Relationship Advice (VERY LONG)

Okay, so I went on this 3 day trip with 40 people from my school. It was fun But...

The first day was definitely the best. This is because there's this guy in my class and we're really close. Like really really close. I think lol. Some people say he likes me and some say that I like him. To tell you the truth... I don't know what to say

Let me just give you some background information on us before I move on... I met him when we were 11 (grade 6). We didn't really start being friends until the end of grade 8. But from that point on, we were always close. Not really tight, but we were always nice to each other and so on. Then for the formal of our grade 9 year, he asked me out as a joke in front of his friends. Even though we weren't going to formal together we did slow dance for one song. Then he left for grade 10 and we sort of grew apart and stopped talking. Then he came back for grade 11 and that's when we started to become really close. We'd always talk in the halls, hang out, he'd mess up my hair, and I'd take some of his possessions (jewelry). This is when I my friends started saying he likes me. I was just like... NAH we're just like brothers and sisters. Then a month later his friend said to me, "You like *********" right in front of him! It was a whisper so he might not have heard it but still. After that day, his friend keeps mentioning it like avery 2 days. Also I should mention that we don't talk on the phone, MSN, or hang out outside of school. We basically only hang out at school so that's why I'm not sure about his feelings or mine. He still misses his old school and he hangs out with them. PLUS, we're different nationalities too. Our skin colors are totally different. I'm also very shy whereas he isnt. He's friends with a lot of the people that came to this trip. I have no idea of his life outside of our school. For all I know, he could have a girlfriend but I doubt that. Well yeah, that's basically all I can think of.

Day 1!

Anyways 7 of us went to dinner and of course he was there. He was really nice and sweet. He said he'd pay for me because I thought I didn't have any money but I did and I thought that was so kind! He also wanted to see a movie that I wanted to see and I said that we should go after we get back from the trip. Then after dinner we were walking back to our hotel and I kind of fell in the snow and he's the only one that waited up for me. Again, very kind.

Then after some fun events all of us were relaxing and getting ready for bed. Obviously we weren't going to sleep but yeah just preparing to make our chaperones happy Okay so then him and his friends came to my room where my friends and I would be sleeping just to chill and stuff. He was hanging out and so on and 'leaning' on me while all of us watched TV. And I must say, it felt pretty good.

So yep, that's my first day in DETAIL my god. Before I move on, I just want to mention that one of the girls sleeping in my room (I'm going to call her Alice) who has barely talked to him before started becoming friends with him a few weeks ago. Then after he leaves she's like, "I think he's really cute and so so so nice." Like I don't care if you say that but if you only become friends with him just because I'm friends with him and other people are too, that's kind of aggravating. hehe.

Anyways Day 2

Normal stuff same old. Only... it seemed to me that my guy friend was more interested in hanging out with Alice today. He knows she has a boyfriend too so I thought it's nothing. The whole day I barely talked to him. Like I mean I don't have to be around him 24/7 but it'd be nice to know that you still know I exist.

Then around nightime, he was still kind of ignoring me but it didn't really bother me. I went to chill with one of his friends that was staying in his room and I was fine. Then he came in and hung out but I was sort of giving attitude Just for fun it wasn't mean or anything. Later on after we all watched some TV, we (meaning me, him, and another friend) went downstairs to check out what other people were doing. Me and my other friend were playing pool and he just decided to walk around and stuff.

Then after my friend smoked me in pool, I still had a few balls left to hit. So I was practicing and trying (desperately) to get the balls in. Then he comes and teaches me and I told him that I had a pool table at home but I never play and he said that I should invite him over to play and stuff. He's never been over to my house (Yeah weird eh?). That was fun and after that we all went to our own rooms and hung out for the rest of the night.

What bugged me on this day was that while we were doing an activity, we went into seperate groups and he went with other people and I went Alice and another friend. So when our group met up with his group, he was hanging out with Alice more than me. I know you must be thinking, jealous bitch, but it's just their friendship isn't as deep ours is yet he chooses to be with her instead. Okay whatever I'll get over it. That's what I told myself...

Okay Day 3!

He TOTALLY ignored me today. He didn't talk much with Alice either but he did and that's the point. I don't think he said one word to me today. It's kind of disappointing because I don't like it when people 'steal' friends away from me. It's happened before and now I no longer talk to her because other people 'stole' her.

Anyways... Thanks SO much for reading this boring ass story. What should I do? Am I overreacting? I think I am, but still... I guess this would mean that I have feelings for him but I'm not quite sure if I do. As I mentioned before, he said that we would go out to see that movie after the trip. I HIGHLY doubt that's happening because:

1) He never calls me. It's just a friendship we have at school which is why I'm not sure about my feelings towards him

2) I think he might like Alice even though she has a boyfriend

3) I think his friend told him I like him so... (which I'm still not sure yet you decide)

4) He's kind of irresponsible anyways and we never hang out outside of school. It's just a school-based friendship.

Anyways I think I'm just all 'emo' right now because I had 2 nights of ****ty sleep. It might be that or it might be something else. Please comment I want anyone's opinion. Thank you
 
Here's my advice: Don't try to predict or understand human behavior, especially when it comes to romance. Just continue to make yourself available and hope for the best. The fact that he doesn't hang all over you all the time is nothing to stress over.
 
Okay...here is my 2c.

If he is talking to your friend (Alice) and you are not going out..he has every right too, and you should not feel as though he shouldnt be allowed too, because you may have feelings for him. You are the only one who can decide whether you like him or not..but if you didnt you would not have gone to all the trouble to write this post...If you like him dont wait around for him to ask you to do something, just ask him if he wants to come over to your place to shoot some pool or do whatever, no point in beating around the bush...i let plenty of girls slip through my fingers because i was too scared to go and say anything to them.

theres my 2c worth.
 
ZOMG!!

I thought you would give me some relationship advice.

Damnit. Don't complain. I'm 16 too. If my life was as much a soap opera as yours, I'd be happy. <_<;
 
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aliquisdeus said:
Here's my advice: Don't try to predict or understand human behavior, especially when it comes to romance.

Give this man a trucking medal!
Such wisdom, from memory I was also impressed with your response in the religion thread. It was you who said "life was like a dream"?

Just ask him out, dont prolong or ponder/worry like you are. This comes from experience, I got depression from a relationship, geez psychiatrists are exspensive! ;)

Tip: If you've never been in a relationship, just throw out some lines, get talking and you'll have one pretty soon. Take it slow too its a learning experience, your young so dont throw your whole heart and future into it.
 
Thanks for the laugh, Nobody. :) Personally I don't care for drama due to overexposure haha.

Thanks, Pom. I enjoyed your input as well, I just didn't want to go that far. Romance is a chaotic jumble for me.We're all children in a sandbox..you can seek all the good advice you want but eventually all it comes down to is who likes who and how they go about it.

As to wisdom, all I can do is offer you a pretentious quote.

The only difference between a wise man and a fool is that the wise man knows he's playing.
Fritz Peris
 
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Thanks for your inputs. It's pretty awkward and I have to get over that. This semester I'm gonna be more open :)
 
Oh also on the first (and best) day, while we were walking to the restaurant, he was sharing my headphones on my ipod which shows he's not shy around me. For that day that is... We also linked arms to stay warm lol but after that day, he just started distancing himself I guess..
 
FitTif said:
Thanks for your inputs. It's pretty awkward and I have to get over that. This semester I'm gonna be more open :)


Me too! I made it a new semester resolution...thing... yeah. oO
 
Damn the first time I'm off topic and someone has to call me on it immediately. :cool:

Anyway how's that not on topic? Dave Chappelle is a master of human relations. He spreads the message of love and acceptance through cheap, vulgar jokes at the expense of everyone...or something. :p
 
Oooook Tif names ima help you out,aight?im 18 and i didnt start till i was 17 well let me first start off by saying this: if you didnt like him you wouldnt write a 4 page essay about him!dont deny it <.<nationality/skin color dont have anything to do with anything-.-
ok you say he hasnt called you: have you gave him your number?
the easiest way for you to get this guy is to ask him out X_x hes not gonna magically wake up one day and say : i love you!!~ unless he knows that you want him.
Step1: Talk to him(he doesnt have to come to you its not like your a immobile plant)
Step2: Show him that you like him
Step3: Do stuff together(you can talk to him, you can do stuff with him, dont be too shy)
Step4: Dont be a stalker!!!!(i cannot stress this enough.do NOT call someone and say "hey whats up" "nothing" Sit in silence for 10minutes then the guy says brb gotta do something.then he hangs up and you call back in 10minutes saying please dont leave meee~ i dont wanna be alone but i have nothing to say.No bricks through windshield pls)
Step5: Be yourself(dont change the way you think for anyone)
And my personal favorite Step6: Use a condom!(yes yes i said it! its for your own good!also recommend a blood test before anything happens as well)
 
Lol I don't think I'm anywhere near step 6 but thanks for it anyway :)

I know I guess it could be a 'crush' or something. I wrote a lot because that's how I am. I just go on and on lol. He has my number but he doesn't call me so I guess he's not interested but at school he's totally different. Or at least he used to be. I don't know if he'll ditch me for Alice now... Ah well. Thanks for your help.
 
step6 is my fear of babies(evil little things x.x)and stds lol
well youll never know unless you ask :p i say you should go for it.if you dont go for it you might be sad when someone else gets him and then you wont wanna hang out anymore
i asked a friend out before and she didnt like me that way but we are still friends.unless hes the type of person who freaks out over any little thing i think your safe for asking out and staying friends if he doesnt want to
 
Well I was thinking of asking him about the movie we wanted to see but I never talk to him on MSN or the phone and I'm kind of worried about how he'll react when we're at school. I was hoping to see it this weekend too :(
 
well ill tell you this :p its hard to find someone good after highschool :( i miss it lol starting college this summer
so it would be like a dream come true to find someone in highschool and stick with them lol.. reminds me of anime i watched : school rumble - this guy likes this girl but the girl likes another guy but she also sortof likes the guy that likes her sooo 26 episodes go by and your on the final episode and you think someones going to say - i like you!~ but then the show ends and you go omfg! that ending sucked :eek: ask ask
 
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