Really appreciate the encouragement Christina! I tell you, me not getting "drunk" on a Saturday after one or two 6-packs is a "curse" which is what I tell people, the good thing here is that I do a great job [as my wife says] of stopping after the 6-12 and not going any further to actually getting drunk. You know, my father was the same as your in a way, he would "expect" or want his 3 boys to sit and have a few with him and would seem disappointed when we didn't.
Where "my" kids are concerned, it's very simple, I have been telling my 17 year old [ever since he could understand the English language] and still do to this day on a regular basis, that he simply CANNOT drink alcohol or smoke both as long as I am alive and as long as HE is alive, absolutely NO exceptions!! It will also be same with my 6 year old. I have some friends and relatives try to tell me occasionally when we are hanging out that I should "lighten up" and give my son a break and also that this might be "hyprocritical" but I simply don't care and don't pay any attention to any of them.
I have smoked 6-8 cigarettes a day for 24 years [yeah, you all are seeing all of Mike's "demons" coming out of the woodworks now], started when I was 18, now I'm 43 so even though by smoking standards, I was considered a "light" smoker, I gave it up entirely about 1 year ago and now don't have any cravings at all and can't stand the smell of it any more. If there is one constant in my life that I attribute myself having the will power to battle these bad influences, it's simply sports and exercise, I have been in and around it all of my life as my both parents were always into it. It is still the same with me now having my own Football Team and my 17 year old has been competing since he was 5 so being in and around sports keeps helping me to stay on the better side of the track and I would recommend to anyone who is battling any one of these vices to get involved in sports or something that will help in keeping away from these kind of things, pardon the very long post guys.