Attracting Shy, Athletic, Driven girls
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Well if she is Olympic material, you might have a hard time. I mean her parents probably encourage - and spend a lot of money for - her to make it to Olympic level and thus having a social life/boyfriend would probably be viewed negatively.
But then again, it wouldn't hurt to try. I mean the worst that will happen is she'll say no or her parents will tell you to leave.
But then again, it wouldn't hurt to try. I mean the worst that will happen is she'll say no or her parents will tell you to leave.
Yea thats quite true in some cases.
At the end of the day, we cant do it for ya. Go with your instinct lad
if you can find some way to compete with her and kick her ass, like smashing her in the face with a volleyball or womething- that would be best. NOT KIDDING! Even a foos ball game would work.
OR- Tell her what you have done. Say- "um,, uh, I think you look great and check this out- I went to my good friends at my fitness site, I talk to them every day, and they had all kinds of suggestions on how I could approach you.... it is the finniest thing in the world. I am sorry for being such a dork,,, but you gotta see this stuff. It is from FL, to New Zealand to London England. It's a riot. Then "wip it out"- yours or a borrowed laptop. AND laugh with her, at US!"
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OR- Tell her what you have done. Say- "um,, uh, I think you look great and check this out- I went to my good friends at my fitness site, I talk to them every day, and they had all kinds of suggestions on how I could approach you.... it is the finniest thing in the world. I am sorry for being such a dork,,, but you gotta see this stuff. It is from FL, to New Zealand to London England. It's a riot. Then "wip it out"- yours or a borrowed laptop. AND laugh with her, at US!"
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First off, ya'all are scary....minus a couple of suggestions....
Then don't bother. This is a key element of you truly want to get to know someone and this gal doesn't seem the type to waste her time with people who are just lusting after her.
If you want to meet her I think Evo said it best:
That's the sort of person she may be more willing to get to know....
Then don't bother. This is a key element of you truly want to get to know someone and this gal doesn't seem the type to waste her time with people who are just lusting after her.
If you want to meet her I think Evo said it best:
That's the sort of person she may be more willing to get to know....
Yeah, sometimes subtle really is the best. A girl can get easily offended, if she respects herself that is, if you come on too strong and act like all you're interested in is sex. If that is your only interest, there are plenty of women in the business. You don't have to waste your time on subtleties with them.
I say, if you're looking for a meaningful relationship, take your time. And whatever you do, don't ask for her number the first time you meet her. And I think probably the worst thing you can do is give her your number. Don't do that. Trust me.
If a self respecting girl senses that all you're after is sex, she'll be able to smell it a mile away. Chances are, if she had enough determination and ability to get to the level she's at with swimming, she probably thinks highly of herself and her body. Take it slow with her if you want anything to come out of it. Try to act like you're not extremely interested. Leave her guessing.
I say, if you're looking for a meaningful relationship, take your time. And whatever you do, don't ask for her number the first time you meet her. And I think probably the worst thing you can do is give her your number. Don't do that. Trust me.
If a self respecting girl senses that all you're after is sex, she'll be able to smell it a mile away. Chances are, if she had enough determination and ability to get to the level she's at with swimming, she probably thinks highly of herself and her body. Take it slow with her if you want anything to come out of it. Try to act like you're not extremely interested. Leave her guessing.
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This thread is great.
I recommend you go with the "just be around" advice. But also the "don't be creepy" advice. If you've got anything at all to work with, work with it, but in a very casual, disarming way. Be friendly and funny, but completely mysterious with regard to your intentions. Don't put off the friend vibe, but don't put off the hornivore vibe either. In my experience, nobody who's serious (and I like to think an Olympic hopeful qualifies for that category) appreciates being cold-called by some gym dweller.
Then again, I barely know what I'm talking about.
I recommend you go with the "just be around" advice. But also the "don't be creepy" advice. If you've got anything at all to work with, work with it, but in a very casual, disarming way. Be friendly and funny, but completely mysterious with regard to your intentions. Don't put off the friend vibe, but don't put off the hornivore vibe either. In my experience, nobody who's serious (and I like to think an Olympic hopeful qualifies for that category) appreciates being cold-called by some gym dweller.
Then again, I barely know what I'm talking about.
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Swimming at that level takes a ton of dedication and practice. SHE HAS NO LIFE! I can say that because I've been there! I dated my husband 2 different times in high school. Once was as a sophomore at the prime of my swimming and I had NO time for him and he was a major distraction! I was annoyed by a relationship that took me away from my goals. So we broke up-duh. The second time was as a graduated senior denying a scholarship to go instead to a college that DID NOT offer swimming because I was so sick of having no life! That time dating took and we got married 2 years later
She won't have time for you dude. as much as she might want to, she won't be able to balance it and you'll get frustrated and jealous of her loyalty to the sport.
Better to do as some others have said and just be a really good friend in the mean time. I'd be willing to bet she doesn't have a ton of time for them either, and you have a daily opportunity!
She won't have time for you dude. as much as she might want to, she won't be able to balance it and you'll get frustrated and jealous of her loyalty to the sport.
Better to do as some others have said and just be a really good friend in the mean time. I'd be willing to bet she doesn't have a ton of time for them either, and you have a daily opportunity!
if he wants her for other things than friendship then I think waiting for her like a friend until she has time for a bf is a bad move. Like I said, the transition from really good friend to lover/BF doesn't always go that great. and she won't have anymore time for him just becaue he is a friend.
I say go for it, dude.
Don't waste time with idle conversation. Don't try to be friends and don't try to act like something you're not. It's best to get right to the point and fast. The worst possible thing that will occur is that she’ll say no.
Approach her the best way you think is possible. Don't pretend to be something you cannot be. If you want to be blunt, just walk right up to her and tell her what not.
First impression means everything. Don't say Hi and all that dumb stuff will burn you fast. You got to do something clever. Perhaps attempt to do a swim with her, then fail. Then afterwards, ask her for some help and pointers. If the conversation picks up, then invite her to something public like a swim meet or perhaps some time away like a movie, or dinner.
If all else fails, then hand her a rag and ask if it smells like chloroform.
Don't waste time with idle conversation. Don't try to be friends and don't try to act like something you're not. It's best to get right to the point and fast. The worst possible thing that will occur is that she’ll say no.
Approach her the best way you think is possible. Don't pretend to be something you cannot be. If you want to be blunt, just walk right up to her and tell her what not.
First impression means everything. Don't say Hi and all that dumb stuff will burn you fast. You got to do something clever. Perhaps attempt to do a swim with her, then fail. Then afterwards, ask her for some help and pointers. If the conversation picks up, then invite her to something public like a swim meet or perhaps some time away like a movie, or dinner.
If all else fails, then hand her a rag and ask if it smells like chloroform.
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I think you should try to be friends. Every serious relationship starts with a good solid friendship. You need to be friends with your partner if you ever want it to go anywhere. I mean, imagine living with someone who isn't even your friend. That would be uncomfortable.
Be friendly, act casual. Like I said, you've got to be friends first before any serious thing can come of it.
Actually, that's not true. If the girl is interested, she will make the first move (sexually I mean). The guy just has to be there, and be a gentleman. Seriously, if a guy just ends up as a friend it's because the girl isn't attracted to him. She should let you know early on whether or not she's interested. Let her make the first move.
I guess what I'm warning against is just moving in and trying to "score" or even get a kiss on the first date. It can be intimidating and could come off as if sex is the only important thing. As I said, if a girl wants sex, she'll let the guy know.
I say, wait until at least the 3rd date before things start getting physical (as in kissing/necking) and at least 6 months before you even start thinking about intercourse.
I say, wait until at least the 3rd date before things start getting physical (as in kissing/necking) and at least 6 months before you even start thinking about intercourse.