Cohen's Lifestyle Sams weight loss journey part.....2

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Hi Sam, I would be interested in knowing the difference between the Cohen's maintenence guidelines & the eating plan you are trying. I agree with Lauren that the weight-loss part of the program is the easier part. It's black and white whereas this after re-feed stage is tricky. Thanks for all your encouragement re my interview. I feel that I did really well & felt great. Cheers for now, Cate.
 
Just a quick check in and update. We have just returned from Carols in the Park it rained of course. But the kids had fun.

Well I have had quiet a traumatic day and evening (last night.) My eldest boy who is very sweet natured and at times shy is being bullied by one of the boys in his class.
He was very agitated after School yesterday and complained in a round about way of this boy teasing everyone and him.....I asked what does he do and he said "kicks me in the private spot, and follows him around the playground taunting him and hurting".
Now this boy had been teasing my son earlier in the year and I went in and told the teacher and things appeared to get better. My son has been so distressed by this kid that he has started to pull out his eye lashes. I can't tell you how furious I was last night I had little or no sleep, and I said to hubby I'm pulling him out of that School (that was the irrational me talking) I was so hurt and upset for my boy.
Today I got up early spoke to my son and said I am coming to talk to his teacher and Principal, he was happy with this. I told him he is such a brave boy for facing up to this situation with minimum fuss.......I said to his Dad even though this boy has been harrassing him he has never once said "Mum I don't want to go to School". He broke my heart as well when he said "Mum....he hurts me sometimes but I hold my tears in" .....as you can tell I am still so emotional. Anyway the outcome of this story is a positive one the School had the boy in the office all day today and had contacted his parents that this was the boys final warning (he is a repeat offender you see) it's not just my boy he picks on, his punishement last week for punching a girl was to write lines at the office....what the....in my day you got detention or worse expelled or even worse the cane. Kids are given to many chances today and those that are doing the right thing seem to have to suffer the consequences....it's just not right. Well I will monitor the next fortnight and see how my son goes.....I said to his teacher as well that if I have to come into the Class for the next fortnight just to see my son is safe then I will do so. Anyway my son was much more relaxed when he got home and was not his usual agitated self. Suffuse to say I couldn't eat last night went to bed agitated and my stomach churning.

Today I had a luncheon date with friends.....I could have just cancelled that but we have put this off several times already. I had my yogi and fruit this morning and for lunch had steak with a salad,1 glass of sparkling wine,some bread and a coffee. Tonight I wasn't really that hungry but hubby got me a kebab while out at the carols....we walked so hopefully I have burned up some of those calories. Tomorrow I have a coffee morning, but I will not eat any carbs at all. Well people I am fading here time for my bed and I hope to have a more rested sleep.

Cate I have answered you in your diary. And I will give some info on that eating plan soon.

Goodnight all
Sam:)
 
today i didn't make coffee morning, School stuff happened. My boy had a better day so, so far so good.

I haven't been hungry since all this occured but have forced myself to eat. Today I ate
Breakfast: Yoghurt and green tea and water.(running late so no fuit)
morning tea: nibbled on cashews water etc
lunch: had a little roast chicken from woolies all flesh no skin.

nibbled on nuts, tea, diet lemonade. dinner a mince curry which I ate with a salad NO rice. Deviation today was snacking on my sons sour cream soya crisp and 2 cups of tea with a little milk.Too tired to go on will check back in here tomorrow.

Hope everyone is keeping well.
Goodnight all sweet dreams.

Sam:)
 
Checking here now....might not have time tonight, I am off to soccer and then dinner.
Todays menu:

Yoghurt
apple & skinny latte
Flak ice-cream:(
lots of water and green tea
nibbled on cashews.

I am away tomorrow but will check back in here Sunday evening.

Enjoy your weekend all.

Sam:)
 
Hi all

Back from my night at the coast for my neice's dance concert, it was fantastic but very long......my oldest boy came he did very well sitting out the whole thing, he didn't get to bed till after 11pm....and the rest of us was about 12.30am, we slept in till 10am the next morning. After breakfast and a quick chat we drove home for a neighbourhood xmas party......and we are all exhausted now. My youngest was upset last night because me and his big brother weren't their for him. So tonight it is early beds for all.
I did not stick to a proper eating plan.......but tomorrow it will be back on track and for the rest of the week except Friday....we have a xmas function on.

It is great to see a bit more actitvity here at the forum, I hope it improves even more.
Goodnight all,
Sam:)
 
Today I had my yoghurt in the morning and stuck to a no carbs day. But then a xmas hamper arrived for my hubby and they had chocolate galore fine quality too.......so I had 2 people:(.
I am not stressing though I ate well the majority of the day......this time of year is too hard but like I said before i am going to be sensible about it and take charge of what goes in my mouth.
I am drinking heaps of water but i must start exercising that is the key at the moment.LOSING.......I am sorry and happy to see you back. But this is the place to turn too for support and guidance.Goodluck.

Goodnight all
Sam:)
 
Hi Sam

I must have sounded a bit more negetive than I meant to. I am happy I popped in and I am really excited and a little nervous about the decision to have a tummy tuck - I think after all the hard work I deserve it. My hubby is 100% behind me.

It was so nice to see that you remembered me - I don't know how the others ended up going - I haven't spoken with Di78.

Cohens has done great things for me - I'm just like any other woman who now has to watch what I eat - but I weigh a whole lot less than I did before so that is a good thing.

Have a great day.
Losing
 
LOSING

How could I forget you......you were one of my main motivators. It's good to see you back and yes keeping the weight off is a lifetime (I don't want to say struggle) I don't want to be so negative this early....but yes management and planning is what I've found to keep myself focused.

By the way this forum has been very quiet of late and we haven't had much angst (the water thread) this is the first for a long time, I just ignore them.

I ususally don't check in this early but I can't seem to sleep in anymore. If I wake early tomorrow i will need to go for a walk.

I'll be back later all.

Sam:)
 
Sam

That is lovely to hear that I helped motivate,,,,,,

I would normally ignore as well - been done that path before....


You sound like you are doing so well - it is a conscious decision to watch what goes in your mouth - however I have found it not as hard as I thought. Unlike my previous body this one doesn't seem to like the things it used to and I am not even up for a big night on a bottle or red. Which is a good thing.......

I saw photos of wishes -who used to pop in sometimes when I was around and she looks amazing.

Talk soon
S:seeya:
 
hey sharon aka losing

has been so long hey

well so much has happened since we last have spoken

james and i seperated and i tell ya that dont do good things for our eating plans,

so as we speak i am still trying to lose weight
i want to lose the weight i gained from the seperation but in the last few days i have already lost a few kilos so is all good. I didnt gain too much but am wanting to get down to 58 kilo's still
so i will keep you updated.. love ya
di
 
Hi Di78

I am so sorry to hear about your seperation. Hows your little girl?
I have left a private message for Losing to let her know you've left a message for her.

Well this forum has been a hub of activity recently.....it's gone from a ghost town to a buzzying metropolis. I especially loved the water thread.....it's along time since anyone outside the Cohens programme has posted anything, it gave me a chuckle.

Well straight to the point I have not been good.....I had a glass of wine and some choccies yesterday....but not excessive. No excuses I hear you all say....but it is done now and lets move on.

I am stressed a bit at the moment and it is all due to a neightbour who has been stalking me (there is not other word for it). She is a planning freak and wants to socialise with me and is always calling so that our kids can meet up nearly everyday.
It all started when we moved here the beginning of March. She had a neighbourhood get together on our first week here and it hasn't stopped. The first sign of anything strange is when she found out another Mum an I have coffee morning on a Thursday (which is the only day this Mum can do it because she works) and then she invited herself along......and then the next thing I knew she had orgainsed the whole class to do this as a weekly coffee morning on this same day. She then kept pestering me to do things with her....I did attend one function and I just felt so uncomfortable.....she puts on alot of air and graces about herself and we are so different. We have invited her family her for drinks and nibbles when we first arrived and then she has invited herself at another time......but no reciperication from her side, not even a cup of tea when I have visited. Her husband is not to bad. I don't know what to do.....I was furious on the weekend she had called asking for our two younger sons to meet up and I said we had plans and then about 45minutes later her older boy is here playing on the boys Nintendo game.....I was leaving for the Coast when all this happened and my husband informed me the next day that he stayed for over an hour.
I don't mind her kids, it's just her. And I bumped into her yesterday and after that I was so agitated that I went home and ate chocolate.....and then i had the wine later.
I have even contemplated moving......when I told my hubby he went right off and said he would cut off all contact with them and would tell them so.......I said NO let me handle it in my own way........the thing is I have distanced myself from her but she doesn't seem to get the hint. WHAT DO I DO?

I have meet so many other lovely people in this community but like the saying goes "it takes on bad apple to spoil the.....(how does the rest go?)

Anyway I have to go now and pick up the kids. Bye all.

Sam:)
 
Hey Di

Long time - that's an understatement.

So sorry to hear about you and James. Are you still living nearby?? How is that baby (not so baby now) girl of yours.
I can't believe we are both looking at the same time?? Do you come here often???

Thanks for the pm Sam - hope you are not feeling as stressed - that is a hard situation. Get hubby to clean naked with the blinds open and she might avoid you. (or might not which could be a lot worse)

Have a good one
S:party:
 
Addicted

My goodness

I have literally not left this computer, it is so addictive at the moment. So many old faces:party: have returned and this forum is humming once again. I have though managed to fit in the house cleaning and decorate the christmas tree.....which the boys were suppose to do instead they had decorations strewn everywhere, referee my 5yo and his friend while they played, supervise homework and make dinner.....I even fitted in a quick chat with Losing and Cate for all of 5 minutes. Whew!!!!!!

Now that was the positive news:) now for the:(not so good news.....I have not eaten well today guys or should I say I consumed to many carbs.
I went for breakfast with a friend and had 2xlatte,scrambled eggs with mushrooms and buttered ciabatta toast. No lunch. Dinner was fish and chips and 2x ice-cream splits. I fitted in a few liquor chocolates as well.
I am being honest:nopity:

I need to go shopping and buy my yoghurt, fruit and veg. I am not going to stress (like I have stated before):banghead: Life will go on.

Next Tuesday will be one year to date since I started Cohens. :hug2::jump:
Thank you Mr Cohen.

Thats me people, till tomorrow.......

Goodnight all - sweet dreams

Sam:waving:
 
Today I went Christmas and Birthday shopping...my dad's turning "80" on Saturday and it's hubby's in a few weeks. I got him this groovy dvd card from Myers with the birth dates on it depicting what world events occurred in that year. (not cheap mind you).

well people here is what I ate today:-
For breakfast i had porridge with peaches and for lunch it was a coffee and a sweet treat. Dinner was chicken curry with rice and 1&1/2 roti breads. Dessert was ice-cream split....only one tonight,2 choccie pringles and a cup of tea.
Tomorrow I have a Christmas dinner to go too. Saturday is my Dad's 80th and he is having lunch here......there will be cake people. Then there is only one week left of School and then we head off on our holidays.
This time of year is a challenge....I don't how I did it last year, I was so committed to Cohens this time last year it was my only thought.
.
I think I may stop writting in my diary until I come back from holidays......I am doing no one here any favours by posting all my deviations especially the newbies.
I will see how it all pans out. Well it is quiet in here tonight so I'll get ready for my bed. My hubby is in Perth tonight and I usually don't sleep when he is away so I watch TV late and read, check on the kids several times and then eventually go to sleep. My older son is giving me a bit of grief at the moment, I think it is end of year hyperness.
He says the boy who was picking on him has stopped.... but has moved on to someone else. I worry so much about my older boy as oppossed to my youngest, I do not know the reason why exactly....I rely on my older one so much more and he is their for me in flash but then he has this nervous thing going inside him as well....my little one is spoilt and he knows it, he is my baby, but he is much more casual about things. He doesn't stress over anything...except if the fridge or pantry is empty (he loves his food).
Its a conundrum when you have kids. You try and do the best for them but i suppose they don't see it....not at this young age anyway.
Well I'd better toddle off. Sweet deams all.

Sam:)
 
I think I spoke a bit to soon about this forum being a hub.....it has quieten down again.
Yesterday....I had another bad day at the School,I won't go into details but this term has not been easy sailing.......I can't wait for it to be over. Came home hang the washing out and my neighbour (not the nosey one) asked me for a coffee she is a lovely lady she relaxed me...her kids are our babysitters. Lovely kids so polite and mature for their 15 years. (Their twins).

Met another friend for a late lunch, then went and picked the kids up from School.....they had a friend coming over for a playdate. My youngest was a bit temperamental...he didn't like his big brother playing with his mate....so there were tanties being thrown. Anyway took the friend home and reminded them that Mummy was going out for a xmas dinner and that the babysitter would be here shortly.....Daddy was in WA and flying in tonight. Oh my gosh it was a stressy evening.....they were both high as a kite and at each other. I gave them dinner and went and had my shower and they started a food fight......well by this stage I was ready not to go.. the baby sitter was due in 15 minutes and I wasn't ready and then my mobile and home line went at the same time....took my mobile it was a Mum wanting to know if I wanted to walk she lives around the corner.....I informed her she could come with me and I was picking up another mum as well. Mean while my oldest boy had picked up the other phone and had informed me it was the (nosey neighbour)....I got even more agravatted when I heard this.....so picture this I am running around with wet hair, towel wrapped around me and trying get the boys to settle down and clean up their food fight in the kitchen....and so when I rang her back I just yelled at her.....you see I knew she was wanting a lift or something. She could of walked it's only around the corner.
Listen people it is not in my nature to be nasty and I treat everyone the same, I am a giver not a taker, but this lady has taken advantage of my good nature over the months.
I think I have reached my limit now with her now. So anyway I managed to get dressed but my hair was another story I didn't have time to do anything just comb it back wet and as for make up well lipstick was it.

I did end up having a good time, I made sure I didn't sit next to her though. The other thing was she didn't like sitting in the back seat of the car she wanted the front I had to explain it was for another person who is elderely.

Anyway people thanks for hearing me out. I hope to have a better day today it's my Dad's 80th and we are having him and Mum over.....so I had better get hoppin.

Sam:)
 
Hi all

quiet in here again. I forgot to post in my diary last night. Busy weekend... posted all about it in Cate's diary though (sorry Cate).

Last week of School the kids did not want to go today. I didn't either, especially since hubby has started his holidays and was still in bed. Oh no....his just received a call and his off to Sydney instead. That changes all my plans for today...... Cest la vie.

We have been planning a week off so he and I can have together while the kids are still at School. This is that week.....I suppose we will have 3 days now as oppossed to a week.

A bit down now but will check back again here later. It is a busy week with School functions as well.

Take care all.

Bye for now

Sam:)
 
Sam, I have not been ignoring your plight but have been giving it lots of thought. What I do these days is wait until I'm absolutely certain that someone really wants my advice. I find that often when I'm asked my opinion (by my DIL or a friend) that mostly people only want me to say what they want to hear or want to do anyway. If you were asking me what I would do in the same situation I will tell you what I would do. This may not be what you want to do though.
I would ring your neighbour & ask to visit her when there is no-one else about, including children. I would think carefully about what you want to happen (or not happen any more) & tell her truthfully how you feel. No dropping hints, just the truth.
I think it sounds like you are under a lot of stress & she may be part of the problem. It may also be that it sometimes is easier to direct your feelings towards an outside source, rather than looking elsewhere.
I am no psychologist but have benefited from visiting one this year for the first time. It sounds like you have lots of pressures & stresses. Having young children & a husband who is away a lot working sounds stressful in itself.
I guess what I am saying is try to work out if it is really her driving you crazy at the moment or a combination of different things. If you think it's her have a word with her honestly. If not, have a chat anyway & ask for some space & less pressure.
Whatever you do look after yourself. I actually care what happens in people's lives. I did not have much outside support when my children were young & I think it's one of the toughest jobs in the world, being a parent. Give yourself some slack & take some time for the 2 of you as well as your kids.
I think being honest is the most important thing. If you talk to your neighbour, tell her the truth about how you are feeling & she doesn't like it- TOUGH!
You can disregard everything I say but I have found saying how you feel (calmly if you can) has been the best way for me & that's all any of us can ever do. I can't tell you what you should do. Only you can make that decision.
If you want to pm me please do. I'll help if I can. xo Cate
 
Thanks for that Cate.

i actualyy did respond to your message last night but some how it got in a tangled mess and i didn't know how to fix it and I was too tired to try so I deleted it.
I will send you a pm later if I have time so I can discuss it with you further. I have my sons final indoor soccer game tonight and then the break up party.....so we will be home late.

Cate this women is the reason for my manic stress.......YES I get stressed with my family but every mother does to some degree but I don't lose sleep over it. This women is ringing and harrassing me. I am not alone in this I have got feed back from other Mum's.

We are going on holidays next week and I am so looking forward to just getting away for 3 weeks and from the neighbourhood......and this not like me I love my home and my family time just relaxing with the kids at home.....just like I am now with them watching TV and me on here.

I will talk to you about it later. I hope you are okay Cate.....I really shouldn't be burdening you with my worries when you are about to start your new job, but I do appreciate you advice. Thank you.

Sam:)
 
Hi Sam, I would imagine you are a great Mum! It does sound like you need to front this woman & tell her the truth about how you feel about her harrassment. It sounds awful! It is not fair to you & your family. Having small children is so demanding in itself, without outside pressure. I remember it well & wouldn't like to go back to that time. I hope you have a lovely, relaxing holiday. Perhaps just before you go away might be a good time to have a firm talk with her as it would give her time to think about it.
I feel pretty good about this new job. I think it will suit me. Take care & talk soon, Cate.
 
Hi Sam

You poor thing... I can really sense your furstration through your writing - it must be completely doing your head in! I hope you get the chance to sort it out with your neighbour and then the opportunity to move on without it being worse or then uncomfortable.

Dont forget to take some 'ME' time for yourself!

Take care

Lauren
 
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