The Longest Time To Hear Back From Asking Someone Out?

Okay, am I missing something here? You asked her out, she thanked you, and said she would get back to you?! wtf?

In response to the title of this thread, I would expect an answer there and then. "Yes, I'd love to" or "Sorry, I'm washing my hair". Either way, I don't expect to be left hanging.

Steddie, life is too short and, to coin a phrase, there are plenty of fish in the sea so, don't waste all your heartache on this one. If she liked you that much, she would have said yes there and then (IMHO)
 
ChrisJG said:
Okay, am I missing something here? You asked her out, she thanked you, and said she would get back to you?! wtf?

In response to the title of this thread, I would expect an answer there and then. "Yes, I'd love to" or "Sorry, I'm washing my hair". Either way, I don't expect to be left hanging.

Steddie, life is too short and, to coin a phrase, there are plenty of fish in the sea so, don't waste all your heartache on this one. If she liked you that much, she would have said yes there and then (IMHO)
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I say hell yeah to that brotha!
 
My gut instinct is: She's just not that into you. Move on.

However, I'm not sure when you say "I asked her out" what you mean. Was it a "Hey, you wanna go out sometime?" Because that can be a weird question that is more about the "status" involved to people [hey! we're "going out"] than actually, you know, going somewhere. It could be awkward for her to bring it up again, if she's not the type of girl to ask out a guy.

If she is someone whose company you enjoy and you would want to get to know outside of work, I think it couldn't hurt to follow up by asking her to do something VERY specific with you:

"Hi, I was interested in seeing a movie this weekend on Friday or Saturday. Maybe [insert one or two choices]. Would you like to go with me? We could grab a bite to eat before or after?"

This puts the ball in her court. She could say yes. You've given her enough options that "I don't want to see that movie" or "I already have plans for Friday" don't shut down the request. If she really DOES want to go out with you, but can't do it in that time frame or wants to do something different, she will come back and tell you "I'm sorry I can't, but how about we go next week and do [something else]."

If she doesn't respond by agreeing straight up or with an alternative date, she is not into you.

Just my two cents.

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Listen, if a girl is into you she'll jump at the chance to go out with you. Period. Flirting doesn't equal wanting to go out with you. I flirt all day long with girls at work - including with the ones that I have absolutely no interest in romantically. If she had interest, she'd have been thinking about you and hoping you'd ask her out, she'd have been on it immediately - not responding with 'let me think about it'. No sweat, don't let that discourage you from the next girl, but don't waste time on this one and don't send her a flower! Next!
 
She let you down nicely, walk away with your dignity.

If you still like her then start dating someone else. For some reason women find men who are already in relationships far more attractive
 
But she hasn't said no. If she said no or anything along those lines I would respect it and shes knows that. She was also smiling/flirting with me the days afterwards. Its so strange.

She seemed so excited when I told her, she lit up and smiled.
 
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I'm starting to think you've gotta take the evolution approach.

Be a man and be straight forward with her.

Either do that, or just forget that you ever asked her out - just like she is doing to you.
 
it sounds like you kinda wussed out on the asking.

"Do you wanna go out sometime?"

Is she supposed to get back with you with all the details. I (as a gal) always hated this noncommittal approach to kinda sorta asking me out, but leaving me without knowing if we are actually going to go on a date or if you were just wondering if I would say yes if you asked.

Try "Would you like to go to [place/event] with me on [date]?"

This way of [place/event] or [date] doesn't work she can say "Oh, friday is no good for me, but how about next Tuesday?" or, "No thanks.[then dead uncomfortable silence]"

IMHO, "Awww, thanks." Means "oh that is so sweet/cute that you asked, but no, not really".

of course, since you never got back to her with an actual date, she may think that you changed your mind.

Put her on the spot and ask her on an actual date and she will either say "yes" or "no".
 
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