Having kids.......

how do you feel about having kids?

  • have kids, they're great!

    Votes: 12 70.6%

  • i don't have kids and i don't want to have any.

    Votes: 2 11.8%

  • if i knew what i was in for, i wouldn't have done it even though i love them.

    Votes: 2 11.8%

  • anyone that tells you its great is lying.

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • Total voters
    17
NoLoveLost said:
WHAT ABOUT KIDS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS!!!!?????!!!! Bother to ever thing BEYOND your own *little* bubble world????
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I'm really, really sorry

I personally wasn't talking about parents with special needs kids in my post and I imagine BSL wasn't either. I've seen what those parents can have to go through and the sacrifices they have to make in their life for their kids and the impact it can have on their health, social life, career and finances so I appologise if my comments were insensitive.
By 'problem child' I was refering to kids who were have no physical or mental disability but are just disruptive with little control over themselves
 
Chillen said:
I concur with NLL's main "theme" and point she is trying to make. All love for the direct and strong one. :)

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Chillen
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I agree (without reposting it all)

My son is laid back and (as I've said) my daughter is nuts.

My wife told me if our daughter had been born first we would have never had a second....expecting them all the be as high maintenance as her.
 
so i asked my dr. about ya know the age thing and all and b/c i don't have kids yet and she explained that each year i wait the chances of having a baby with a chromosomal defect or down syndrome are greater. so she said if i want them i should consider it now.
to be honest with you all.....i'm DEATHLY afraid to be preggo...LOL! i'm serious! and on top of that i will have to work during and after. financially if i could stay home, i would. but i doubt it.
hubby was cool if we decided to, but he did express worry about paying the bills etc., and saying he would probably have to get extra hours to make up for it and then i thought about how often i would see him. so i'm confused. in any case, at this very moment, i can't say i'm 100% into it, but that damn biological clock is ticking SO LOUD! ugh!
anyway... please continue to post ages as i am curious.

thanks peeps for all your replies. :)
 
Lillian said:
so i asked my dr. about ya know the age thing and all and b/c i don't have kids yet and she explained that each year i wait the chances of having a baby with a chromosomal defect or down syndrome are greater. so she said if i want them i should consider it now.
to be honest with you all.....i'm DEATHLY afraid to be preggo...LOL! i'm serious! and on top of that i will have to work during and after. financially if i could stay home, i would. but i doubt it.
hubby was cool if we decided to, but he did express worry about paying the bills etc., and saying he would probably have to get extra hours to make up for it and then i thought about how often i would see him. so i'm confused. in any case, at this very moment, i can't say i'm 100% into it, but that damn biological clock is ticking SO LOUD! ugh!
anyway... please continue to post ages as i am curious.

thanks peeps for all your replies. :)
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Tis true, but there are more and more women who are able to have kids later and later. It wasn't that long ago int he news that there was a woman in her 60's who had a kid! Now, why anyone would wait that long is a mystery to me, but the days of having a kid before your 40's seems a little obsolete.

I had my boys at 30. My sister is wanting kids now and is 42. She has always wanted kids. She and her husband are planning to have at least one child. They waited intentionally. Both are doctors, and wanted to get their feet grounded in their careers before having kids.
 
deleted some posts. No matter what, don't attack the person behind the posts, attack the arguments. If you write a long post that takes a lot of work, but put up one insulting and offensive remark about another poster, your post will be deleted.
 
Karky said:
No matter what, don't attack the person behind the posts, attack the arguments. If you write a long post that takes a lot of work, but put up one insulting and offensive remark about another poster, your post will be deleted.
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Thank you Karky!!!!

I had expressed an opinion that was grossly misinterpretted, absolutely NOT what I was trying to convey!

Two of the poll options struck me as implying that having kids is a mistake and I was talking about parents who go around saying such things. I won't elaborate further, but what I wrote was taken VERY wrong. The person who was offended did not elect to counter my statements, explain her side or discuss the subject...instead she chose to violently attack me with insults, profanity and even threatened violence. Hardly mature or appropriate...it also gave me no room to apologize. Regardless, I apologize for my part in stooping to such antics.

Lillian...I know very very VERY few people who regret having children and the few people I know who might suggest it was a mistake or THAT they wouldn't do it again if they knew what they were in for...are GENERALLY people who like to party, don't want to compromise their own lifestyle and weren't suited to be parents in the first place.

GRANTED...there are circumstances where a child may be born with certain conditions that make parenthood extremely challenging, but I am absolutely NOT referrring to this situation in so far as the people I'm referring to in the above paragraph.

On that note, the incidence of Autism, ADD and other "issues" are sharply on the rise and I know many people who are faced with these challenging issues. Maybe it's the vaccinations we had as kids, the vaccinations the babies get today, the additives in food, radio waves, micro waves or raditation from cell phones...I don't know, but it is the roll of a dice and one of the reasons my wife and I elected not to try for a boy after our 3rd child (attempt #2 were twin girls).

It might be an idea to get some genetic testing done between you and your husband to make sure your recipe is sound. An amniocentesis at your age would also be in order. Fact is, you're absolutely not too old to have kids and you can't go back in time...so there ya go.

On the whole, and I must add "dare I say & suggest"....kids are GREAT.
 
We had a lady at birthing class asking questions about drinking while pregnant. She kept hearing what she didn’t want to and kept pressing the questions. That was the last we saw of her, she only came to the first class.

Hope she and the baby are doing okay.
 
BigTomW said:
I think it's a brilliant idea to drink alcohol when pregnant, it gets the baby warmed up and ready for when it's older.
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The problems that babies develop when their mums drink while pregnant are so many that even some dumba$$ attorney can use that to get out of most charges in court.
 
JohnnySolo said:
We had a lady at birthing class asking questions about drinking while pregnant. She kept hearing what she didn’t want to and kept pressing the questions. That was the last we saw of her, she only came to the first class.

Hope she and the baby are doing okay.
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I've heard many doctors say that the idea of moderate drinking harming a baby while in the womb is preposterous as the umbilical cord is not a free flowing passage for blood as it is not attached to the mothers blood stream but rather a selective transference of nutrients between blood streams.

This report is probably the kind of thing she was looking for


The advice given to mothers to drink nothing is just health officals playing safe
 
ok...another question.....how many planned and unplanned pregnancies did you have? just curious as usual..LOL!
 
Lillian said:
ok...another question.....how many had planned and unplanned pregnancies? just curious as usual..LOL!
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Haha, we've had 4 pregnancies, 2 kids, 2 miscarried, and none have been intentional. I think two came from me saying 'we can do it for a bit before putting the condom on', one was a condom split and one was from having sex straight after her period and thinking she wouldn't get pregnant.

I'm a bit annoyed I've never had the chance to 'try' and have an excuse for hourly sex
 
Lillian said:
ok...another question.....how many planned and unplanned pregnancies did you have? just curious as usual..LOL!
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my first one was not necessarily planned, but we did stop "preventing" and let nature take over.

We made Britz in a tent camping up in Lake Arrowhead, Calif. AND, we knew it when it happened. could just tell.

then we lost a set of twins, so we had another one on purpose (quickly) as a result of counseling for the "loss." That was my son TJ.

then we decided we wanted one more, before getting "fixed" so we had Jennifer.
 
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Typhon said:
I've heard many doctors say that the idea of moderate drinking harming a baby while in the womb is preposterous as the umbilical cord is not a free flowing passage for blood as it is not attached to the mothers blood stream but rather a selective transference of nutrients between blood streams.

This report is probably the kind of thing she was looking for


The advice given to mothers to drink nothing is just health officals playing safe
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Interesting, thanks

Though there is still the attitude she had about being pregnant interfering with her life.
 
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