to start off, yes i know its a random place to post a relationship "problem", but i feel i can trust some people here and i am willing to see what you guys think.
we have been dating 8 months now, and she says she is in love with me. i love her as well.
anyways, yesterday me and my girlfriend were lying down and telling eachother about our days.
after i told her about what i did, she started telling me her day.
she came to a pause, then started telling me about this guy "jessie" who was on the tenniss team with her. she only met him once, and i never met him.
she said he was talking ot her and wanted to "hang out" and she said she thought he meant hitting for tenniss, so she said yes.
then she remembered that he has a hurt foot, so he didnt mean tenniss, and he suggested having lunch with her on sunday. she accepted because she already said yes to "hanging out".
now, when she told me this, my natural reaction was...i dont like this at all. i was actually really suprised because its not like my girlfriend to go out to lunch with guys she met once.
on top of that, i was wondering why this guy was asking my girl out to lunch. honestly, i was pissed inside.
however, i decided not to react negatively as she expected me to. she sometimes tells me sh** like that, and i usually end up getting all suspicious and asking her questions like "why" and saying stuff like "you shouldnt trust him, you hardly know him."
but this time, i was done with being like that.
i just casually, trustfully said, "well its up to you."
she was silent, as i was. she was probably suprised that i didnt say anything more.
in my mind, i think she tells me BS like that to see me get protective and make herself look like she is more desirable because these guys are hitting on her.
she waited for a minute, while kissing me and then she asked me "what are you thinking about honey?"
i said, "i just wish u could have came to the beach with us today."
then, she brought up jessie again out of nowhere and said, "i dont know if im even going to go with him, i hardly know him. it might be awkward."
and i just said, "ok."
and that was that. but seriosly, i wonder why she tells me about guys who hit on her. obviously, i dont like it.
is she just trying to make herself look more desirable to me by showing me how many guys hit on her?
does she WANT a reaction that will make her feel more valued by me?
thats what i think, anyway. i dont see why else.
im honestly very dissapointed in her, because she said yes to going to lunch with this guy she met once. its F-ing obvious hes hitting on her, and she still accepted him...
she does not do it a lot, but she sometimes tells me about guys trying to get her to drink and invite her to parties.
i dont like it, but from now on, im not letting it bother me a bit.
as long as she remains faithful to me, i dont give a sh** if other guys "hit on" her, because there is nothing i can do about it anyway except get pissed, which doesnt help.
can i get some responses, and what you guys think?
thanks a lot,
jon
we have been dating 8 months now, and she says she is in love with me. i love her as well.
anyways, yesterday me and my girlfriend were lying down and telling eachother about our days.
after i told her about what i did, she started telling me her day.
she came to a pause, then started telling me about this guy "jessie" who was on the tenniss team with her. she only met him once, and i never met him.
she said he was talking ot her and wanted to "hang out" and she said she thought he meant hitting for tenniss, so she said yes.
then she remembered that he has a hurt foot, so he didnt mean tenniss, and he suggested having lunch with her on sunday. she accepted because she already said yes to "hanging out".
now, when she told me this, my natural reaction was...i dont like this at all. i was actually really suprised because its not like my girlfriend to go out to lunch with guys she met once.
on top of that, i was wondering why this guy was asking my girl out to lunch. honestly, i was pissed inside.
however, i decided not to react negatively as she expected me to. she sometimes tells me sh** like that, and i usually end up getting all suspicious and asking her questions like "why" and saying stuff like "you shouldnt trust him, you hardly know him."
but this time, i was done with being like that.
i just casually, trustfully said, "well its up to you."
she was silent, as i was. she was probably suprised that i didnt say anything more.
in my mind, i think she tells me BS like that to see me get protective and make herself look like she is more desirable because these guys are hitting on her.
she waited for a minute, while kissing me and then she asked me "what are you thinking about honey?"
i said, "i just wish u could have came to the beach with us today."
then, she brought up jessie again out of nowhere and said, "i dont know if im even going to go with him, i hardly know him. it might be awkward."
and i just said, "ok."
and that was that. but seriosly, i wonder why she tells me about guys who hit on her. obviously, i dont like it.
is she just trying to make herself look more desirable to me by showing me how many guys hit on her?
does she WANT a reaction that will make her feel more valued by me?
thats what i think, anyway. i dont see why else.
im honestly very dissapointed in her, because she said yes to going to lunch with this guy she met once. its F-ing obvious hes hitting on her, and she still accepted him...
she does not do it a lot, but she sometimes tells me about guys trying to get her to drink and invite her to parties.
i dont like it, but from now on, im not letting it bother me a bit.
as long as she remains faithful to me, i dont give a sh** if other guys "hit on" her, because there is nothing i can do about it anyway except get pissed, which doesnt help.
can i get some responses, and what you guys think?
thanks a lot,
jon
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