Don't touch that one dude. 
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First, I think you handled the situation perfect. I wouldn't give it any attention, and you'd be surprised how soon she'll stop mentioning things like this. She is only 17 so I think you are right when you say you think she is doing it for your attention. At 17 who isn't insecure? But don't "feed the fire" so to speak. Two fold for that, 1. you don't need to harbor the jealousy, 2. it will diminish the behavior.... (geez....I sound like Cesar Milan....lol)
As for her weight, yeah, I'd leave that one alone....woman may ask, but *most* women can't handle the truth!
Say something to the effect of:
"well I don't see that you need to lose weight or anything, but if you want to come to the gym with me, I could show you some exercises that can increase your strength and add to your already *smokin'* bod...."
i totally agree with this. ask her to workout with you and that it would be fun to spend time together that way. just don't mention the weight issue to her. LOL!
lol, she doesnt have to lose weight, but i just prefer a very tight, athletic bod :]]]
im not going to mention it to her :x :]
thanks for the advice everyone, i saw her today and everything is still perfect.
she works out with me every so often, but she also plays tennis everyday...yeah i feel like a douche for thinking she should loose weight x.x
shes only 123...
ANYWAY,
of course i read your replies with a smile, todd :] your a funny guy
thankyou, nolovelost. makes me feel good.
gr8r8, that is true thankyou very much my friend
lillian, thanks and i agree lol my senses told me not to tell her x.x
and of course karks, thanks for helpin as in every other post i make lol
im not going to mention it to her :x :]
thanks for the advice everyone, i saw her today and everything is still perfect.
she works out with me every so often, but she also plays tennis everyday...yeah i feel like a douche for thinking she should loose weight x.x
shes only 123...
ANYWAY,
of course i read your replies with a smile, todd :] your a funny guy
thankyou, nolovelost. makes me feel good.
gr8r8, that is true thankyou very much my friend
lillian, thanks and i agree lol my senses told me not to tell her x.x
and of course karks, thanks for helpin as in every other post i make lol
as long as she remains faithful to me, i dont give a sh** if other guys "hit on" her, because there is nothing i can do about it anyway except get pissed, which doesnt help.
Very good response to the problem man. Think about it this way, you have an attractive girl that guys will hit on and will continue to hit on her until she balloons up which will not be too long with all her eating habbit (jk). There is no way of getting around this whoever you date; if she is a looker guys will flirt with her. Now, it's up to HER to fiend off the guys and tell those guys that she has a boyfriend that she loves a lot.
Ultimately, it's a two way street and as long as she is faithful to you; then you have nothing to worry about. However, if your spidey sense tells you that things does not add up, trust your instinct and take a step back and analyze the problem objectively as you can. If you are a catch, she will not try to swim somewhere else if that means losing you.
To you personally man, you guys are Teenage and there is a lot of insecurity involved. She is a confused girl and things are just changing all the time. Grow together, be secure in yourself and let her know how much you care and love for her (communication is the key to a relationship), tell her how beautiful she is, bla bla bla. I am glad to see that you guys have a trustful and open relationship where she feels comfortable enough to tell you these things. Spend more time in things that she is interested and have her try to do things that you are interested in; grow together.
Btw, you have every right to be feeling pissed. She should cancel the "date" even it's lunch and it's BS that she is going. She can easily use you as an excuse and said that my boyfriend will not feel comfortable with me going to lunch with another guy....
On a side note, nothing like angry sex followed by make-up sex to fix the whole ordeal man.
Very good response to the problem man. Think about it this way, you have an attractive girl that guys will hit on and will continue to hit on her until she balloons up which will not be too long with all her eating habbit (jk). There is no way of getting around this whoever you date; if she is a looker guys will flirt with her. Now, it's up to HER to fiend off the guys and tell those guys that she has a boyfriend that she loves a lot.
Ultimately, it's a two way street and as long as she is faithful to you; then you have nothing to worry about. However, if your spidey sense tells you that things does not add up, trust your instinct and take a step back and analyze the problem objectively as you can. If you are a catch, she will not try to swim somewhere else if that means losing you.
To you personally man, you guys are Teenage and there is a lot of insecurity involved. She is a confused girl and things are just changing all the time. Grow together, be secure in yourself and let her know how much you care and love for her (communication is the key to a relationship), tell her how beautiful she is, bla bla bla. I am glad to see that you guys have a trustful and open relationship where she feels comfortable enough to tell you these things. Spend more time in things that she is interested and have her try to do things that you are interested in; grow together.
Btw, you have every right to be feeling pissed. She should cancel the "date" even it's lunch and it's BS that she is going. She can easily use you as an excuse and said that my boyfriend will not feel comfortable with me going to lunch with another guy....
On a side note, nothing like angry sex followed by make-up sex to fix the whole ordeal man.
Just do what I do: Every time you see her eating say, "You're eating again???". She'll be thin in no time!
LMAO!!!!! evil Mreik!!!!!
I've been through sh1t like this with past gf's (my first proper love actually cheated, and i was blinded by love and oblivious to it all - it hurt)
Like people have said she probably wanted to see you jealous and get a reaction (makes her feel more secure that your showing you care). But not reacting was the right thing IMO. More times you react negatively to those situation, the more power and control it gives them. (all from past experiences)
It's so hard to think like this, but 'if they're gonna cheat they're gonna cheat'. With my first love i was so jealous because she was a proper bitch, but i blame myself for being a little p*ssy. Now i'm loads wiser
If this was me (not saying take this advice I'd ask a girl out for lunch/drinks and tell her and see how she reacts. But i suppose that goes into playing games which isn't always good.
I suppose what Malkore said it right, if you can't trust her or she can't be trusted, then your relationship is f**ked anyway.
Like people have said she probably wanted to see you jealous and get a reaction (makes her feel more secure that your showing you care). But not reacting was the right thing IMO. More times you react negatively to those situation, the more power and control it gives them. (all from past experiences)
It's so hard to think like this, but 'if they're gonna cheat they're gonna cheat'. With my first love i was so jealous because she was a proper bitch, but i blame myself for being a little p*ssy. Now i'm loads wiser
If this was me (not saying take this advice
I'd ask a girl out for lunch/drinks and tell her and see how she reacts. But i suppose that goes into playing games which isn't always good.I suppose what Malkore said it right, if you can't trust her or she can't be trusted, then your relationship is f**ked anyway.
O sh1t i didn't notice there were 2 pages to this thread ^^
And about the losing weight stuff, it depends who you are. Because i've already told my gf that as soon as she starts getting fat i'm finishing her because she eats a lot of sh1t...I've already mentioned about dieting to her etc. (but i can be a ****head)
Love it though.
^^And about the losing weight stuff, it depends who you are. Because i've already told my gf that as soon as she starts getting fat i'm finishing her because she eats a lot of sh1t...I've already mentioned about dieting to her etc. (but i can be a ****head)
Love it though.
any time, mate.
i just casually, trustfully said, "well its up to you."
she was silent, as i was. she was probably suprised that i didnt say anything more.
I don't know how old you are Jon, but assuming she is 17 you must be young also. Your reaction to the situation (including the quote above from your first post) was a very mature decision. I agree with lots of the replies and can say that sometimes its not the action but the reaction people are searching for from others. Sounds like that's whats going on here. just my opinion
she was silent, as i was. she was probably suprised that i didnt say anything more.
I don't know how old you are Jon, but assuming she is 17 you must be young also. Your reaction to the situation (including the quote above from your first post) was a very mature decision. I agree with lots of the replies and can say that sometimes its not the action but the reaction people are searching for from others. Sounds like that's whats going on here. just my opinion
Truer words have never been spoken. Unfortunately I think it takes life experiences (and practice for that matter) to be able to appreciate this reality. Well said malkore.
tic, thankyou man. very true.
hoss and bigtom....lmao...
may66.....thankyou as well : ]
now i know where to get relationship advice from lol
just one other thing i want to see what you guys think and hear some opinions on...
u guys think its a good idea to wait until marriage to have sex?
hoss and bigtom....lmao...
may66.....thankyou as well : ]
now i know where to get relationship advice from lol
just one other thing i want to see what you guys think and hear some opinions on...
u guys think its a good idea to wait until marriage to have sex?
Let me answer this in simple terms (and there IS only one answer)
NO
You still a V PB?
Nah, in all seriousness (well that was mostly serious) why wait? You achieve nothing by waiting, apart from missing out on LOTS of fun times. Sex is nothing IMO, just pleasurable.
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LOL! You like throwing those tough ones out there eh?
I think that really is a personal thing. Some do it for religious reasons, I have heard of the purity ring thing going on with the younger generation, but I'd say you need to ask yourself why you want to or if you want to.
I see nothing wrong with sex before marriage, but it's a personal choice....
LOL could you expect any other answer from Tom when you ask a question like this?Let me answer this in simple terms (and there IS only one answer)
NO
You still a V PB?
As said though it's all up to you really. But I'm gonna say I agree with Tom
But again if you want to wait, kudos to you for doing so.