I hate my broad shoulders!

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AmandaRae

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i am a 22 year old female who has broad shoulders ever since I hit puberty. it has always made me feel bigger than what i am. at times i feel like an amazon especially when standing next to someone with less shoulders than i have. they get very broad when i gain weight. recently i've gained 30 lbs and there are few shirts i will wear without a jacket covering it. the only thing i can get away with is tshirts. they make my shoulders look less broad IMO


when i was thin, i still had shoulders but they weren't as broad as they are now. but i was wondering if i would have to get really really skinny in order for the broadness to go down. i have never been super super thin. or are there exercises i can do to shrink them?

i am very self conscious about this, and while i never got teased for it (at least knowingly) it is still something that bothers me. i feel like if my shoulders were smaller i would appear more petite because i am medium sized.

any help?
 
So your shoulders are broad without going to the gym or anything?

I think that might just be natural build if so, everyones different and you've just got to make the most of what you've got to put it plainly.
 
No, I don't lift weights. Lately I've been doing nothing but cardio. But I was hoping that there would be something I could do to make them less wide...like maybe losing a lot of weight and get really thin might help?? There has to be a solution to this
 
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getting really skinny will just give you broad, boney shoulders. weight training plus cardio is the way to shed fat, and build some proportion to your body.
 
Broad shoulders are extremely attractive to those of us that are not intimidated by them.

breath easy, accept yourself, and enjoy the living experience.

truly
FF
 
Hey Amanda,

If you don't lift weights and naturally have broad shoulders this is the way you were designed! Flyinfree is right, there is some acceptance that you will have to find. In the meantime take Malkore's advice on the weights and cardio. If you lift weights mixed with some cardio to shape your natural build into a tight and toned machine and drop the extra weight, you will feel much better about things.

I too have broad shoulders. I don't even know if I was actually destined to have them but I swam much of my life and that just comes with swimmer territory. Even after I stopped they remained. I lift heavy weights and do lots of cardio for training for triathlon events. All I've noticed is my shoulders getting more definition and it actually complimenting the rest of my body. Rather than fighting yourself, "Do what you can with what you've got" and you will be much happier for it.
 
no darlin! I am saying you are what God made you and it's beautiful. Make the most of it and you may be amazed at how perfect His design really is.
 
I think sparrow and flyinfree hit the nail on the head. The real issue here isn't your shoulders, or what workout routine you should be doing to change yourself. You need to be comfortable with who you are, that's more important than anything else (actually, it's probably one of the most important things in life).

Everyone is going to have things about themselves they're not happy with, I have tons myself, but you need to learn to except who you are and stop being so self conscious and depressed over something so trivial as the broadness of your shoulders. Believe me, there's nothing wrong with broad shoulders on a woman, it can be very attractive. I dated a swimmer in college and she had what might be considered broad shoulders, she was very attractive.

I'm sorry if I'm being too frank, but I just hate seeing woman who buy into this BS society we've created for ourselves where only materialistic things matter. Be stronger than that.

As for the workout, I would suggest jogging. It will be the best thing you can do to lose weight and create a form that is naturally fit. More importantly, it will give you more energy and it makes you feel great. If you're still fighting feelings of depression, I'd think about talking to a professional, or if you don't want to do that, "The Road Less Traveled" by Scott M. Peck is a great book that has helped me through some hard times.
 
Yeah i agree... not to mention it is very possible that you have GREAT genetics and if you hit the weights hard and do proper amounts of cardio then you can be a feminine ripped super body. That I would hope would really boost your confidence.

Something about broad shoulders always have good fitness and muscle genetics.
 
Well Im 15yr old(boy) and hit puberty start of last year, My mum said one day that I have broad shoulders and I was like(is that good or bad) I think they are natural because Ive just started working out and they were there before it, Ive also been checking the internet to see if having broad shoulders makes your arm muscles grow quicker if you work out because I started working out a week ago and Muscles are starting to form. ??
 
I'm a 52 yo woman and have had broad shoulders all my life. They are such an asset! Having a good strong frame means good upper body strength. I surf, swim, ski, row and can wield an axe and hammer as well as any man. I excel at weights, pull ups and push ups. I suggest that you get thee to the weight room and tone up your shoulders. Another benefit is that broad shoulders make your hips look narrower. Other posters here have the right idea - rather than being ashamed of your shoulders tone them up and you will look awesome! I'm no Barbie but I wouldn't change my strong broad shoulders even if I could!
 
I REBUKE you - Do NOT change your broad shoulders!!!

AmandaRae said:
i am a 22 year old female who has broad shoulders ever since I hit puberty. it has always made me feel bigger than what i am. at times i feel like an amazon especially when standing next to someone with less shoulders than i have. they get very broad when i gain weight. recently i've gained 30 lbs and there are few shirts i will wear without a jacket covering it. the only thing i can get away with is tshirts. they make my shoulders look less broad IMO


when i was thin, i still had shoulders but they weren't as broad as they are now. but i was wondering if i would have to get really really skinny in order for the broadness to go down. i have never been super super thin. or are there exercises i can do to shrink them?

i am very self conscious about this, and while i never got teased for it (at least knowingly) it is still something that bothers me. i feel like if my shoulders were smaller i would appear more petite because i am medium sized.

any help?
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Let me start off by saying I am going to tell you off for what you have said about yourself.



Broad shoulders on a woman looks SEXY HOT! I am a guy and I find it physically attractive (its also a huge FETISH of mine) so don't let anybody tell you different.

I don't even think Charlene Whittstock is too broad. Elle Macpherson has broad shoulders and is called 'the body' yes that includes the shoulders. Sharapova is another example.
Just look at all the models that have broad shoulders. Do you want me to name them? - I can.

Actually most female Caucasians I reckon about 3 out of every 10 of them are fairly broad. What race are you?

It makes your waist look smaller and accentuates your curves. You may have heard people say 'V' shaped back that makes your back SEXY!



Check out this link



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It is especially true of reason number 2 (POINTS at self) /winks.

Reason number 1 is a very good advantage, you don't want to look anymore vulnerable especially when women is perceived to be the weaker sex in a dangerous day and age like this.
 
If it is your frame that is broad, sorry but the answer is No you cannot do anything about it. I am the opposite, having naturally tiny frame which I have built on.
This is easy to check, feel how close to the outside of your shoulder the end of your shoulder blade is. That is the maximum you could lose and you would look unhealthy if you did.
People are intimidated by many things. I have learned those who are intimidated by you aren't worth knowing. Of all things I find it is my intelligence that scared off most potential partners. I must look incredibly dumb, and many thing fit appearance means brainless. But I have found a few people who could handle the combination, and being the selfish sort married the best of them.
 
I hate my shoulders too... I'm a hourglass figure (35-26-33) at 5'8'' but I feel like I am very broad, my waist is quite curvy yet my shoulders draw alot of attention, I do not feel feminine :(
 

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