there's this guy (My friend reads his stuff, he gets a lot of results) "David DeAngelo" i think was his name. My friend gave me his ebook, Double Your Dating. A ton of good advice, if you want it ask me for it. Key things: Bust her balls as much as you can, coming off as a cocky, funny guy. Be confident. IM me if you want it cuz it costs some $$ on his site,
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No, no, no, don't get into reading any stuff like that - I always get David DeAngelo stuff in my spam filter - and it's just utter rubbish.
Anyway, it seems some obvious advice, but just go in as normal, talk as normal and let it slip out of your mouth. If you don't ask her, you'll feel down, but if she says yes, you'll feel great! Of course, she could say no or she may be seeing someone, but if that is the case, then make sure your reaction is one of laughter, so that you can take the answer like a man. Also, if this is the case, which I'm sure it won't be mate, make sure you still keep going into the shop afterwards anyway!
Good luck! Tell us how you get on.
Anyway, it seems some obvious advice, but just go in as normal, talk as normal and let it slip out of your mouth. If you don't ask her, you'll feel down, but if she says yes, you'll feel great! Of course, she could say no or she may be seeing someone, but if that is the case, then make sure your reaction is one of laughter, so that you can take the answer like a man. Also, if this is the case, which I'm sure it won't be mate, make sure you still keep going into the shop afterwards anyway!
Good luck! Tell us how you get on.
All good ideas! I'd like that ebook, even if it isn't for me (I can usually tell when something sounds like "rubbish" but I'd have to read it for myself first to find out.) I've a movie to return today, so I'm hoping she's there. Of course, on a Saturday, it may be hard to talk to her w/o her being surrounded by customers. But, if I can make the oppertunity happen, I'm going for it.
I also feel much less nervious now. My buddies and I went to Westport yesterday (Bar and Club area in Kansas City), and I danced with lots [read: three to five] girls. So, I am confident that girls will still dance with me, even after all these years of couplehood.
I also feel much less nervious now. My buddies and I went to Westport yesterday (Bar and Club area in Kansas City), and I danced with lots [read: three to five] girls. So, I am confident that girls will still dance with me, even after all these years of couplehood.
I'd love to tell you, but I haven't seen her. I went in twice, she wasn't working. She may be there today (It's been a week exactly since I saw her last, I don't have a clue what her schedule is).
I've been out dancing twice now with my buddies, and I've got lots of confidence from that.
This is me when we went to the club two days ago (Saturday). I had fun, and after talking with several girls, It really seems like it's not so hard. All I need to do is actually see the girl (so I can talk to her).
I've been out dancing twice now with my buddies, and I've got lots of confidence from that.
This is me when we went to the club two days ago (Saturday). I had fun, and after talking with several girls, It really seems like it's not so hard. All I need to do is actually see the girl (so I can talk to her).
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I wish their was an update, but the girl hasn't been working (or I haven't seen her) in a week or so now. I was thinking about asking someone if she was still around (as exol suggested) but I don't know her name, and I'm not sure if I want to do it that way.
I think I'm just going to not worry about it so much, and if I do happen to see her, I'll ask her out and let you all know.
Be my luck, she's off for the next few weeks for her honeymoon (j/k).
BTW: Talking to girls is -way- easier that I had thought. It turns out that they are human beings too, just of a different gender. That's good news for me, I was worried I'd have a total lack of social skills with 'em all.
I think I'm just going to not worry about it so much, and if I do happen to see her, I'll ask her out and let you all know.
Be my luck, she's off for the next few weeks for her honeymoon (j/k).
BTW: Talking to girls is -way- easier that I had thought. It turns out that they are human beings too, just of a different gender.
That's good news for me, I was worried I'd have a total lack of social skills with 'em all.Well, this will likely be my last post on this topic. As it turns out, I have asked out a girl, but it's not the video store girl.
I have a blog, and I started searching for other people that had blogs in Topeka. I IM'd this girl, Katie, who had a pretty cool blog. I didn't hear back from her then (she was offline). A week or so later, somone was requesting permission to add me to their contact list (I didn't realize it was Kate, but I said yes).
Well, we typed briefly at each other for a few days, and I asked if she'd meet me at PTs. We met, and we hit it off very well. Things are going great, and as it turns out, she's in a few college classes with my roommate Dev was in a few classes with my friend Susan. Small world, eh? So, I won't need any more tips on asking a girl out, for the time being. Maybe I just need some tips on how to date, eh?
Anywho, just wanted you all to know, thanks for your support and ideas!
I have a blog, and I started searching for other people that had blogs in Topeka. I IM'd this girl, Katie, who had a pretty cool blog. I didn't hear back from her then (she was offline). A week or so later, somone was requesting permission to add me to their contact list (I didn't realize it was Kate, but I said yes).
Well, we typed briefly at each other for a few days, and I asked if she'd meet me at PTs. We met, and we hit it off very well. Things are going great, and as it turns out, she's in a few college classes with my roommate Dev was in a few classes with my friend Susan. Small world, eh? So, I won't need any more tips on asking a girl out, for the time being. Maybe I just need some tips on how to date, eh?
Anywho, just wanted you all to know, thanks for your support and ideas!
It's been a while, just wanted to update!
Well, some time ago, I was going to ask out this girl from the video store. I didn't see her again, but I asked out a different girl (Kate). We are both from the same city, and we both blog on the internet (that's how I found her). We were chatting online, and I asked her to meet me for coffee. Things sparked quickly, and we've been dating for about 2 weeks now!
Just the other day, we rented a video, and I saw the "video store girl." Guess she didn't quit after all! But, with Kate by my side, everything was great anyway! I wouldn't change a thing for the world!
Well, some time ago, I was going to ask out this girl from the video store. I didn't see her again, but I asked out a different girl (Kate). We are both from the same city, and we both blog on the internet (that's how I found her). We were chatting online, and I asked her to meet me for coffee. Things sparked quickly, and we've been dating for about 2 weeks now!
Just the other day, we rented a video, and I saw the "video store girl." Guess she didn't quit after all! But, with Kate by my side, everything was great anyway! I wouldn't change a thing for the world!