20lbs or less club
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AnnaBananna
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Good restaurant experience (thanks to you guys!)
I just wanted to tell you that I had a really good restaurant experience tonight, thanks to you guys. I went out with a bunch of girlfriends and they made a couple of comments about how I just ate a grilled chicken salad (no chips or heavy dressing) and thanks to our discussion I felt just fine saying, yup, that really hit the spot! And they were totally fine with that and moved on to another topic. It felt great! So, thanks guys!
I just wanted to tell you that I had a really good restaurant experience tonight, thanks to you guys. I went out with a bunch of girlfriends and they made a couple of comments about how I just ate a grilled chicken salad (no chips or heavy dressing) and thanks to our discussion I felt just fine saying, yup, that really hit the spot! And they were totally fine with that and moved on to another topic. It felt great! So, thanks guys!
CaseyAtMartin
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Great job!
That's awesome Anna!
I think it's all about confidence.. not over confidence or to a defensive level.. and to the "food pushers" credit a lot of people want attention about their eating. Not all, but some. Anyway, I need to work on my confidense because when your mind is set there isn't much arguing with it.
I think it's hard because we feel good making good choices and we don't want people to think we are suffering, but yet sometimes we want them to know we are making effort and the results don't "just" happen for most of us. I think it's a fine line. Does anyone else think about this?
I think it's all about confidence.. not over confidence or to a defensive level.. and to the "food pushers" credit a lot of people want attention about their eating. Not all, but some. Anyway, I need to work on my confidense because when your mind is set there isn't much arguing with it.
I think it's hard because we feel good making good choices and we don't want people to think we are suffering, but yet sometimes we want them to know we are making effort and the results don't "just" happen for most of us. I think it's a fine line. Does anyone else think about this?
Jennay: big congrats on the 4 lbs down...that's a big loss so close to your close..hoping a little of your magic rubs off my way
AnnaBananna: good for you..."yup, that hit the spot"...I don't know why but I started giggling when I read that.
Kat_blue I think about it more than I want too...It's so strange because I usually have pretty much zero interest in what people around me are eating and less interest in talking about what I'm eating (during the meal)..but I have co-workers who actually say things to me like "oh you would have been so proud of me today at lunch...I ate etc. etc. etc.". I seldom sit down for a shared meal without someone asking the nutrient value of something they are eating or looking at something I'm eating and asking why I chose it. I recently had a girlfriend say (after a dinner with several friends) that she had hoped I wouldn't show up because she wanted to order a big plate of ribs but since I was there she was having grilled chicken?????? What am I, the dining hall monitor???? I guess it's funny in a weird way.
I've tried - with no luck cause I'm a computer dork - to download some before and after pics. Finally gave up and am just pasting link to a public album for anybody who wants to take a looksee.
AnnaBananna: good for you..."yup, that hit the spot"...I don't know why but I started giggling when I read that.
Kat_blue I think about it more than I want too...It's so strange because I usually have pretty much zero interest in what people around me are eating and less interest in talking about what I'm eating (during the meal)..but I have co-workers who actually say things to me like "oh you would have been so proud of me today at lunch...I ate etc. etc. etc.". I seldom sit down for a shared meal without someone asking the nutrient value of something they are eating or looking at something I'm eating and asking why I chose it. I recently had a girlfriend say (after a dinner with several friends) that she had hoped I wouldn't show up because she wanted to order a big plate of ribs but since I was there she was having grilled chicken?????? What am I, the dining hall monitor????
I guess it's funny in a weird way.I've tried - with no luck cause I'm a computer dork - to download some before and after pics. Finally gave up and am just pasting link to a public album for anybody who wants to take a looksee.
AnnaBananna
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Welcome, BellaOx (funny name - I like it ) You've come to the right place - this group rocks!
Kat: I totally know what you mean about the fine line between wanting to make good choices, wanting people to realize that you're not depriving yourself, and wanting them to know that you do have to work at it (so for the love of Pete, stop trying to force that piece of pie down my throat! ) I totally agree that it all comes down to having confidence about it. If you just know who you are and what you want and act and speak accordingly, other people are more likely to accept it and move on to more interesting topics. (Easier said than done though, right!) I've been practicing this and I'm starting to find that the more I act like I know what I'm doing, the easier it gets. My big issue has been binge eating, and so when I read this book about it (Runaway Eating by Bulik -- REALLY good book if you're interested!), one of her main points was that if you truly believe that you can conquer food's hold on you, then you can do it. I used to be the type of person who couldn't have sweets or snacks in the house b/c I'd devour the entirel bag/box immediately, but once I truly believed that it didn't have to be that way, I now have tons of junk in the house, and I just have a little bit once in a while when I feel the urge (which is surprisingly infrequently - hooray!)
Uh oh, crying baby must go - ack!
I have another question for the group but I will post later at next naptime
xoxo,
Anna
) You've come to the right place - this group rocks!Kat: I totally know what you mean about the fine line between wanting to make good choices, wanting people to realize that you're not depriving yourself, and wanting them to know that you do have to work at it (so for the love of Pete, stop trying to force that piece of pie down my throat!
) I totally agree that it all comes down to having confidence about it. If you just know who you are and what you want and act and speak accordingly, other people are more likely to accept it and move on to more interesting topics. (Easier said than done though, right!) I've been practicing this and I'm starting to find that the more I act like I know what I'm doing, the easier it gets. My big issue has been binge eating, and so when I read this book about it (Runaway Eating by Bulik -- REALLY good book if you're interested!), one of her main points was that if you truly believe that you can conquer food's hold on you, then you can do it. I used to be the type of person who couldn't have sweets or snacks in the house b/c I'd devour the entirel bag/box immediately, but once I truly believed that it didn't have to be that way, I now have tons of junk in the house, and I just have a little bit once in a while when I feel the urge (which is surprisingly infrequently - hooray!)Uh oh, crying baby must go - ack!
I have another question for the group but I will post later at next naptime
xoxo,
Anna
AnnaBananna
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Ok, so here is my question: I cannot for the life of me figure out how to eat <= 1250 calories a day. I guess I'm too used to eating 1500-2000... I graze all day long (mostly out of nervousness), so maybe trying hard to eat distinct meals and snacks? Anyway, I feel heaps healthier than before I started this forum, and I'm exercising lots more and making better choices, but still I'm not losing weight. Any hot tips from you hot mamas?
Ok, so here is my question: I cannot for the life of me figure out how to eat <= 1250 calories a day. I guess I'm too used to eating 1500-2000... I graze all day long (mostly out of nervousness), so maybe trying hard to eat distinct meals and snacks? Anyway, I feel heaps healthier than before I started this forum, and I'm exercising lots more and making better choices, but still I'm not losing weight. Any hot tips from you hot mamas?
courage to be
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hey there everyone... I haven't been over on this board too much in the past few days... I had a very weird week... It appeared that I lost about 3 lbs last week (end of last week) but by this morning I had gained some of it back.. but it's also that time of the month - so who knows what's going on with my body!
annabananna - i think definately distinct meals and snacks will help. Set out two-three snacks for each day, and plan what they will be the day before or morning of... snacking is what gets me into trouble too- and when I forget to pack an apple or some fig newtons (my FAVORITE snack) I always make bad choices.
annabananna - i think definately distinct meals and snacks will help. Set out two-three snacks for each day, and plan what they will be the day before or morning of... snacking is what gets me into trouble too- and when I forget to pack an apple or some fig newtons (my FAVORITE snack) I always make bad choices.
jennay
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Anna -- My trainer has me eating certain percentages of my calories per day based on my activity (cardio, weights, or rest) and then the meals are broken down so that different foods are consumed at certain points in the day. It is fairly complex and I am glad I paid for the meal plans. I do have to admit, I am starting to freak out a little. What I wouldn't give for some chips, candy, pizza, even a piece of bread with butter and jam would be decadent
AnnaBananna
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rats...
Ok, so I guess it looks like my grazing really must stop if I am to make any progress... rats! Jennay and CTB, thank you so much for your super helpful posts! I guess I really do have to make some changes. I've actually found some meal plans in fitness mag as well as the book I mentioned, so maybe I'll try to apportion the % calories the way they did like you suggested Jennay. That's a really good idea. I've learned the hard way that I'm not good at following food plans exactly... I tend to freak out and binge when I even try to do that. I have to let myself eat some treats / foods I crave each day or I start fantisizing about them and then it's big trouble! As long as no foods are off-limits, I'm ok and don't binge. Sometimes I overeat, but I don't polish off whole bags of chips at least! Progress is progress, right? Are other people like this or do I have issues? (I am scared of the answer to that one! )
I hope you all are having a great Valentine's Day. I'm letting myself eat more than usual tonight, but I'm trying not to totally ruin things. That way I can at least enjoy the evening
xoxo,
Anna
Ok, so I guess it looks like my grazing really must stop if I am to make any progress... rats!
Jennay and CTB, thank you so much for your super helpful posts! I guess I really do have to make some changes. I've actually found some meal plans in fitness mag as well as the book I mentioned, so maybe I'll try to apportion the % calories the way they did like you suggested Jennay. That's a really good idea. I've learned the hard way that I'm not good at following food plans exactly... I tend to freak out and binge when I even try to do that. I have to let myself eat some treats / foods I crave each day or I start fantisizing about them and then it's big trouble! As long as no foods are off-limits, I'm ok and don't binge. Sometimes I overeat, but I don't polish off whole bags of chips at least! Progress is progress, right? Are other people like this or do I have issues? (I am scared of the answer to that one! ) I hope you all are having a great Valentine's Day. I'm letting myself eat more than usual tonight, but I'm trying not to totally ruin things. That way I can at least enjoy the evening
xoxo,
Anna
jennay
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Anna -- I am so like that! It is really killing me to stick to this meal plan, and it is really good food even (like chili, tuna, shrimp, fish, oatmeal, omelets, fruit, all yummy stuff that I would normally eat), but all I can think about is a piece of cake, a pizza, cookies, candy bars, potato chips, etc, it isn't even that I'm hungry, cause I'm definitely just fine with what I've been eating, just not what my little heart truly desires My husband has been pretty supportive (aka, not eating said treats either), but that doesn't actually do anything to help besides not having it right in front of me. Trouble is, I don't normally crave stuff this bad, maybe treat myself once or twice a week, but just knowing I can't have it and won't be able to for a long while is driving me crazy. So, to long-windedly answer your question, I feel ya and it sucks!
My husband has been pretty supportive (aka, not eating said treats either), but that doesn't actually do anything to help besides not having it right in front of me. Trouble is, I don't normally crave stuff this bad, maybe treat myself once or twice a week, but just knowing I can't have it and won't be able to for a long while is driving me crazy. So, to long-windedly answer your question, I feel ya and it sucks!
CaseyAtMartin
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So how did everyone do on Valentine's day?
I had three pieces of chocolate and one peppermint. Best Valentine's day EVER! Usually I eat and eat and eat. I really showed myself that I have changed for the better today. Hope everyone else did well!
I had three pieces of chocolate and one peppermint. Best Valentine's day EVER! Usually I eat and eat and eat. I really showed myself that I have changed for the better today. Hope everyone else did well!
AnnaBananna
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CONGRATULATIONS, Casey!!! Way to go! On one of the toughest chow days of the year, you rocked it out!
I, on the other hand, was awful. Ladies, I had my 1st total disaster since joining the crew. ACK! I ate everything in sight! My hubbie brought home my favorite dinner and desserts and since I'd set it in my head I was going to treat myself, WOW did I treat myself (I FEEL AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!) I am so tempted to try to starve myself tomorrow, but I know that always ends up backfiring and making things worse, so I'm just going to try to hop back on an behave myself (and eat regular meals, per previous posts.) I am so disappointed in myself, but live and learn, right? How did the rest of you do? I'm hoping you all did HEAPS better than I did!!
I, on the other hand, was awful. Ladies, I had my 1st total disaster since joining the crew. ACK! I ate everything in sight! My hubbie brought home my favorite dinner and desserts and since I'd set it in my head I was going to treat myself, WOW did I treat myself (I FEEL AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!) I am so tempted to try to starve myself tomorrow, but I know that always ends up backfiring and making things worse, so I'm just going to try to hop back on an behave myself (and eat regular meals, per previous posts.) I am so disappointed in myself, but live and learn, right? How did the rest of you do? I'm hoping you all did HEAPS better than I did!!
I'm so excited!!
I'm back into the 130's!!!!!!! I went from 143 to 137 last Fall with exercise and some efforts, but this time will be different. When finals and holidays hit I quit trying.. not this time though.
I've enjoyed reading all of your posts... I'll write more in response later. Have a great day everyone!
I'm back into the 130's!!!!!!!
I went from 143 to 137 last Fall with exercise and some efforts, but this time will be different. When finals and holidays hit I quit trying.. not this time though. I've enjoyed reading all of your posts... I'll write more in response later. Have a great day everyone!
Kat_blue- Yey for you!
AnnaB- hey, you had a fun VT day, got to relax and enjoy yourself, now it's over and you can jump back onboard knowing there's no more food-oriented holidays in sight until the Easter bunny comes a knocking.
CaseyAMartin: Turned out to be my best VT day ever too - but it was touch and go. BF was smart enough to do flowers not candy...but as I was leaving for work a friendly neighbor gave me this giant chocho lollipop..I took it with me thinking I'd give it away at work, but it sat on the seat of my car going "eat me, eat me now" until I had to chuck it out the car window (I promise I'm not normally a litterbug)....got to work and my boss gave us all hershey kisses...I kept circling them and finally (discreetly) chucked them in the bottom of a trash bin.
AnnaB- hey, you had a fun VT day, got to relax and enjoy yourself, now it's over and you can jump back onboard knowing there's no more food-oriented holidays in sight until the Easter bunny comes a knocking.
CaseyAMartin: Turned out to be my best VT day ever too - but it was touch and go. BF was smart enough to do flowers not candy...but as I was leaving for work a friendly neighbor gave me this giant chocho lollipop..I took it with me thinking I'd give it away at work, but it sat on the seat of my car going "eat me, eat me now" until I had to chuck it out the car window (I promise I'm not normally a litterbug)....got to work and my boss gave us all hershey kisses...I kept circling them and finally (discreetly) chucked them in the bottom of a trash bin.
CaseyAtMartin
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Cym---that is too funny! Hope you didn't hit any innocent bystanders with your chocolate lollipop! Congrats everyone. AnnaBanana- Don't starve yourself! You don't need to punish yourself, just continue healthy eating. Besides the Valentine's day candy, mine was interesting, to say the least. Long story...it ended well though.
Can I join in?
Can I join in this club? I actually want to get back to around 122 which is 21.2 pounds but is close enough right? LOL
About two years ago I was 122 pounds and ate good and went to the gym religously. By the way I'm 5'6". I started a job after being a stay at home mom for years and in the 3 months that I worked there I didn't make it to the gym and started horrible eating habits.
I gained 10 pounds that first 3 months and ultimatly gained back to 157 which was 5 pounds higher than my original starting point before I lost to 122
January 6th I woke up and weighed myself and seeing 154.4 on the scales made me sick and I knew that if I kept on like I was that months from now I would still be complaining about being fat, and I was tired of complaining and not doing anything about it. So I decided to do something about it. I started back at calorie counting and went back to the gym which I'm loving again.
After a few days of going at it seriously I already felt better and was in the habit of it again and it didn't seem near as hard as I thought that it would be. Now one month and 9 days later I'm 143.2 (down 11.2 from my start date) and feel so much better. People are noticing and complimenting me which only motivates me more.
I set small goals for myself. My first goal was 145 and I promised myself a facial when I got there. My goal was reached and I had my facial yesterday! HEAVEN!
My next goal is 138 by March 9th which is my sons first baseball tournament of the season and I think I may get there. Hopefully at least. My husband has promised me when I get to 130 that he will treat me to a full 6 hours of pampering at a local spa. Massages, facials, spa pedicure, lunch of my choice and I forget what all. I can't wait for it!
Ultimatly my overall goal is to get back to 122. Some think that sounds too thin but I am at a size 6 at that weight and not too thin at all. When I was there before no one said it was too thin. I just got compliments. People hear the weight though and think it just sounds really thin.
Anyways.....I think that about sums up what is going on with me right now. I hope to meet new friends here who can help motivate and encourage me and hope that I can do the same for some of you.
Can I join in this club? I actually want to get back to around 122 which is 21.2 pounds but is close enough right? LOL
About two years ago I was 122 pounds and ate good and went to the gym religously. By the way I'm 5'6". I started a job after being a stay at home mom for years and in the 3 months that I worked there I didn't make it to the gym and started horrible eating habits.
I gained 10 pounds that first 3 months and ultimatly gained back to 157 which was 5 pounds higher than my original starting point before I lost to 122
January 6th I woke up and weighed myself and seeing 154.4 on the scales made me sick and I knew that if I kept on like I was that months from now I would still be complaining about being fat, and I was tired of complaining and not doing anything about it. So I decided to do something about it. I started back at calorie counting and went back to the gym which I'm loving again.
After a few days of going at it seriously I already felt better and was in the habit of it again and it didn't seem near as hard as I thought that it would be. Now one month and 9 days later I'm 143.2 (down 11.2 from my start date) and feel so much better. People are noticing and complimenting me which only motivates me more.
I set small goals for myself. My first goal was 145 and I promised myself a facial when I got there. My goal was reached and I had my facial yesterday! HEAVEN!
My next goal is 138 by March 9th which is my sons first baseball tournament of the season and I think I may get there. Hopefully at least. My husband has promised me when I get to 130 that he will treat me to a full 6 hours of pampering at a local spa. Massages, facials, spa pedicure, lunch of my choice and I forget what all. I can't wait for it!
Ultimatly my overall goal is to get back to 122. Some think that sounds too thin but I am at a size 6 at that weight and not too thin at all. When I was there before no one said it was too thin. I just got compliments. People hear the weight though and think it just sounds really thin.
Anyways.....I think that about sums up what is going on with me right now. I hope to meet new friends here who can help motivate and encourage me and hope that I can do the same for some of you.