Son 9 daughter 6 and she is completely nuts
agreed
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Lillian
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hahaha what do you expect when you are a sheep avie, and he is a sheep humper?
lol
oh, and lillian- with sheep is not the way to have kids.
my apologies for the defiling of your thread
hey- you could always use this thread as a teaching tool for children. To teach them how yucky the internet is.
thanks FF! LOL! actually i was hoping hubby could donate his seed when i was ready. haha!
My kids have made me a better person than I ever thought I could be, because I want to be a good example for them. I've grown up, gotten my priorities straight, and started taking better care of myself for them. I've never felt such love in my heart, it's amazing. I won't lie and say that it doesn't get frustrating, kids are quite a challenge at any age, but it's the most rewarding experience of my life.
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Being a father of two kids is sometimes challenging, but it is also one of the coolest feelings you will ever have.
You can have the most rotten day ever, and having your son or daughter climb up onto your lap for a story will chase your worries away.
Time spent with your kids and spouse is the best investment you can make, in my opinion.
Dave
You can have the most rotten day ever, and having your son or daughter climb up onto your lap for a story will chase your worries away.
Time spent with your kids and spouse is the best investment you can make, in my opinion.
Dave
Having a child is the greatest thing that's ever happened to me and my wife. It's altogether the most amazing, scary feeling of overwhelming responsibility that I've ever had but it's also the most incredible thing to watch your child grow and learn. I wasn't that great with kids before but since I had my own I'm much more appreciative of what they bring. Children look at the world in a completely different and wonderful way and it's absolutely amazing to experience that with them.
Also, I'm 42 and my 4 year old is the big reason I'm taking better care of myself!
Also, I'm 42 and my 4 year old is the big reason I'm taking better care of myself!
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Lillian
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such sweet posts!
ok so my next question is.......how do i get hubby to donate his seed then? LOL!!
j/k....not at this very moment. as i don't feel the time is right, but i'm sure it will be sometime in the future. i'm hoping before i turn 35.
ok so my next question is.......how do i get hubby to donate his seed then? LOL!!
j/k....not at this very moment. as i don't feel the time is right, but i'm sure it will be sometime in the future. i'm hoping before i turn 35.
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Stop fooling around with him for a time, when your ready he won't say no.
Lil.....
If you want the absolute truth...what you've heard is correct on all counts. There are people who will tell you it's the most wonderful thing in the world, and there are people who will tell you it ruined their life. What it really comes down to is the individual and if they thmselves are ready to be parents.
Horrible and incompetent parents will tell you it's a nightmare. I know for a fact that more then a few of us had borderline abusive parents and if you asked those parents what they thought, I'm sure you'd have less then romantic answers. That said, if a person is self-absorbed, selfish, unloving, insensitive, immature and un-nurturing...they'll raise what they call a problem/nightmare kid and not realizing they have themselves to blame...they condemn parenthood in general. That said, the upside:
I hate to borrow a phrase from Jerry McQuire, but my kids complete me. For many people having kids is a healing process...you vicariously get to relive a childhood through your children. Seeing life through their eyes, experiencing things, learning, growing and all the fun: it's absolutely amazing and at times I'm entirely convinced our purpose in life is to be a child, raise a child and then watch our children raise their children.
I don't mean to offend....but I know several people who are in their 40's and can no longer have kids...or people who chose not to have kids. Many of these people realize they missed the boat and I feel bad for these such people. They'll tell you it's not for them and have excuses...but living life without being a parent is like going to a nice restaurant and ordering nothing.
In an instant and without hesitation I would give-up EVERYTHING in my life for the sake of my children. To know that kind of love can only come from the experience of it. If there is a heaven here on Earth, it is through the children that we experience it. Except when they ****in' won't listen to me.
Then again, what's right for me is what I tend to project as what's right for other people. That's the beauty of life, we each get to choose our own path. Mine has 3 wonderful girls and it's nothing short of wonderful.
If you want the absolute truth...what you've heard is correct on all counts. There are people who will tell you it's the most wonderful thing in the world, and there are people who will tell you it ruined their life. What it really comes down to is the individual and if they thmselves are ready to be parents.
Horrible and incompetent parents will tell you it's a nightmare. I know for a fact that more then a few of us had borderline abusive parents and if you asked those parents what they thought, I'm sure you'd have less then romantic answers. That said, if a person is self-absorbed, selfish, unloving, insensitive, immature and un-nurturing...they'll raise what they call a problem/nightmare kid and not realizing they have themselves to blame...they condemn parenthood in general. That said, the upside:
I hate to borrow a phrase from Jerry McQuire, but my kids complete me. For many people having kids is a healing process...you vicariously get to relive a childhood through your children. Seeing life through their eyes, experiencing things, learning, growing and all the fun: it's absolutely amazing and at times I'm entirely convinced our purpose in life is to be a child, raise a child and then watch our children raise their children.
I don't mean to offend....but I know several people who are in their 40's and can no longer have kids...or people who chose not to have kids. Many of these people realize they missed the boat and I feel bad for these such people. They'll tell you it's not for them and have excuses...but living life without being a parent is like going to a nice restaurant and ordering nothing.
In an instant and without hesitation I would give-up EVERYTHING in my life for the sake of my children. To know that kind of love can only come from the experience of it. If there is a heaven here on Earth, it is through the children that we experience it. Except when they ****in' won't listen to me.
Then again, what's right for me is what I tend to project as what's right for other people. That's the beauty of life, we each get to choose our own path. Mine has 3 wonderful girls and it's nothing short of wonderful.
Yeah, very true. We know people (unfortunately related) who spend very little time with their child, they strap him in a high chair and put DVD's on to keep him quite most days as they're too tired from working 20 hour days to look after him because they don't want to sacrific their careers.
The thing is, they earn heaps of money, more than double what me and my partner earn, but neither will reduce hours and can't see the damage they do to their kid. He's violent, can hardly say a word at 2 1/2 and has serious behavioural problems. He calls his parents by their first names, eats and drinks crap and the only two words he's managed to string together to make anything like a sentance are 'shut up'.
The two parents in question often say how 'lucky' we are to have sweet and caring kids but never stop to think that their child is just a reflection of them and how they treat them.
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Lillian
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thanks everyone for posting.
my next question is how old were you when you had your kids (father and/or mother)?
my next question is how old were you when you had your kids (father and/or mother)?
Me 31 wife 30
I concur with NLL's main "theme" and point she is trying to make. All love for the direct and strong one.
I raised two children from birth, and now their 21 and 24 years old. From "birth" they were different human beings. Quentin was the quiet one when under 10. He could play with toys and keep himself occupied, and hardly ever cried for attention nor sought it much. He was a complete joy and a happy baby and toddler. Dustin on the other hand, never shut up when the doc swatted him on the butt, and was the complete opposite of Quentin. Very demanding as a baby and toddler, wanted and needed attention. While the word "no" was acceptable to Quentin (90 percent of the time), it wasn't with Dustin (90 percent of the time). Say no to candy in the store (and we NEVER gave in), and we ended up (several times) literally carrying him out of the store kicking and screaming throwing a temper tantrum---each and every time, no matter how many times it occurred, and no matter how many times we discussed this with him and used various methods and approaches. He was THAT bull-headed. Say no to Quentin, and he would muster the bottom lip, and pout, but no big deal. Dustin sometimes would get violent. For example: When he was about 3 to 4 years old, I said he could not have his favorite candy bar (it was in the evening, I didn't need him wound up, lol), and this yougen proceeded to knock over a tree (with about 40 glass jars) of Mayo on the isle floor (of which I ended up paying for). I proceeded to bust his tiny ass, right then and there. An old lady came by, and said, "can't you control your child, what sort of parent are you?" I was pretty stressed out but became angry only to her comment, and told the old witch to mind her own f--n business.
Never had a problem with Quentin at the day care centers. We had major problems with Dustin at Day Centers. Many times we were called to come and pick him up, because they could not handle his VERY strong willed behavior. Many refused to watch him, and finding sitters was a major problem for many years as a toddler. On the other hand, we would get compliments on the behavior and mannerism, politeness of Quentin as a toddler from day care providers and sitters.
Never had complications in high school with Quentin. Had major complications with Dustin the 4 years of high school. No drugs or alcohol problems, just refusing to go, fighting in school, skipping class, not doing homework assignments, detentions, so on and so forth. The both did graduate and are in college. This is EXTREMELY briefed, lol.
The point here, is that they BOTH came from the SAME home environment. And each walked a different path according to their personalities. We were very involved communicated parents. They were involved in many sporting events, and my wife and I attended them all, as long as work didn't interfere. I was VERY social and interactive with them, and tried to bring out the best attributes and heart within them.
Bad behaving children.......are "NOT necessarily" a result of bad parenting.
Both of my kids are healthy minded, strong, have ambition, mental strength and heart, work hard, and a major player in the world..they create---but it was not easy....at times.
On a side note: When Dustin was about 15/16 he ran up a $5,000 phone bill. He was calling a girl in Canada after we went to bed for an entire month, and we never knew it. (at the time), I told my wife, if I ever ask to have kids later, to please chop my nuts off---->. Though we were responsible for this bill, we always made our children responsible for THEIR actions, and he "literally" paid this off by working at McDonalds, and I accepted nothing less.
Ready to be parents.......LOL....this can be the most misunderstood and sometimes defined-wrong phrase, that needs to be put in the correct.....context.
I love my children. I would give my life for them and any organ in my body if they needed it. Did I make mistakes as a parent, absolutely. It wasn't all fun and games at times. Some very GOOD parents, have children whom go different paths (one good and one bad)---though they were raised in the same environment.
Best wishes,
Chillen
I raised two children from birth, and now their 21 and 24 years old. From "birth" they were different human beings. Quentin was the quiet one when under 10. He could play with toys and keep himself occupied, and hardly ever cried for attention nor sought it much. He was a complete joy and a happy baby and toddler. Dustin on the other hand, never shut up when the doc swatted him on the butt, and was the complete opposite of Quentin. Very demanding as a baby and toddler, wanted and needed attention. While the word "no" was acceptable to Quentin (90 percent of the time), it wasn't with Dustin (90 percent of the time). Say no to candy in the store (and we NEVER gave in), and we ended up (several times) literally carrying him out of the store kicking and screaming throwing a temper tantrum---each and every time, no matter how many times it occurred, and no matter how many times we discussed this with him and used various methods and approaches. He was THAT bull-headed. Say no to Quentin, and he would muster the bottom lip, and pout, but no big deal. Dustin sometimes would get violent. For example: When he was about 3 to 4 years old, I said he could not have his favorite candy bar (it was in the evening, I didn't need him wound up, lol), and this yougen proceeded to knock over a tree (with about 40 glass jars) of Mayo on the isle floor (of which I ended up paying for). I proceeded to bust his tiny ass, right then and there. An old lady came by, and said, "can't you control your child, what sort of parent are you?" I was pretty stressed out but became angry only to her comment, and told the old witch to mind her own f--n business.
Never had a problem with Quentin at the day care centers. We had major problems with Dustin at Day Centers. Many times we were called to come and pick him up, because they could not handle his VERY strong willed behavior. Many refused to watch him, and finding sitters was a major problem for many years as a toddler. On the other hand, we would get compliments on the behavior and mannerism, politeness of Quentin as a toddler from day care providers and sitters.
Never had complications in high school with Quentin. Had major complications with Dustin the 4 years of high school. No drugs or alcohol problems, just refusing to go, fighting in school, skipping class, not doing homework assignments, detentions, so on and so forth. The both did graduate and are in college. This is EXTREMELY briefed, lol.
The point here, is that they BOTH came from the SAME home environment. And each walked a different path according to their personalities. We were very involved communicated parents. They were involved in many sporting events, and my wife and I attended them all, as long as work didn't interfere. I was VERY social and interactive with them, and tried to bring out the best attributes and heart within them.
Bad behaving children.......are "NOT necessarily" a result of bad parenting.
Both of my kids are healthy minded, strong, have ambition, mental strength and heart, work hard, and a major player in the world..they create---but it was not easy....at times.
On a side note: When Dustin was about 15/16 he ran up a $5,000 phone bill. He was calling a girl in Canada after we went to bed for an entire month, and we never knew it. (at the time), I told my wife, if I ever ask to have kids later, to please chop my nuts off---->
. Though we were responsible for this bill, we always made our children responsible for THEIR actions, and he "literally" paid this off by working at McDonalds, and I accepted nothing less.Ready to be parents.......LOL....this can be the most misunderstood and sometimes defined-wrong phrase, that needs to be put in the correct.....context.
I love my children. I would give my life for them and any organ in my body if they needed it. Did I make mistakes as a parent, absolutely. It wasn't all fun and games at times. Some very GOOD parents, have children whom go different paths (one good and one bad)---though they were raised in the same environment.
Best wishes,
Chillen
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I was 23, my wife was 20. Very glad we had kids young now as I'm still very capable of running around after them in the park and stuff.
My parents were about 40 when they had me so by the time I was 10 and wanting to play football in the park my mum and dad weren't really up to running about too much.