What should I do with this relationship?

[Olivia17]

***please delete this thread******

 

[Shep031]

well, you don't have to listen to our advice. but you asked, so we gave.

but out of curiousity, i'd like to know what happened with this whole ordeal??

 

[baglady2713]

smoking sounds like it's a deal breaker for you... and since you mention religion that sounds like it's a problem too

Sounds like you're more in love with the fantasy of being in love than being in love with him.

but you're over 18 - move out of the house -get out on your own - you're old enough -be an adult... then do what you want without parental approval - it's your life and your relationship... so how important is parental approval?

i agree...definitely the fantasy thing more than anything i think...with real love you wouldn't give a flying monkey if someone smoked/was a different religion than you or was older.............

onlines r/ships can be very intense...more open with each other for a start...as not face to face...can be a really great thing but also means you may feel you know this person far more than you actually do. also you can't really know 100% whether your feelings will still be the same when you meet in person...after a yr of being smitten your expectations are going to be set REALLY high...........

edit....
ok just read more posts & noticed the 16yr age gap!!?
nooooo don't even think about it.............its not like you sound like you have much experience with men as it is............

 

[baglady2713]

*Huddle* just have alot of phone sex

hahaha...

been there done that...but even that can get a bit weird...you men can't just enjoy the fun...you have to get all emotional LOL

ended up a bit of a nightmare...posted for a few mths on a forum/got to know each other/told him only wanted to be friends etc/but we did get on really well/so started talking on the phone/it was still just as friends to me...well friends with (phone sex) benefits...what can i say?? its been a while/i'm a woman...i have needs /some late night phone calls lead to quite...oh who am i kidding?? VERY naughty phone calls (but naughty in a good way )

anyhoo...
he started going a bit nuts (technical term.....) seeing what/to whom i'd posted to on the forum...got a bit stalkerish...then when told him to stop it & to leave me alone...he started with the phoney suicide threats...how he'd got so used to talking to me/he thought we'd got so close etc...he started leaving answer messages too...not pleasant...so just ignored him...oh yeah & i told mutual friends on the forum what he'd been doing/saying so it was all out there in the open...he tried one more attempt at emotional blackmail...in a pm on the forum he said...thats it i'm going to do something right now...

(at this point i realised he was ever so slightly unbalanced & thought...bleedin hell why is my taste in men sooooo friggin off?? even with the ones i decide just to be friends with online...i'd already married someone from match.com...oh yeah i did...nearly 10 yrs ago now...& that turned into a very bad dream too....but thats on here somewhere in a dating thread so won't repeat that here.....)

when i didn't respond he pm'd me back about an hour later...obviously not dead then but wanting to know why i didn't do anything when he could have been.........yeah...but you weren't were you?? he then went from love to hate in 10 seconds flat as only the unhinged can...calling me heartless...oh yeah & a user?? WTF??! for phone sex?? whatever...i got mine !!