Asking out a girl...

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randomfoxx

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Okay, here it comes. I've been working on my body for 2 months now, to give me a better self image. And it's worked. I feel great about who I am. I like myself. I'm ready to see about dating someone.

I have someone in mind. There is this girl who works at this video rental place. She looks to be about 21 (I'm 24). She's very friendly, smiles at me alot (could be in my head), and we have casual conversations togeather.

I don't even know her first name, unfortunatly. I don't know the first thing about her. Besides the causal banter we have, she's a total stranger. But personality wise, we seem to have the same sense of humor, and I like her.

Has anyone here asked out a girl (or been asked out by a guy) that you didn't know too well? Any thoughts on it, or how to ask her? I was thinking of something simple, like coffee, or a movie. <Shrugs>
 
make it something very informal like a cup of coffee, drop it in casually in the conversation and make it as easy as possible for her to say no, otherwise she'll feel cornered.

movie is a bad first date
 
this is so cool, the same deal happened with me a year or so ago. i was 17 and this girl was 20 and worked at convenience store near me. i knew absolutely nothing about her except that she was gorgeous and had a nice personality. so, after going and buying the least expensive thing i could find in the store for a long time i gradually got to know her, stuff like her name her age and stuff. it took a long time but i can relate to starting from scratch like this.

here's what you can do, this is what i did and this probably the easiest and most polite way to ask somone out.

after a little bit of casual conv, hey how r u?, say "oh, are you going to be working tomorrow night?" she will respond with yes or no. dont be scared if she seems to be making an excuse, most people do when they get asked out even if they have an interest in the person, just stay confident (not cocky). then say "well i was wondering if maybe you would want to go get some coffee (incitatus is right on!), let me give you my number and if you want, you can give me a call"

try to do it when there arent a lot of people around, this will keep her form getting nervous, but don't hang around the store for an hour being creepy lol. also, most importantly, dont think about whether she will say yes or no. dont think about how it will turn out, because it won't turn out that way. your expectations of one thing will mess up your ability to handle a situation. so go in with your goal being that you want to casually show that you interested in her and give her an opportunity to show that she is interested in you.

try to relax, mellow out and be very happy before you do this, actually be happy to doing this, look forward to asking her out, be at work or school and just be like "oh man i can't wait to ask this girl out". you sound like a pretty humble and polite dude so i'm sure you'll have no problem. now go rent You Got Served and tell us how it was...the girl situation...not You Got Served.
 
sorry guys, not much advice, but I just gotta say...so happy I'm married and out of that scene!
:)
I would suggest this: before asking her out, next time you go in, ask her what her name is. Tell her yours. Then, when you do ask her out, not the same day, she'll feel more comfortable.
Just a thought!
Wes
 
here is some advice from a chick...

Drop into converstaion about going somewhere public where you two can hang out. Lets see if i can think of an example........ next time your at the video store rent a movie that has to do with something you would take her to go and do. Like rent dodge ball and then when you talk with her talk about the movie a bit, then ask if she want's to go bowling or play miniture golf. From my experiences I cannot turn down fun physicall activities. Your gonna wanna come off as a friend not a guy who is intrested in her, if you know what i mean.

hope i helped and didnt confuse you
 
Thanks for the help so far guys and gals! If you have more, keep 'em coming! :) BTW, here is my origional list of 8 ideas I had for asking her out. Some are better than others, some are just a joke (incase you take them seriously).

1 - Can I get a receipt? Can I get your name and number on the back of the receipt?

2 - Are you working Tuesday? Would you care to meet me at PTs for coffee around six?

3 - Hey, I wanted to see Madagascar, but none of my friends want to go. Would you come with me?

4 - Hey, how’s work going? Good. Hey, you know, I don’t even know your name. <Name>, that’s a nice name.

5 - Stand there and drool on myself.

6 - Approach girl with confidence. Smile. Lose confidence. Walk out door.

7 - Find out which car she drives. Follow her everywhere. Profess my undying love outside her bedroom window at 2 am. Tell her if she loves me, she’ll hang up the phone and stop playing like she’s dialing 911.

8 - Never go back into video store again, thus saving myself the worry of finding out how to ask her out.
 
Okay, I've got a few more thoughts to run by you all.

1) She may have a boyfriend. What If, durring our next conversation, I say something like "Well, you work in a video store, where does your boyfriend work?" Could help me show interest, and find out if she's available...

2) A friend of mine suggested (seriously) that I write [Your number here x___________] on the palm of my hand. I hold my hand out to her with a pen, and hope it draws a laugh. This seems risky, though.

3) I like dmg's advice, that might work, too. I'll just be sure not to rent Psycho or Natural Born Killers, lol.

Gosh, I'm thinking too much about this. It's fun, really fun, but it's starting to make me nervous. I've had a long term relationship ever sense highschool, and it ended about 3 months ago. I was 17, now I'm 24. I've not flirted or asked anyone out in a long time. Thinking about it is fun, and asking this girl out feels right, but I'm so inexperenced. I'm not really even worried about rejection, I don't mind if she says no, I'm just worried about asking right. :) <Shrugs>
 
dont ask if she has a bf, theres nothing wrong with asking a girl out and her saying "im seeing someone"

just ask her if she wants to get together sometime for something simple like coffee and give her your number but make it seem casual
 
Wow I just suddenly realized I have no moves/lines/ideas at all that are suitable for use outside of a bar. Although my girlfriend spent about 6 months getting up the nerve to ask me out. Home come more girls don't do that?
 
randomfoxx said:
2 - Are you working Tuesday? Would you care to meet me at PTs for coffee around six?

4 - Hey, how’s work going? Good. Hey, you know, I don’t even know your name. <Name>, that’s a nice name.

6 - Approach girl with confidence. Smile.
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if you use a combo of these three, in the order of 6 4 2, you will get the chick. now remember, she's working, so you gotta be brief cause u wouldnt want her gettin in trouble with the boss, but dont feel like ur rushing things. make sure ur renting some kind of movie as well because then it doesnt seem so obvious, some kind of funny movie with some comedian a.s.s.h.o.l.e in it. as she's ringin the s.h.i.t up, make some small talk, get her name (#4), then as you are all done, say number #2 as you're leaving. say somethin that goes along the lines of "oh by the way, im free on Tuesday night, and I was wondering if you'd like to meet me for a cup of coffee?" (if she says yes) then say "ok how about round this time?" then u got it.
 
making her laugh is also a plus when talking to her. makes her more comfortable around u and makes u more confident which equals getting to know the person better.
 
ok my best advice, this is how i got the girl i didnt know and had a huge crush on, it took me only 2 years to finally ask her out!! and now we are engaged!! haha!! ok back to the point. Take her to an amusement park. You will be in line and forced to talk and learn more about eachother, and on the rides if shes scared she will most likely grab on to you. This was the best and last first date that i went on and it has made me a very happy man! mini golf would be something to consider as well. and meet her mom, dad, or whomever you need to, dont just beep your horn to pick her up, go in and introduce yourself. GOOD LUCK!!
 
I've had problems getting the courage in the past. I think one of the most important things that someone has said is to not think about the outcome, because then you set yourself up for rejection in your subconscious, and it shows in your actions.
The ice breaker I use most of the time is acting as if I've seen them somewhere before (if I've never met them before), but if you see them often (like in your case) then pretend you've seen them SOMEWHERE ELSE. I find this easier than going and saying hi, you just ask them if they've been here before, and when they say no you say "You sure?...I'm sure I've seen you somewhere before"......and there, the conversation's started. If that method makes you less nervous then I'd give it a try.
I don't think it's as scary for the girl that way, because she thinks your just talking to her for that reason, and not because you like her and are about to chat her up. She won't know that your interested in her to begin with because you appear to have the attraction as a result of talking to her. Sounds complicated but in real life it's not).
 
Well, I'm hoping she's there today, because I'm going to swing by and talk with her. Of course, I won't have time to change, so I'll be in my Air Force BDUs, so maybe that won't be such a bad thing either... :) And if I have her meet me for coffee Tuesday before I go to work at the Dept. of Corrections, I'd have my officer's uniform on, too...lol. My luck, she hates guys in uniform. :>

T minuse 3 hours and counting until I get off work and head over to the video store... I hope I'm ready! :)
 
You could use the Bruce Willis pick up like, "So, what are you doing for sex tonight?". lol, just joking by the way(I don't wanna get you in trouble). I like dmg's advice, and after all she's one of them! So she'd know ( :D no offense dmg :p )
 
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