divorce time

-Devil- said:
you mean there are people out there that actually like computer geeks / sci fi nuts (no i don't dress up in costumes tho) and not just think of us as someone to keep their computer up and going? ????

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Try being a female computer geek sometime...if you think it's hard for YOU to find dates! Sheesh! :willy_nilly:
 
txsqlchick said:
Try being a female computer geek sometime...if you think it's hard for YOU to find dates! Sheesh! :willy_nilly:
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:drool5::drool5::drool5:

a female??? ... a/s/l? ... haha sorry had to ... =)

yeah i can imagine ... i have known like 4 female computer geeks in my time ... 3 of them had girlfriends already .. and one was to hot for me to ever even think about asking out (course this was like back in 94/95 when i first started dealing with them on a pro level and such)
 
-Devil- said:
:drool5::drool5::drool5:

a female??? ... a/s/l? ... haha sorry had to ... =)

yeah i can imagine ... i have known like 4 female computer geeks in my time ... 3 of them had girlfriends already .. and one was to hot for me to ever even think about asking out (course this was like back in 94/95 when i first started dealing with them on a pro level and such)
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A/S/L, LOL! Haven't seen THAT in a while! Then again I don't go on IRC anymore.

:rotflmao:

Since you asked, 33/F/Dallas.
 
haha ... geeze IRC .. that brings back memories .. carrying around a floppy disc with the client on it .. so i could access while on the campus network (also had wolfenstein on a floppy and such to /snicker) ...

dallas .. nice =) well big city at least ... i am stuck over in monroe / west monroe in north LA
 
-Devil- said:
haha ... geeze IRC .. that brings back memories .. carrying around a floppy disc with the client on it .. so i could access while on the campus network (also had wolfenstein on a floppy and such to /snicker) ...

dallas .. nice =) well big city at least ... i am stuck over in monroe / west monroe in north LA
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I used irc II on a Unix shell. :leaving:

My first modem was 9200 kbps. And it was as big as a shoebox.

We have lots of people from Louisiana living here. I see Louisiana plates every damn day. :smash:
 
haha ... i have never 'officially' used Unix .. always linux .. or FreeBSD ... but the same thing (from what i understand) for the most part ...

yeah my first modem was huge as well ... never even used it for anything meh ... first one i actually used was a 14.4k ... 3 weeks later i had 4 of them, with 4 phonelines all dialing up to the same ISP (before tehy started monitering the hours online each account had) had some nice speeds back then doing that ... but my neighbors phones were always messed up for some reason /halo
 
-Devil- said:
haha ... i have never 'officially' used Unix .. always linux .. or FreeBSD ... but the same thing (from what i understand) for the most part ...

yeah my first modem was huge as well ... never even used it for anything meh ... first one i actually used was a 14.4k ... 3 weeks later i had 4 of them, with 4 phonelines all dialing up to the same ISP (before tehy started monitering the hours online each account had) had some nice speeds back then doing that ... but my neighbors phones were always messed up for some reason /halo
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Hahahahaha!

Yeah, I had some of that too. :Angel_anim:
 
no its not easy ... and i know the hard part hasn't started yet ...

she only just realized what is wrong in the relationship ... and i have been trying to say it for the past 7 years ... the part about that which hurts though ... is when i reminded her that i have been saying that for those years ... she says 'but it just started happening' ...

in all honesty, i think there is a little bit more to this ... her grandmother just passed away, and at the same time she was fighting with her mom and we were planning on moving away to our own place, on our own land (we live on her familys land now) ... but after the funeral. suddenly her family, which had been treating her like crap ever since i met her ... suddenly are being nice to her, and pointing at me ... saying that i am the reason she acts the way she does ... (she is the black sheep of the family, always has been .. hasn't changed any since i met her) but now they have someone to blame it on ...

all she knows now is they are talking to her, and saying i am the reason .. and she is beleiving them ... so out i go ...

it may just be in my head .. but it is looking to be true to me ... most of the words she is saying right now, sound like other stuff that people have said and she is just repeating.

we got it worked out to where the kid (who wants to move with me) will be staying with me on the weekends .. so we can still go bike riding. and he can still go stay with my mom during winter break and in the summer some ...

she also said some words that i am not sure if i want to deal with ... the 'i may change my mind in a few months' ... once i am out ... unless i am feeling even worse then i do when we are / were together .. i do not think i want to go back ... unless some major rules are laid down and followed ... i do NOT want to deal with something like this again ... not sure if i can.
 
-Devil- said:
she also said some words that i am not sure if i want to deal with ... the 'i may change my mind in a few months' ... once i am out ... unless i am feeling even worse then i do when we are / were together .. i do not think i want to go back ... unless some major rules are laid down and followed ... i do NOT want to deal with something like this again ... not sure if i can.
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Let me just say first... EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERANT.
That being said, from my personal experience, the "I don't know if I'll feel this way for ____ (insert amount of time)" talk is BS! It's either a way she thinks it hurts you less, or her way of not dealing with the issue... maybe not feeling guilty or what ever. I know that "mine" kept saying, and continues to say it, but I am focusing on my KIDS, and then myself!! She chose to end things, so she can live with it. I know "Mine" runs from all of the feelings, so she is trying to not deal with her feelings of remorse or guilt or what ever. In the end, she, like yours, will have to deal with THEIR decisions. Don't stand paralized waitng and hopeing, focus on you, and what you want to do for yourself! I'm not saying to let go of hope... just don't focus on it. Hope today goes well for you, followed by tomorrow, then the next day... see where I'm going here... ONE DAY AT A TIME.
 
jzthedetermined said:
Let me just say first... EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERANT.
That being said, from my personal experience, the "I don't know if I'll feel this way for ____ (insert amount of time)" talk is BS! It's either a way she thinks it hurts you less, or her way of not dealing with the issue... maybe not feeling guilty or what ever. I know that "mine" kept saying, and continues to say it, but I am focusing on my KIDS, and then myself!! She chose to end things, so she can live with it. I know "Mine" runs from all of the feelings, so she is trying to not deal with her feelings of remorse or guilt or what ever. In the end, she, like yours, will have to deal with THEIR decisions. Don't stand paralized waitng and hopeing, focus on you, and what you want to do for yourself! I'm not saying to let go of hope... just don't focus on it. Hope today goes well for you, followed by tomorrow, then the next day... see where I'm going here... ONE DAY AT A TIME.
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that sounds about like mine and the reason i think she is doing it as well ... i am going to focus on me ... and it will be a lot easier to once i am in my own place and away from seeing her every day still ..

right now at work, i am pretty much useless .. but at least they talked me into coming in still...
 
I don't know man. I think it sounds like she wants a "Back-up" plan. You being the back up incase this going out on her own thing fails. IMO - and let me be blunt - Fuck that.


You need to just move on. Do the hurting. Then move on.



Get distracted man, do whatever you like, video games, strippers, bars, coding (try to learn Python its open source and intuitive).


BTW meant to ask what kind of video games you like? or currently play?


- I am a huge geek - I have a hot wife who is also a complete geek (more hardcore than she likes to admit), who also loves me for me. So I am sure there is someone out there looking for an open-source fan (assuming you are) just like you.


Check out Escape Pod - podcast if you haven't yet. (for the sci-fi in you)
 
Mr.Sickles said:
I don't know man. I think it sounds like she wants a "Back-up" plan. You being the back up incase this going out on her own thing fails. IMO - and let me be blunt - Fuck that.


You need to just move on. Do the hurting. Then move on.



Get distracted man, do whatever you like, video games, strippers, bars, coding (try to learn Python its open source and intuitive).


BTW meant to ask what kind of video games you like? or currently play?


- I am a huge geek - I have a hot wife who is also a complete geek (more hardcore than she likes to admit), who also loves me for me. So I am sure there is someone out there looking for an open-source fan (assuming you are) just like you.


Check out Escape Pod - podcast if you haven't yet. (for the sci-fi in you)
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i don't want to be a backup plan .. i have always been an after thought, or a last choice and i am tired of that.

right now, video games, movies, bike riding is about it ... i do enjoy working on cars and i have a vw bug that needs to be restored. so may scratch up the money to do that as well...

as for what games i play right now... hmmm Spore .. some (already beat it) ... MMO games .. warhammer online (though i haven't logged in since getting hit with this news) ... and then race car games mostly ...

yeah i love open source ... and now would be as good of a time as any to brush up on my neglected skills with php / java / css and all that other stuff...
 
Mr.Sickles said:
I don't know man. I think it sounds like she wants a "Back-up" plan. You being the back up incase this going out on her own thing fails. IMO - and let me be blunt - Fuck that.
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:iagree: most definately!


-Devil- said:
... i am going to focus on me ...
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Amen brother! Seriously, My time is devoted to my three kids, but once they are in bed (usually around 830pm), or before they get up (usually about 645), my time is devoted to me. I had a very hard time with that for a while since I lived to make her happy, which by the way, it was up to her to be happy, not for me to do it for her...but after doing it for about a month...it feels real good! Keeping self promises to improve yourself(physically, mentally, or just "vegging") really hits the "my heart is missing" spot!
 
just talked with my boss .. he is going to help with deposits and such ... and will let me use one of the offices to start moving stuff into for now till i can find a place ...

now to just find a place
 
-Devil- said:
just talked with my boss .. he is going to help with deposits and such ... and will let me use one of the offices to start moving stuff into for now till i can find a place ...

now to just find a place
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Your boss rocks!


I just got done with spore, I took over each planet with force and then started blowing them up with that big boom bomb. hehe.


I was going to get war hammer online but talked myself out of it.

Pick up an XboX 360 and get a xboxlive account. then buy COD4 (call of duty)

I know it sounds like an investment, but even my wife says it kicks ass.

My next game is fallout 3, I have the collectors edition on reserve hehe. I loved fallout.
 
my boss doesn't want to loose me, which i guess is a good thing esp in these times ...

i end up trying every mmo when they come out .. stil hoping to find 'the one' that replaces what i enjoyed from swg and eq ..

hmm an xbox 360 .. may have to do that .. got a ps3 ... but i prob could use a 'present' to myself once i am moved into my own place.
 
If you are into video games and looking to lose weight, why not get a WII Fit? I don't have one, but I've heard good things about it.
 
-Devil- said:
my boss doesn't want to loose me, which i guess is a good thing esp in these times ...

i end up trying every mmo when they come out .. stil hoping to find 'the one' that replaces what i enjoyed from swg and eq ..

hmm an xbox 360 .. may have to do that .. got a ps3 ... but i prob could use a 'present' to myself once i am moved into my own place.
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Hers my console story.

My wife bought me both systems xbox360 and ps3.

I gave up consoles to play WoW and sold my xbox360 (my wife warned me not too), but kept my ps3 for blu rays.

I then gave up WoW (to much commitment) and wanted to play my ps3 (I need video games in my life). I found that there are almost no good games for the ps3 and hardly any that play in 1080p (I have a huge LCD tv).

So I traded in my ps3 for another xbox, and rebought (for the third time mind you) COD4 (yes it is that good). I only play cod4 online though, I have not even attempted the one player story.

Now with the xbox netflix is intergrating today (I believe) so you can stream and share movies from netflix straight for your xbox. I tend to pirate everything anyway (go linux!) but I wouldnt mind the netflix intergration.

Plus xbox has some amazing game features, always new demos coming out, their arcade rocks, my second favorite game "Castle Crashers" is an xbox live arcade exclusive.


I have hated microsoft since my first bsod on 98, but they definately have the right thing with xbox 360 and xbox live. If you do buy one, let me know and Ill give you my gamer tag.
 
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