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Emotional baggage - if your mother had a broken leg, she wouldn't be able to run, would she? She's probably emotionally broken, for whatever reason, and therefore is never going to do what emotionally stable and whole people do.

I have a similar problem with parents, but slightly different. However, my freedom came from realising that emotional disabilities from difficult pasts can affect parents and make them not what we want or imagine a parent should or could be. It gets depressing when friends and other rellies have so much more support, but you just have to PROUD OF YOURSELF that you cope so well without it - and also PROUD OF YOURSELF for taking your weight in hand without that emotional backbone of support that you could do with.

I spent the early part of my 20's upset and frustrated about this sort of problem. Although it occasionally comes back and worries me in the time since, for most of the time now I'm just fine with realising that some people cannot be what we want - for their own reasons - and just getting on with my own life my own way.

I've learnt to be thankful for surviving, being whole and intact as a person, having a wonderful relationship with loving husband and three healthy children. Anything else I get from them is a bonus.

Have a good weekend - never, ever give up!
 
Thank you Cate, Shine, Choclover and Niyah. I can't believe I spoke out either and in the past I prob wouldn't have but maybe it's reaching my 40's (well almost 42) and thinking that I shouldn't have to eat to comfort myself when others make me feel bad. Thanks guys for all your kind words and support, I feel so much better now. I really really appreciate your taking the time to post to me.

Niyah you are so right - my mom is really emotionally damaged and for many years I really tried to minimise contact with her because it made it easier for me to deal with my kids and my life. It's just that when things are going well with us, I start to think that things can be different and the rug gets pulled out from under me. It's easier when I lower my expectations.

I just got a copy of the Beck Diet solution which I am going to start and hopefully I will be able to put into practice all the strategies she has for dealing with emotional eating etc.

Have a fantastic weekend everyone.
 
Hi Sue, It seems that family can hurt us like no-one else can. I am so glad that you are feeling better. I think the Beck Diet Solution is an excellent book & I get it out regularly & have read it a few times. It think it would be especially useful for someone just starting out on a weight-loss program. I hope you enjoyed your w/e too. I had an absolute blast! xo Cate
 
Hi Sue, hope things are going okay for you. It's a difficult time of the year for weightloss etc. Yes, please let us know how you are. x
 
Hi everyone. I am doing well. It has just been incredibly hectic with the kids finishing school for the year. My older three have gone overseas with hubby for a family function so I have been packing for them, getting school books done etc and then I am off tomorrow for a beach holiday with my younger two and then my hubby and the kids will join us next week. So I have been packing for winter, summer. I haven't had time to come on the forum. I have missed everybody and unfortunately I wont have internet until I return in Jan.

Food wise its going ok and I cant wait to hit the beach in my new swimming costume. I don't look brilliant, but I certainly don't look bad and I intend to swim and enjoy myself with my kids. It will be the first year that I wont be covered from head to toe.

I am also looking forward to early morning walks along the beach front or along the beach itself.

Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and New Year.

If I can get connection I will pop by. Otherwise thanks everyone for all your support and on to a fantastic 2010.

Sue
 
Great to hear from you Sue. Have a lovely holiday with your family. Merry Christmas to you & yours, xo Cate
 
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