Friends?

flyinfree said:
hahahaha that is too funny- bait them and see what comes back,,,, LOL!!! women are soo strategic..... it's scary actually.
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Men do similar things. They just use different tactics/strategies. Especially in corporate affairs. It's freaking brutal what goes on between the higher ups in corporations ...

Not all women do this, FF. I'm just very, very cagey and I like to spin my web very carefully so that when people get stuck in it, their asses are mine. I don't screw around when it comes to corporate BS. I like to have proof, either a paper trail or witnesses to the deed ;)
 
MarkMyWords said:
I know what you mean. I think it's better to have a few people close than many people just kinda there, not close, just acquaintances. Then again, things could be changing for me, so I can't really talk about having close friends, as maybe I have been the fool all along.
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Hey, don't beat yourself up over this. Some people are just a$$holes and b1tches. It's not a reflection on you. It's a reflection on them.

I know you're probably hurting because of what has happened. I would be. I don't like the feeling of being betrayed. It's really hurtful and it takes awhile to get over it, especially if you thought they were close friends. They've more or less made a mockery of your friendship by bad-mouthing you.

If it was me, I'd tell them all to piss off. I don't need to hang around people like that.
 
Something doesn’t smell right about this; I’m gonna stick my neck out and say your girlfriend’s full of ****.
You need to remove yourself from the emotion for a second here. First off, why would your really close friends all act like such assholes at the same time? One of them acting like a **** when drunk is understandable but all of them together?
And then secondly, if they were gonna start bad mouthing you, why would do it openly to your girlfriend when they knew it would get fed straight beck to you? That’s just dumb and doesn’t sound so likely

I’m going to put a little outside bet that when you meet up with your friends to discus this it turns out that they make similar claims about your girlfriend; that she said something bad about you and is trying to cover her tracks.

My money’s on the friends
 
Hey man, chin up. Some fellas are d!cks as are some girls. Hold out until you hear what your friends say.
Whatever happens just rise above it and be the better person. Real friends will still be there for you as they realise the trust that has been built up. It's easy to get sucked in and brought down to somebody elses level. Hold out, get all the info and make an informed decision.

Best of luck.
 
ummm... will you accept your friends back even if they still don't like your gf?
Are you willing to forgive them? Even if they don't apologize for what they did? . . . just curious.:D
 
NBS 4life said:
I would hit them up about it, ask them why they dissin on you to your girlfriend. They dont sound like good mates to me
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Word, I am going to give em their chance to speak. I'm just not going outta my way to hear it.
i_love_muscle said:
Hey, don't beat yourself up over this. Some people are just a$$holes and b1tches. It's not a reflection on you. It's a reflection on them.

I know you're probably hurting because of what has happened. I would be. I don't like the feeling of being betrayed. It's really hurtful and it takes awhile to get over it, especially if you thought they were close friends. They've more or less made a mockery of your friendship by bad-mouthing you.

If it was me, I'd tell them all to piss off. I don't need to hang around people like that.
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Thanks for the support, you speak the truth methinks. It does hurt for exactly what you said, I suppose you know the feeling. I'm not gonna tell em off without at least hearing them out. I honestly don't know what they can possibly say to justify anything, but who knows.
 
Typhon said:
Something doesn’t smell right about this; I’m gonna stick my neck out and say your girlfriend’s full of ****.
You need to remove yourself from the emotion for a second here. First off, why would your really close friends all act like such assholes at the same time? One of them acting like a **** when drunk is understandable but all of them together?
And then secondly, if they were gonna start bad mouthing you, why would do it openly to your girlfriend when they knew it would get fed straight beck to you? That’s just dumb and doesn’t sound so likely

I’m going to put a little outside bet that when you meet up with your friends to discus this it turns out that they make similar claims about your girlfriend; that she said something bad about you and is trying to cover her tracks.

My money’s on the friends
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Ha, well cool, I can appreciate your view on it. I'm not so sure though. I know her pretty well. Not to mention, she knows I am going to talk to them, so what good what it be to her to be completely lying about it? I would find out within a short time, so it would only buy her a little time. I dunno, I just think what she told me is the truth...also remember my one friend was there with his woman, and she is one manipulative bitch. I think he is hella swayed by her, and she has never liked my gf from the start. His girl is a lawyer, so that about covers what I think of her.

NickyK said:
Hey man, chin up. Some fellas are d!cks as are some girls. Hold out until you hear what your friends say.
Whatever happens just rise above it and be the better person. Real friends will still be there for you as they realise the trust that has been built up. It's easy to get sucked in and brought down to somebody elses level. Hold out, get all the info and make an informed decision.

Best of luck.
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Thanks dude, I appreciate it. You speak wise words, I will not rush or make any rash decisions. I feel a little better today, telling myself I am still in control of my life regardless of any "friends" or lack thereof. Anyhow, thanks for chiming in.

SKMMAN said:
ummm... will you accept your friends back even if they still don't like your gf?
Are you willing to forgive them? Even if they don't apologize for what they did? . . . just curious.:D
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Ha, good Qs. If they don't like my GF, sure a friendship could and would work, it's just the extreme they took it to. Dissing me and her all in one bundle. WTF.

I can forgive just about anyone for anything, I think. I just want an explanation. If they explain, and it makes sense (which I am wondering how the hell it can), forgiveness is not something I'm incapible of.
 
Percy Sledge - When a man loves a woman said:
If she's bad he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
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Very true that :D, careful you don’t allow your judgement to be clouded by the way you feel for this girl. I just have a hunch that you’re being played a little. It comes from years of propping up bars at 4am listening to friends who’ve been hurt. By this kind of crap; it always seems to follow the same pattern of girl creating tension between her boyfriend and his mates and gradually pulling them apart

I once asked my best mate why he had just split with his girlfriend after he’d just moved back from Spain to be near her and he said that she bad mouthed me and said I wasn’t a good influence on him; she was worried that he spent too much time with me. He’d just driven 150 miles to her house but he picked up his coat, got straight back in the car and drove all the way home and never spoke to her again. That’s a good friend, and something just about no woman in the world would do for you. Male friends > girl friends
 
Typhon said:
Very true that :D, careful you don’t allow your judgement to be clouded by the way you feel for this girl. I just have a hunch that you’re being played a little. It comes from years of propping up bars at 4am listening to friends who’ve been hurt. By this kind of crap; it always seems to follow the same pattern of girl creating tension between her boyfriend and his mates and gradually pulling them apart

I once asked my best mate why he had just split with his girlfriend after he’d just moved back from Spain to be near her and he said that she bad mouthed me and said I wasn’t a good influence on him; she was worried that he spent too much time with me. He’d just driven 150 miles to her house but he picked up his coat, got straight back in the car and drove all the way home and never spoke to her again. That’s a good friend, and something just about no woman in the world would do for you. Male friends > girl friends
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Haha, thanks for the nice song snippet. It is true, and I know it. Maybe I am being played, in fact, I know I already have been played somewhat. I guess I feel like I'm in control enough to pick up the pieces and halt the madness. I assure you I won't fall so deep into being played that I end up lost and desiring nothing more than to drink to forget.

Sounds like you have a very good friend there. The way it should be. This whole thing just sucks, why can't male friends be what I need them to be, buddies I can shoot the **** with, go out to bars with, and just talk crap with. Girl friends, you can be a different person, one you want to fulfill from inside, ya know, be a man for her. Instead, both things have to muck together and lead to a nasty mess.
 
You know, Typhon might be right. I might have been too quick on the mark for dissing your friends.

I've been thinking about things that women did when I was in my 20s, and I'm going to agree with some of the guys here by saying there are a lot of manipulative women out there that play both ends against the middle to try to get what they want, whatever that is. And this sounds like a classic case of playing both ends against the middle.

The reason women like that will do this is because they know men are weak for their flesh and easily duped. Maybe your girlfriend is tired of your friends and wants you all to herself.

You might want to take a serious step back from your girlfriend so you can see this situation VERY clearly.

And listen to what your friends have to say about what happened.

I hope I'm wrong ...
 
Kraken said:
The Yeti knows no love. Yeti's just use and abuse. But I'm sure you'd enjoy that.:cool:
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Your hiding your feelings, i know you love me. Its just hard for you to let it out because of your fur.
 
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