If only it really were that simple. I assure you, it's much more complicated than this. If it were, we wouldn't have songs, movies, books and tv shows dedicated to teaching the art of intimacy and lamenting over times it went oh so wrong. I think it boils down to the fact that boys and girls are taught different things about love and intimacy.
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If only it really were that simple. I assure you, it's much more complicated than this. If it were, we wouldn't have songs, movies, books and tv shows dedicated to teaching the art of intimacy and lamenting over times it went oh so wrong. I think it boils down to the fact that boys and girls are taught different things about love and intimacy.
EVO is spot on.
This is how I met my wife of 25 plus years.
Now, its just our personalities and belief system meshing together to make it work.
What ruins it for "most" is the 90% of activities away from the bedroom, than the 10% in it.
Its not complicated when communicated.
Best wishes,
Chillen
This is how I met my wife of 25 plus years.
Now, its just our personalities and belief system meshing together to make it work.
What ruins it for "most" is the 90% of activities away from the bedroom, than the 10% in it.
Its not complicated when communicated.
Best wishes,
Chillen
But why isn't it that simple? It starts with seeing someone you find physically attractive. You approach them. Dialogue ensues. Both end up liking each other enough to continue a relationship or decide not to continue on with or start up the relationship.
Intimacy is about communication. Person A has X expecatations from their partner. The partner either meets these or doesn't.
I don't think boys and girls are taught different things about love and intimacy. The rules are basically the same: no lieing, cheating, stealing, disrespect, etc etc etc
EVO is spot on.
This is how I met my wife of 25 plus years.
Now, its just our personalities and belief system meshing together to make it work.
What ruins it for "most" is the 90% of activities away from the bedroom, than the 10% in it.
Its not complicated when communicated.
Best wishes,
Chillen
Yup. Relationships start with communication. The problem is somewhere communication breaks down.
I agree, intimacy is about communication and I wish everybody understood that. Maybe it's just my generation, but a lot of guys seem to think intimacy means sex and nothing else. They think that sex should have no strings attached. It's sad and discouraging.
On the opposite side of that; I have plenty of friends that break guys hearts all the time because all they want from them is the "sex" aspect of the relationship. Im am sure guys feel the same sometimes Spicy. It truely isn't one sided. Communication is vital for any form of relationship with any gender. It's the glue to bond the relationship.
Sex should be fun too, there's nothing wrong with a little bump and grind just for kicks every now and again
I like all these different point-of-views
What's that song...."I dont see nothing wrong...with a lil' bump & grind babeh..."?
That's what came to my mind
What's that song...."I dont see nothing wrong...with a lil' bump & grind babeh..."?
That's what came to my mind
I agree!
Nothing wrong with telling the Mrs to rock in the flip and dip:
"Go get in the v-shape, baby!"
(Caution, make sure she is in the mood, or you won't be getting nude).
Best wishes,
Chillen
I definitely have nothing against sex. I'd like to go into some sort of sexuality study. I just don't like the idea of casual sex with a stranger.
Sex can be fun as long as it's with someone you know, love, trust and have an intimate agreement with.
Telling the truth about myself....
I don't mind the idea of casual sex with a stranger, especially if you aren't looking for anything serious and have a strong desire to have your need met with someone other than yourself. It's like a burger, you don't want to eat it every time you are hungry....but once in a while it sure tastes good.
Ps. This is if your single..if you are happy in your relationship you shouldn't need to go elsewhere...
and if you are not then you should be honest with your mate, perhaps there are things that person can improve.
I don't mind the idea of casual sex with a stranger, especially if you aren't looking for anything serious and have a strong desire to have your need met with someone other than yourself. It's like a burger, you don't want to eat it every time you are hungry....but once in a while it sure tastes good.
Ps. This is if your single..if you are happy in your relationship you shouldn't need to go elsewhere...
and if you are not then you should be honest with your mate, perhaps there are things that person can improve.
Casual sex is something that I have chosen not to do because of the danger involved. In this day and age where one in four is infected with something, it's not worth the risk.
There are also, of course the emotional reasons,
I guess I could say I'm "saving" myself for the right person. I'm just waiting for someone I can communicate with and has similar expectations when it comes to love. When I go to that level with someone, it will have to be a person I would want to marry.
Some people can do it though and not be effected, more power to them I guess. Some of us are just wired differently. They don't need an emotional connection. They can do whatever they want as long as they do it safely to help prevent the spread of disease.
There are also, of course the emotional reasons,
I guess I could say I'm "saving" myself for the right person. I'm just waiting for someone I can communicate with and has similar expectations when it comes to love. When I go to that level with someone, it will have to be a person I would want to marry.
Some people can do it though and not be effected, more power to them I guess. Some of us are just wired differently. They don't need an emotional connection. They can do whatever they want as long as they do it safely to help prevent the spread of disease.
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SP, you decide what your morals are concerning sex. No one should define it for you. Opinions on someone's sexual beliefs are like butt holes, everyone has one.
This is a VERY personal issue as defined by the self, and any consequences that may or may not develop are defined by the choices made surrounded by one's belief system. It seems alot of persons in this world dont have it figured out, let alone tell you how to handle your affairs. Look around in this world of ours.
This doesnt mean; however, there isn't certain things to learn and advance upon, within the one's that have made mistakes and have been successful in relationships, in order to find and apply some type of benefit to the self.
You have every right to determine your approach on sex----ROCK WITH IT.
Best wishes,
Chillen