If he wants to know "why?" He needs to revert back to his "first choice" he had made.
This ISNT the female's fault, it soley and squarely belongs on Shinra, and his first choice he had made to "test the playing field".
He got burned. Not by the female. But himself.
One cannot just miraculously restart a relationship in this sort of environment and expect optimal returns.
One must self examine things "honestly" without personal prejudice, and get to the heart of the truth. For example, if the choice by Shinra "wasnt" made, the "situation he explained" (without no other variables involved) would NOT EXIST. Therefore the first harmful event was "his choice". Once this choice was made, the connection severed, freeing the female to make subsequent choices "with her life" (as Shinra did in his first choice decision). And, to blame HER is being BLIND.
I have been with the same woman since I was 17 years old, I am now 46. Many physical beauty specimens have crossed my eyes. But there are NONE that compare to beauty inside and outside when its encompassed in love. Beauty can be skin deep. Beauty on the inside bring a heap of sheep.
Best wishes to all,
Chillen
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The absolute best is when you can get someone to stalk you.
I broke up with this chick once and she got so mad at me she threw dishes and what not at me. I managed to avoid getting hit as I ran out the door. Then she kept showing up at my work, driving by my apartment I had etc.
In a classic finale she rammed the ass end of my truck at a light and tried pushing me into the intersection. LOL
Imagine a VW Jetta trying to push a 1/2 ton Chevy truck. Anyway the police came and asked if I wanted to press charges for vehicular assault. I said no.
She got arrested anyway because she had drugs in the car. LMAO
Moral of the story. Never, ever date a stripper.
I broke up with this chick once and she got so mad at me she threw dishes and what not at me. I managed to avoid getting hit as I ran out the door. Then she kept showing up at my work, driving by my apartment I had etc.
In a classic finale she rammed the ass end of my truck at a light and tried pushing me into the intersection. LOL
Imagine a VW Jetta trying to push a 1/2 ton Chevy truck. Anyway the police came and asked if I wanted to press charges for vehicular assault. I said no.
She got arrested anyway because she had drugs in the car. LMAO
Moral of the story. Never, ever date a stripper.