Do all guys check out other girls when they're dating someone?

I'm a woman and in all my relationships I checked out other men. It's human nature, and it doesn't mean your boyfriend doesn't like you or wants to cheat on you. I would be more worried if he didn't look at other women, because that is just not normal.
 
I'd be more worried if you didn't know about it. But if you know they are (if they make some sort of comment) then you can be assured that they want you, and they feel GUILTY about checking out the other girl. So don't worry. Everyone checks out other people, even when in a relationship, it is human nature and has nothing to do with you. Don't take it personally. And the important thing is to be in a realtionship where you trust the person enough to know all they will do is look, briefly, and not do anything else.
 
took the family to the pool today, and there is not way in hell any man can go to a pool and not check out the opposite sex. It just isn't possible.
 
i think your main problem is your insecurity. i was in that state for a while, and when the guy that i like as much as glance to another girl, i went ballistic. hahaha but then, i realized that it's not worth it, if you like me then you like me, if you don't then it's your loss.

and my bf right now, is such a wonderful guy, he's the nicest, kindest, most caring guy i've ever met. he thinks that i'm the best *for him anyway* but still, sometimes, i catch him glancing or staring at a girl, and asked why, and he said that, most of the time, when you caught a guy looking at a girl for a second too long, it means that he can't decide what to think of it. can't decide whether she's hot, or not. hahahaha. because if she's hot/ugly. he'll just "notice" then forget it the second after. but then he always told me how much he like me and how pretty he thinks i am.

as long as you have eyes, it'd be pretty hard to not "look". i check out hot/cute guys(and girls) all the time too :D can't help it. i love beautiful things.
 
Maja said:
he said that, most of the time, when you caught a guy looking at a girl for a second too long, it means that he can't decide what to think of it. can't decide whether she's hot, or not. hahahaha. because if she's hot/ugly. he'll just "notice" then forget it the second after.
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HAHAHAHA wwwwwhat?

I'm a dude myself and I neeeeever would've come up with that answer. Not in a million years.
 
ChefChiTown said:
...says the girl with half-naked pictures of herself in a bikini posted in her profile?

You're upset that your boyfriend 'checks out' other girls, but you have nooooo problem posting pictures of yourself in a bikini on the internet, for the whole world to see, just so you can get off on the 'OMG U R sooooo HAWT' type comments and get some sort of self-absorbed ego boost?

Relationships take TWO people to work at it in order to be successful. You can't get upset at your boyfriend for doing something that you are trying to get other boyfriends to do. You don't want your man to gawk at other women, but you want other men to gawk at you?

Oh, and you also started an entire thread just so you could show off your "bikini body". You have no right to be upset at all.

Man, how does it feel to have your cake and eat it too?

On a serious note - Yes, ALL men look. So do ALL women. Nobody can deny it. Grow up.

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I agree with everything that you're saying, except the last part. No, not all guys look and not all women look. I have been in a relationship for 5 years, and I must say he has really proven me wrong. I thought all guys checked girls out and found them beautiful. But no, I know for a fact that my bf never does, it really depends on how much the guy actually loves you. If he's mad about you, he has absolutely no reason to find another girl beautiful.

PS. Do not speak for other people, you haven't met every single man/woman in the world. You wouldn't know if they all looked or not.
 
Stefani said:
Does no one have eyes just for you? Does every guy check out other girls when they have a perfectly good one already?

I thought that if I lost enough weight I would be hot enough that this wouldn't happen, but if I get the response I expect, every man out there checks out other girls. Guess that means I'm spending the rest of my life alone because I can't trust anyone.
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Off course there are guys out there who will have eyes just for you. All guys are idiots, and they all make mistakes. But... Once they meet the girl of their dreams, that's it. They've given their heart away to you, which means they will not speak to other girls or look at other girls in any way (if that's what you want). I know exactly how you feel. I'm like that with my bf, I can't take him looking at other girls or talking to them and he never does! I've seen the way he acts around other girls, he isn't interested! All he cares about is his xbox and me! If the guy is madly in love with you, he will only ever be interested in you and your looks. Other girls will be dust! We've been together almost 5 years now! I would have clocked on if he was lying.

Good luck with your relationship :)
 
RuqiieCookiie said:
I agree with everything that you're saying, except the last part. No, not all guys look and not all women look. I have been in a relationship for 5 years, and I must say he has really proven me wrong. I thought all guys checked girls out and found them beautiful. But no, I know for a fact that my bf never does, it really depends on how much the guy actually loves you. If he's mad about you, he has absolutely no reason to find another girl beautiful.

PS. Do not speak for other people, you haven't met every single man/woman in the world. You wouldn't know if they all looked or not.
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Your boyfriend looks at other women. You are sorely mistaken if you think otherwise. He may not sensually undress them with his eyes or have secret, dirty and sexual thoughts about them in his mind, but he still looks...he still notices...he's still a human being. Nobody is exempt from human nature. Not me, not you, not your boyfriend - not anybody in the world.

And, love has absolutely NOTHING to do with "looking." I love my girlfriend and have zero interest in anybody else, but if there was an attractive, half-naked women walking near me (whether my girlfriend was there or not), I wouldn't be able to help but notice her. Just like if there was an attractive, half-naked man walking near her, she wouldn't be able to help but notice him. Would we necessarily want to be looking? No, we love each other and have no interest in being with anyone else. But, we still look. And, there's nothing wrong with it. Is it anything to get mad or jealous about? No, absolutely not. Why? Because, it's human nature to notice the things around you, especially other human beings.
 
ChefChiTown said:
Your boyfriend looks at other women. You are sorely mistaken if you think otherwise. He may not sensually undress them with his eyes or have secret, dirty and sexual thoughts about them in his mind, but he still looks...he still notices...he's still a human being. Nobody is exempt from human nature. Not me, not you, not your boyfriend - not anybody in the world.

And, love has absolutely NOTHING to do with "looking." I love my girlfriend and have zero interest in anybody else, but if there was an attractive, half-naked women walking near me (whether my girlfriend was there or not), I wouldn't be able to help but notice her. Just like if there was an attractive, half-naked man walking near her, she wouldn't be able to help but notice him. Would we necessarily want to be looking? No, we love each other and have no interest in being with anyone else. But, we still look. And, there's nothing wrong with it. Is it anything to get mad or jealous about? No, absolutely not. Why? Because, it's human nature to notice the things around you, especially other human beings.
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Sorry, but who told you it's human nature? Just because majority of the men cannot help themselves? I can't look at another man and notice him, even if he's fully naked in front of me, I will keep my eyes down and hate the guy more than anything let alone 'notice' him. I have friends who check guys out in front of me talking about their 'six packs' and what not! I have no interest or the slightest temptation to look or give a shit!

My boyfriend has satisfied me and amazed me so much, that the habit of looking around at other men has completely gone. It's a habit that develops in your teenage years, and thankfully, me and my bf have grown out of it :)

One question... If you did notice a half naked woman, would you find her attractive?
 
RuqiieCookiie said:
I can't look at another man and notice him, even if he's fully naked in front of me, I will keep my eyes down and hate the guy more than anything let alone 'notice' him.
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If you didn't 'notice' the half naked man standing in front of you, then you wouldn't need to keep your eyes down and hate him. That's all Chef is saying... People notice their surroundings. That not all men and women sit there and ogle, gawk, or drool, but they notice who is around him. If there was an attractive man standing next to me, and there was a butt ugly dude standing next to him... I would notice them both, because they're standing right there. Being in love doesn't make you physically blind, you can still see. Your boyfriend probably doesn't gawk at other women, but he can still see them... and whatever women he would of found attractive before he started dating you, he's still going to find attractive. It's biology. Things like that don't just shut off because you start dating someone. It doesn't mean he wants to be with them or is thinking dirty thoughts about them though.

There are plenty of men and women that are respectful, devoted, loyal, and don't "check out" other people in a crude or immature way.... but they are not all blind. They can still see attractive people around them.
 
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RuqiieCookiie said:
Sorry, but who told you it's human nature? Just because majority of the men cannot help themselves? I can't look at another man and notice him, even if he's fully naked in front of me, I will keep my eyes down and hate the guy more than anything let alone 'notice' him. I have friends who check guys out in front of me talking about their 'six packs' and what not! I have no interest or the slightest temptation to look or give a shit!

My boyfriend has satisfied me and amazed me so much, that the habit of looking around at other men has completely gone. It's a habit that develops in your teenage years, and thankfully, me and my bf have grown out of it :)

One question... If you did notice a half naked woman, would you find her attractive?
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Common sense told me that it's human nature. It's human nature to take in your surroundings and that includes other people.

And, if a person is attractive I would notice that they were attractive. It doesn't mean I would BE attracted to them and there's a huge difference. I think you're confusing the two. Noticing somebody and/or finding them physically attractive doesn't mean you have feelings for them. I've seen many attractive people since I've been with my girlfriend but that doesn't mean I've wanted them in any way, shape or form, and it certainly doesn't mean my love for my girlfriend has been compromised. Why? Once again, it's human nature.

I just think you have an unrealistic point of view on this topic. People notice other people all the time and there's nothing wrong with it. People in relationships find more than just their significant other attractive and there's nothing wrong with it. Hell, my girlfriend (who is sitting right next to me as I type this) finds Ryan Reynolds incredibly attractive...and there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't bother me. It doesn't bother me because she doesn't have feelings for him. She finds him physically attractive but has no place in her heart for him. That spot belongs to me. She has feelings for me and only me...but, that doesn't mean she's blind...she still notices other men and finds some of them physically attractive. And, that's ok. Because...once again...it's human...nature.
 
ChefChiTown said:
Common sense told me that it's human nature. It's human nature to take in your surroundings and that includes other people.

And, if a person is attractive I would notice that they were attractive. It doesn't mean I would BE attracted to them and there's a huge difference. I think you're confusing the two. Noticing somebody and/or finding them physically attractive doesn't mean you have feelings for them. I've seen many attractive people since I've been with my girlfriend but that doesn't mean I've wanted them in any way, shape or form, and it certainly doesn't mean my love for my girlfriend has been compromised. Why? Once again, it's human nature.

I just think you have an unrealistic point of view on this topic. People notice other people all the time and there's nothing wrong with it. People in relationships find more than just their significant other attractive and there's nothing wrong with it. Hell, my girlfriend (who is sitting right next to me as I type this) finds Ryan Reynolds incredibly attractive...and there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't bother me. It doesn't bother me because she doesn't have feelings for him. She finds him physically attractive but has no place in her heart for him. That spot belongs to me. She has feelings for me and only me...but, that doesn't mean she's blind...she still notices other men and finds some of them physically attractive. And, that's ok. Because...once again...it's human...nature.
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Maybe your right. I do notice people around me, but obviously not in the sense that "oh he's attractive". I simply do not care. From what you're saying, yes everyone looks but not necessarily in the sense of finding them attractive, but simply just to see what's around me and where I'm going. Ever since I've met my other half, he's met the highest standards of attraction for me that I can't even give a shit of who else is attractive. You're right we notice people, though, it does not mean we're finding them attractive or analysing their looks.

Thanks for the reply. I appreciate your answer and respect your views.
 
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